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Not As We Planned

Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon.

Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about.

From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all.

Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid.

If you have a question or want to share your story, email us at notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com


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  • Jun 6, 2024 · 47 min

    46. He Left because I Got Too Fat

    <p>When you are to blame for your partner cheating, the 29 year old barmaid, and a dog shit blowj*b</p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p>

  • May 30, 2024 · 40 min

    45. Gaslighting 101

    <p>Talking about getting the snip, when your partner cheats on you with his ex, working out if money can really buy you happiness and phone full of prostitutes.</p><p><br></p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p></p

  • May 23, 2024 · 45 min

    44. What's That Around Your Ankle?

    <p>When you realise you’ve been dating a criminal, trying to catch your sister cheating on her husband and turning lesbian when you’re sick of men!</p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p></p>

  • May 16, 2024 · 47 min

    43. I Want to Store You In My Basement In a Duffle Bag

    <p><strong>TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic Abuse and Rape</strong></p><p>We talk about self sabotaging a good thing after dealing with a toxic relationship, the strangest messages you’ve received on dating apps and the sad reality of continuing to stay in a relationship where you see no change.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC

  • May 9, 2024 · 46 min

    42. A 3 Year Age Gap Between your Daughter and Mistress

    When she finds out her partner is cheating on the other woman with another one, the cheating husband whose dating a 21year old when he has a 19 year old daughter, and sharing an experience that allows her to go no contactProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • May 2, 2024 · 49 min

    41. The Home Wrecking Teenage Work Colleague

    When your best friend of 25years starts having sleepovers with your baby daddy, your man finally changes but is it too late and the teenage work colleague who loves a country lane!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Apr 25, 2024 · 44 min

    40. The Live Podcast

    <p>Marking episode 40 with our first ever live podcast with an audience! We never would have dreamed we could get here and this quickly and that’s because of all our amazing listeners so thank you! We talk about the other woman meeting your kids, how to give a blowjob and being invited to a threesome you weren’t aware of. Here’s to the first of many live events!</p><p><br></p><p></p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic p

  • Apr 11, 2024 · 55 min

    39. He's Literally a Walking Talking Red Flag

    <p>We talk about second chances and if they really work, befriending the ex girlfriend and girl boss energy vibes only.</p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p></p>

  • Apr 4, 2024 · 47 min

    38. One of the Confessions Is Mine!

    <p>It&#39;s another dating episode and this might be the most shocking one yet! The stories had us on the edge of our seats, in fits of laughter and then a surprise confession from one of the hosts!</p><p><br></p><p></p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><b

  • Mar 28, 2024 · 49 min

    37. Good Luck to the New Woman

    We share your bad scenarios in your relationships which you found yourself in but still stayed! Normalising staying and it’s not always easy to leave. Witnessing Tash’s new glow and hearing from a now happy couple who took on our adviceProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/

  • Mar 21, 2024 · 49 min

    36. You Make Your Bed, You Lay In It

    For the first time we share some updates with you from previous stories we have shared and showing that there is light at the end of the tunnelProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Mar 14, 2024 · 52 min

    35. Apparently I Give Better Blowjobs

    A lot of laughs and tears this week as we share some male perspectives on relationships as well as some crazy dating stories, listening to your gut and hearing your blowjobs are better than the other woman!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Mar 7, 2024 · 48 min

    34. Buy Me a F****** Meal First Hun

    We answer some intrusive questions we always get asked… also sharing our biggest icks, green flags and teaching men what women really likeProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Feb 29, 2024 · 54 min

    33. Lydia Bright: The Single Mum Club

    <p>We talk about becoming single mums and the highs and lows as well as dating, fostering and Lydia shared her new and exciting venture with us!</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p>

  • Feb 22, 2024 · 56 min

    32. Hindsight Is A Wonderful Thing

    <p>This week we talk about setting those boundaries, learning lessons from past relationships and not staying in those toxic envoirnments.</p><p><br></p><p></p><p>Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p><p><br></p><p></p>

  • Feb 15, 2024 · 47 min

    31. Babe... He's Married!

    A man whose most certainly married, whether you should go back to your maiden name and being submerged in balls….Talking about it all this week!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Feb 8, 2024 · 44 min

    30. What Would You Rather??

    Valentine’s Day might be approaching but we aren’t talking all roses and sunshine’s this week. We share your date fails, terrible valentines stories and want to know if you would rather give up sex toys or microwaves!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Feb 1, 2024 · 53 min

    29. You Made a Lucky Escape

    Should you tell your kids about infidelity? Do you admit to having children when dating and how to cope with feeling insecure. We discuss it all on this week’s episode.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

  • Jan 25, 2024 · 47 min

    28. He Actually Spent the Evening In a Motorway Hotel

    <p>From the obvious red flags to the in law dramas we share your stories and continue to give our opinions to your questions. And don’t worry the confessions will forever be anonymousProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p>

  • Jan 18, 2024 · 58 min

    27. We Broke Up

    <p>January seems to be a hard month when it comes to break ups and separation. We talk about this raw topic as one of us goes through the motions of a break upProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/</p>