3 Ways You Might be Self-Sabotaging: Listen All Y’all This Is Sabotage
Another raw, vulnerable conversation this week from the Instigator and the Yogi. This healing stuff is NOT for the faint of heart! In fact, the healing process is not linear, meaning that as we grow and heal, we uncover deeper layers of (fill in the blank) experience, emotion, awareness, learning, etc. This uncovering tends to be uncomfortable, and most of us dislike, or even avoid the uncomfortable. Therefore, self-sabotage is bound to creep up and companion most of us along the way. We explore 3 ways that we can self-sabotage our own growth. To be clear, we are speaking from our own lived experiences here, and this is by no means an exhaustive list; we've actually barely scratched the surface. One way we self-sabotage is by shrinking ourselves to "keep the peace". For many of us, making ourselves small or quiet, masked or hidden likely helped us survive. Continually approaching all situations as potentially life-threatening keeps our nervous systems in a constant state of sympathetic arousal, and has numerous negative long-term effects, physiologically, psychologically, relationally. The second way we self-sabotage is by saying yes when we want to say no. This behavior is very closely linked to the first method. Together, these two behaviors illustrate fawning, a trauma response that many of us adopt in unsafe environments or relationships. Over time, fawning behaviors become habitual, and appear to be deeply interwoven into the fabric of our personalities. You'll have to listen to the episode to get the deets on the third means of self-sabotage. Spoiler alert: stopping self-sabotage starts with noticing when you're doing it, and moving the needle of growth a little bit at a time. Slow and steady friends, slow and steady. Is there something you're struggling with? Something you'd like to hear us discuss? Someone you'd like to hear us talk to? Reach out on IG @piecestowellness or shoot us an email at neverunderestimatetpp@gmail.com. Please check out our other episodes and tell a friend! Remember - The road to a better you is paved with pieces to wellness… Like, Follow, Share 🧩 Get a copy of Tim's book, Never Underestimate the Power of You by clicking the link below: Send us Fan Mail Follow us on IG, Subscribe, Rate & Share! https://a.co/d/h7AQf91