Not As We Planned

Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon.

Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about.

From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all.

Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid.

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146 episodes
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Nov 28, 2024 · 42 min
66. I’m a Girlfriend
Tash makes an announcement about her relationship, Carly has an emotional birthday, we share some epic hacks you’re going to want to know and a fiancé gets up to no good on his stag! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 21, 2024 · 46 min
65. I Knew He Was Proposing
An email that has us disagreeing with the outcome, having someone leave you and blaming it on your weight, how to find hope on dating apps and a confession about a proposal!!! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 14, 2024 · 39 min
64. You’ve been Exposed!!
We get a response from the woman who got cheated on by the man who wrote in to us a few weeks ago!!! We get such a warm felt update from an OG, we hear about a swinging holiday and someone’s feedback on taking our advice. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 7, 2024 · 48 min
63. Your Husband Gave You Chlamydia
We reflect on how far we have come in the last year, we have a sneaky peak of the new love honey calendar, when your husband gets caught with the other woman by your boss, and finding out you caught chlamydia from your cheating husband!! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Oct 31, 2024 · 41 min
62. His Thumb Was Bigger Than His D***
We talk about if you would have kids with someone who only wants to have them for you not him, an update where he got two women pregnant at the SAME time and finding out you’re not only the other women once but TWICE! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Oct 24, 2024 · 49 min
61. Baby Loss Awareness Month
Trigger warning: we talk in detail about baby loss, having to deal with you partner going back to his ex in your darkest days and stalking your ex on social media Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Oct 17, 2024 · 40 min
60. I’m One Of Those Men Who Cheated
We hear from the cheating man himself, we share the ultimate instagram hack, finding naked AI pictures of your friends on your partners phone and deciding whether to stay after he cheated or if it’s time to finally let go. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Oct 10, 2024 · 43 min
59. Green Flag or Bare Minimum
Figuring out if it’s a green flag or just bare minimum, getting the inside scoop at a swingers club, seeing the repercussions of taking back that cheating ex husband and finding out you’re the other woman and his whole story was a lie! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Oct 3, 2024 · 46 min
58. I Fell In Love With My Friends Husband
We delve into the world of swinging, hotwifing and dogging, when you fall in love with your friends husband and hearing from someone who found out their husband was cheating today! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sep 26, 2024 · 48 min
57. What A Mistake I Made
Tash talks about Blake’s diagnosis, having your partner stop you going ahead with your planned ivf, having your ex breadcrumb you and the ultimate betrayal right under your nose!! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sep 19, 2024 · 40 min
56. I Met HER
The first encounter meeting the new woman in your children’s’ life, an update about fuck buddy situation, a woman at rock bottom struggling with the worries of custody and divorce and a man who got two women pregnant…at the same time. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sep 12, 2024 · 38 min
55. He Had a Porn Addiction
Married to a porn addict with an ending we were not expecting, when he pretends his mental health is the reason for his shady behaviour, and a man’s story when his wife finds another one. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sep 5, 2024 · 49 min
54. A LOT happened this summer….
We are so happy to be back and with a new name and look! We have a big catch up to update you on what you’ve been missing, we hear from the ex husband of an email we’ve shared previously and seeing how he never changed because he’s gone and done it to the other woman!!! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 25, 2024 · 42 min
53. My Husband Had an Affair With a Lesbian
When he’s playing away from home with 3 different women, finding out your husband is having an affair with a lesbian, and the continued abuse from the ex wife. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 18, 2024 · 39 min
52. Not Just Another One… Another 3
Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 11, 2024 · 51 min
51. The Micro Penis Debate...
Learning that sometimes the news we dread is a blessing in disguise, finding love again but losing the naivety of forever, the coparenting dilemma and the micro penis scenario Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 4, 2024 · 43 min
50. All He’s Bringing To The Table Is Chlamydia
A man’s side of the story, the getaway escape, catching your partner paying for prostitutes and do you tell your friend their husband is cheating Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/
Jun 27, 2024 · 44 min
49. Can Women Really Have Casual Sex?
We discuss the coparenting holiday, the fuck buddy dilemma when dating a walking red flag, how many chances you should give before it’s time to leave and we talk about having a partner with an addiction problemProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/
Jun 20, 2024 · 39 min
48. Control Your Hapiness
Talking about the challenges of co-parenting, seeing that therapy can make all the difference and infinitely doesn’t always ruin a relationshipProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/
Jun 13, 2024 · 41 min
47. The Hunky Hot Fireman
Our theory on being ghosted, whether a rape fantasy is a red flag and a major breakthrough from a previous story.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/