
How Do I Set Boundaries With Family? A Guide To Surviving The Holidays
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In this special holiday episode, Katrina Mautner, a queer trauma-informed therapist, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on setting boundaries with family. Drawing from Katrina’s anti-oppressive and harm reduction framework, they break down boundaries as a tool for connection—defining them as the distance at which you can love both yourself and the other person.
Some takeaways:
- How boundaries actually allow us to deepen relationships and say "yes" more freely
- Surviving difficult moments with "strategic avoidance" and internal boundaries
- Applying a harm reduction lens to deescalate family conflict, even imperfectly
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- 0:00Chapter 1
- 0:30Introduction
- 2:00Why Boundaries Actually Deepen Relationships
- 5:15Enforcing Boundaries: Control Your Actions, Not Theirs
- 9:00Harm Reduction & Strategic Avoidance
- 13:00A Tactical Guide to Setting Effective Boundaries
- 19:00Story: Thanksgiving Conflict & Parenting Styles
- 26:19How to Handle Parenting Clashes & Ultimatums
- 36:19Creating a Self-Care Plan (The "Back Pocket" Card)
- 38:49What Katrina Mautner Really Thinks about Boundaries
- 44:04Final Thoughts & Resources