The Dildorks

Billy Lore, Kate Sloan

Sex nerds and best friends Billy (billylore.com) and Kate (katesloan.com) talk about all things sex, dating, and masturbating.

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Jan 23, 2018 · 1 hr
Episode 71: Kinky Queeries
This week we tackled some questions from listeners (and one from Kate). Hear us weigh in on cultivating a desire to masturbate, sex party etiquette, unpacking toxic masculinity, and more! [Reid Mihalko](https://www.thedailybeast.com/porn-star-accuses-famed-sex-and-relationship-expert-reid-mihalko-of-sexual-misconduct) | Barista Crush | Masturbation Motivation | [Repopulate Your Sexual Fantasies](../../how-to-repopulate-your-sexual-fantasies/) | Erogenous Zones | Erotica | Toxic Masculinity |
Jan 20, 2018 · 1 hr 13 min
Episode 70: Reid the Room
(NOTE: We've opted to leave this episode up because we still think the info in it is valuable – but we have heard the [recent accusations levelled against Reid](https://www.thedailybeast.com/porn-star-accuses-famed-sex-and-relationship-expert-reid-mihalko-of-sexual-misconduct), and we believe them. We'll discuss this in more detail next week.) We were so excited to talk to one of our fave sex educators this week, [Reid Mihalko](http://reidaboutsex.com/)! He’s a communication mega-nerd like u
Jan 9, 2018 · 39 min
Episode 69: Sixty-Whine
For our 69th episode, we discussed the contentious sex act of 69ing! Find out why we usually don't like it, which factors make us like it better, and what other reciprocal sex acts we dig. Sex Robots | 420 | Distraction | [Twitter Poll](https://twitter.com/Girly_Juice/status/948544690554593280) | Romantic Sex | Power Exchange | Positions | Insecurities | Overwhelm | One-Sided | Kink Game | Reciprocality | [Dominant Bottom](http://www.bextalkssex.com/dominant-dalliances/) | From Above | [Fuck
Jan 2, 2018 · 56 min
Episode 68: Happy Screw Year
Happy new year, babes! This week we took stock of how we did on our 2017 sex goals and set some new ones for 2018. Hear about dates we went on, good and bad decisions we made, and what kinks we want to explore this year. First Orgasms | New Year’s Eve | Kink Events | Quality Over Quantity | Dates | Twitter | Fisting | Vulva Stuff | Porn | Teaching | Intentions | Hypnokink | Being Loaned Out | Bootblacking | CBT | Forced Orgasms | Sexy on Camera | Dom Side | Dissociation | Body-Shaming | Cons
Dec 27, 2017 · 55 min
Episode 67: Twentysevenpeen
Did your 2017 sizzle or fizzle? This week's our year in review: we discussed our best and worst sex of the year, our favorite locations in which we banged, and the new kinks we picked up along the way. Sex Spreadsheet | Not Enough Sex | Permission to Come | Kink Katamari | Types of Pain | Locations | Group Sex at Camp | Partners | Romantic Kink | Bad Sex
Dec 20, 2017 · 47 min
Episode 66: Holigays
Happy holidays, dorks! Here's an episode about navigating this festive season as a weirdo/queerdo. We discuss wintertime traditions, family snafus, and the importance of jerkin' it as the year "comes" to a close. Festive Fucking | Christmas Music | Feast of the 7 Fishes | Holiday Kinks | Traditions | Baking | Birthday Blowjob | Stressturbation | Over-Gendering | Poly Quandaries | Self-Care | Field Reports | Liberal Bigots | Party Buddies | Baby It's Cold Outside | Wholesomeness | Service Sub
Dec 13, 2017 · 52 min
Episode 65: Fornix Rising
We're bringing our A-spot A-game this week to talk about the little-known anterior fornix erogenous zone! Find out how we discovered this spot, how we like ours touched, and what toys work best for this task. UTI | A Vs. G | Dr. Chee Ann's Study | Vixen Outlaw and Maverick | "Press Here For Orgasm" | Length Fantasies | Instructing Partners | Fingerbanging | Cervix | Orgasms | Overstimulation | Firm Vs. Squishy | Double Trouble | Snake Dick | Perfect Dick | The Dildork | Straight Men | Size A
Dec 6, 2017 · 57 min
Episode 64: One Dildork, One Drummer
Bex is sick this week so Kate is joined by her brother, [Max Bornstein](https://www.maxbornsteintunes.com/), drummer for garage rock band [Goodbye Honolulu](http://www.goodbyehonolulu.com/) and co-founder/director of Toronto label [Fried Records](https://friedrecords.bandcamp.com/). We chatted about touring, dating fans, and our deeply embarrassing creative collaborations. Radio Free Calamity | [Goodbye Honolulu](http://www.goodbyehonolulu.com/) | Introversion | [Sideboard](https://soundclou
Nov 29, 2017 · 44 min
Episode 63: Wet-à-Tête
Things are about to get messy: this week we discussed sexual fluids! Find out our thoughts and feelings on cum, piss, blood, sweat, spit, and all manner of other lascivious liquids. Earwax | Drinking [Piss](http://www.bextalkssex.com/twelve-things-learned-sfs17-wasnt-workshops/) | Power | [The Devil's Deal](https://twitter.com/BexTalksSex/status/922950094621761536) | Facial Etiquette | Creampies | Bad Date | Blood | Period Sex | Spit | Sweat | Body Smells | Pheromones | Vomit | Sweaty Sex |
Nov 22, 2017 · 49 min
Episode 62: Bratitude
We were both in a real weird mood this week and it shows. Whoops. Enjoy this mess of an episode about gratitude, recent aggravations, and life as a Sex Person. Pizza & Video Games | Spanking | Listener Appreciation | Sex Friends & Vanilla Friends | Thank You | Gift-Giving | Reaction Anxiety | Hobbies | [Buck Angel](https://twitter.com/BexTalksSex/status/930866673279782912) | [Misgendering](http://www.bextalkssex.com/really-hear-misgender/) | Phone Sex | Feedback | Morning-After Text | [Datin
Nov 15, 2017 · 53 min
Episode 61: Bi Bi Bi
This week, a civil discussion of sexual labels devolves into a rant about bisexual erasure before your very ears! Find out what labels we do and don't use, how our identities have shifted over time, and what rage-inducing things people say and do to bisexuals. Validity | SuicideGirls | Coming Out | Gender Shifts | Super Gay | Binary | "Not Queer Enough" | Self-Erasure | Boyf | Double Standard | The Power of Dick | FYI, Still Bi | Label-Free | Sapiosexuality | Kink Identities | Non-Monogamy |
Nov 8, 2017 · 52 min
Episode 60: Blushing and Gushing
Our guest this week is [Princess Kali](http://www.coachingbykali.com/), author, former pro domme, and erotic humiliation expert! We chatted with her about the appeal of humiliation play, how to approach it thoughtfully, and why some people love being humiliated. Organization | [Enough to Make You Blush](http://www.enoughtomakeyoublush.com/) | Creativity | Emotional Language | Negotiation | Cultural Context | [Scene-Starter Deck](http://www.enoughtomakeyoublush.com/scene-starter-deck/) | Topp
Nov 1, 2017 · 1 hr 33 min
Episode 59: Fifty Shades of Garbage
This year for Halloween, we watched the scariest thing we could think of: Fifty Shades of Grey! Get your hands on the unrated version and watch along with us – or just listen as we complain about the coerced consent, food thievery, and bad accents in this nightmare of a movie. (Sorry for those few minutes of silence around 46:00 where we had connection issues! Feel free to skip past 'em.)
Oct 25, 2017 · 46 min
Episode 58: Cumpanions
Friends with benefits: a fantastic idea, often poorly executed! This week we're discussing FWBs: how to find one, how to keep one, why they're great, and ways these copulationships can go horribly wrong. Solo Poly | Sexual vs. Romantic | Time & Trust | Easy Sex | Intimacy | Same Page | [10 Commandments of Successful FWBs](../../10-commandments-successful-friendships-benefits/) | Comfort | [Casual Love Letter](../../casual-love-letter-casual-lovers/) | [Ruining the Mood](https://thedildorks.w
Oct 18, 2017 · 52 min
Episode 57: Word Pervs
We're showing off our cunning linguistics this week and talking about dirty talk! Find out about Kate's passion for porn captions, Bex's boner for aloof doms, and our favorite and least favorite filthy words. [Yes/No/Maybe List](http://www.bextalkssex.com/yes-no-maybe/) | Diligent | Absentmindedly | Filthy | Power Exchange | Affirmation | Mental Stimulation | Porn Language | Bottom Guilt | Submissive Dirty Talk | Come For Daddy | Napoleon | Moist | Horny | Jizz | Boner | Sweetheart | Faggot
Oct 11, 2017 · 52 min
Episode 56: Cliticism
We were so excited this week to talk to [Lynsey G](http://lynseyg.com/), journalist, [author](http://lynseyg.com/watching-porn/), and porn critic! She chatted with us about how porn has changed, how amateur porn affects the industry, what kind of porn she likes best, and more! Porn Critic | DVD Reviews | Improvements | Feminist Porn | [Porn Awards](https://thedildorks.wordpress.com/portfolio/episode-33-oh-no-porno-woes/) | Amateur Porn | [MakeLoveNotPorn.TV](https://makelovenotporn.tv/) | ["
Oct 4, 2017 · 49 min
Episode 55: Flirts 'n' Firsts
First dates: so fun, so scary, so rife with potential! This week, we discuss what makes a good first date, the best and worst ones we've been on, and whether sex after a first date is a good idea. Spreadsheet | First First Dates | Family Names | Awkwardness | Asking | Date vs. Not | Best Dates | Activities | [Conversation Starters](http://www.bextalkssex.com/five-first-date-conversation-starters-nervous-nerds/) | Passions | Sex | Flirting | [Good Sex Predictors](http://redhotsuz.com/2017/10/
Sep 27, 2017 · 53 min
Episode 54: Climaximal
Orgasms! We love 'em. You probably do too. Hear all about our first orgasms, what gets us off now, and how testosterone is changing Bex's orgasms, among other climactic tidbits! [O: The Intimate History of the Orgasm](http://www.powells.com/partner/36737/biblio/9780802142160?p_ti) | Firsts | [JoEllen Notte](http://www.redheadbedhead.com/think-if-youre-not-sure-if-youve-had-an-orgasm-you-havent-shut-up/) | Partnered Sex | [Testosterone](http://www.bextalkssex.com/changing-love-considering-hor
Sep 20, 2017 · 52 min
Episode 53: Bexhibitionism
This week we sneezed and grumbled our way through a discussion of exhibitionism. Find out why we like showing off and why we don't – and why we occasionally fake our orgasms! Consent | Validation | Fisting | Storytelling | Anxiety | Authenticity | Fake Orgasms | Noises | Laughter | Voyeurism | [Threesome](../../my-first-threesome-was-a-smash-success/) | Looking | [Winks](../../do-i-have-a-wink-kink/) | Enthusiasm | Body Parts
Sep 13, 2017 · 1 hr 16 min
Episode 52: Clowning Around
This week we're joined by [Sunny Megatron](https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron) and [Ken Melvoin-Berg](https://twitter.com/psychicken), kink educators and fellow sex podcasters! We talked with them about humiliation, clowns, and much more. It's also our one-year podcastiversary, so we reflected on our fave memories from a year of Dildorks! Sick Voices | [#BirthdayBruises](https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=%23BirthdayBruises%20from%3Agirly_juice+OR+bextalkssex&src=typd) | Anniversaries | [4