
#412 - The Year-End Question Nobody’s Asking Donors
You know the fantasy. You get one meeting with a philanthropic advisor, she sees how good your work is, she walks you into her top five clients, and your year is made. Dr. Vandana Arcot is that advisor. Nonprofits ask her for exactly this all the time. Her answer is “absolutely not.” Dr. Vandana Arcot is a physician who trained in India and then spent two decades with international global health agencies, mostly in reproductive health. She also holds a public health degree and an MBA, and she calls herself a translator between field work and the boards writing the checks. Today she advises high-net-worth donors and family foundations through KOMSELJ, with programs running in 17 countries. We start with her five donor types: the reactive giver, the giver tied to the place that helped them, the “reseeder” who spreads small gifts and comes back to whoever performed, the high-net-worth donor branching into philanthropy full time, and the legacy donor. Each one needs a different approach. Her story about the auditorium shows why. A donor wanted to sponsor one at her mother’s old school. On the field visit, Vandana’s team found the school needed toilets so girls could attend during their periods, plus streetlights so kids could get home safely. Attendance went up 25 to 30%. The donor still got her auditorium. Then we get into what her clients check before they give. Her answer: they give where they trust, and that trust comes from social proof now, not from your email list. The organizations getting surprise checks are “building a room, not a list.” That means small working sessions all year, where existing donors talk about the work and bring their friends along. Her verification process goes past audited financials to field visits, where past donors came from, and the failures you’re willing to name. One finding stung: founder-led nonprofits doing great work in the field rarely come up as the most fundable, because nobody has time to build the proof. On year-end, she says Giving Tuesday is an anchor, not a deadline. Your gala should end with a public impact report, not a gift basket. That means your legal name, your EIN, and what $10,000 and $100,000 actually buy. Link your audited financials in every email you send. And her top tip: stop asking donors how much. Ask when they plan to give, show them what the program costs, and let them decide the amount. My favorite moment is when we both admit the hard part. Doing good work doesn’t mean anyone finds you. I call it shining a diamond in a cave. Nobody’s out there looking for you, so you have to be findable, and for Gen Z donors that means Instagram and TikTok. If your year-end plan is a gala and a prayer, this conversation is for you. Important Links: KOMSELJ : https://www.komselj.com/ Substack : https://substack.com/@drvandanaarcot My Big Ask Gifts Program : https://go.rheawong.com/big-ask-gifts-program My Book, Get That Money Honey : https://go.rheawong.com/get-that-money-honey My Newsletter : https://www.rheawong.com/