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Emma | Psychology of Desire

The Erotic Realm is the world's leading Erotic Psychology podcast, exploring the psychology of desire, kink, intimacy and erotic identity through conversations with kinksters, researchers, educators and experts.

Hosted by Emma, Sexologist and founder of Psychology of Desire, each episode explores the erotic realm of an individual one on one with a deep dive into their erotic psychology.

Join Emma and discover what your desires might be trying to teach you.

www.psychologyofdesire.com

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  • S2 · E129
    Yesterday · 1 hr 4 min

    #129 Desire and Your Body: Judith Swack on Shame, Trauma & Sexuality

    What happens when there is a disconnect between what your mind and your body wants? In this episode I explore with Judith Swack, creator of Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU), about sexual shame, trauma, desire and what she describes as experiencing sex from the body's point of view. We explore: Sexual shame and its impact on desire. The conflict between consciously wanting something and not feeling safe enough to want it. What Judith describes as a phobia of sexual desire. How religious and cultural messages can become attached to sexuality. A live tapping demonstration during the episode. How Judith works with unconscious patterns around sex. The relationship between the mind, body and erotic desire. Research article: Sexual Satisfaction, Sexual Attitudes, and Shame in Relation to Religiosity. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E128
    Tuesday · 54 min

    #128 Why Financial Domination Turns People On: Money, Power & Kink with Harley

    Why can giving someone your money become an act of erotic surrender? In this episode I'm joined by Harley to explore the psychology of financial domination — better known as findom — and the complex relationship between money, power, submission and desire. We explore: The psychology of financial domination and findom. Why financial domination can feel "primal". Service submission and the psychology of giving. The difference between lifestyle findom and commercial erotic labour. Why financial domination isn't necessarily reducible to sexual arousal. Negotiating boundaries within financial power exchange. The difference between financial domination and financial exploitation. Research article: Findommes, Cybermediated Sex Work, and Rinsing. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E127
    August 21 · 1 hr

    #127 The Psychology of Pony Play: Rapidash on Transformation, Submission & Pony Space

    What happens when you don't just want to pretend to be a pony but you want to psychologically become one? In this episode I'm joined by Desmond, known in the kink community as Rapidash, for our first exploration into the psychology of pony play and human animal roleplay. We explore: What pony play actually is and why people are drawn to it. Why pony play isn't primarily sexual for Desmond. How latex, masks, bridles and tack facilitate psychological transformation. Service, devotion and the relationship between a pony and handler. The importance of community in transforming a private fantasy into an embodied identity. Whether entering pony space represents escaping yourself — or becoming more fully yourself. Research article: The Psychology of Puppy Play: A Phenomenological Investigation. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E126
    August 18 · 57 min

    #126 365 Days of Orgasms: Pleasure, Desire & the Psychology of Orgasm with Annette Benedetti

    What happens when you commit to having an orgasm every single day for an entire year? In this episode we explore Annette's 365 Days of Orgasms journey — what began as an unusual personal experiment and evolved into a much deeper exploration of pleasure, desire, embodiment and sexuality. We explore: The psychology behind 365 consecutive days of orgasms. What women may misunderstand about their own arousal and pleasure. The relationship between orgasm, desire and sexual satisfaction. How self-pleasure can affect partnered sex. The role of embodiment, presence and psychological safety in pleasure. Whether everyone could benefit from developing a regular pleasure practice. Why the greatest sexual experiences may involve much more than orgasm. Research article: Building Blocks Toward Optimal Sexuality: Constructing a Conceptual Model. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E125
    August 14 · 59 min

    #125 Erotic Jealousy, Non-Monogamy & Your Passport 2 Pleasure with Ally Iseman

    Can jealousy become erotic—and can we have both security and novelty in our relationships? I'm joined by Ally Iseman from Passport to Pleasure, a certified relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, pleasure advocate and speaker whose work explores how we can create more intentional relationships and more expansive erotic lives. We explore: Erotic jealousy and what happens when jealousy itself becomes part of desire. Consensual non-monogamy and how to know whether you're ready to explore it. How to talk to a monogamous partner about opening a relationship. The tension between security and erotic novelty. The mistakes people commonly make when opening relationships. Symbiosexuality—the emerging concept of attraction to the energy and dynamic between people in an existing relationship. Why designing relationships consciously may require us to question the scripts we've inherited about love. Research article: The fewer the merrier?: Assessing stigma surrounding consensually non-monogamous romantic relationships. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E124
    August 11 · 1 hr 2 min

    #124 The Psychology of Sacred Kink: BDSM, Spirituality & Ritual with Melissa M. Wilcox

    What if some BDSM experiences aren't simply erotic—but sacred? In this episode I explore with scholar Melissa M. Wilcox about the fascinating intersection of BDSM, spirituality, religion, ritual and sexuality. We explore: Ritual, surrender and meaning within BDSM. The historical relationship between religion, pain and self-flagellation. What makes an experience feel sacred. Melissa's research process for Devotions. Feminist Wicca, LGBTQ+ Christianity and Melissa's academic journey. Why human beings create rituals in the first place. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E123
    August 7 · 1 hr 21 min

    #123 The Good Boy: Submission, Tantra & Latex with The Queensman

    What if submission wasn't about weakness...but about finally feeling safe enough to be vulnerable? In this episode I sit down with The Queensman—a passionate submissive, service sub, tantra practitioner, latex fetishist, and the first Good Boy to appear on the podcast. We explore: What it means to identify as a Good Boy. Mommy Domme/little dynamics and unconditional love. Why service submission isn't about being a pushover. Hidden desires, shame, and self-acceptance. How tantra transformed his BDSM journey. Latex, caning, and his favourite kinks. Advice for anyone afraid to explore their desires. Research article: Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E122
    August 4 · 46 min

    #122 The Art of Shibari: Marie Sauvage on Ritual, Presence, & Erotic Art

    What if Shibari wasn't simply about rope—but about learning a new way to communicate? In this episode I chat with internationally recognised Shibari artist Marie Sauvage to explore the psychology of presence, embodiment, ritual, and the artistic language of Japanese rope bondage. We explore: How Shibari became Marie's artistic language. Why rope is about communication, not just restraint. Presence, embodiment, and interoceptive awareness. The role of trust in Japanese rope bondage. Why Marie sees performances as rituals rather than demonstrations. A feminine perspective on contemporary Shibari. Research article: Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E121
    July 31 · 58 min

    #121 The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Jim Benson on Masculinity, Tantra & Erotic Confidence

    Can men experience multiple orgasms - and if so, why aren't more people talking about it? In this episode I speak with men's sexuality coach Jim Benson to explore the psychology of masculine desire, tantra, erotic confidence, and the surprising science behind the multi-orgasmic man. We explore: What it means to become a multi-orgasmic man. The difference between orgasm and ejaculation. How tantra transforms male sexuality. Overcoming sexual shame and performance anxiety. Awakening the "sexual animal within". Why presence creates better sex. Research article: Male multiple orgasms: a descriptive study. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E120
    July 28 · 1 hr

    #120 Healing Your Erotic Self: Big Bear Hug on Trauma, Boundaries & Belonging

    What happens when healing from trauma changes the way you understand your desires? In this episode I chat with with Big_Bear_Hug to explore the psychology of trauma, boundaries, erotic identity, and the lifelong process of becoming ourselves. We explore: The relationship between trauma and desire. Learning healthy boundaries inside and outside kink. Navigating triggers within BDSM spaces. Finding a kink-aware therapist. Becoming a "Desire Fulfilment Entity". Belonging beyond labels. Research article: Questioning Gender and Sexual Identity in the Context of Self-Concept Clarity, Sense of Coherence and Value System. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E119
    July 24 · 39 min

    #119 Building Orgasmic Wellness: The Platform Rethinking Sexual Health Care with Mike Corner

    Why is finding the right help for a sexual concern still so difficult? In this episode I’m joined by Michael Corner, founder of Orgasmic Wellness, to explore the fragmented systems surrounding sexual health—and what it might take to connect people with better care. We explore: What sexual wellness actually includes. Why finding the right sex therapist or practitioner is difficult. The barriers preventing people from seeking sexual-health support. What makes Orgasmic Wellness different from searching Google. The future of integrated sexual health and wellbeing. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E118
    July 21 · 1 hr 3 min

    #118 Inside the Mind of FetLife Founder John Baku

    How do you build the world's largest BDSM community? In this episode I chat down with John Baku, the founder of FetLife, to explore the psychology behind one of the most influential platforms in modern kink. We explore: How FetLife was created. The psychology of building online communities. Why belonging is so important for kinky people. The future of FetLife and BDSM education. Community safety, moderation, and transparency. Advice for people joining FetLife for the first time. Research article: The Benefits of Facebook “Friends:” Social Capital and College Students’ Use of Online Social Network Sites. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E117
    July 17 · 1 hr 4 min

    #117 The Erotic Edge: Tantra, Neuroscience & Conscious BDSM with Amber Ella-Vatrix

    What if your erotic struggles aren't really about sex but about safety, connection, and your nervous system? In this episode I chat with Amber Ella-Vatrix—conscious kink educator, tantra practitioner, neuroscience-informed facilitator, and creator of The Erotic Edge. We explore: Conscious kink. Tantra and embodied sexuality. Heart-based dominance. Erotic transformation. The sacred prostitute tradition. Trauma, retraumatisation, and safety. Research article: Polyvagal Theory: A Science of Safety. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E116
    July 14 · 1 hr 5 min

    #116 The Psychology of Super Orgasms: Female Pleasure, Desire & Expanded Sexual Response with Mae

    Can some women experience super orgasms? In this episode I chat with down with Mae —educator, former professor, and creator whose work has placed her at the centre of thousands of deeply personal conversations about sexuality, fantasy, insecurity, and pleasure. We explore: Super orgasms and Expanded Sexual Response (ESR). Male sexuality and vulnerability. Consent, communication and respect. Kink and human connection. Sexual confidence. Why pleasure matters more than performance. Research article: Five Cases with Expanded Sexual Response (ESR). Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E115
    July 10 · 1 hr 22 min

    #115 The Psychology of Erotic Power: Midori on Shibari, Art & Desire

    What happens when one of the world's leading sexuality educators spends decades teaching people that power, creativity, and pleasure can coexist? In this episode I sit down with Midori—international sexuality educator, author, artist, and one of the pioneers who introduced Shibari and conscious BDSM to Western audiences. We explore: The psychology of Shibari. Female dominance and leadership. ForteFemme. Creativity and eroticism. Sexuality education. The future of BDSM and Shibari. Research article: Role Congruity Theory of Prejudice Toward Female Leaders. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E114
    July 7 · 47 min

    #114 The Science of Curiosity: Brats, Kink & Erotic Growth with That_Scientist

    What if the most important skill in exploring your sexuality wasn't confidence—but curiosity? In this episode I chat with That_Scientist to explore the psychology of curiosity, brat dynamics, bisexuality, kink education, and why asking better questions may be one of the most powerful tools we have for understanding desire. We explore: The psychology of curiosity. Discovering bisexuality later in life. BDSM and sexual health. Asking better questions. Self-discovery through kink. Erotic psychology. Research article: Sexual health promotion and sti prevention on the margins: kink, bdsm, and sexually adventurous women. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E113
    July 3 · 1 hr 12 min

    #113 How to Learn BDSM Safely: Choosing the Right Kink Educator with AncillaL

    How do you find good educators of BDSM? In this episode educator and author AncillaL returns to the podcast to explore one of the most important—and surprisingly overlooked—topics in kink: BDSM education. We explore: How to choose a BDSM educator. BDSM mentorship. Communities of practice. Skill-based vs role-based learning. Education versus advertising. Building critical thinking in BDSM. Research article: Kink Community Education: Experiential Learning and Communities of Practice. Connect with AncillaL: https://fetlife.com/AncillaL https://www.patreon.com/c/ancillal?vanity=user https://www.instagram.com/ancillarykinksupport?igsh=MXYzeHBoZWliZjFmZw== Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E112
    June 30 · 36 min

    #112 The Psychology of Switching with Matcha

    What happens when you're both dominant and submissive—and both feel completely authentic? In this episode I chat with Matcha to explore the psychology of switching, the emerging FemDaddy archetype, BDSM identity, power exchange, and the freedom that comes from embracing every side of yourself. We explore: BDSM switches and switch identity. FemDaddy dynamics. Forced feminisation. Gender expression in kink. Communication and empathy. Research article: “Switch it up”: A qualitative analysis of BDSM switches, Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E111
    June 29 · 1 hr 7 min

    #111 The Psychology of Erotic Permission: Julieta Chiara on Submission, Shibari & Becoming Yourself

    What happens when you finally give yourself permission to desire what you truly want? In this episode I chat with sex therapist and Shibari practitioner Julieta Chiara to explore the psychology of submission, women's desire, erotic permission, and the transformative power of saying "yes" to yourself. We explore: Women's desire and sexual permission. Submission and empowerment. Shibari and Japanese rope bondage. Why "your first Dom is you". Pain, presence, and transformation. Research article: Are Role and Gender Related to Sexual Function and Satisfaction in Men and Women Practicing BDSM? Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • S2 · E110
    June 23 · 1 hr 5 min

    #110 The Psychology of Ecstasy: Barbara Carrellas on Tantra, Desire & Human Flourishing

    What if sexuality wasn't simply about pleasure—but about becoming more fully alive? Grab your Splashblanket here - don't forget to use the code eroticrealm at checkout for a 10% discount! In this episode I sit down with legendary sexuality educator Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra and The Book of Ecstasy, to explore tantra, BDSM, conscious sexuality, erotic awakening, and the role pleasure plays in human flourishing. We explore: Sexual flourishing and wellbeing. Non-genital orgasms. Pleasure as a pathway to healing. Emotional armour and vulnerability. Sexuality during the AIDS crisis. The Book of Ecstasy. Research Artile: A new sexual wellbeing paradigm grounded in capability approach concepts of human flourishing and social justice. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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