Infinite DevotionWhy Don't I Want to Have Sex With My Husband? | Infinite Devotion Episode 156
Why Don't I Want to Have Sex With My Husband? "I wanted to want it more. I just didn't, and I didn't know what was wrong with me." That's how Dawn describes the years her desire went quiet. This is part two of our series on desire in long-term relationships, and it's for the women. Last week was the man's half. This week Dawn and I get into hers: why her libido never actually died, what buried it, and what it has taken over the last five and a half years for her desire to come alive bigger than it was at the beginning. In this episode we get into: Why nobody has a dead libido, only a buried one The lies Dawn believed: "low libido," the infatuation stage, and what a good marriage is supposed to look like Desire as the pull, and why willingness is something else The day Dawn asked what was standing between her and feeling turned on Why slowing down is the first step, and who your body actually belongs to The Madonna-whore split women run on themselves The gasoline and the match, and the turn-ons hiding in the things you've judged Being turned on by your own life Why there's no technique, and what to do instead Speaking up, rebuilding self-trust, and the day Dawn told me she wasn't turned on by my body Next week's episode comes out Tuesday, November 10, the day my book Infinite Devotion launches. Get the first chapter free, sent to your inbox Sunday, November 8. Chapters 00:00 Part two: her side of desire 02:11 Nobody has a dead libido 04:15 We never saw passion last 06:18 Even at the worst, her body kept telling the truth 07:34 The lies Dawn believed 08:58 Desire is the pull 10:21 Her sexuality ran through me 12:29 "My hand can touch you, yours can't" 14:19 Five and a half years, and why you can't rush it 16:40 "When you come, I see God" 18:24 Why slowing down comes first 20:32 The same pull toward anything in life 22:44 Who does your body belong to? 24:42 When's the last time you pleasured yourself? 25:23 Communion and learning how to be 26:35 From wanting to obligation 29:54 Unwinding codependency 31:11 The Madonna-whore split women run on themselves 33:58 Capacity, orgasm, and letting go of control 35:10 The gasoline and the match 37:19 Your biggest turn-ons live in the shadow 38:04 Turned on by your own life 39:20 Acceptance, and learning to feel what you receive 41:19 There is no technique 43:58 If you're close to leaving, try staying 45:04 "I wanted to want it" 46:24 Hold the little girl on your lap 47:16 Let your emotions burn away the lies 48:26 When nothing in your life turns you on 50:29 Getting loud and rebuilding self-trust 52:11 "I'm not turned on by your body" 56:48 A woman's feelings are always accurate to something 58:46 Intimacy and intensity, together 59:25 The book, out November 10 Mentioned in this episode Communion: six months home to your body, for women. Waitlist open now. The Few: my six-month group for men. Waitlist open now. The Gasoline & The Match: Understanding Feminine Desire Lovense: Dawn's favorites are the Lush 4 and the Domi 2. Our link includes a discount. Part one, for the men: Why Won't My Wife Have Sex With Me? Infinite Devotion, the book Some of these are affiliate links. If you buy through them, we earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Connect with us Read the companion post on the blog YouTube | Apple Podcasts | Spotify Instagram Free resources
