
How Can We Get The Spark Back? Strategies for Long-Term Relationship Intimacy
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Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood.
Some takeaways:
• Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood.
• The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence.
• How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection.
• How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does.
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- 0:00Chapter 1
- 0:30Why spark is not what you think
- 6:30Can a relationship be saved
- 12:30The truth about losing the spark
- 18:30Why spark needs intention and effort
- 24:30Safety first then attraction grows
- 31:34Learning what you actually need
- 37:34Communication that builds connection
- 43:34Rebuilding after stress and life changes
- 49:34Small actions that bring connection back