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Not As We Planned

Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon.

Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about.

From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all.

Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid.

If you have a question or want to share your story, email us at notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com


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  • Jan 11, 2024 · 53 min

    26. Jessica Hayes: An Honest Chat About Being a Single Parent

    <p>We talk to Love Island star and influencer Jessica Hayes about becoming a single parent, loss and navigating coparenting</p><p><strong>Trigger Warning: </strong>Baby Loss</p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p>

  • Jan 4, 2024 · 1 hr 1 min

    25. A Fresh New Year

    <p>This week we talk all about resolutions, lessons learnt and focuses for the year ahead.</p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p>

  • Dec 21, 2023 · 48 min

    24. He Was Cheating on Me With 4 People

    <p>Hearing and sharing your dilemmas and experiences with some shocking stories and giving you our advice the best way we can. We love hearing from you so make sure you continue emailing in anything you want to be shared anonymously of coursehas context menu</p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creati

  • Dec 14, 2023 · 54 min

    23. That’s Triggering

    <p>This episode we talk about discovering triggers following trauma in past relationships and what we’re doing to work on them</p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p>

  • Dec 7, 2023 · 51 min

    22. Shelley J Whitehead: Healing your Heartbreak

    We talk all about fixing relationships, how to leave bad ones and learning more about yourself in order to make your relationship successful.Shelly's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelleyjwhitehead/Shelly's Website:https://shelleyjwhitehead.comProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/

  • Nov 30, 2023 · 49 min

    21. Tis the Season

    <p>We talk about the anxiety surrounding Christmas as a single parent, elf on the shelf and a cheeky surprise</p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</em></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p>

  • Nov 23, 2023 · 55 min

    20. The Legal Queen: The Knowledge of all Things Divorce

    <p>Helping understand the financial battles, how to split the children and all those questions surrounding divorce</p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</em></p><p><br></p><p><br></p>

  • Nov 16, 2023 · 52 min

    19. Daniel Chidiac: His Take on Relationships

    <p>We are so excited to have our first guest Daniel Chidiac chatting to us all about relationships. He’s an Australian author with two amazing books which you need to check out. His insight on relationships, and present day dating really resonated with us and we think you will love what he has to say as much as we did</p><p><br></p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-st

  • Nov 9, 2023 · 51 min

    18. Reasons to Stay or Leave

    <p>We talk about what we believe to be the key reasons to leaving or staying in a relationship. Of course no relationship is perfect but we feel like these topics we touch on our important foundations for successful relationships. We also share our experiences along the way as well as some of your emails.</p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Co

  • Nov 2, 2023 · 54 min

    17. Trying to Parent With Your Ex

    <p>Sharing your children and parenting with someone you’re trying to move on from can be a challenge to say the least. We share both ours and your experiences, hopefully showing you that your feelings and doubts are valid and so normal.</p><p><br></p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)htt

  • Oct 26, 2023 · 54 min

    16. The Downside of Social Media

    <p>This week we talk all things social media. Including the impact it has on mum guilt, pressure, comparisons and the list goes on ... </p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</em></p><p><br></p>

  • Oct 19, 2023 · 49 min

    15. Mum Guilt... But has Anyone Heard of Dad Guilt?

    <p>It’s like the minute you become a mum you feel guilty for everything? You can’t win because even if you don’t feel guilty you feel guilty for not feeling guilty. It’s safe to say mum guilt is real.Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</em></p>

  • Oct 5, 2023 · 49 min

    14. He Asked Me If I Wanted to Be Spanked and Whipped

    <p>Let&#39;s talk about sex fetishes. The sexy, the dirty and the downright weird.</p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p>

  • Sep 28, 2023 · 42 min

    13. Friends… some you gain and some you lose

    <p>This week we talk all things friendship; how it changes with motherhood, going through different situations and how they can serve different purposes as we navigate life.</p><p><strong>Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</strong><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><

  • Sep 20, 2023 · 54 min

    12. Continuing the Healing Journey

    Discussing more into our healing journey, our biggest fears of ending our relationships and how it can impact new relationships.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Sep 14, 2023 · 52 min

    11. Becoming a Mother

    <p><strong>Trigger Warning</strong></p><p>We chat all about our first experiences becoming mothers, explaining those overwhelming feelings and sadly some births not going as planned. We also touch on how becoming parents has an effect on your relationship with your partner.</p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><em>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (

  • Sep 7, 2023 · 52 min

    10. Dating in your 30s

    <p>Let’s delve deeper into dating in your 30s, talking about those first date rules and sharing your good and bad experiences as well as ours.</p><p><br></p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir</p><p><br></p><p>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p>

  • Aug 31, 2023 · 44 min

    9. Manifesting a positive mindset

    <p>We share in more detail our healing processes through journaling, manifesting and vision boards. The perfect way to make change and you can start now.</p><p><br></p><p>Producer: Tristan Hehir </p><p>City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p>

  • Aug 24, 2023 · 50 min

    8. Second Chances

    <p>Second chances… do you believe in them? With different opinions, we share our experiences and your stories that you’ve sent in to give you an insight into whether second chances can work</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</strong><br></p

  • Aug 17, 2023 · 57 min

    7. Let’s Talk Dating Apps

    It’s time to start dating again and we are here to talk all about dating apps, things to avoid on those first dates and knowing when you’re ready to start dating again after heartbreakProducer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/