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Psychologists Off the Clock

Debbie Sorensen, Jill Stoddard, Yael Schonbrun, Michael Herold & Emily Edlynn

We are five experts in psychology, bringing you science-backed ideas that can help you flourish in your work, relationships, and health.

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  • #456
    April 21 · 55 min

    456. High Conflict with Amanda Ripley

    Being absolutely sure you’re right should settle an argument, but somehow, it often does the opposite. Instead, things escalate, tensions rise, and before you know it, the conflict has taken on a life of its own. For this episode, Yael welcomes New York Times bestselling author, trained mediator, and Good Conflict co-founder Amanda Ripley to unpack her book  High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped, and How We Get Out, and the difference between “good conflict” that strengthens us and “high conflict” that feeds on contempt, disgust, and rigid us-versus-them thinking. You’ll hear why high conflict makes us more error-prone while feeling more righteous, how group belonging and media incentives can keep the cycle going, and practical ways to interrupt the pattern like Gary Freeman’s three-question pause before speaking. Listen to learn how to stay in the fight without losing nuance, curiosity, or yourself. Listen and Learn: The distinction between healthy conflict that helps you grow and the kind that quietly turns destructive in ways you may not notice Why conflicts can quietly take over our thinking, shifting us into an us-versus-them mindset Why do we get pulled into conflicts that drain us even when we know the cost, and what keeps us hooked? How can even people deeply engaged with information find themselves pulling away from conflict, and what does that reveal about the hidden dynamics of high conflict How you can recognize the early signs of high conflict and shift toward more productive, healthier conversations before things escalate Resources: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped, and How We Get Out: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982128579 Amanda’s Website: https://www.amandaripley.com/ Good Conflict Website: https://www.thegoodconflict.com Connect with Amanda on Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/amanda.ripley.35/ https://www.instagram.com/ripleywriter/ Amada’s Substack: https://amandaripley.substack.com/ Amanda’s article about high-conflict journalism, I stopped reading the news. Is the problem me–or the product? Yael’s Substack post about how journalists quickly build connection Builders Movement: an Instagram feed and website that offers “inspiration, tools, and ways to take action to rise above us vs. them and solve our toughest problems together.” About Amanda Ripley: Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author, magazine journalist, and co-founder of Good Conflict, a media and training company helping people reimagine how we fight. She has written three award-winning nonfiction books — The Unthinkable, The Smartest Kids in the World, and High Conflict — each following people through transformations to uncover what the rest of us can learn. Her most recent book, High Conflict, chronicles how good conflict metastasizes into something that consumes everything in its path — and, crucially, how people find their way out. A trained mediator herself, Amanda's work reveals that escape from high conflict isn't about being nicer; it's about learning to genuinely comprehend what you still disagree with. Her writing has appeared in the Atlantic, the Washington Post, and Politico Magazine, among others. Related Episodes: 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer 371. Uniting Toward a Better Future with Diana McLain Smith 392. Outraged with Kurt Gray 408. Connecting Like a Hostage Negotiator with Gary Noesner 452. How to Disagree Better with Julia Minson See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #455
    April 14 · 1 hr

    455. The New Blueprint for College Success with Ana Homayoun

    If your teen is getting caught in cycles of comparison, burnout, or avoidance while trying to “do enough” for college, this conversation offers a different perspective. Emily talks with Ana Homayoun about her book Erasing the Finish Line and what really matters beyond grades, test scores, and prestige. They walk you through unhealthy patterns in college admissions culture, how technology amplifies anxiety, and why most institutions actually accept the majority of applicants. Their conversation also reveals how long-term success depends far more on relationships and meaningful engagement than on brand-name schools. Join Emily and Ana for practical strategies to help your teens build executive functioning systems, shift from time management to energy management, strengthen social capital through supporters and clarifiers, and rethink grind culture, including the role of youth sports. Listen and Learn: Focusing less on comparison and more on building your own strengths and systems for shaping both college outcomes and the kind of work you end up loving later How parents’ own fears and need for control shape the college process can undermine a student’s fit and well-being, and what it takes to step back so they can truly thrive How technology has reshaped college admissions in ways that make independent research, real-world exploration, and staying open-minded more important than ever for finding the right fit Why the most “competitive” colleges may feel that way by design, and how choosing the right environment and relationships over prestige can shape your future more than you expect Focusing on executive functioning skills to shape your teen’s long-term success in ways grades alone never reveal Making small shifts in structure, mindset, and environment to unlock a child’s ability to plan, adapt, and thrive without pressure or perfection How having friendships across different age groups quietly builds confidence, perspective, and real connection in ways most students do not expect Sharing and building social capital in small, everyday ways to quietly shape opportunities for teens and create unexpected outcomes Giving kids real choices, a safe space to fail, and multiple places to belong to builds the confidence, motivation, and life skills they carry into adulthood How shifting from managing time to managing your energy transforms focus, behavior, and motivation Resources: Erasing the Finish Line: The New Blueprint for Success Beyond Grades and College Admission https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306830693 That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780399535598 Ana’s Website: https://anahomayoun.com/ Connect with Ana on Social Media: https://instagram.com/anahomayoun https://www.linkedin.com/in/ana-homayoun-4783863/) About Ana Homayoun: ANA HOMAYOUN is the founder of Silicon Valley–based Green Ivy Educational Consulting and executive director of Luminaria Learning Solutions, which develops student programs focused on executive functioning and well-being. She is also the author of That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week, The Myth of the Perfect Girl, and Social Media Wellness. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Atlantic, Fast Company, and NPR and on Good Morning America and NBC News. Learn more about her work at www.anahomayoun.com. Her most recent book, Erasing the Finish Line, comes out in paperback on June 9th with the updated title, Getting in Is Not Enough: The New Blueprint for Success Beyond Grades, Test Scores, and College Admission. Related Episodes: 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 414. The Disengaged Teen with Rebecca Winthrop and Jenny Anderson 369. The Good News About Adolescence with Ellen Galinsky 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #454
    April 7 · 45 min

    454. Remain Calm. Confidence Ahead with Michael Herold

    If you’ve ever avoided saying yes to something meaningful because you were waiting to feel less anxious or more “ready,” this episode is for you. Cohosts Yael and Michael Herold sit down for a chat about his confidence-building online course and the misconceptions that keep people stuck, especially the idea that motivation and the “right mindset” must come first. You’ll hear how acceptance and commitment therapy reframes anxiety as a passenger you can bring along while you drive toward your values, why rigid social scripts don’t work, and how low-stakes “comfort zone challenges” (like lying down in public) help you practice courage, defuse unhelpful thoughts, and tolerate discomfort without real-world consequences. Join Michael and Yael for lots of practical insight, humor, and a preview of tools that can help you step into the life you want. Listen and Learn: Why confidence isn’t built by fixing your mindset first, but by taking action on what matters Why you can’t learn confidence from scripts or perfect phrases, and confidence only develops through practice, not preparation How to step outside your comfort zone by practicing small, low-stakes challenges that reveal how thoughts and emotions create avoidance, and how to disarm them so you can act on what matters instead of defaulting to fear-based reactions Why worrying about annoying others can hold you back from confidence, and learning confidence means acting respectfully on what matters, even when that fear is present Comfort-zone challenges to expand confidence and even meaningfully change the direction of your life Building confidence through practical, real-world exercises with Michael’s course Resources: Michael’s Course: herold.coach/course Lilly and the Wildflowers: www.instagram.com/lilyandthewildflowers www.lilyandthewildflowers.com About Michael Herold Michael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He’s helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they’re mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. He is the scientific advisor and co-producer of their large podcast with more than 250 million downloads. As a member of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), Michael is the current President of the ACT Coaching Special Interest Group with nearly 1,000 coaches worldwide, and the co-founder of the ACT in Austria Affiliate of ACBS, a nationwide meetup for ACT practitioners in Austria. He’s a public speaker who has spoken at TEDx, in front of members of parliament, universities, and once in a cinema full of 500 kids high on sugary popcorn. In a previous life, he was a character animator working on award-winning movies and TV shows such as “The Penguins of Madagascar” and “Kung Fu Panda”. That was before he realized that helping people live a meaningful life is much more rewarding than working in the film business – even though the long nights in the studio allowed him to brew his own beer in the office closet, an activity he highly recommends. Michael grew up with five foster kids who were all taken out of abusive families. His foster sisters showed him how much positive change is possible in a person if they have the love and support they need. Related Episodes 173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Michael Herold 313. ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety with Brian Pilecki and Brian Thompson 195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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