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Codependency Kate

Class with Kate: where I take you to school on all things Restoring Relationships

Find me on TikTok, Instagram, and Youtube @CodependencyKate

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  • #120
    Sunday · 13 min

    NO ONE talks about emotional neglect

    The ACE study found 10 types of childhood trauma that directly impacted health in adulthood, but no one talks about the most pervasive kind: emotional neglect. This kind of trauma is often invisible to outsiders and even to the children who experience it because it's not about what happened to you, it's about what DIDN'T happen. In this video I go over three common types of emotional neglect, including problem-solving without care, spiritual bypass, and toxic positivity. In the rest of this series, I will give you the tools you need to stop neglecting yourself as an adult. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #119
    September 27 · 14 min

    Instead of Gratitude, Try HATE

    "Gratitude lists" are a staple of self-help advice, but NOT on my channel. The opposite of toxic positivity = actually confronting the negative parts of your life and getting ANGRY. In this third video of my emotions series, I offer 3 practical tools to feel your real feelings safely: hate lists, tapping, and emotional forecasting. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #118
    September 20 · 13 min

    Emotions 101: NAME IT TO TAME IT

    Refusing to name your emotions doesn't mean they aren't there. Hustle culture tells us to be "logical" rather than emotional, but you can't actually make a change if you avoid your feelings. In this second video of my Emotions 101 series, I share the most important step to becoming more present in your feelings: NAME IT TO TAME IT. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #117
    September 13 · 6 min

    You can't THINK your way out of OVERTHINKING

    Hustle culture tells us to suck it up and "just do it," but when you ignore the fire in your heart, your brain has to deal with the smoke. In this first video in my emotions series, I'll show you how to actually feel your feelings before you "change your mindset." Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #116
    September 6 · 9 min

    Parent's Intentions DON'T MATTER

    Many parents will say they “didn’t mean” to hurt you, but never actually change their hurtful behavior. When it comes to our children, we have to focus on the impact of our actions, NOT our intentions. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #115
    August 30 · 11 min

    You Taught Your Kid to SNATCH

    Snatching toys doesn’t make your child a "bad kid,” they might’ve learned the behavior from you. If you want to stop this behavior at the root you have to start with yourself. Here I introduce the term childism, point out how it might be showing up in your parenting, and offer a method that will help you AND your child make better choices. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #114
    August 23 · 8 min

    The Top-Down vs. Bottom-Up Approach

    When our kids misbehave, it's important to know why before correcting. With other adults, the complete opposite is true. Here I explain the difference between a "bottom-up" approach and a "top-down" approach, and how to know which one actually applies to your situation. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #113
    August 16 · 8 min

    The Opposite of Emotional Abuse: BEND

    If you grew up with a parent who only saw you for your behavior and not your inner world, your ignored emotions probably show up in ways you wish they didn’t. You don’t have to keep living like this! You can show yourself the love you should have received before by actually meeting your own needs, and the method I introduce explains exactly how. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #112
    August 9 · 9 min

    Why Carseats Are a Struggle: IT'S CHILDISM

    Your kid isn't being "bad" when it's time to get in the carseat, but your mentality towards it is holding you back. Here I introduce you to the term "childism" and name it as the cause to this issue, and maybe many other parenting issues you may be having! Then I give you a method that will actually work to change this.. every single time. In this video: what childism actually is, how it holds you back, and the tool you NEED (BEND method) to change this for good. What is YOUR carseat struggle? Tell me below! Subscribe for more on codependency, boundaries, and generational patterns. www.codependencykate.com

  • #111
    July 6 · 38 min

    Ep. 90 | How it looks when your couples therapist doesn’t get it - Office Hours with Renee

    Renee comes to Class with Kate after her husband of 20 years had an affair. She wonders what to do and if her husband is really capable of repair. She then adds her experiences with couples therapy, which reflect Sarah and Renee’s experiences (in the previous episode). Listen to what Kate has to say about how to move forward. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #108
    June 29 · 40 min

    Ep. 88 | When going to a couples therapist enables abuse

    Are all relationships 50/50? For every action, there is an equal reaction, right? That’s how therapists have been trained to treat couples. But what about in cases of abuse? Let’s talk about when couples therapy harms women and how to advocate for yourself. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #107
    June 23 · 1 hr 3 min

    Ep. 87 | He Thought He Had an Anger Problem. I Think It's Depression | Office Hours

    Content Warning: Discussion of childhood abuse, neglect, physical punishment, and trauma. John came into Office Hours worried about his attitude, his relationships, and the growing distance between himself and his children. But as he shares stories from his childhood, a much bigger picture emerges. Growing up with neglectful, emotionally abandoning parents, living in a hoarded home, and experiencing harsh physical punishment shaped far more than John realized. As we unpack his history together, I challenge the belief that he's simply an angry person and explore whether depression, grief, and unresolved trauma may be at the root of what he's experiencing today. This episode is a powerful look at how childhood abuse can become invisible to the people who survived it and how healing begins when we stop minimizing what happened. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #106
    June 22 · 43 min

    Ep. 86 | I Had Brain Fog Mid-Class... Then I Used BEND Live to Actually Take Care of Myself

    This class started with an unexpected problem: Kate couldn't think. What looked like simple brain fog became a live demonstration of what it means to listen to yourself instead of pushing harder. Rather than forcing her way through it, Kate used the BEND framework in real time to understand what her mind and body were trying to communicate. The result was an unplanned but powerful lesson about emotional awareness, nervous system regulation, parenting, and the kind of self-care that actually creates change. Because real self-care isn't just getting your nails done. It's learning how to pay attention to yourself when something feels off. In this episode: Kate uses BEND live to work through brain fog What brain fog can reveal about your emotional state Why pushing through often makes things worse How parents can model emotional awareness for their children The difference between self-care and self-avoidance How to build a more trusting relationship with yourself The lesson wasn't the one Kate planned to teach—but it might be the one people need most. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #105
    June 17 · 1 hr 5 min

    Ep. 85 | The Missing Piece in Tiffany’s Estrangement With Her Daughter-in-Law

    In Part 2 of My DIL Stopped Talking to Me, Kate sits down one-on-one with Tiffany to go deeper into her estrangement from her son and daughter-in-law. As the conversation unfolds, Tiffany identifies some influence related to what Kate calls the adultosphere—the internet space that believes younger generations are cutting people off for no reason and don't value family. Together, they unpack what may actually be happening beneath that story, explore the missing context, and identify what Tiffany can do next. This episode is a powerful look at estrangement, grief, motherhood, love and the difference between seeking understanding and seeking blame. Sometimes the path forward starts with asking a different question. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #104
    June 16 · 1 hr 1 min

    Ep. 84 | An Estranged MIL Meets Women Who've Been in Her Daughter-in-Law's Shoes

    What happens when an estranged mother-in-law sits down with women who have lived through estrangement from the other side? In this episode of Office Hours, Tiffany shares her pain as an estranged MIL. Christina reflects on reconnecting with her father after 20 years of estrangement, while Amber offers insight from her healthy relationship with her own mother-in-law. With Kate facilitating the conversation, the women explore hurt, accountability, family dynamics, and the longing for connection. What emerges is a powerful moment of understanding—and a reminder that love and support can still exist even when relationships are complicated. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #103
    June 15 · 52 min

    Ep. 83 | The Shocking Thing Toxic MILs and Their Sons Have in Common

    Everyone talks about the manosphere. But what if there's an adultosphere too? In this episode, Kate explores how childism—the belief that adults deserve more power and respect than children—shapes families and relationships. She also unpacks the surprising similarities between toxic mothers-in-law and entitled men: both expect authority based on status rather than earned trust. From "because I'm your mother" to "because I'm the man," the message is the same. Kate breaks down how these dynamics start in childhood and why they show up in marriage, parenting, and family conflict. And most importantly, what women and children can, and CAN’T, do about it. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #102
    June 10 · 47 min

    Ep. 82 | Can An Incel Husband REALLY Change? - Office Hours with Allison

    Trigger warning: sexual abuse, religious trauma, coercion, emotional abuse. Allison married young inside a high-control religious culture and spent years believing her husband’s behavior was normal. But after realizing her wedding night was assault and uncovering the deep misogyny driving their marriage, she asks the question so many women are terrified to face: can a toxic incel husband actually change? Kate breaks down the real psychological pathways of change in men, the levels of treatment required, and why insight alone is never enough. By the end, Allison comes face to face with the truth her body has been trying to tell her for years. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

  • #101
    June 9 · 51 min

    Ep. 81 | When Your Marriage Feels Lonely: Grief, In-Laws & Not Knowing Your Place - Office Hours with Iris and Taylor

    Taylor and Iris come into Office Hours with two different marriage struggles that uncover the same deeper pain: feeling unseen. Iris is navigating difficult in-law dynamics, unwanted gifts from grandparents, and uncertainty about her place in the family. Taylor opens up about grief and the loneliness of feeling misunderstood by her husband. Together, they explore boundaries, emotional disconnection, marriage, and what it means to honor your own experience without needing everyone else to understand it first. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

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