Billy Lore, Kate Sloan
Sex nerds and best friends Billy (billylore.com) and Kate (katesloan.com) talk about all things sex, dating, and masturbating.
Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing fear play: what it is, why we like it, and what kinds we want to try. Scary Movies | Fear | Trust | Roleplay | Knives | Hook-Ups | Anxiety | Humiliation | Confrontation | Eye Contact | [Njoy Eleven](../../review-njoy-eleven/) | Nipples | Body Mods | New Kinks | Intoxication | Aftercare | Predator/Prey | Vampires | Bullying | [Naked Heart Festival](http://nakedheart.ca)
Friend of the show [Dick Wound](https://twitter.com/DickWound), of the [Off the Cuffs](https://linktr.ee/ocpkink) and [Being There](https://linktr.ee/beingtherepod) podcasts, joins Kate this week for a goofy discussion of intense kinks ranging from knives to piss to sweat! Dude From the Internet | Knife Play | Fear Play | Death | [Off the Cuffs](https://linktr.ee/ocpkink) | Kink Origins | Balloon Fetish | Sweat & Smells | Food | YouTube | Vomiting | Watersports | “Basic Bitch” Kinks | Impact
This week we're bustin' some myths about our fave relationship style: polyamory! Hear us get sassy about hierarchy, infidelity, stigma, and more... Hierarchical vs. Not | Solo Poly | Not Serious? | Sluts | [Sex at Dawn](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/1491512407) | [Cake](https://twitter.com/Girly_Juice/status/991314145344675840) | Failure | Break-Ups | Cheating | Whoever You Want | Synced Cycles | [Ersties Podcast](https://www.ersties-podcast.com/) | Getting Pe
Got a flair for the dramatic? This week we're rolling out our thoughts on roleplay: why we like it, what kinds we like, and whether or not it’s a strictly sexual thing for us. Psychology vs. Sensations | Cultural Narrative | Flirting | Bullying | High School | Taboo | Non-Sexual Kink | Riddle Club | [Flow State](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flow_(psychology)) | Homework | [Hysteria](../../hysteria-hands-and-victorian-vibrators/) | Con Non-Con | Massage | Outsmarting | [A Month’s Worth of Ph
School is back in session, so we’re discussing sex ed! Find out what we learned about sex in school – and what we learned, um, elsewhere. Skipping Health Class | Gender Segregation | Anatomy | Gender | Shame | Consent | Doug Ford | Emotional Maturity | Kink | The Clit | Books | Erotica & Fanfiction | Cybersex | Eavesdropping | Podcasts | [Bear Bergman](http://www.sbearbergman.com/) | [Emily Nagoski](http://www.emilynagoski.com/) | [Allison Moon](http://girlsex101.com/) | [Dr. Liz Powell](htt
You asked, we answered! This week, we address listener questions on topics ranging from awkward set-ups to platonic kink to dancing dilemmas. Hope this helps! [Unsolicited Advice](../../unsolicited/) | Vanilla Set-Ups | Dating While Kinky | [Toy Storage](https://heyepiphora.com/2017/02/step-inside-my-sex-toy-closet/) | [Hiding Toys](http://ninjasexology.com/2014/07/31/stealth-sex-toys-stash-management/) | [Toy Cleaning](http://dangerouslilly.com/sex-toy-reviews/sex-toy-care-and-maintenance/)
Impact play has left quite a mark on us! This week we discuss why we like pain, how beginners can get into spanking, and the answers to all your burning questions about hittin' and bein' hit. Pain Slut | Thuddy vs. Stingy | Psychological Motivations | Topping | Floggers | Lexan Paddles | [Sweet Spot](http://spankingart.org/wiki/Sweet_spot) | [Weal & Breech](https://wealandbreech.com/) | Pervertibles | Punishment Spankings | [Safe Areas](http://www.devianceanddesire.com/2014/12/bdsm-impact-pl
Sexting is a truly modern sex act. This week we discuss our favorite sext-initiation methods, secret screenshot-ogling, and most treasured emojis, among other sextual topics! No Limits | Access Need | Jumping the Gun | Consent | Casual vs. Dedicated | Screenshots | Selfies | Limitations | Words | Yes/No/Maybe List | Keeping It Fresh | Fantasy vs. Desire | No Babies | Violet Blue’s Book | Aftercare | Read Receipts | Sexting Prompts | Roleplay | Professional Sexting | Predictive Text | Emojis
This week we’re reflecting on butt stuff in all its delightful forms: anal sex, rimming, butt plugs, and more! Girth Enthusiasm | Butt Barometer | Pain | Nausea | Physical vs. Psychological | Vulnerability | Beginner Tips | Asking For It | Mess & Prep | Topping | [Njoy Toys](http://www.bextalkssex.com/pure-plug/) | [Tantus Uncut #1](http://www.bextalkssex.com/review-tantus-uncut-1-2/) | Condoms & Lube | What If You Don’t Like It? | Double Penetration | Rimming | Spanking | [CockyBoys](https:
This week, we revisit one of our fave topics: hand sex! We describe how we’re feelin’ about fingers and fists these days, and then answer listener questions about hands-on pleasure. Hand Puns | Dysphoria | Morning Handjobs | Fisting | [Vixen Randy](https://shevibe.com/randy-silicone-dildo-by-vixen-purple/#oid=1013_1) | [Sliquid Silk](https://shevibe.com/sliquid-naturals-silk-hybrid-personal-lubricant-8-5-fl-oz/#oid=1056_1) | [The Butters](../../review-butters-lubes/) | Assumptions | Surpris
It’s back to basics this week, with a discussion of oral sex! Find out how we feel about giving head, getting head, rimming, and other mouth-centered pleasures. [Blowjob-Friendly Lipsticks](../../blowjob-friendly-lipsticks-for-every-budget/) | [Sex Ed Workshops](http://www.bextalkssex.com/workshops/) | Dysphoria | [Aslan Jaguar Harness](../../harness-showdown-aslan-jaguar-vs-rodeoh-briefs/) | BJs As Aftercare | Dommy BJs | [Hysterical Literature](http://hystericalliterature.com/) | Receiving
It's our 100th episode!! We celebrated by taking one of those weird 100-point [purity tests](http://www.armory.com/tests/100.html) to determine which one of us is sluttier. Any guesses?! Accountability | Who’s More Pure? | Dates | Dancing | Kissing | Positions | Birthday Hickeys | Strippers | Drinking | Drugs | Caressing & Fondling | Manipulation | Sauna-ing | Intercourse | Lube | Butt Stuff | Sex Workers | Masturbation | Exhibitionism | Crossdressing | Giveaway
Here's our live show from the 2018 [Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit](http://sexualfreedomsummit.org)! We discussed the fine art of romancing sex bloggers, from DM-slides to consent practices to sex toy reviewing. Assumptions | To Flirt or Not to Flirt? | Flirty Fans | Mistakes | “Hi” | Consent Issues | Manic Sexy Dream Person | Negotiating What Gets Shared | Sex Toy Reviewing | Tinder Wingwomen | [Peepshow Toys](https://www.peepshowtoys.com/) | [The Butters](https://www.peepshowtoys.com/produ
Let’s talk gender, folks! This week we’re discussing masculinity, femininity, why they’re good, why they’re bad, and how we hope to see them change. Crop Tops | Gender Roles | [Chivalry](https://www.acast.com/yapit/yapitantrawbearbergman) | Public Kink | Masculinity | Non-Binary | [Public Bathrooms](https://www.refugerestrooms.org/about) | Bowties & Snapbacks | Pain & Power of Femininity | Brendon Urie | Jack Harkness | Flamboyant Men | Brooklyn Nine-Nine | Toxic Masculinity | Consent & Desi
This week we’re discussing the intersections between group sex, public sex, and exhibitionism! Find out how to navigate a play party, what constitutes an orgy, and what group-sex activities we hope to try someday. Dildo Expulsion | Tapping Out | Gangbangs | Orgy Threshold | MGS | Negotiation | Spin the Bottle | Anxieties | First Times | Goofiness | Play Party Etiquette | Scheduling | Getting Consent | Saying No | Fisting | Jerkception | Advice | Kink vs. Sex | Spanking Motivations | #GroupS
We're joined this week by the lovely [Marcia Baczynski](https://www.askingforwhatyouwant.com/about/), speaker, writer, coach, and sexual communication expert! We touched on consent, flirting, long-distance dominance, and much more. [Good Girl Recovery Program](http://goodgirlrecovery.com/program) | [Field Guide to Consent](https://www.askingforwhatyouwant.com/consent/) | Flirting | Topping Without Toys | Punctuation | Saying the Big Scary Thing | Sharing vs. Negotiation | Vibrator-Shaming |
What sex acts do you consider underrated? This week, we’re rhapsodizing the unsung heroes of our sex lives: fingerbanging, the thigh grind, making out, and more! What Counts As Underrated? | [Eva from “What’s My Body Doing?”](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hKZakiKGis) | Tinder | Making Out | The Thigh Grind | Thigh Harnesses | Knee-Dicks | Dry-Humping | Teasing & Sneaking | Roleplay | Hand Sex | Fisting | [The Butters](../../review-butters-lubes/) | Flaccid Dicks | Toys | Masturbating Toge
Sometimes your sex life is about the sex you’re NOT having… This week we’re discussing dry spells, celibacy, and other sexless situations! Sexting & Phone Sex | Longest Dry Spell | Tinder, Etc. | Craving Sex | Date Activities | Sex Distress | Trans Stuff | Masturbation | What Helps? | [Sqweel](https://shevibe.com/lovehoney-sqweel-2-oral-sex-simulator-white.aspx#oid=1013_1) | Sex Education | Toy Reviewing | Deliberate Celibacy | Sexperiments | Introversion | Asexuality | Incels | [How to Beco
This week we’re picking the brain of writer and kink educator [Sinclair Sexsmith](http://www.sugarbutch.net/about/)! We touched on punishment, protocol, confidence, consent, and so much more. Power | [Protocol](https://www.autostraddle.com/view-from-the-top-protocol-361782/) | Check-Ins | Punishment | [Submissive Playground](http://www.submissiveplayground.com/) | Consequences | Fears | Debriefing | [Palette of Permission](https://www.autostraddle.com/view-from-the-top-palette-of-permission-
What does it mean to “come out” and why is it important to us? This week we’re telling our coming-out stories and discussing the intricacies of this rite of passage. Definition | Co-Optation? | Being Out | Bi Erasure | Kink | Biphobia | Trans | Poly | Partners | Mental Illness | Tattoos | Regrets | Advice | Parental Support | Paving the Way | Irrelevance