The Dildorks

Billy Lore, Kate Sloan

Sex nerds and best friends Billy (billylore.com) and Kate (katesloan.com) talk about all things sex, dating, and masturbating.

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Sep 6, 2017 · 45 min
Episode 51: A Little Help From My Friends
Kink is an important aspect of our friendship, even though we don't have sex with each other. Find out what kind of kink stuff we do, how it helps us, and how to handle platonic kink in your own life. Our Average | Definitions | Sexual vs. Romantic | Masturbation Coach | Platonic Sexting | Fetish vs. Kink | Skill-Building | Self-Care Domming | Daisy Ducati | Too Intense | Subspace | Noises | Benefits | Aftercare | Wiggly Eyebrows | Alley Hookup | [BirthdayBruises](../../youre-invited-birthda
Aug 30, 2017 · 1 hr 2 min
Episode 50: Gorytelling
We sat down with the delightful [Claire AH](https://claireah.com/), of [Tell Me Something Good](http://www.tmsgstories.com/) and [Friend of a Friend Matchmaking](http://www.friendofafriendmatchmaking.com/), to talk about sexy storytelling, making matches, and life after her stroke. [Tell Me Something Good](http://www.tmsgstories.com/) | [Bawdy Storytelling](https://bawdystorytelling.com/) | Bad Spanking | Story Ethics | [Glad Day Bookshop](https://www.gladdaybookshop.com/) | Braces | Confide
Aug 23, 2017 · 50 min
Episode 49: The Dom Before the Storm
We're both pretty subby, but we have some feelz about dominance. Find out the difference between topping and domming, what sex acts make us feel toppy, and what we enjoy about bossing people around. Topping vs. Domming | Kink-sey Scale | Partner-Dependent | Vanilla Sex | Gender Differences | [Suz](http://redhotsuz.com) | Toppy Fantasies | Facesitting | Empathy | Spanking | Fisting Lessons | Caretaking | Overstimulation | [Beating the Stigma](../../beatingthestigma/) | Being the Bad Guy | Men
Aug 16, 2017 · 46 min
Episode 48: Wood-Hell Yeah
We just went to the [Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit](https://www.sexualfreedomsummit.org/) and had some Thoughts and Feelings! Hear about our favorite and least favorite sessions, the weird/cool sex stuff we got up to, and the new toys we got! [BLM](https://www.paypal.me/blmcville), [NAACP](http://www.albemarle-cvillenaacp.org/), and [Beloved Community Charlottesville](http://belovedcommunitycville.com/) | [Live Show](https://thedildorks.wordpress.com/portfolio/episode-47-yes-you-con/) | Whi
Aug 9, 2017 · 53 min
Episode 47: Yes You Con
We recorded this episode live at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit! Find out our best tips for attending conferences: how to meet people, learn things, and take good care of yourself! [Playground Conference](http://playgroundconf.com/) | Sex Blogger Summer Camp | Approaching People | Twitter | [Nina Hartley](https://twitter.com/Girly_Juice/status/762111613314928640) | Information Processing | Rest | Spreadsheets | Expectations | Self-Care | Jiz Lee | [New York Toy Collective](https://shevib
Aug 2, 2017 · 42 min
Episode 46: Unicornographic
This week we sat down with our friend [Suz](http://redhotsuz.com), a sex blogger, unicorn, and online-dating aficionado. She told us about her best and worst threesomes, gave some group-sex advice, and shared her Tinder secrets! Threesome Math | Dick Video | Bloody Panties | [Fi(r)st Time](http://redhotsuz.com/2016/04/30/oasis-aqualounge/) | Worst Time | Sex Movies | Power Dynamics | Best Time | Put Your Mouth On It | Boundaries | Unicorn Hunters | Football Team | [Tinder Tips](http://redhot
Jul 26, 2017 · 51 min
Episode 45: Taylor-Made
This week we sat down with our friend [Taylor J Mace](http://www.feistyfoxfilms.com/), blogger, educator, and [sex worker](http://www.taylorjmace.com/)! They told us the nerdy strategies they use to plan group sex, some tips for attending sex parties, and thoughts on playful domination! Anal Fisting | Intense Talkers | Hotel-Room Orgy | Spreadsheets | Privacy | Feelings | First Time | No Expectations | Going Solo | Condom Fairy | Playful Domination | Dom Stereotypes | Consent | [Yes/No/Maybe
Jul 19, 2017 · 54 min
Episode 44: Edge-ucation
This week we get wild and talk about edgeplay: kinks that kinda terrify us, but in a hot way. Find out what we find compelling about knives, piss, consensual non-consent, and a plethora of other pervy deliciousness. Rekinkarnation | Taboos | Humiliation | Knives | [Open Source Sex](http://www.tinynibbles.com/podcasts/open%20source%20sex%2004.mp3) | Fantasy vs. Reality | Watersports | Service | Embarrassment | [Enough to Make You Blush](http://www.enoughtomakeyoublush.com/store/) | Anxiety |
Jul 12, 2017 · 46 min
Episode 43: Cockoisseurs
Our passion for penises knows no bounds. In this episode, we discuss all things dick: our first schlong sightings, our current criteria for commendable cocks, and our favorite things to do with wangs. This one gets a little porny, folks! BJ Cast | High Passion | All Dicks Are Good Dicks | Surprise! | Sementics | Dick vs. Cock | First Time | You Show Me Mine | Envy | Anxiety | Technique | Responsiveness | Dick Rating System | Mouths & Butts | VixSkin Mustang | Foreskin | Dicksperiments | Turt
Jul 5, 2017 · 59 min
Episode 42: We're Poly, By Golly!
Ah, the wonderful and complex world of non-monogamy! This week, we get nerdy about polyamory. Find out how we realized monogamy didn't work for us, which resources taught us about poly, and what the hell we do with all our feeeeelingz. Polynormativity | Choosing Monogamy | Proto-Kate | Solo Poly | Monogamous Exes | Unnatural Rules | Labels | Freedom | Disclosure | Jealousy | [Reid Mihalko](http://reidaboutsex.com/jealousy/) | One-Penis Policy | [Femme Competition](http://web.archive.org/web/
Jun 28, 2017 · 40 min
Episode 41: Absolutely Positive
What the heck is sex-positivity and why does it matter? This week, we discuss the sex-positive movement: its advantages, its criticisms, and how to live a sex-positive life. Pride Glitter | Definitions | Safe vs. Risk-Aware | SwedenManatees | [Sex is Fun](http://sexisfun.net/) | [Sex Nerd Sandra](https://sexnerdsandra.com/) | Vanilla-Shaming | Opposition | Kinks vs. Behaviors | Callouts | Beacon of Permission | Sex Shops | Sexual Attitude Reassessment | Asexual Erasure | Self-Shaming | Testo
Jun 21, 2017 · 51 min
Episode 40: Daddy's Day
Happy Father's Day! Let's talk about Daddy Doms. Find out how we realized we were into Daddies, how we deal with weird feelings around this taboo, and how we feel about people calling us Daddy! Coffee Dom | Pup vs. Little | Nice Dominance | Lawyer Prof | [Why Are People Into Ageplay?](https://www.acast.com/yapit/9-siouxsie-q-age-play) | [The Big Little Podcast](https://www.biglittlepodcast.com/) | Ageplay | Little Space | DD/lg and Pups vs. Poly | Incest?! | [Vanilla Daddy](../../youre-vanil
Jun 14, 2017 · 51 min
Episode 39: Minotaur Metamours
We were thrilled this week to chat with [Andre Shakti](http://andreshaktixxx.com/), sex educator, sex worker, and sex journalist. She gave us advice on managing jealousy, meeting metamours, and getting fisted for the first time! [I Am Poly and So Can You](https://www.iampoly.net/) | Vocabulary & Context | Therapists | Jealousy | Metamours | Femme Competition | Compersion | Humanization | [Strap-On Workshop](https://twitter.com/BexTalksSex/status/786718552661319680) | [Sex Down South](http://
Jun 7, 2017 · 43 min
Episode 38: Fan-Friction
Fanfiction is a wonderful exercise in imagination and perviness! Find out our favorite fic pairings, our thoughts on the ethics of real-person fic, and why we wanna make out with Gregory House and Jake Peralta. [Testosterone](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KlZbtQ6ffpc&t=210s) | Grindr | [Rachel Kramer Bussel](http://www.rachelkramerbussel.com/writing/books.php) | [Nerve Endings](http://www.instarbooks.com/books/nerve-endings.html) | Bones | Harry Potter | [Brooklyn Nine-Nine](http://archive
May 31, 2017 · 39 min
Episode 37: Kissin' Impossible
Maaan, we really like making out. This week we're talkin' about kissing. Find out which Indiana Jones movie underscored Bex's first kiss, what improv has to do with kissing, and whether good cunnilinguists make good kissers. Ziti Siren | Indiana Jones | Report Card | Spin the Bottle | Passion | The Thigh-Grind | Koala Nest | Contact Improv | Lip-Biting | Casual Kisses | Oral Sex | Bad Kissers | IKEA | PDA | Trapped Gazelle
May 24, 2017 · 1 hr 12 min
Episode 36: Star-Crossed Sex Nerds
This week we're chatting with Stella, a sex-savvy, queer, kink-positive, badass astrologer. They taught us how our star charts inform our sex lives, relationships, and even our business partnership! Skepticism | Sun, Moon, Rising | Antisocial Scorpio | Service | Spreadsheets | Poly Boundaries | Libra Logic | Flirting | Bossy Sub | Taurus & Virgo 4Ever | Luxurious Masturbation | Too Many Ideas | [Transcendent Kink](http://girlyjuice.net/no-moment-is-unendurable-other-life-lessons-i-learned-fr
May 17, 2017 · 1 hr 8 min
Episode 35: Mother to a Brother
Happy belated Mother's Day, y'all! This week we're talking about how our childhoods and parents influenced our sexuality. And, bonus: Kate interviews her mom about masturbation, boys, and celebrities! [DD/lg](../../tag/DDlg/) | Fellati-eww | Pleasure | Books | TMI | Anatomy | Equality | Acceptance | Butts | Bath Faucet | Sex Therapist | Sexagenarian Superbabe | Feminist Hero | Boy-Thirsty | White Wine | Funny Weirdos | [Goodbye Honolulu](https://goodbyehonolulu.bandcamp.com/album/mother-to-a
May 10, 2017 · 45 min
Episode 34: Aftercare Laughtercare
Aftercare is an oft-overlooked part of kink, but a super important one! This week we discuss why aftercare matters, how we like to do it, and what happens if we skip it (hint: bad stuff!). Pajamas | Altered State | Distance | Poly Partners | Debriefing | Chocolate | [#BirthdayBruises](http://www.bextalkssex.com/birthdaybruises-adventures-in-exhibitionistic-masochism/) | Little Space | [What Do You Need?](https://twitter.com/_writehanded_/status/852313988612333568) | Kink Savasana | Dissociat
May 2, 2017 · 1 hr 6 min
Episode 33: Oh No! Porno Woes
We went to the [Toronto International Porn Festival](http://www.torontointernationalpornfestival.com/) and it really pissed us off, y'all. Here's our episode-long rant about the consent issues, organizational problems, and ethical snafus at the porn fest. Oh, and a few good things happened too, I guess. [Feminist Porn Awards](http://www.dailyxtra.com/canada/news-and-ideas/news/one-performer-boycotted-the-feminist-porn-awards-102663) | [The Best Porn of the Last Decade](http://www.torontointe
Apr 26, 2017 · 41 min
Episode 32: Toymaker, Toymaker, Make Me a Toy
This week we’re talkin’ shop with [Kenton](https://twitter.com/funkittoys), lead fucksmith at [Funkit Toys](https://www.funkittoys.com/)! Find out how silicone toys are made, what’s in the works at Funkit, and what inappropriate question people always ask Kenton at cons. Genderless Toys | [Paddles](https://www.funkittoys.com/shop) | Customer Feedback | Ideas | Silicone | [Signet](https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/funkit-signet-hand-sex-plus#/) | Dream Toys | Glass | Toymaker Brain | “Is Tha