Class with Kate

Codependency Kate

Class with Kate: where I take you to school on all things Restoring Relationships

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100 episodes
Updated July 7
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July 7 · 45 min
Ep. 91 | When to report someone vs just find someone else? Office Hours with Megan and Martha
This concludes our series on BAD COUPLES THERAPY… for now. Here Kate meets with Martha and Megan, who have both experienced bad therapy, to very different degrees. Learn when it’s time to report vs when it’s time to find someone else. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
July 6 · 38 min
Ep. 90 | How it looks when your couples therapist doesn’t get it - Office Hours with Renee
Renee comes to Class with Kate after her husband of 20 years had an affair. She wonders what to do and if her husband is really capable of repair. She then adds her experiences with couples therapy, which reflect Sarah and Renee’s experiences (in the previous episode). Listen to what Kate has to say about how to move forward. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 30 · 1 hr 4 min
Ep. 89 | What does a couples therapist enabling abuse look like? Office Hours with Sarah and Cece
Both Sarah and Renee have been unhappily married to their partners for quite some time. When they have sought out couples therapy, they have gotten no meaningful support. Listen to their stories and how Kate helps them advocate for themselves. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 29 · 40 min
Ep. 88 | When going to a couples therapist enables abuse
Are all relationships 50/50? For every action, there is an equal reaction, right? That’s how therapists have been trained to treat couples. But what about in cases of abuse? Let’s talk about when couples therapy harms women and how to advocate for yourself. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 23 · 1 hr 3 min
Ep. 87 | He Thought He Had an Anger Problem. I Think It's Depression | Office Hours
Content Warning: Discussion of childhood abuse, neglect, physical punishment, and trauma. John came into Office Hours worried about his attitude, his relationships, and the growing distance between himself and his children. But as he shares stories from his childhood, a much bigger picture emerges. Growing up with neglectful, emotionally abandoning parents, living in a hoarded home, and experiencing harsh physical punishment shaped far more than John realized. As we unpack his history together, I challenge the belief that he's simply an angry person and explore whether depression, grief, and unresolved trauma may be at the root of what he's experiencing today. This episode is a powerful look at how childhood abuse can become invisible to the people who survived it and how healing begins when we stop minimizing what happened. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 22 · 43 min
Ep. 86 | I Had Brain Fog Mid-Class... Then I Used BEND Live to Actually Take Care of Myself
This class started with an unexpected problem: Kate couldn't think. What looked like simple brain fog became a live demonstration of what it means to listen to yourself instead of pushing harder. Rather than forcing her way through it, Kate used the BEND framework in real time to understand what her mind and body were trying to communicate. The result was an unplanned but powerful lesson about emotional awareness, nervous system regulation, parenting, and the kind of self-care that actually creates change. Because real self-care isn't just getting your nails done. It's learning how to pay attention to yourself when something feels off. In this episode: Kate uses BEND live to work through brain fog What brain fog can reveal about your emotional state Why pushing through often makes things worse How parents can model emotional awareness for their children The difference between self-care and self-avoidance How to build a more trusting relationship with yourself The lesson wasn't the one Kate planned to teach—but it might be the one people need most. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 17 · 1 hr 5 min
Ep. 85 | The Missing Piece in Tiffany’s Estrangement With Her Daughter-in-Law
In Part 2 of My DIL Stopped Talking to Me, Kate sits down one-on-one with Tiffany to go deeper into her estrangement from her son and daughter-in-law. As the conversation unfolds, Tiffany identifies some influence related to what Kate calls the adultosphere—the internet space that believes younger generations are cutting people off for no reason and don't value family. Together, they unpack what may actually be happening beneath that story, explore the missing context, and identify what Tiffany can do next. This episode is a powerful look at estrangement, grief, motherhood, love and the difference between seeking understanding and seeking blame. Sometimes the path forward starts with asking a different question. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 16 · 1 hr 1 min
Ep. 84 | An Estranged MIL Meets Women Who've Been in Her Daughter-in-Law's Shoes
What happens when an estranged mother-in-law sits down with women who have lived through estrangement from the other side? In this episode of Office Hours, Tiffany shares her pain as an estranged MIL. Christina reflects on reconnecting with her father after 20 years of estrangement, while Amber offers insight from her healthy relationship with her own mother-in-law. With Kate facilitating the conversation, the women explore hurt, accountability, family dynamics, and the longing for connection. What emerges is a powerful moment of understanding—and a reminder that love and support can still exist even when relationships are complicated. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 15 · 52 min
Ep. 83 | The Shocking Thing Toxic MILs and Their Sons Have in Common
Everyone talks about the manosphere. But what if there's an adultosphere too? In this episode, Kate explores how childism—the belief that adults deserve more power and respect than children—shapes families and relationships. She also unpacks the surprising similarities between toxic mothers-in-law and entitled men: both expect authority based on status rather than earned trust. From "because I'm your mother" to "because I'm the man," the message is the same. Kate breaks down how these dynamics start in childhood and why they show up in marriage, parenting, and family conflict. And most importantly, what women and children can, and CAN’T, do about it. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 10 · 47 min
Ep. 82 | Can An Incel Husband REALLY Change? - Office Hours with Allison
Trigger warning: sexual abuse, religious trauma, coercion, emotional abuse. Allison married young inside a high-control religious culture and spent years believing her husband’s behavior was normal. But after realizing her wedding night was assault and uncovering the deep misogyny driving their marriage, she asks the question so many women are terrified to face: can a toxic incel husband actually change? Kate breaks down the real psychological pathways of change in men, the levels of treatment required, and why insight alone is never enough. By the end, Allison comes face to face with the truth her body has been trying to tell her for years. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 9 · 51 min
Ep. 81 | When Your Marriage Feels Lonely: Grief, In-Laws & Not Knowing Your Place - Office Hours with Iris and Taylor
Taylor and Iris come into Office Hours with two different marriage struggles that uncover the same deeper pain: feeling unseen. Iris is navigating difficult in-law dynamics, unwanted gifts from grandparents, and uncertainty about her place in the family. Taylor opens up about grief and the loneliness of feeling misunderstood by her husband. Together, they explore boundaries, emotional disconnection, marriage, and what it means to honor your own experience without needing everyone else to understand it first. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 8 · 39 min
Ep. 80 | Why You “Check Out” (And Don’t Even Realize It)
Ever gone numb during conflict? Forgotten entire conversations? Felt disconnected from yourself, your partner, or your life? You may be dissociating — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it. In this episode, Kate breaks down what dissociation actually is, why the nervous system uses it for protection, and how it quietly impacts relationships, communication, intimacy, parenting, and conflict. She explains the signs you’re emotionally leaving before your body does, why shame keeps the cycle going, and what healing actually looks like — both for yourself and with the people you love. If you’ve ever felt “checked out,” emotionally flat, overwhelmed, frozen, or unable to stay present in hard moments, this episode is for you. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 3 · 37 min
Ep. 79 | Your Family Won’t Change… Now What? | Office Hours with Chuck
Chuck is estranged from his mom and brother and keeps asking the same painful question: How do I have a relationship with people who won’t change? But Kate challenges something deeper underneath it all: what if his constant need to help, rescue, explain, and fix them is actually protecting him from grief? This episode unpacks the exhausting cycle of trying to manage emotionally unavailable family members, why “helping” can become a form of control, and what happens when you finally stop waiting for people to become who you need them to be. Kate explains why healing sometimes looks less like repairing relationships… and more like learning how to celebrate your own life without guilt. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 2 · 57 min
Ep. 78 | When Your Parents Won’t Heal: Breaking Generational Trauma While Raising Kids | Office Hours with Fay & Amelia
Fay and Amelia are two mothers facing the same devastating realization: the pain their parents caused didn’t end in childhood. It followed them into marriage, parenting, and the way they see themselves. In this Office Hours episode, they unpack what happens when your parents can’t take accountability, can’t emotionally repair, and may never become the people you needed. But the harder question is this: how do you raise emotionally healthy kids while carrying unresolved trauma yourself? Kate walks Fay and Amelia through processing their internalized trauma, and breaking the cycle through empowering their kids. This episode is for anyone trying to BE different while still healing from what happened to them. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
June 1 · 45 min
Ep. 77 | You Recreated Your Childhood in Marriage (Now What?)
What happens when you finally realize the emotional neglect and abuse you survived as a child didn’t end… it just became your marriage dynamic? In this episode, Kate breaks down why emotionally neglected children often unconsciously recreate familiar relationships in adulthood and the first steps to stopping abandoning yourself inside your marriage. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
May 27 · 59 min
Ep. 76 | I Made a “Hate List”... and It Changed Everything - Office Hours with Laura
What happens when you stop avoiding your feelings and actually process them in real time? In this episode, Kate gets vulnerable in real time by making a “hate list” — uncovering annoyance, fear, and emotions that are usually buried beneath unwanted behaviors. Then in Office Hours, Laura shares her fears about parenting her daughter while navigating difficult family dynamics and trying not to repeat unhealthy patterns. A raw episode about feeling the hard stuff, breaking cycles, and learning what healthy emotional processing actually looks like. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
May 26 · 43 min
Ep. 75 | Marriage, Identity & Decentering Men - Office Hours with Linda & Emily
Linda and Emily are in different stages of marriage, but they’re asking the same question: how do you stop losing yourself while trying to make a relationship work? This episode explores emotional labor, overfunctioning, resentment, and the pressure women feel to organize their entire lives around men. Kate breaks down what it actually means to “decenter men” without becoming cold, detached, or anti-relationship. If you’ve ever felt like your needs, identity, friendships, body, or purpose disappeared inside your marriage, this conversation will hit hard. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
May 25 · 39 min
Ep. 74 | How to Deal With a Dismissive Avoidant Without Losing Yourself
In this episode Kate talks about what a dismissive avoidant is, why it’s a problem for you, and how to deal with it once and for all. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
May 20 · 45 min
Ep. 73 | She Exposed Her Dad’s Affair… and Lost Her Entire Family | Office Hours with Mia
Mia never expected one confrontation to cost her everything. After forcing her father to come clean about an affair with her sister-in-law’s mother, her entire family turned on her — including her sister. In this Office Hours episode, Kate breaks down what happens when families protect secrets over accountability, why truth-tellers often become the scapegoat, and how estrangement can become the price of refusing to participate in dysfunction. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
May 19 · 1 hr 2 min
Ep. 72 | He’s Finally Trying. Why Do I Still Feel Stuck?
Two women. Two marriages. One frustrating question: What do you do when he’s trying… but it’s still not enough? In this Office Hours episode with Diana and Mary, Kate breaks down the gray area—where there’s effort, but no real repair. You’ll learn: Why change ≠ trust How to set boundaries without over-accommodating What to do when you feel stuck between hope and reality Because “better” doesn’t always mean safe. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Class with Kate

Ep. 91 | When to report someone vs just find someone else? Office Hours with Megan and Martha

Ep. 90 | How it looks when your couples therapist doesn’t get it - Office Hours with Renee

Ep. 89 | What does a couples therapist enabling abuse look like? Office Hours with Sarah and Cece

Ep. 88 | When going to a couples therapist enables abuse

Ep. 87 | He Thought He Had an Anger Problem. I Think It's Depression | Office Hours

Ep. 86 | I Had Brain Fog Mid-Class... Then I Used BEND Live to Actually Take Care of Myself

Ep. 85 | The Missing Piece in Tiffany’s Estrangement With Her Daughter-in-Law

Ep. 84 | An Estranged MIL Meets Women Who've Been in Her Daughter-in-Law's Shoes

Ep. 83 | The Shocking Thing Toxic MILs and Their Sons Have in Common

Ep. 82 | Can An Incel Husband REALLY Change? - Office Hours with Allison

Ep. 81 | When Your Marriage Feels Lonely: Grief, In-Laws & Not Knowing Your Place - Office Hours with Iris and Taylor

Ep. 80 | Why You “Check Out” (And Don’t Even Realize It)

Ep. 79 | Your Family Won’t Change… Now What? | Office Hours with Chuck

Ep. 78 | When Your Parents Won’t Heal: Breaking Generational Trauma While Raising Kids | Office Hours with Fay & Amelia

Ep. 77 | You Recreated Your Childhood in Marriage (Now What?)

Ep. 76 | I Made a “Hate List”... and It Changed Everything - Office Hours with Laura

Ep. 75 | Marriage, Identity & Decentering Men - Office Hours with Linda & Emily

Ep. 74 | How to Deal With a Dismissive Avoidant Without Losing Yourself

Ep. 73 | She Exposed Her Dad’s Affair… and Lost Her Entire Family | Office Hours with Mia

Ep. 72 | He’s Finally Trying. Why Do I Still Feel Stuck?