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Healing Anxious Attachment

Johanna Adriaansen

Let's talk about the realll experience as a woman who is craving to be in that book-worthy loving relationship but knows her old patterns are getting in the way.

We're here to lock in on the inner work so that your relationship is beyond your wildest dreams.

My approach is beyond talk therapy and into the deep layers of subconscious programming and somatic healing.

Listen in to learn the road map and tools to create a securely attached nervous system, that makes you confident in love and life.

Prepare to feel supported, resourced, and held 🦢.

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#64
October 9 · 21 min
Can Avoidant Men Commit? OUR WEDDING STORY
We take you inside our wedding in Canada: a ceremony that opened with a meditation, a secondhand gift circle instead of presents, and witnesses we chose for who they are to us, not for the role they'd traditionally play. If you're in an anxious-avoidant relationship, this one is for you. Go Deeper: Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡
#63
October 2 · 38 min
Can an Avoidant Man Commit? OUR ENGAGEMENT STORY
Can an avoidant man commit? Our engagement was not picture-perfect. We were aligned on a future together but had never talked about getting engaged, so when it happened spontaneously, it brought up uncertainty, stress and contraction as well as joy. We get honest about how an avoidant and anxious pairing shows up in a moment of big commitment. We also share the personal work that helped us stay steady, including journaling, coaching and learning to move through fear loops rather than pushing emotions away or putting them on each other. If you're in a relationship with an avoidant partner, or you're working on your own attachment patterns, this episode will make you feel a lot less alone. 📚 Book mentioned: The Game by Neil Strauss A real look at what it takes - from both sides - to build a secure relationship. Go Deeper: Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡
#62
September 21 · 38 min
An Avoidant Man's Perspective: MEET MY HUSBAND
My husband joins me for an honest conversation about his path out of avoidant attachment - the pattern of intense connection followed by pulling away, and how he finally recognized it as his own to heal, not something caused by his partners. We talk about the difference between "me" problems and "you" problems in relationships, the somatic work Björn did to shift beyond just intellectual understanding, and why healing is more like peeling an onion than crossing a finish line. 📚 Book mentioned: The Child in You by Stefanie Stahl A real look at what it takes - from both sides - to build a secure relationship. Go Deeper: Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡
#61
September 14 · 15 min
Why You're Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men
Why do so many of us find ourselves drawn to emotionally unavailable men - again and again? In this episode, we unpack how low self-worth, harsh self-talk, and struggles like body dysmorphia and disordered eating quietly shape our relationship patterns. We get into why breaking this cycle isn't about mindset or strategy. it's about the body and the nervous system, and why the real work starts before the relationship even begins. __ Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡
#60
September 7 · 15 min
How to Stay Cool When He Starts Pulling Away
He cancels plans, his tone shifts, he says he's busy, or needs space..and suddenly you're spiraling, convinced this is the moment he leaves. In this episode, we talk about that panic and how to tell the difference between when it's time to self-soothe and give him room, and when it's actually time to have a conversation. __ Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Here 💗
#59
August 16 · 15 min
How to Date Like You Don't Need Him to Choose You
Getting a man who's willing to commit isn't about being more available, liking what he likes, or being "perfect." It's the opposite. In this episode: slowing down instead of rushing in, asking yourself how does this make me feel, paying attention to his communication and choices, and keeping your options open. Because staying in your power starts with staying with yourself first. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
#60
August 4 · 22 min
When You Feel Crazy for being Triggered by 'Small' Things
I'm sharing why those "small" triggers feel big. Why you might feel activated from a text left on read, or 'that tone' from someone you love. It's rarely actually about the small thing. __ Go Deeper with Johanna Join me inside Becoming Her - the program where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Foundations Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
#58
July 2 · 10 min
5 Reasons I Knew He (My Fiancé) Was Secure
I'm taking you behind the scenes of my own relationship and sharing the 5 things I noticed about my now-fiancé that told me - this one is different. After years of dating avoidant men and convincing myself the anxiety was just chemistry, experiencing security for the first time was genuinely disorienting. I almost didn't trust it. In this episode I cover the five signs that changed everything for me - from the way he showed up on day one, to the moment he was willing to walk away rather than pressure me, to what it finally felt like to be truly held in my emotions. If you're not sure what you're looking for, or you keep finding yourself in the same cycles - this one is for you. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Foundations Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
#57
June 28 · 11 min
Why You're Confident Everywhere... Except With Him
We're getting into why dating triggers anxiety that shows up nowhere else in your life, and what your attachment system is actually doing when real feelings are involved. If love is the one area where all your internal composure goes out the window, this one will help you understand why. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Foundations Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
#56
June 10 · 13 min
How to Receive as a Strong and Capable Woman
You know you over-give. You know you find it hard to receive. You've probably known for a while. So why hasn't anything changed? In part 2, we get into what's actually keeping you stuck - and what it looks like to start softening without losing yourself. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A monthly Access the 21 day Foundations Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
#55
June 3 · 15 min
The Independence Whiplash
You handle everything. You've built a life that proves you don't need anyone. So why does it still feel like nobody really sees you? In this episode, we get into why the very thing that makes you so capable is the same thing keeping real intimacy out - and where it all started. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthly Live Q&A July 14th Access the 21 day Foundations Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
#54
May 21 · 11 min
Anxious attachment is actually your body protecting you (and how to get it to stop)
An episode about Internal Family Systems. The psychology framework to identify the different parts of ourselves and how they interplay (or sabotage) us. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop June 7th Live Q&A July 14th Access the 21 day Foundations Path 50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
#53
May 8 · 15 min
Can You Actually Heal Anxious Attachment?
No one is born with anxious attachment style. So the short answer is yes, you can change your attachment to secure! In this epsiode you'll learn: •⁠ ⁠Why no one is born with anxious attachment, and what actually created yours •⁠ ⁠How your mother's nervous system shaped yours before you even had words for it •⁠ ⁠Why books, therapy, and podcasts haven't been enough, and what's missing from most healing approaches •⁠ ⁠The difference between knowing better in your mind and your body actually catching up Join me live for coaching and somatic therapy workshops in Becoming Her 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ep53-POD ✨ Working together 🌹: 1:1 Somatic healing - info + application Becoming Her - group space, live workshops and coaching calls Somatic Workshops - instant access to healing workshops 🦢
#52
April 30 · 12 min
How to Calm Relationship Anxiety Right Now
An episode to listen to when you're feeling anxious right now. Or, listen now and save the teaching for later 🫶🏼. We also touch on how to regulate your emotions, come back to your own sense of safety, and create a more grounded, secure way of relating. See in you in there! GO DEEPER WITH JOHANNA 🦢 Join me inside Becoming HER - the place you come when therapy and books haven't been enough. For the woman competent in other areas of life, but anxious in relationships.
#51
April 13 · 14 min
Why Men Don't Commit to Anxious Women
We're diving into the dynamic between anxious women and non-committal men, and how over-availability and trying to hold everything together can unintentionally create the very outcome you don’t want. We also touch on why anxious tendencies attract avoidant partners, and what truly creates the space for a man to step forward, invest, and choose you. See in you in there! GO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡
#50
March 30 · 10 min
Why You Should Spend Time Away From Your Partner
In a world that often glorifies constant closeness, this episode explores the power of space within relationships. We dive into the concept of polarity - how attraction thrives when there’s a sense of individuality and magnetism between two people. Because when you’re always merged, something can start to fade. We also touch on why space can feel especially important for avoidant partners and why many men, in particular, value freedom as a way to feel safe and open. See in you in there! Say Hi on Instagram - I love hearing from you @johhhannamaria GO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡
#49
March 16 · 26 min
Cycle Syncing for the Anxious Nervous System
One week you feel empowered, hot, regulated, grounded, making progress. The next you're spiralling, your inner critic is screaming, and you're convinced you've undone everything you've worked for. It's not a a setback - it's your internal winter. In this episode, we cover the four seasons of your cycle and how to eat, move, and schedule your life accordingly. Plus the specific codes that helped me personally reduce luteal phase irritability. You'll learn what cycle syncing looks like if you're on birth control, and an intro to seed cycling as an easy hormonal support tool. See in you in there! Say Hi on Instagram - I love hearing from you @johhhannamaria GO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡
#48
February 25 · 26 min
What Disordered Eating & Anxious Attachment Have In Common
What if your relationship with food isn’t just about food? In this episode, I share my own struggles with disordered eating and anxious attachment, and the surprising parallels I’ve noticed between the two. From craving reassurance in relationships to seeking comfort or control through food, these patterns often stem from the same place - fear of abandonment, lack of safety, and a deep need for control. This is a conversation about the emotional roots beneath these behaviours and what healing has looked like for me as I’ve started building more security within myself. PS. On March 5th I'm hosting "The Language of the Body Workshop" which is a perfect intro to somatic therapy and will give you frameworks for understanding what it means to rewrite patterns on a subconscious level and free you of old stories, blocks, and even symptoms. Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡 Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Next workshop March 5th! (Replay available) Individualized coaching from Johanna learn more here 💐
#47
February 10 · 27 min
ChatGPT Interviews Me! (and didn't hold back)
I asked chatgpt to play interviewer and focus on what would bring you the most value. Some of the questions we covered are: "What's one moment in your healing anxious attachment journey that really changed the game for you?" "When we hear that the other person isn't ready to deepen a relationship what's one practice we can do to deepen our self trust in those moments?" "What's one daily ritual or mindset shift you'd recommend that can help women stay on track, especially on the tough days?" "Many women feel their still repeating the same pattern of situationships, if you were sitting across from them right now, what's one first step you'd have them take, to break that cycle for good?" "What's one gentle piece of guidance you'd offer, to help women step into that new chapter?" "What's one word you'd love for your listeners to hold on to, as they step into their journey?" Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡 Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized from Johanna learn more here 💐
#45
January 7 · 31 min
Why Effort, Patience, and People Pleasing Stops Working
In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor. This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction. If you’ve found yourself gripping and forcing to hold yourself through uncertainty, this episode is an invitation to step into deep self-reliance, inner security, and embodied confidence. 👑 ✨ SELF-SOURCED 8 Week Group Program Waitlisted 👑 ✨ Learn more. An 8 week initiation into your own power, through and beyond healing anxious attachment into regulation, inner security, and amazing relationships. https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ss-ep45-btm

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