Notes from the Edge

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Notes From the Edge is where polished stories end and the truth begins. Hosted by writer, trauma educator, executive advisor, and author Lisa Lacy, this globally ranked podcast explores survival, identity, trauma, addiction, recovery, leadership, relationships, and reinvention through raw, deeply human conversations. No scripts. No small talk. Just the stories we were taught to hide, the roles we performed to survive, and the truths that set us free. What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the edge. www.lisalacy.com

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#80
August 19 · 38 min
The Longest Distance: Men’s Mental Health, Male Loneliness & Emotional Healing with Daniel Sterling
What happens when achievement becomes a substitute for being seen? Writer, memoirist, and speaker Daniel Sterling joins Lisa Lacy for a candid conversation about men’s mental health, male loneliness, emotional vulnerability, masculinity, identity, and what it takes to raise emotionally whole boys. Daniel traces his own journey from an eight-year-old alpine ski racer who discovered the powerful rush of recognition to becoming one of the top ski racers in the country, then pursuing success through television, broadcasting, screenwriting, and filmmaking. But underneath the ambition was something much more human: the need to be seen, valued, and loved. After emotionally cratering in midlife, Daniel began questioning the identity he had built around achievement. A mentor introduced him to self-study, accountability, and a different way of living, beginning what he describes as the much longer journey from his head to his heart. Lisa and Daniel dig into why so many men learn to armor up instead of open up, how childhood messages like “toughen up” and “man up” can follow boys into adulthood, and why our current crisis of male isolation may have roots much earlier than we think. They also explore what parents can do differently: knowing the child in front of them, celebrating effort instead of achievement, allowing boys to fail and recover, giving them a voice, and creating enough emotional safety for vulnerability without removing the structure they need to grow. And perhaps most importantly, they talk about personal accountability: learning to recognize what belongs to you, apologize without defending yourself, change the behavior that caused harm, and discover who you are when you no longer need the performance. Daniel is currently seeking representation for his completed memoir, Hungry, and shares excerpts from his writing through his Substack. Connect with Daniel Sterling: https://daniel-sterling.com Connect with Lisa Lacy: https://lisalacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#79
August 18 · 25 min
Coercive Control & Trauma Bonding: Why You Can’t “Just Leave” Solo Episode with Lisa Lacy
Why does someone stay in a relationship they know is hurting them? And why can leaving feel almost physically unbearable, even when you know you need to go? In this special solo episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy shares her own experience of spending 13 years in a marriage marked by addiction, betrayal, coercive control, gaslighting and trauma bonding. At the time, Lisa was also carrying diagnoses of borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, complex PTSD, chronic alcoholism and codependency while managing a congenital blood disease. Over time, the chaos became so disorienting that she stopped trusting her own perception and began gaslighting herself. She left repeatedly. And repeatedly went back. Because every time she tried to leave, it felt like she was dying. It ultimately took three years to complete the divorce and another three years before she was able to fully go no contact. This conversation explores what coercive control actually looks like when it happens slowly, how trauma bonds are reinforced through cycles of fear, pain, relief and reconciliation, why mental-health diagnoses can make someone even more vulnerable to doubting their own reality, and why asking survivors, “Why didn’t you just leave?” profoundly misunderstands what may be happening psychologically and physiologically. Lisa also talks about the long road back to self-trust, the difference between understanding someone and giving them permission to harm you, and the moment when you stop making decisions based on someone’s potential and finally start looking at their patterns. Because sometimes leaving is not one brave decision. Sometimes it is a process of choosing yourself over and over again until your nervous system finally learns that freedom is safe. Learn more about Lisa and Notes From the Edge at www.LisaLacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#78
August 16 · 57 min
Integrative Psychiatry: Root-Cause Mental Health, Depression & Whole-Person Care with Dr. Naveen Thomas
What if psychiatry looked beyond symptoms and asked a different question: What else could be happening here? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with Dr. Naveen Thomas, board-certified psychiatrist and founder of Clarity Integrative Psychiatry, for a wide-ranging conversation about what mental healthcare can look like when we stop treating the diagnosis as the whole person. Dr. Thomas shares why his approach to psychiatry evolved beyond the familiar cycle of symptoms, diagnosis, medication, adjustment, and another medication. Instead, he explores the biological, psychological, nutritional, physical, and environmental factors that may be contributing to how someone feels. The conversation examines how issues such as thyroid dysfunction, vitamin D deficiency and low B12 can sometimes complicate or resemble symptoms associated with depression, and why curiosity matters before labeling someone or a condition as “treatment resistant.” Lisa and Dr. Thomas also explore: • Integrative psychiatry and whole-person mental healthcare • Root-cause thinking in mental health treatment • Depression and treatment-resistant depression • Vitamin D, B12, thyroid health and brain function • The role of medication within a broader treatment approach • Patient autonomy and self-advocacy • Why the doctor-patient relationship should be a partnership • Trauma, choice and the importance of restoring agency • The limitations created by rushed healthcare systems • What happens when healthcare becomes a commodity rather than a human relationship • Why relieving suffering may only be the beginning of what mental healthcare can accomplish Dr. Thomas challenges the idea that the goal of psychiatry should simply be helping someone function well enough to tolerate life. What if the bar were higher? What if mental healthcare helped people move beyond suffering toward connection, meaning, contribution and a fuller experience of being human? Learn more about Dr. Naveen Thomas and Clarity Integrative Psychiatry: www.claritypsychiatry.com Learn more about Lisa Lacy and Notes From the Edge: www.lisalacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#77
August 14 · 52 min
Designing a Life After Divorce: People-Pleasing, Reinvention & Creating a Home That Feels Like You with Jodi Koch
What happens when you realize the life you worked so hard to hold together no longer feels like your own? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with Jodi Koch, CEO of Elizabeth Erin Designs and host of Designing in 5D, for a conversation that begins with interior design and quickly becomes something much bigger: divorce recovery, people-pleasing, perfectionism, childhood conditioning, hypervigilance, intuition, reinvention, and learning to trust yourself again. Jodi shares how growing up as the child who took care of everyone shaped her into an adult who carried everything for everybody. She talks candidly about the exhaustion of a long marriage in which she often felt emotionally alone, the difficult decision to finally leave, and the realization that she had spent years listening to everyone except herself. We explore the connection between childhood survival patterns and adult relationships, why people-pleasing can become a form of self-abandonment, and what happens when you finally stop pouring your energy into keeping everything and everyone else afloat. Jodi also takes us inside the experiences that helped change her direction, including creating her own personal retreat, exploring plant medicine and spirituality, traveling alone, navigating divorce, rebuilding her business after a devastating disruption, and asking herself a deceptively simple question: What does Jodi actually want now? That question became her North Star. And it turns out that the philosophy behind great interior design isn’t so different from creating a meaningful life. Before choosing what looks beautiful, you have to understand who is actually going to live there. You need clarity. Intention. Function. A direction that belongs to you. Jodi shares her Designing in 5D philosophy, her intuitive approach to interior design, the importance of creating homes around the actual human beings living inside them, and how she’s using AI as a tool without removing the creativity, expertise, storytelling, and human connection that make design personal. We also talk about decision fatigue, rebuilding after divorce, releasing perfectionism, trusting your intuition, creating safe spaces, finding your true North, and the extraordinary freedom that can come from finally saying: This is what I want. Connect with Jodi Koch & Elizabeth Erin Designs Website: https://elizabetherindesigns.com Designing in 5D on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SH9NbnLfhCmEyZsJ0r0f8 Designing in 5D on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/designing-in-5d/id1778045559 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabetherindesigns/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethErinDesigns/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@elizabetherindesigns YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElizabethErinDesigns5D Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/elizabetherindesigns/ LinkedIn | Jodi Koch: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodipeterman LinkedIn | Elizabeth Erin Designs: https://www.linkedin.com/company/elizabeth-erin-designs Linktree: https://linktr.ee/elizabetherindesigns Connect with Lisa Lacy https://lisalacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#76
August 12 · 38 min
Beyond the Mind: Consciousness, Trauma, Identity & the Search for Meaning with Dean Graves
What if stress isn’t simply something to eliminate, but something trying to show us where healing needs to happen? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with mental health counselor, meditation teacher, spiritual guide, author, and podcast host Dean Graves for a wide-ranging conversation about consciousness, trauma healing, identity, mindfulness, addiction recovery, spiritual awakening, emotional healing, and the search for meaning. Dean explores the idea that much of what we call our “identity” is something we construct over a lifetime, shaped by experiences, thoughts, expectations, and our attempts to get more of what feels good while avoiding what hurts. But what happens when the identity that once helped us function begins to exhaust us? Together, Lisa and Dean explore the difference between outward success and inner fulfillment, why awakening often begins when the old way of living stops working, and what can happen when we turn our attention inward instead of constantly measuring ourselves through the reactions of others. They also dig into stress as a teacher, conscious choice, meditation, self-awareness, trauma recovery, the 12-step process, addiction and dual diagnosis, personal responsibility, happiness as a measure of healing, and the gradual process of letting go of the masks and performances that separate us from a more authentic sense of self. At the center of the conversation is one deceptively simple question: Who are you when you stop trying to convince the world who you are? Learn more about Dean Graves, his books, podcasts, and work at: https://ddeangraves.org Explore Lisa Lacy, Notes From the Edge, her writing, books, and work at: https://lisalacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#75
August 9 · 20 min
Women Have It Harder: The Pay Gap, Sexual Violence, Self-Sacrifice, Menopause & the Cost of Being Female
Women have it harder. There, I said it. And no, this is not a man-hating manifesto. I love men. In fact, parts of my romantic history would suggest I may have loved them a little too enthusiastically. This conversation is not about blaming men. It is about refusing to lie about what women experience in order to make anyone more comfortable. In this solo episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy explores the cumulative cost of moving through the world as a woman: the expectation of self-sacrifice in motherhood and family life, the invisible labor women carry, the gender pay gap, sexual violence, impossible beauty and behavior standards, and the conditioning that teaches women to prioritize everyone else’s needs before their own. Lisa also digs into the medical dismissal women experience, particularly during perimenopause and menopause, when profound physical, emotional and cognitive changes are still too often minimized, misunderstood or written off as anxiety. This is also a conversation about the ways women participate in their own conditioning. The pressure to be the good mother, the easy wife, the competent employee, the caretaker, the attractive woman, the strong woman and the woman who somehow needs absolutely nothing. Because sometimes the performance that earns women the most praise is the very performance that causes them to disappear. Men suffer too. Men carry their own painful expectations around strength, provision, emotion and masculinity. We do not have to deny that truth in order to acknowledge another one: Good men don’t need women to lie about women’s experiences in order to protect men’s feelings. And good women don’t need to demonize men in order to tell the truth about being female. Maybe the goal isn’t for women to become even stronger. Maybe it is finally asking why strength, sacrifice and resilience have been demanded of us for so long. lisalacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#74
August 8 · 50 min
Teen Drug Use, Kratom & Addiction Prevention: What Parents Need to Know with Dave Kopeny
The drug landscape facing teenagers is changing faster than many parents realize. In this second conversation with author, educator, private investigator, and ASAP Community founder Dave Kopeny, we go straight into what parents need to know about adolescent substance use, prevention, and the increasingly easy access young people have to potentially addictive substances. Dave discusses Kratom, products being sold in convenience stores and gas stations, changing marijuana potency, social media exposure, peer influence, family patterns, and why waiting until a child is already struggling with addiction may be waiting too long. But this conversation is not about frightening parents. It is about giving them something far more useful: agency. Dave believes parents remain one of the strongest protective influences in a child’s life. We talk about educating kids before experimentation begins, creating guardrails, monitoring without shame, having difficult conversations early, recognizing behavioral changes, and understanding the “why” underneath substance use rather than focusing only on stopping the behavior. We also explore something families often miss in recovery: you cannot send one person away to heal and return them to the exact same environment expecting everything to be different. Addiction affects the entire family system. Sustainable recovery may require parents, siblings, and caregivers to examine their own patterns, seek support, and heal alongside the person struggling. Dave also shares practical strategies from his book, Tip of the Spear: How to Educate, Supervise and Monitor Your Child in a World of Increasing Drug Abuse and Addiction, including how parents can recognize risk, communicate with schools, understand treatment options, establish boundaries, and become proactive before a crisis happens. Your child may tell you they do not want the guardrails. They still need to know someone has their back. Connect with Dave Kopeny and ASAP Community: https://asapcommunity.org Connect with Lisa Lacy and Notes From the Edge: https://www.lisalacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#73
August 7 · 41 min
Kitchen Design, Home & Reinvention: Building a Life You Love with Marvin W. Towler
What if designing a kitchen and designing a life have more in common than we think? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with kitchen designer and longtime construction professional Marvin Towler for a conversation that begins with kitchen remodeling, budgets, and beautiful spaces, then takes the kind of unexpected rabbit holes we love around here. Marvin shares why a dream isn’t enough when you’re renovating a home. You need a plan. From kitchen layouts and cabinetry to flooring, appliances, construction costs, and the unexpected expenses that can derail a remodel, Marvin explains how thoughtful kitchen design can protect your budget while still creating a space that feels deeply personal. But this conversation becomes about much more than kitchens. Marvin believes the kitchen is the heart of the home because it is one of the places where we say, “I love you.” That opens a deeply personal conversation about fathers, work ethic, mentorship, regret, family, and what happens when we realize there were things we never said while we still had the chance. Marvin talks about losing his father at eighteen, learning the construction trade, choosing practicality over art, surviving the economic cycles of architecture and construction, reinventing himself professionally, and discovering that luxury isn’t necessarily about how much money you spend. Sometimes luxury is simply creating something that feels unmistakably yours. Lisa and Marvin also explore parenthood and the difficult conversations we sometimes owe our children, including admitting where we got it wrong. And near the Edge, Marvin answers the question at the center of this show: What did you perform in order to survive? His answer opens a conversation about the masks we learn to wear, the roles we perform, and what it takes to begin letting ourselves be fully seen. This is a conversation about kitchen design and remodeling, but it’s also about building something much harder than a beautiful home: a life where we make room for what matters, tell people we love them while they’re still here, admit our mistakes, and allow ourselves to finally be seen. Marvin Towler: https://perfectkitchentv.com Lisa Lacy | Notes From the Edge: https://www.lisalacy.com What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#72
July 30 · 56 min
The Book Was Never Just the Book: Turning Your Story into Legacy with Missy Maxwell Worton
What if the story that will not leave you alone is not merely asking to be written, but asking to become a message that changes lives?In this live episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with her publisher, award-winning author, publishing strategist, and Light Warrior Publishing founder Missy Maxwell Worton for an honest conversation about writing through fear, publishing with purpose, and turning lived experience into lasting impact. Missy has helped hundreds of purpose-driven authors move from an idea to a completed manuscript, publication, launch, platform growth, and bestseller status. Her own author journey began with the deeply personal book Don’t Mess With This Mama: Risking It All to Rescue Our Daughter, which became a number-one Amazon bestseller and received multiple literary honors. Missy also published Lisa’s Reclaiming Your Savage Sovereignty, which remained a number-one New Release in its category for two months. They are now preparing to release Lisa’s most personal work yet, Notes From a Certified Madwoman. Together, Lisa and Missy will explore: • How to know whether you have a book idea or a message you are responsible for sharing • Why talented writers remain trapped in perfectionism and fear • What authors misunderstand about publishing, visibility, and book launches • How to protect your authentic voice during editing • The difference between publishing a book and building a movement • How to tell painful stories without exploiting your own wounds • What makes a publisher believe in an author before the audience or numbers existThis conversation is for aspiring authors, speakers, entrepreneurs, and anyone carrying a story that refuses to remain silent. Where to Find Missy: https://www.missymaxwellworton.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/missy-maxwell-worton-898261371/ How to Find Lisa: https://www.lisalacy.com/ What did you perform in order to survive? And what might it do for your life to finally put that role, mask, or performance down? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#71
July 29 · 1 hr 5 min
Suicide, Radical Listening & the Truths We Leave Unsaid with Sean Wellington
This conversation includes candid discussion of suicide, suicidal ideation, attempts, grief, and the emotional realities carried by survivors and the people who love them. What happens when someone finally tells the whole truth and discovers that the person listening does not panic, turn away, or try to make the story more comfortable? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with Sean Wellington, founder and host of the Suicide Noted podcast, for a candid conversation about suicide, survival, silence, and what it means to truly listen. Since launching Suicide Noted in 2020, Sean has facilitated more than 400 long-form conversations with suicide attempt survivors and people who have experienced suicidal ideation across 47 U.S. states and 27 countries. His mission is to help us become better at talking about the hardest parts of being human so that fewer people are forced to carry them alone. Together, Lisa and Sean explore: What suicide attempt survivors wish more people understood The difference between listening and trying to rescue Why people often remain silent until they reach a crisis What pauses, contradictions, and unfinished sentences reveal The responsibility involved in holding another person’s story How families, clinicians, leaders, and friends can become safer people to tell the truth to This is a conversation about radical listening, difficult truths, and the profound relief of being heard without being reduced to a diagnosis, a crisis, or the worst moment of your life. How to Find Sean: Home | Suicide Noted - Raw Talks with Attempt Survivorswww.seangwellington.com The Missing Record How to Find Lisa: www.lisalacy.com Notes From the Edge explores trauma, identity, recovery, leadership, reinvention, and the conversations we should have been having all along. And as always, we end with the question: What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#70
July 29 · 43 min
No Longer Leading With the Wound with Hilary Momberger Powers
What happens when success arrives before you have had the chance to understand who you are? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with transformational mentor, trauma-informed coach, motivational speaker, former child performer, and Licensed Vocational Nurse Hilary Momberger Powers. Hilary began working in front of the camera at five years old as the voice of Sally Brown in the Peanuts cartoons. Behind the early success, however, were unresolved childhood wounds that later contributed to addiction, painful choices, and a life that began to unravel. After entering recovery in 1983, Hilary discovered that putting down the addiction was only the beginning. The deeper work meant confronting the trauma, identity patterns, and emotional wounds that had been leading her life. Together, Lisa and Hilary explore childhood fame, addiction, inner-child work, recovery, self-advocacy, reinvention, and what it means to stop allowing old pain to make present-day decisions. This is a conversation about moving from victim to victor, reclaiming your voice, and proving that it is never too late to begin again. How to Find Hilary: Hilary Momberger Powers | LinkedIn HILARY POWERS How to find Lisa: Lisa Lacy Lisa Lacy | LinkedInWhat did you perform in order to survive?Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#69
July 29 · 38 min
Hope Without Sight: Learning to Feel Deeply Without Losing Yourself with Saylor Cooper
What happens when empathy feels less like a gift and more like carrying everyone else’s emotions inside your own body? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with former client, author, entrepreneur, and radio host Saylor Cooper for an honest conversation about blindness, disability, emotional intelligence, nervous-system awareness, boundaries, and learning how to become the container instead of the sponge. Saylor shares how understanding his emotional depth helped him become calmer, more grounded, and more connected to who he has always been at his core. We also explore how he moved beyond other people’s expectations to create Real Variety Radio and Hope Without Sight, platforms built around resilience, storytelling, music, and meaningful human connection. This conversation is about feeling deeply without disappearing inside what you feel, transforming adversity without allowing it to become your entire identity, and recognizing that emotional sensitivity can become a powerful form of leadership when it is supported by self-awareness and boundaries. Hosted by Lisa Lacy Featuring Saylor Cooper: Saylor Cooper | LinkedIn https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/blissful-connections/id1789566162 What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#68
July 28 · 8 min
I Worked It. But It Didn’t Work. Why Didn’t You Tell Me?
When doing everything “right” in recovery leaves you smaller, sicker, and further away from yourself.For two years, I did exactly what I was told. Six days a week. Sometimes two meetings a day. Inpatient rehabilitation. Outpatient rehabilitation. Sponsors. Step work. Inventories. Confessions. Amends. I stayed sober. But I was not becoming healthier. I was becoming smaller. In this deeply personal episode of Notes From the Edge, I explore what happens when a recovery model fails to recognize the person sitting in front of it, especially when that person is also carrying childhood trauma, sexual assault, domestic violence, psychiatric diagnoses, shame, and a profoundly dysregulated nervous system. This is not an attack on AA. If AA saved your life, I celebrate that. Truly. Keep going. This is a grief story about realizing that the map I had been given was never designed for the terrain I was walking. We will talk about: • The difference between staying sober and actually healing • When “sharing” becomes uncontained trauma dumping • Why powerlessness, defect language, and submission may affect traumatized women differently • The importance of nervous system regulation, boundaries, safety, and co-regulation • Modern trauma approaches such as EMDR, Internal Family Systems, and somatic therapy • The evolving science of addiction and neuroplasticity • Alternatives including SMART Recovery, Women for Sobriety, LifeRing, medication-assisted treatment, recovery coaching, therapy, purpose, community, and connection • Why informed choice should be part of every recovery conversation My nervous system did not need another moral inventory. It needed safety. Recovery should not require abandoning your intuition or becoming less yourself. It should help you become more yourself. And if one approach is not helping you heal, that does not automatically mean you are broken. Maybe you simply need a different map. This episode reflects personal experience and is intended for education and conversation. It is not a substitute for individualized medical or mental health care. Learn more about Lisa Lacy and her work at www.lisalacy.com And before we leave, I want to ask you the question I ask every guest: What did you perform in order to survive? Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#67
July 27 · 24 min
You Can't Automate Relationships with Beth Granger
Beth Granger on visibility, digital trust, critical conversations, and staying human in an increasingly automated world Technology can help us reach thousands of people, write polished messages, and build impressive networks. But it cannot create trust for us. Beth Granger is a speaker, consultant, trainer, emcee, and LinkedIn and networking strategist who helps professionals communicate more confidently, navigate critical conversations, and turn online connections into meaningful relationships. Her message is simple and increasingly urgent: You can’t automate relationships. In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Beth and Lisa explore the fear beneath professional visibility, why people hesitate to post or speak honestly online, and what separates a connection from an actual relationship. They also discuss: • How to become visible without performing a polished professional persona • The difference between listening and simply waiting to speak • What artificial intelligence can support, and what should never be outsourced • Why critical conversations either strengthen trust or quietly destroy it • How leaders, sales professionals, and teams can communicate with greater clarity and humanity • Why connection, curiosity, kindness, and community still matter in an algorithm-driven world This is a conversation about reputation, belonging, confidence, digital communication, and the human work required to make relationships mean something. Learn more about Beth Granger: https://www.bethgranger.com Learn more about Lisa Lacy: https://www.lisalacy.com Welcome to the edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#66
July 27 · 23 min
How Chronic Devaluation Shapes Confidence, Relationships, and Ambition
What happens when nothing you accomplish ever seems to be enough? In this solo episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy explores the long-term impact of chronic devaluation, especially when it begins in childhood. She shares personal stories of earning straight A’s, leading teams, serving on committees, excelling in performance, and still feeling as though the finish line kept moving. When you are told to go left and then criticized for not going right, you may stop trusting your own direction. Over time, that confusion can shape your confidence, your relationships, your ambition, and your ability to fully receive your own success. This conversation explores: Why devaluation can create overachievement and overfunctioning How moving standards teach children to distrust themselves Why accomplished adults may still struggle to feel successful How early devaluation can affect romantic and professional relationships The difference between creating from self-expression and performing for approval How to receive feedback without turning it into a verdict on your worth Devaluation did not stop Lisa from becoming a leader, performer, entrepreneur, writer, and creator. She accomplished it anyway. But the deeper work is learning to accomplish without still carrying the need to prove that she deserves to be valued. What have you spent your life accomplishing in the hope that someone would finally recognize your value? And what might you create next if you no longer needed their permission? Welcome to the Edge. www.lisalacy.com Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#65
July 27 · 44 min
Clawing Back From the Bottom with Bryan Blackmon
Bryan Blackmon left Texas for California chasing a dream. Instead, he found himself homeless, sleeping in his car, and drowning in alcohol and addiction. Then an elderly landlord named Elaine chose not to give up on him. Her belief became a turning point, but Bryan still had to do the work of becoming someone he could believe in, too. Today, Bryan is sober, a recovery advocate, transformation coach, and the creator of Crab Crew Life, a community built around recovery, resilience, adaptability, accountability, and belief. Bryan says the crab does not swim. It does not fly. It claws its way forward from the bottom of the ocean floor. And so did he. In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Bryan and Lisa explore: • What homelessness and addiction look like from the inside • The difference between getting sober and rebuilding your identity • Why redemption is not a moment, but a daily routine • The ordinary habits that restore dignity and self-respect • How one person’s belief can help rewrite a life • Why community can carry us when willpower is no longer enough • Who we become when survival is no longer our only identity This is a conversation about second chances, accountability, human connection, and the courage required to keep clawing forward when life has taken you all the way to the bottom. Learn more about Bryan Blackmon and Crab Crew Life: https://crabcrewlife.com Learn more about Lisa Lacy: https://www.lisalacy.com Welcome to the edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#64
July 27 · 12 min
I Was Wounded… and Slightly Feral
It is exactly midnight, I am editing Notes From a Certified Madwoman, and I have finally realized something: Maybe I was never crazy. Maybe I was wounded, dysregulated, surviving, and just slightly feral. In this solo episode of Midnight Menopausal Meanderings, I talk about what happens when trauma is mistaken for personality, survival responses are reduced to mental illness, and the context of a person’s life disappears beneath the diagnosis. This is not an argument against therapy, psychiatry, medication, recovery, or mental health treatment. Those things save lives, including mine. It is an invitation to ask a fuller question. Not only: What is wrong with you? But also: What happened to you? I also share why some details were intentionally left out of my book, why telling the whole truth can sometimes bring consequences from the very people who benefited from your silence, and why this book is not an attempt to explain or defend myself. It is an exploration of what happens when we forget that context matters. Because trauma may explain behavior without excusing harm. Because a diagnosis may describe symptoms without telling the whole story. And because sometimes the woman everyone called crazy was carrying more than one nervous system should ever have had to carry alone. Notes From a Certified Madwoman is coming Fall 2026. Welcome to the edge. www.lisalacy.com Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#63
July 27 · 38 min
WATCH ME with Renee Carbone Fleming
The Price of Waiting for Permission and the Power of Becoming Visible Anyway What happens when a woman stops waiting to feel confident, stops explaining every decision, and starts building the life she knows she is capable of creating? In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with award-winning entrepreneur, author, podcast host, and founder of the Badass Queen™ movement, Renee Carbone Fleming. Renee filed for bankruptcy. Her marriage ended. She found herself rebuilding from the ground up and made a two-word decision that would shape everything that followed: Watch me. That decision became a philosophy, a movement, and the foundation of the WATCH ME Method™, Renee’s five-principle operating system for women who are done seeking permission, shrinking their ambitions, and waiting for approval before taking action. Renee went on to build a direct-sales organization that generated more than $13 million, lead a team of over 400 people, create a multimillion-dollar brand empire, publish three books, launch the Unapologetically Badass podcast, and see her brand featured on the NASDAQ billboard in Times Square. In this bold and honest conversation, Lisa and Renee explore: • What reinvention really looks like before the success story becomes polished • Why overexplaining quietly weakens a woman’s authority • The hidden emotional and financial cost of waiting for approval • Why confidence is the result of execution, not the requirement for it • How women can become visible before they feel completely ready • What Renee had to survive, release, and rebuild between bankruptcy and success • How to stop asking others to approve the future you are creating This is a conversation for every woman who has ever known she was capable of more but kept waiting for permission to prove it. Connect with Renee Carbone Fleming: https://badassqueen.co Connect with Lisa Lacy: https://www.lisalacy.com Welcome to the edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#62
July 26 · 26 min
People Were More Comfortable With My Suffering When I Carried It Quietly
Female Anger, Menopause, and What Happens When the Manageable Woman Disappears People celebrate strong women until those women get angry, set boundaries, stop apologizing, or remove access. In this episode of Midnight Menopausal Meanderings, Lisa Lacy explores female anger, menopause, nervous-system overload, and what happens when the emotionally manageable woman begins to disappear. Menopause may not create a new, irrational woman. It may reveal the woman who spent decades swallowing betrayal, exhaustion, grief, emotional labor, and uncomfortable truths to keep everyone else comfortable. This conversation also holds the harder truth: anger can carry important information, but justified rage can still cause harm. Trauma explains behavior. It does not excuse it. Healing is not about silencing anger or worshipping it. It is about learning to hold truth without destruction, boundaries without cruelty, and power without abandoning our humanity. This episode draws from Lisa’s upcoming book, Notes of a Certified Madwoman, an exploration of trauma, survival, identity, nervous-system adaptation, and the women we became in order to survive. Who benefited from the version of you who carried her suffering quietly? Welcome to the edge. www,lisalacy.com Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#61
July 25 · 44 min
The Last Rocketman: Fear Is Information Not Instruction with Dan Schlund
What happens when the thing that made you feel most alive nearly kills you? “Rocketman” Dan Schlund is one of the last professionally trained Rocketbelt pilots in the world. For a decade, he flew jet packs at events across 25 countries and six continents, performing hundreds of flights without a parachute and with only seconds of fuel strapped to his back. But Dan’s most extraordinary story began after the spectacle ended. Following devastating burns, extensive skin-graft surgeries, and a crash that left him with a broken neck, Dan lost far more than his ability to fly. He lost his income, his marriage, and the identity he had built around being the Rocketman. He also became dependent on pain medication and had to rebuild his life from the ground up. Dan eventually founded National Set Medics, growing it into a multimillion-dollar company that provides medical professionals for film and television productions nationwide. Ten years after his final flight, he purchased the Rocketbelt and training hangar and returned to the air one more time for his memoir and documentary, The Last Rocketman. In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy and Dan explore: • What happens when your identity disappears overnight • The difference between courage and fearlessness • How the nervous system responds after catastrophic injury • Addiction, recovery, and the invisible work behind a comeback • Calculated risk and decision-making under pressure • Why Dan believes fear is information, not instruction • What it took to strap the Rocketbelt on one final time Dan’s message is not that we should become fearless. It is that courage can be practiced, preparation can change our relationship with fear, and our worst experience does not have to become our final one. Learn more about Dan, his book, and the documentary: https://rocketman.tv/ Learn more about Lisa Lacy and Notes From the Edge: https://www.lisalacy.com/ Welcome to the Edge. Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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