The BPD Bunch

SEASON 7 AIRING NOW! The BPD bunch is a talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️‍🩹

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Wednesday · 15 min
BPD Favorite Person or Healthy Relationship? How to Tell the Difference
How can you tell the difference between normal excitement about someone and a BPD “favorite person” relationship that’s starting to take over? In this mini episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Jack, and Katja share their experiences with favorite person (FP) relationships and the signs that helped them recognize when attachment was becoming unhealthy. They talk about what happens when one person starts consuming your attention, affecting your priorities and other relationships, or even influencing your sense of identity. They also explore an important distinction: healthy relationships can influence us too. So where is the line? Topics include: • BPD favorite person relationships • Favorite person vs. healthy relationships • Obsession vs. normal relationship excitement • Idealization and splitting • Losing yourself in relationships • Identity disturbance in BPD • Neglecting other relationships and priorities • BPD relationships and recovery There isn’t one behavior that automatically makes someone your “favorite person.” Looking at the intensity, context, and overall impact on your life can help you better understand what’s happening in your relationships. We’re taking a three-week break from our regular episodes to answer some of your questions! This season, we’re exploring BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), and we’ll be back with our next full-length episode on September 16 with an episode all about impulsivity.___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
August 19 · 34 min
BPD and Depression Pt 2: Isolation, Opposite Action & Getting Out of the Spiral
Have you ever known that isolating was making you feel worse and still felt like being around people was almost unbearable? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Raf, Mo, Céline and Madhurima talk about what has actually helped them manage depression and depressive spirals associated with BPD, including the parts that sound simple on paper and can feel incredibly difficult when you’re in them. They get especially honest about opposite action: leaving the house when you want to hide, reaching out when shame tells you you’re a burden, taking care of your body when everything feels pointless, and learning when “rest” has quietly turned into avoidance. They also discuss self-esteem, hopelessness, sleep, substance use, emotional avoidance, asking for help, and why small changes can matter more than one dramatic breakthrough. If you’ve ever thought, “I know what I’m supposed to do. I just cannot make myself do it right now,” this conversation is for you. _____This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🔗 Support us on Patreon________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
August 17 · 53 min
BPD and DBT: Using Skills in Real Life, Finding Good Treatment & Building a Life Worth Living
Have you ever tried DBT, decided it didn’t work for you, and wondered whether you were the problem? In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, Xannie and Melanie sit down with DBT experts Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein to talk about what happens between learning a DBT skill and actually being able to use it when everything is falling apart. The conversation gets into some harder questions too: Why do some people with BPD experience DBT as invalidating? What if your therapist says they “do DBT,” but the treatment looks nothing like adherent DBT? Can a client actually fail DBT? And how do you know when treatment itself needs to change? They also discuss what DBT looks like beyond worksheets and coping skills, the tension between accepting yourself and changing your behavior, and what it actually means to build a life worth living. If you’ve ever thought, “I tried DBT and it didn’t work for me,” this conversation may help you ask a different question: What kind of DBT did I actually receive? Links/info: Real Skills for Real Life: Shireen and Jesse are also the authors of Real Skills for Real Life, a new guide designed to make DBT skills easier to understand, practice, and actually use in everyday life. The book stays true to the DBT model and research while using illustrations, graphics, and step-by-step explanations to make complicated concepts more accessible. Whether you’re learning DBT for the first time, currently in treatment, or looking for a refresher on skills you’ve already learned, Real Skills for Real Life is designed to help bridge the gap between knowing a skill and putting it into practice. The DBT-RU Cartoons YouTube Channel Dr. Shireen Rizvi is a licensed clinical psychologist, board certified in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). She obtained her BA from Wesleyan University and her MS and PhD from the University of Washington. At the University of Washington, her mentor was Dr. Marsha Linehan, the developer of DBT. Over the past 25 years, Shireen has conducted research and training in DBT which has resulted in more than 100 peer-reviewed publications and book chapters. From 2009-2014, Shireen was Professor of Clinical Psychology at the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology (GSAPP) at Rutgers University. She currently serves at Director of Psychology Training and Director of DBT Services and Research at Montefiore Einstein in New York City. Visit shireenrizvi.com to find many free resources related to DBT. Dr. Jesse Finkelstein is a licensed clinical psychologist and Linehan Board–certified clinician in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). He obtained his BA from Brown University and his PsyD from the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology at Rutgers University. Dr. Finkelstein completed his predoctoral internship at Montefiore Medical Center and his postdoctoral fellowship at Columbia University Irving Medical Center, where he later served as an Instructor in Clinical Psychology. His clinical work focuses on evidence-based treatments including DBT, CBT, ACT, and exposure-based therapies for individuals struggling with emotion dysregulation, anxiety, trauma, and relationship difficulties.He is the co-founder of Therahive, where he develops accessible, skills-based psychoeducation grounded in evidence-based practices. He is also the founder of Axis Psychology, a private practice in New York City. _____ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
August 12 · 48 min
BPD and Depression: Self-Loathing, Hopelessness, and Feeling Worthless
Have you ever been so used to feeling awful that you genuinely thought you were fine? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie Raf, Mo, Céline, and Madhurima sit down to talk about depressivity in borderline personality disorder (BPD), including the experiences they didn’t always recognize as depression at the time. They talk about feeling completely numb while somehow still being in unbearable emotional pain, partying and using substances to avoid being alone with their thoughts, staying in bed for weeks, intense self-neglect, believing they were fundamentally worthless, and even convincing themselves that people only liked them because they had somehow “tricked” them. They also explore why depression sometimes became more obvious once the louder BPD behaviors began to quiet down. In this episode: * BPD and depression * BPD depressivity * Feeling empty or numb with BPD * Shame, worthlessness and self-hatred * Quiet BPD and internalized depression * Reckless behavior and substance use * Suicidal thoughts and hopelessness * BPD recovery and recognizing emotions If you’ve ever looked functional from the outside while privately wondering how much longer you could keep doing this, you may recognize yourself in this conversation. This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
August 5 · 45 min
Why BPD Makes Every Goodbye Feel Like the End | Fear of Abandonment Recovery
Have you ever run away hoping someone would follow, panicked when plans changed, or treated someone needing space like proof they were about to leave? Xannie, André, Georgette, Carys, Katja, and Justin share what actually helped them manage fear of abandonment and separation insecurity in BPD. They talk about relationship testing, canceled plans, reassurance, friendship jealousy, losing themselves inside other people, and the difference between feeling abandoned and actually being abandoned. They also discuss the less glamorous parts of getting better: asking partners not to reinforce unhealthy behavior, building an identity outside a relationship, tolerating separation, checking the facts, coping ahead, and accepting losses that cannot be changed. Topics include: * BPD and fear of abandonment * Separation anxiety in relationships * Testing partners and running away * Reassurance seeking and canceled plans * Losing your identity in relationships * Friendship jealousy and fear of being replaced * DBT check the facts and radical acceptance * Recovering from BPD relationship behaviors If a delayed reply, canceled plan, or one person needing space can make your entire relationship feel endangered, this conversation will probably feel painfully familiar.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
July 30 · 37 min
BPD and Fear of Abandonment: Separation Anxiety, Relationship Obsession & Fear of Being Replaced
Have you ever been so afraid of losing someone that you monitored every change in their behavior, panicked when they spent time with someone else, or pushed them away before they could replace you?In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Carys, Katja, André, and Justin to talk about separation insecurity and fear of abandonment in BPD. They share what it was like when another person felt necessary for emotional survival, including obsessive reassurance seeking, leaving relationships first, trying to control a partner’s behavior, and losing their sense of identity outside the relationship.The group also confronts some of the harder truths about these experiences: when desperate attempts to keep someone close become manipulative or frightening, why love can become tangled with primal fear, and how old losses can make every new relationship feel like another abandonment waiting to happen.Topics include:* BPD and fear of abandonment* Separation anxiety in relationships* Fear of being replaced* Relationship obsession and emotional dependence* Favorite person attachment* Pushing people away before they leave* Manipulative behavior and abandonment panic* Losing your identity in a relationshipIf you’ve ever panicked when someone took too long to reply, assumed another person would replace you, or left first because waiting to be abandoned felt unbearable, this episode is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
July 22 · 37 min
BPD and Anxiety Pt 2: Rumination, Avoidance, and Learning to Trust Yourself (The BPD Bunch S7)
Have you ever felt like your anxiety was preparing you for the worst, only to realize it was keeping you stuck?In Part 2 of our conversation about BPD and anxiety, Xannie, Carys, Katja, Céline, and Dan share the strategies that genuinely helped them manage anxiety over time. From panic attacks and rumination to avoidance, self-doubt, and fear of difficult conversations, they talk honestly about what made the biggest difference in their recovery.In this episode:* BPD and anxiety* Rumination and overthinking* Avoidance and exposure* Panic attacks and physical anxiety symptoms* Self-soothing and distress tolerance* Coping ahead and journaling* Mindfulness and acceptance* Building confidence through practiceIf you’ve ever felt like anxiety was making your world smaller, we hope this conversation reminds you that change is possible, even if it happens one small step at a time.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
July 16 · 36 min
BPD and Anxiety: Panic, Catastrophizing, and Fear of Losing Control (Anxiousness - The BPD Bunch S7)
Have you ever been more afraid of your own reaction than of the thing you were reacting to?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Katja, Céline, and Dan talk about how anxiousness shows up in borderline personality disorder. They share what it was like to replay breakups until they became unbearable, feel physically sick around someone they had just started dating, run from conflict without shoes or a phone, and avoid important conversations because they were terrified of losing control.The group also explores the fear underneath many worst-case scenarios: “I won’t be able to cope.” They discuss catastrophizing, panic attacks, shame about anxiety, fear of judgment, masking emotional reactions, and how relationship anxiety can create more chaos while trying to prevent abandonment.Topics include:* BPD and anxiety* Fear of losing control* Catastrophizing and worst-case thinking* Panic attacks and physical anxiety symptoms* BPD anxiety after a breakup* Fear of abandonment and rejection* Avoiding conflict because of emotional reactions* Learning to trust that you can copeIf you’ve ever avoided a conversation, relationship, opportunity, or decision because you were afraid of how intensely you might react, this episode is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
July 9 · 39 min
BPD and Emotional Regulation: The Skills That Actually Helped (Emotional Lability- The BPD Bunch S7)
Have you ever felt like one small thing turned into ten different emotions before you even knew what happened?In this episode, Xannie, Solène, Madhurima and Dan continue their conversation on emotional lability and go deep into what has actually helped them regulate their emotions instead of getting swept away by them. They talk through the skills, mindsets, and reframes that took years to build, including a metaphor for emotions as delivery drivers that keep showing up until you actually open the package.This one gets into checking the facts versus running with interpretations, why distraction is only useful short term, what “not caring” actually means in practice, and why grief doesn’t always show up on schedule.Topics include:* BPD and emotional regulation* Emotional lability in BPD* Wise mind and DBT skills* Checking the facts* Rumination and BPD* Fear of abandonment* Sitting with uncomfortable emotions* BPD recovery and healthier reactionsIf you’ve ever felt like your emotions were driving your life instead of the other way around, this episode is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
July 1 · 46 min
BPD and Mood Swings: When Your Emotions Take Over (Emotional Lability)
Have you ever felt like one unanswered text, one cancelled plan, or one disagreement meant your entire relationship was falling apart?For many people living with BPD, emotional pain doesn’t feel “bigger than it should.” It feels completely real. In this episode, Xannie, Madhurima, Dan, and Solène share what emotional lability actually felt like from the inside: the panic, the shame, the explosive reactions, the endless rumination, and the belief that every emotion was telling the truth.Together they talk openly about relationship spirals, favorite people, emotional whiplash, shame after emotional outbursts, fear of abandonment, and the long process of learning that emotions don’t have to control your actions. The conversation is brutally honest, deeply validating, and full of moments that many people have experienced but rarely say out loud.In this episode:*BPD and emotional dysregulation*Emotional instability*Fear of abandonment*Favorite person relationships*Rumination and overthinking*Emotional permanence*Relationship triggers*Recovery from BPD emotional dysregulationIf you’ve ever felt like your emotions were running your life, or that losing one person would destroy you, this conversation is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
June 24 · 42 min
How People With BPD Actually Change Their Personality Traits (Not Just Manage Them)
Have you ever been told, or told yourself, that this is just who you are? That the most you can do is mask it, manage it, survive it?In this episode, Xannie sits down with clinical psychologist and treatment researcher Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala to explore one of the most contested questions in BPD recovery: can your personality actually change, or are you just learning to perform differently?Dr. Sauer-Zavala breaks down the science behind personality trait change, explains how her treatment BPD COMPASS targets the underlying drivers of BPD symptoms rather than the symptoms themselves, and challenges the pervasive belief that personality is fixed. Xannie shares her own experience of discovering, unexpectedly, that she had already changed. The conversation is equal parts clinical clarity and lived honesty.In this episode:* BPD and personality change* Can traits like negative affectivity and impulsivity actually change?* BPD COMPASS treatment explained* The alternative model of personality disorders (AMPD) Criterion B* Treating BPD without years-long specialist waitlists* Why suppressing emotions makes them stronger* Impulsivity, trust issues, and emotional rage in BPD* What recovery actually looks like from the insideIf you’ve ever been told your personality is the problem, and that the best you can hope for is to hide it better, this episode is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): negative affectivity (emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity), disinhibition (impulsivity and risk taking), and antagonism (hostility)In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ Find more from Dr. Sauer-Zavala:Website: https://www.shannonsauerzavala.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/self.made.personality/___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
June 17 · 17 min
BPD and Emotional Overwhelm: When One More Thing Breaks You
Have you ever completely fallen apart over something small… only to realize later it wasn’t really about that thing at all?Sometimes emotional overwhelm isn’t caused by one moment. Sometimes it’s weeks of stress, fear, shame, exhaustion, criticism, bad luck, and pressure piling up until one final thing breaks the dam. In this minisode from The BPD Bunch, a side conversation turns into an honest discussion about emotional overwhelm, crying in public, shame, recovery, and what happens when emotions finally catch up with you. The cast shares stories about breaking down at work, crying in front of authority figures, feeling embarrassed by emotional reactions, surviving impossible weeks, and learning that sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is stop fighting your emotions and let yourself feel them. What starts as a tangent becomes one of the most honest conversations from the recording session. We talk about: * BPD and emotional overwhelm * Shame after emotional reactions * Crying in public * Emotional sensitivity * Fear of criticism * Recovery from BPD * Emotional regulation * BPD and workplace stressIf you’ve ever felt embarrassed by your emotions, judged yourself for having a hard day, or wondered why one small thing suddenly pushed you over the edge, you’re not alone. For the next few weeks, we’re taking a short break from our AMPD deep dive and answering some of your questions instead. Don’t worry though, we’ll be back on June 24 to pick up where we left off.⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
June 14 · 37 min
BPD Made Me Build My Entire Life Around Not Being Abandoned (ft. Dan Stone)
Have you ever changed your entire personality just to keep someone from leaving? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Katja, and Solène welcome new cast member Dan for an honest conversation about BPD, foster care, relationships, parenting, treatment, and what recovery actually looks like when life is still complicated. Dan talks about crashing after a breakup, begging and pleading, losing himself in romantic relationships, being afraid of the BPD label, and learning through two years of treatment how to build a life that feels calmer without losing the fun parts of himself. We discuss: * BPD and relationships * Fear of abandonment * Losing yourself in love * BPD recovery * Parenting with BPD * Therapy for BPD * Identity disturbance * Dating after treatment * Radical acceptance * Men with BPD If you’ve ever felt like being loved meant becoming whatever someone else needed, this episode is for you.👇 Find Dan:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/18uWfKAUMv/?mibextid=wwXIfrInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/danstone8484UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month! (Usually, that is! Xannie was sick last week so its one week behind🫠)_____🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
June 11 · 18 min
When BPD Turns Rejection Into Rage
Have you ever felt rejected and suddenly found yourself angry before you could even explain why? In this mini-sode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Jack, and Katja respond to a viewer question about regulating anger after rejection. The conversation gets into what can happen when rejection hits an old wound: shame turns into anger, hurt turns into passive aggression, and the body reacts before the mind catches up. They talk about anger as a shield, the difference between real anger and hidden shame, walking away before things escalate, and what it looks like to catch the reaction before it becomes a full blowup. Topics include: * BPD and rejection * BPD anger * Fear of rejection * Shame and BPD * Passive aggression* Emotional regulation * Rejection sensitivity * BPD relationship reactions If you’ve ever lashed out when what you really felt was hurt, this episode is for you. For the next few weeks, we’re taking a short break from our AMPD deep dive and answering some of your questions instead. Don’t worry though, we’ll be back on June 24 to pick up where we left off.⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
June 3 · 37 min
BPD and Intimacy: Learning to Trust Without Losing Yourself
Have you ever confused emotional intensity with intimacy? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Justin, Andre, Carys, and Mo continue their conversation about BPD and intimacy, this time focusing on what actually helped them build healthier relationships in recovery. They talk about fear, jealousy, abandonment panic, choosing chaotic people because stability felt boring, learning not to punish people before having hard conversations, and realizing that love does not have to feel like emotional survival. This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with intimacy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside empathy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season. Topics include: * BPD and intimacy * Fear of abandonment * Trust issues in relationships * Jealousy and BPD * Push pull relationships * Emotional permanence * BPD recovery * Healthy relationships with BPD If you’ve ever wanted closeness while also panicking the second it started to feel real, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. ⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
May 27 · 39 min
The BPD Relationship Pattern Nobody Warns You About (BPD Intimacy)
Have you ever felt like losing one person would destroy your entire life… even while the relationship itself was destroying you? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, André, Mo, and Justin talk openly about the intense, chaotic, and often painful relationship patterns that can happen with Borderline Personality Disorder. From abandonment panic and toxic relationship cycles to oversharing, emotional testing, and confusing drama for intimacy, the cast explores what closeness looked like when their BPD symptoms were at their worst. This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with intimacy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside empathy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season. In this episode: * BPD and intimacy * Fear of abandonment * Toxic relationship dynamics * Push-pull relationships * Emotional dependency * Oversharing and testing people * BPD and friendships * Relationship obsession * Emotional reactivity in relationships If you’ve ever confused emotional chaos with love, stayed in relationships that were hurting you, or felt terrified of someone pulling away, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
May 20 · 31 min
The BPD Empathy Trap Nobody Talks About
Can someone with BPD feel other people’s emotions so intensely that it actually starts getting in the way of empathy? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja continue their conversation about BPD and empathy by exploring the difference between emotionally feeling with someone and actually understanding what they need. They share their top tips, lessons and skills they use to navigate empathy more effectively. In case you're new here, this season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season. In this episode: * BPD and empathy * Cognitive vs affective empathy * Emotional mirroring * Rejection sensitivity * Social paranoia * Problem solving vs listening * Emotion regulation and empathy * “Feeling everything” with BPD * The empathy trap * Learning to ask what people need If you’ve ever absorbed other people’s emotions, assumed you knew what someone needed, taken neutrality personally, or felt emotionally overwhelmed in relationships, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
May 13 · 34 min
BPD and How "Everyone Hates Me" Becomes Unempathetic (BPD and Empathy)
Can someone with BPD care about other people and still behave in profoundly unempathetic ways? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja explore the uncomfortable reality that Borderline Personality Disorder can sometimes make people so emotionally reactive, hypervigilant, and consumed by fear that they stop accurately understanding or trusting other people’s emotions, intentions, and experiences.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season. In this episode: * BPD and empathy * Social paranoia in BPD * Misreading neutrality as rejection * Reassurance seeking * Fear of abandonment * Mind-reading and projection * Why emotional overwhelm can reduce empathy If you’ve ever convinced yourself someone secretly hated you, struggled to trust reassurance, replayed social interactions for hours, or felt overwhelmed by other people’s emotions, this episode is for you. In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. If you missed them check them out: Part 1 Part 2 ⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
May 6 · 30 min
BPD and Self-Direction: Goals, Values, and Finding Yourself
Do you struggle to know what you want, stick with a path, or trust your own choices? In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys and Solène continue their discussion of BPD and self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), exploring how goals, values, identity, relationships, and recovery can all affect the way we build a life. Under the AMPD, difficulties with self-direction are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside identity. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season. This episode is for anyone with BPD who has ever wondered why it can feel so hard to know who you are, what you want, or where you’re going. We talk about: * BPD and self-direction * changing goals, values, and interests * favorite people and life decisions * identity, emptiness, and sense of self * perfectionism, recovery, and self-acceptance * learning how to follow through without getting trapped * finding direction while still allowing yourself to change This is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality. Follow Xannie and Solene's music journey ⁨@Nxi-Sol⁩ In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. Part 1 Part 2 ⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
May 4 · 47 min
What BPD Actually Felt Like in My Brain (Meet Justin)
What does BPD actually feel like from the inside? In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, meet our new cast member, Justin, a musician navigating life with borderline personality disorder. In this episode, we talk about: • What it was like getting diagnosed with BPD, and why it felt both relieving and complicated • The reality that understanding yourself does not automatically make things easier • What BPD felt like for him internally, including how he describes “living off his amygdala” • His experience with therapy, and why finding the right therapist matters • The role of creativity and music, including why it is not always healing • How music can bring you back into past emotional states • Navigating rejection, identity, and self-worth in the music industry • Learning boundaries, self-compassion, and the power of saying no If you’ve ever felt like finally having an answer didn’t change how hard things still feel, this conversation will probably resonate.👇 Justin's website + socials below.Website: https://www.justinyates.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinyatesmusicYT: ⁨@JustinYates⁩ UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday (or Monday) of every month! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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