How Do I Get Over Someone? The Science of Heartbreak with Colette J. Fehr

Relationship expert Colette J. Fehr joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the messy, neurological reality of moving on. They explore why breakups feel less like a simple goodbye and more like overcoming an addiction, creating a need for a strategic "reset" of the brain. Colette advocates for “no-contact” as a vital tool for nervous system regulation and reclaiming your sense of self.

Some takeaways:

1. Why missing an ex mirrors an addiction cycle and how to break it.
2. How creating distance allows your nervous system to detach from an ex.
3. How to move from waiting for closure to finding an internal resolution.
4. The dangers of "rebounds" and why reclaiming self-worth should be a priority.

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1. Follow Colette on Instagram and TikTok
2. Listen to Colette’s podcasts, Insights from the Couch, Real Talk for Women at Midlife and Love Thy Neighbor.
3. Read Colette’s Book: The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure Lasting Love.

Listen to Colette’s TED Talk: Secrets of a Couple's Therapist

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