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#1036
Tuesday · 45 min
Savage Love Episode 1036
Bummer! A man had just met with a male-female couple who wanted him to take part in a kinky three-way. But when he confessed that he sometimes has trouble coming, they cancelled. Can he train himself to blow a load? Need he? Speaking of loads, a woman credits her beautiful, supple skin to the facial treatments her husband obligingly administers. Can this be true? Any dermatologists care to weigh in? On the Magnum, Dan chats with filmmaker, actor and fetish content creator Julian Shaw. He wrote and directed the thriller Use Me, co-directs the documentary Acting Hard, and is the subject of Cam Boy, a documentary currently in production. He was the face of Australia's gay marriage fight, and had to "come out'" as straight. He and Dan cover a lot of ground in this convo about foot fetishes, the benefits and perils of sex work, the ethics of dating guys on the DL, and how to avoid stomach aches. Finally, a gay man in Italy asks if wearing a jockstrap tells the world that he is a bottom. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide exclusively for Lovecast listeners. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move through the day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at MackWeldon.com This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
#46
September 11 · 19 min
After Action Report #46
Meet Tom who went on a very special vacation with his girlfriend. Packing checklist: Kink outfits Consent Form Waste bag How did it go? You'll find out. Send us your stories, your wonderful stories! Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial plus 25% off an annual subscription when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Lean- a weight loss supplement that works by lowering blood sugar and reducing appetite.If you have 10 or more pounds to lose, get started with 20% off and free rush shipping. Visit TakeLean.com and enter SAVAGE for your discount.
#1035
September 8 · 57 min
Savage Love Episode 1035
With Zach Noe Towers
#45
September 4 · 16 min
After Action Report #45
Cat started a sex toy company, so she had to come out as kinky to friends and family. What she didn’t expect was the stampede of her mother’s boomer friends asking for product… Do you have a story of something you tried that was like, so embarrassing??!!Let us hear it: Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.
#1034
September 1 · 53 min
Savage Lovecast Episode 1034
Any military lawyers in the house? A gay man and his boyfriend, both serving active duty, want to open their relationship. But infidelity is forbidden by military law. How risky would this be? Now that chastity play its all the rage, should we assume that a key necklace means something deeply kinky? And if so, should we knowingly wink when we see one? Sex/science nerds rejoice! Our Magnum guest this week is Distinguished Research Professor Dr. Lixing Sun, who wrote On the Origin of Sex. Dan and Dr. Sun discuss the deep biological underpinnings of sex: when and why did pleasure emerge in reproduction? Why hasn't homosexuality been selected against? And why don't we just reproduce like sponges? And, a woman no longer drinks, but her boyfriend still does. When he comes home reeking of beer and cigarettes, she feels repulsed by him. How can she explain that drinking a pitcher and getting laid that night are now mutually exclusive events? This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to ⁠Quince.com/SAVAGE⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. This episode is brought to you by Arya- an intimacy membership with a personal intimacy concierge to help you and your partner bring true excitement back into your sex life. Right now, Arya is offering listeners $10 off your first month at ⁠GetArya.com/Savage⁠ Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.
#44
August 28 · 18 min
After Action Report #44
Hey Everybody! Meet Jay- a pan, poly furry who, along with 15 other queer furries, met up for a "kink tasting, orgy event." What goes on at kink cabin? We won't say here, but please know that an inflatable horse costume was involved. Also, Dan brings a much needed Marxist interrogation to the story. If you have a tale to share, write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love
#1033
August 25 · 51 min
Savage Love Episode 1033
A gay, married couple journeyed to Montreal to enjoy the services of a tantric masseur. And they REALLY enjoyed him. But did this open Pandora's box? How can they continue to have earth-shattering, mind-blowing sex when it's back to the hum-drum two of them? A caller wonders if folks who enjoy adult baby play actually... well, actually shit themselves. The answer comes from Dan's guest, Fancy of the InTheNook podcast. The show champions "nuance, kink-positive education, and unfiltered queer realness" for those into ABDL. They have a great conversation about what fuels this maligned kink. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Atlantic writer Faith Hill, who covers dating, young adulthood, family, and social connection. Her latest piece, "The Great Romance Slump" digs in to why young people are forgoing sex and dating. She and Dan discuss the changes that have left us in this dismal place. They also discuss age gap relationships and the various other "gaps" that our culture eyes with suspicion. And, what makes a sexy foot? Are some feet sexier than others? Why? Dan answers. 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting ⁠feeld.co/reflections⁠ or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to adult babies, tantric sex to BDSM and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.
#43
August 21 · 17 min
After Action Report #43
After 22 years of marriage, well, it was just time. Hear Trix’s story about writing, filming and performing in her “queer adoring gang bang” story. And how she feels about the possibility of her kids stumbling across it one day. How have YOU kept your marriage fresh? Tell us a story at Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
August 18 · 59 min
Savage Lovecast Episode 1032
As this is a wholesome, family-focused show, we bookend the episode with parenting questions. First, a woman's 5 year-old nephew wants to wear a padlock around his neck. He saw this on a stranger in a grocery store and thought it looked cool. Should they let him? And last, when your five year old asks "What is sex?" What should you say? Our guest is the incomparable Jane Don't! The break out star of Season 18 of Ru Paul's drag race is here to talk about her upcoming tour, her Miss Congeniality role on Drag Race, growing up gay in a small town, and her abiding love for drag. She and Dan dish and do a deep dive on Drag Race. If you're a fan of the show, you're going to want to listen. A little is in the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a woman has been dating her boyfriend for a year now, and he still never comes when he's with her. Dan spells out his technique to get him there. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide! Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at ⁠MackWeldon.com⁠ Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated’s awesome, five-minute quiz at ⁠https://beduc.at/pd2634-savage⁠
#42
August 14 · 20 min
After Action Report #42
Jade is normally a sub with her husband. But when she inserted the sounding rod into his urethra, did she really feel submissive? Really? It’s a journey… Tell us all about your novel erotic transgressions.Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Lean- a weight loss supplement that works by lowering blood sugar and reducing appetite.If you have 10 or more pounds to lose, get started with 20% off and free rush shipping. Visit ⁠TakeLean.com⁠ and enter SAVAGE for your discount. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.
#43
August 13 · 45 min
Micro Extra! Sex & Politics #46
Sex & Politics #46 Can we really change? Welcome to Sex & Politics! For this bonus episode, Dan chatted with Benoit Denizet-Lewis, an associate professor at Emerson College, a longtime contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine, and the author, most recently, of “You’ve Changed: The Promise and Price of Self-Transformation.” He and Dan talked about the various ways people can change- how prisoners who have the possibility of parole can improve themselves and prove they’ve done so. They talk about the ex-gay movement, specifically Michael Glatze, who went from gay activist to anti-gay activist. And they answered a call from a man whose wife’s weight loss has completely altered their sex life. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
#1031
August 11 · 51 min
Savage Love Episode 1031
A woman in her 60s has a husband who is into feet. She's planning to get a professional foot massage. Can he come along and watch if he promises to hide his boner? A woman has a boyfriend who provides financial security and perfectly fine sex. But she finds him so very dull. Is a comfortable but boring relationship enough? On the Magnum, meet comedian, filmmaker and avowed cuck queen Edy Modica. She and Dan talk about her brilliant performance on Jury Duty, and in her personal life, how she eroticizes jealousy. Then, they take a call from a woman whose boyfriend wants her to put whipped cream up her ass and squeeze it out all over him. So there's that too. And, a femme person is developing a hot, kinky, fulfilling relationship with...a chat bot. She found "him" on an app, and it's turning her on so hard! Is this gonna be ok? Maybe! (Probably not.) 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love Edy Modica's debut special, I'm Just Like You (And It Sucks) On VEEPS now: https://veeps.com/edymodicaOn YouTube Sept 17 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yMhAV7XrSKM This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Right now get 20% off your 1st order by going to ForiaWellness.com/SAVAGE or use code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.
#41
August 7 · 15 min
After Action Report #41
What’s it like for a trans man at a gay leather convention?Listen and you will find out… Tell us about your brave excursion. Write about your experience and send it to Dan: Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting ⁠feeld.co/reflections⁠ or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.
#1030
August 4 · 52 min
Savage Lovecast Episode 1030
Her friend's new girlfriend stinks to high heaven. Is this intentional? Is it a kink? What would be the polite way to ask her to wash up? A woman with super-high libido is trying to convince her husband to have a three-way with another woman. But he doesn't wanna. How can she convince him to do the thing that many straight men would kill for? On the Magnum, a woman is being drawn in to more and more extreme porn. Now she needs the really intense stuff to get off. Dan discusses this with professor of clinical psychology Dr. Eric Sprankle who has literally written the book on masturbation. ("DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation.") Does the Algorithm influence people's porn tastes? They also talk about blasphemy kinks. And, a woman and her partner are traveling to Greece. She heard it's legal to hire a sex worker there, but wants to make sure the person they hire isn't being exploited. How? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Forkful – Seed oil free, chef cooked meals, delivered to your door. Go to ⁠ForkfulMeals.com/Savage⁠ and use code SAVAGE to get 50% OFF your first order. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide! Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.
#40
July 31 · 16 min
After Action Report #40
“He had a kiddy pool set up by the time we were there…” Meet Abe, who finally got to *immerse* himself in the world of gunge. You haven’t heard of gunge, you say? Simply press play. If you had a sexual experience that called for a LOT of logistics, write about it and send us the details to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
#1029
July 28 · 52 min
Savage Love Episode 1029
An intersex man had his urethra operated on when he was a toddler. Now he wants to try sounding but his doctors advise against it. He is suspicious of doctors after his non-consensual surgeries. Should he ignore them and pursue his pleasure? A 66 year-old woman loves to give blow jobs to her lucky husband. But sometimes she gets a bit too enthusiastic and ends up with bruises on her lip. Will people see them and know how she got them? On the Magnum, have you ever slept with a clown? Meet Barney Muckle, a British kinkster who has turned clowning into an awesome fetish. He and Dan talk about the inherent silliness of sex ("Sex is putting weird things in funny places,") and how we would all do well to take it less seriously. Barney has a dildo that looks like a banana split, and so should you. Finally, a woman and her girlfriend have decided to take a break from sex. They are both kinky. The caller wonders if they could make this break hot by leaning into a sexy abstinence vibe. Or would they then not be taking a break after all? Record your question and send it in to Dan. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to ⁠Quince.com/SAVAGE⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting ⁠feeld.co/reflections⁠ or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.
#39
July 24 · 18 min
After Action Report #39
Monica is a tried and true, old school Magnum sub. With Dan’s advice in her head, she applied to join a “foot night” where men pay to play…with women’s feet. Did Monica have a good time? What did she wear? And exactly how much money did she make? All is revealed. If you have an experience you enjoyed or endured, write about it, and send it to us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
#1028
July 21 · 53 min
Savage Love Episode 1028
Ouch! A woman has been fisting her boyfriend to both of their delight. But guess what hurts: Her hand! How can she get in there comfortably? A woman is trying to convince both her conspiracy-minded friend and her wife that ultra rich people are not really eating babies. Because...they aren't...right? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Stephen Dubner - host of Freakonomics Radio. His new show, Better in Person, explores how conversations flow when people are in the room together. Dan and Stephen talk about the new show, and dig in to assumptions around long term relationships. And, a woman was already not getting along with her new landlord. And that was *before* he left behind a ball gag in her bathroom drawer... You said you wanted to get on the show? Here's how: Record a question and mail it to Q@Savage.Love Or Call 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide! Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at ⁠MackWeldon.com⁠ This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From fisting to frottage, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.
#38
July 17 · 16 min
After Action Report #38
In one of the more graphic After Action Reports we’ve had the pleasure to relay, hear Mary’s story not of getting peed ON, but getting peed IN. Don’t worry. She has a “robust vagina.” Do YOU have anything robust about you? Send us the details to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
#1027
July 14 · 54 min
Savage Love Episode 1027
A lesbian with a pregnant wife is confounded and disgruntled at the way Pride celebrations can be a little too sex positive, especially if you have a little kid. Should Pride parades put on a straight-laced appearance, or go full bacchanal? It's an old, old debate. A woman needs her lovers to tell her she's hot and generally praise her during sex. Like, a lot. Is this a kink? On the Magnum, Dan meets his witty, homosexual match in Bryan Safi. The Emmy Award-winning actor, writer, and comedian known for his work on ABC’s “9-1-1” as well as his podcasts, Attitudes! and Ask Ronna, is making his Off-Broadway debut this summer with Are You Mad At Me?? They chat about all this, and answer a caller who wonders if she should agree to a man's request on Feeld to be her "foot boy." Safi is magically delightful, and you simply must listen in. And, a woman's butt plug keeps disappearing up her butt. It's not supposed to work like that, right? Right. Call us with your quandaries. 206-302-2064 Record that Q and send it in: Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 30% off sitewide during their National Orgasm Day sale from 7/30-8/2. Just go to ⁠foriawellness.com⁠ to get your 30% off your order! This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

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