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Mindfully With 'Tunmise

Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku

Mindfully with Tunmise, The Podcast is a weekly talk/interview show that seeks to promote mental health awareness by demystifying perceived mysteries surrounding mental health stability. The show features personal stories from Tunmise, who lives with Bipolar II and also collects stories from individuals from all walks of life. The conversations aim to answer questions surrounding mental health myths and promote living mindfully through self-compassion and showing up instead of perfection. The show also features resource experts to provide a balanced explanation to each question raised. The target audience includes young adults, parents, and middle-aged citizens who are struggling with self-esteem, identity conflicts, cultural conflicts, existential questions and resolving relational conflicts. Mindfully with Tunmise. The show's mission is to encourage people to live mindfully, tell their stories, and promote self-compassion. The show's duration is between 30 to 60 minutes per episode, and it can be accessed at all podcast platforms and at  www.blackhemages.com

 

 

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  • S8 · E8
    Tuesday · 46 min

    What If Your Survival Story Is Not You

    Send us Fan Mail Something feels off lately: people are quicker to snap, slower to trust, and tired in a way sleep can’t fix. I sit with that feeling out loud and ask whether we’re still carrying COVID-era survival mode without realising it, hoarding not just food and money but emotional energy too. If you’ve felt more triggered, more cynical, or strangely guarded, you’re not alone and you’re not “broken” for it. From there, I go back to what I always return to in healing work: stories of origin. Family systems pass things down with frightening efficiency, including the parts we swear we’ll never repeat. I talk about inherited pride and “vexation,” the way vulnerability can become dangerous in certain homes, and how we can reject a person yet keep the pattern. This is mindful living with honesty: looking back as research, not as self-attack. Then we sit with Joseph. Not the polished highlight reel, but the human process of becoming. Joseph is favoured and still betrayed, privileged and still forced to grow up in a new environment. I connect that to my own “Egypts” from school to heartbreak to a hard workplace season, including what it taught me about approval addiction, integrity, boundaries, and learning to carry the truth in a way that’s actually useful. We land on mindful leaving: asking what you’re carrying, why you’re carrying it, whether it still serves you, and what it might look like to put it down. If any part of this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one inherited pattern you’re ready to transform? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S8 · E7
    August 18 · 32 min

    A Brother’s Faith And The Questions That Follow

    Send us Fan Mail How do you keep living when the answer never comes? We start with a question that is easy to dodge and hard to sit with: how are you, really. Then we slow down, breathe, and make room for the truth that being triggered doesn’t mean you’re failing. Sometimes it’s simply a wound saying, “I’m still here,” and compassion is where healing begins. I introduce you to my little brother, Yanolua, as a full person before illness tries to rename him. He dreams of broadcasting, he keeps believing even when life is unkind, and he carries a kind of faith that both comforts and confuses me. When systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE), an autoimmune disease, enters our story, it changes the body, the family, and the future. You’ll also hear two powerful journal entries read in his voice, words that hold pain, mystery, rescue, and the longing for a solid foundation. From there, the conversation widens to my own body and my own questions after major surgeries, especially the anger behind “but I did everything right.” We talk about family health inheritance, chronic illness, grief, and the pressure to find a culprit. A moment from John chapter 9 pushes back on blame and shame, reminding us that suffering doesn’t always come with a simple reason, and a human being is never just a punishment. We end with an invitation I’m still learning to obey: stop turning your pain into a courtroom, and go live anyway. If this moved something tender in you, listen through, share it with someone who needs it, and subscribe for more. Rate and review the show, and send us a message with what came up for you. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S8 · E6
    August 11 · 42 min

    Staying Yourself In Babylon

    Send us Fan Mail The world can rename you without ever touching your birth certificate. It can do it through praise you start chasing, criticism you start believing, trauma you didn’t ask for, or a culture that rewards you most when you feel yourself the least. So we start somewhere simple and brave: I ask “How are you, really?” and we slow down enough to answer with honesty, breath, and a body that has been holding more than it admits. From there, we move into identity, not the identity on application forms, but the quiet self that shows up when your values collide with the environment around you. I reflect on Daniel in Babylon, where the pressure to assimilate doesn’t begin with obvious harm, but with opportunity, training, and subtle renaming. We talk about the labels we carry that were never ours to keep, the cost of belonging that feels conditional, and the moment Daniel “resolved” before the miracles, before the lions, before the spotlight. We also name the modern Babylons that whisper instead of shout: approval, productivity, perfection, people pleasing, and the exhausting urge to be understood by everyone. I share the difference between stubbornness and resolve, why solitude can be reunion rather than loneliness, and why healing is not always an exit. Sometimes the win is staying yourself right where you are, keeping your center while you live, love, and serve in the real world. If this conversation gives you language for what you’ve been feeling, subscribe, rate the show, and share it with someone you love. Then send us a message from the link in the show notes: how are you, really? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S8 · E5
    August 4 · 27 min

    Living Without Neat Answers While You Wait

    Send us Fan Mail How do you live when life refuses to make sense and the answers never arrive on time? We start with a simple question that can change the whole day: “How are you… really?” Not the polite version, the honest one. Then we slow down, soften our shoulders, breathe, and practice mindfulness as a way to come home to ourselves when we feel tempted to hide. We also celebrate three years of this podcast as more than content: a shared healing journey built on showing up, even through silence, surgery, and seasons when surviving takes more energy than speaking. I reflect on what I expected at the beginning versus what actually happened, including the surprising truth that this space has been healing me too. If you care about mental health, emotional resilience, and faith that can hold complexity, you’ll feel the heartbeat of this conversation. From there we walk with Sarah, not to defend her or judge her, but to keep her company. We explore the grief of waiting, the pain of holding a promise without evidence, and what it might have felt like when Hagar became pregnant. Instead of tying the story into a neat bow, we honour the silence in the text and the messiness in the human heart. That leads to a deeper takeaway: safety is not always found in certainty. Sometimes safety is found in capacity, the ability to hold joy and grief, faith and questions, hope and disappointment, love and hurt, and still keep walking. If this resonates, share it with someone who needs permission to be human while they wait, follow the show wherever you listen, and leave a review so more people can find mindful living that’s honest and grounded. What’s one place in your life where you’re demanding certainty when you might be invited into capacity? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S8 · E4
    July 28 · 21 min

    I Memorised The Script Then Cried

    Send us Fan Mail You can be “doing everything right” and still feel hollow inside. That’s the quiet cost of approval addiction: the constant performing, the overthinking, the perfectionism that looks like excellence from the outside but feels like panic on the inside. We start with a grounded check-in and a short breath and body release, because healing is not a speech, it’s a practice. Then we trace how our relationship with “what if” thinking can turn into negotiating with history, replaying old scenes when what we really want is to matter. From there, we name the pattern clearly: the need to be accepted, liked, and chosen can become an identity, shaping how we speak, how we work, and how we show up in relationships. I share a story from my first day on radio, when I memorised a script and still hesitated because it didn’t feel perfect, and how a simple compliment made me cry because it felt like being seen. We also sit with Jacob’s story and the question of what we inherit from family systems where love feels divided and comparison becomes normal. At the river Jabbok, the mask drops and the wrestling begins, a picture of healing that doesn’t always look like winning, but does look like honesty. We close with a gentle, direct question you can carry into your week: Where in my life am I still performing in hope of being accepted? If this resonated, share it with someone who needs permission to breathe, and please follow, rate, and review the show so more people can find these conversations. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S8 · E3
    July 21 · 19 min

    My Inner Child Filed A Formal Complaint

    Send us Fan Mail Some pain doesn’t end with a bow, and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. I’m talking about ambiguous grief, also known as ambiguous loss, the kind of grief that lacks closure because something is gone but never really leaves, or something is present but no longer feels available. When I didn’t have language for that, my mind kept trying to solve what only needed to be understood, and it wore me out. I hold that reality up next to the Book of Job, not the highlight reel ending, but the middle where most of us actually live. Job’s world falls apart, his friends show up with confident explanations, and he’s left carrying the weight of questions that don’t cooperate. That tension feels familiar when people narrate our pain better than they understand our experience, even when they mean well. Then I get personal about a longer hypermanic episode that had no clear trigger and no easy loop to close. What surprised me wasn’t an answer, but a voice I hadn’t listened to in years: a younger version of me asking not to be fixed, but to be seen. I share what it looked like to respond with recognition instead of another rushed explanation, and why perspective can bring a different kind of peace even when closure never arrives. If you’ve been searching for a neat reason, consider a gentler question: who inside you is still waiting for acknowledgement? Subscribe, share this with someone who needs a soft landing, and leave a review so more people can find this healing space. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S8 · E2
    July 14 · 22 min

    When Confidence Is A Mask

    Send us Fan Mail Confidence isn’t always confidence. Sometimes it’s insecurity with good posture, a steady voice, and years of practice hiding in plain sight. We talk directly to our mindful partners about what it feels like when your inner world is loud, your outer world looks “fine,” and your mental health keeps asking the same questions in new ways. We trace where that quiet insecurity can begin, including a story from radio and the cruel little whisper it leaves behind: “only your voice is beautiful.” From there, we slow the pace with a guided body check, because the body often notices what the mind tries to edit. We sit with the uncomfortable truth that evidence can bring closure without bringing change, and that masks can become normal especially when social media rewards the polished version of us. Faith shows up as a mirror, not a performance. The story of Gideon becomes a companion for anyone who feels unqualified, afraid, or “not enough,” and we explore why honest questions can be more transformative than perfect certainty. We also name the inner sentences that trap us, including the way anxiety can sound like wisdom, and we land on a surprising reframe: healing can feel like subtraction less certainty, less performance, less masking until you find the part of you that can actually fight. If something speaks to you here, subscribe, share this with someone you love, and leave a review so more people can find the conversation. What story have you repeated so often it now sounds like your own voice? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S8 · E1
    July 7 · 23 min

    My Inner Narrator Could Use A Nap

    Send us Fan Mail The loudest voice in your life might be the one nobody else can hear. We’re talking about personal dialogue the inner self-talk that shapes your mental health, your relationships, and the choices you make when life gets heavy. I’m not asking you to borrow my map of healing. I’m unfolding mine, so you can recognise your own patterns and start building a language that actually supports you. We start with a hard truth: even a beautiful story of origin can leave you with a script that breaks down the moment “privilege stops working.” When the identity you built around being the helper becomes the reason you can’t ask for help, the real battle is internal. That’s why we dig into self-language the voice your body speaks, the voice your relationships inherit, and the voice you use on yourself when nobody is listening. Then I bring in the Red Sea crossing as a metaphor for healing: not just the miracle, but the long night of wind, fear, and walking forward while old identities still shout behind you. Sometimes faith begins with borrowing courage from the people walking beside you. We pause for a body check-in, because mindfulness and breath are not accessories they’re tools for settling the nervous system so the story can settle too. I also speak openly about living with bipolar II, masking, and what it means to sit with the darkest voices instead of rushing to suppress them. A line from Brianna Wiest shifts the frame: healed doesn’t mean flawless; it means sadness, fear, and grief no longer run the whole conversation. If you’re ready to look at your inner dialogue with more honesty and more compassion, press play, then subscribe, share the episode, and leave a review so more people can find this kind of support. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • June 16 · 1 hr 13 min

    A Novel That Rewrites Manliness

    Send us Fan Mail A man can look “fine” and still be standing on a ledge inside his own mind. That tension sits at the heart of our conversation with author Ulutumbi Ito about his novel My Mrs. Solomon: A Man’s Quest For True Manliness, and why storytelling may be one of the most effective ways to start honest men’s mental health conversations without shame or posturing. We talk about the quiet rules many boys learn early: don’t cry, don’t admit fear, don’t ask for help. Then we follow what those rules can cost over time, especially when abuse happens to boys and the only socially acceptable response is laughter or denial. From emotional silence to suicide risk, we name the patterns that keep men isolated, and we challenge the cultural “alpha male” mirage that insists everything must be perfect. The episode also digs into relationships and recovery. We explore how a supportive partner and a strong friend circle can create the safety a man needs to finally speak, and why many men struggle with emotional vocabulary in the first place. Faith and family show up too: we question what “safety” means, what parental accountability looks like, and how a fresh lens on Peter walking on water reframes courage as the willingness to ask for help. If you care about men’s mental health, healing from trauma, marriage under pressure, parenting with awareness, or building real support systems, press play and sit with us. Subscribe, share this with someone you love, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations. Get a copy here https://selar.com/mymrs Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E17
    June 2 · 56 min

    You Are Human Before You Are A Man.

    Send us Fan Mail The world is loud right now: war, economic stress, nonstop online gender battles, and the quiet feeling that everyone is bracing for impact. So we take a different approach. We pause, breathe, and talk honestly about men’s mental health, not as a trend, but as a survival issue and a relationship issue that touches families, marriages, friendships, and whole communities. My guest, Elishius Olalua, helps me name the thing many men can feel but struggle to explain: a script of strength that gets handed to boys early and enforced later through shame, status, and silence. We unpack what “being strong” is often taught to mean in Nigerian and wider African homes, why vulnerability can feel expensive, and how men end up saying “I’m okay” even when they are overwhelmed. We also explore the hidden cost of tying a man’s worth only to what he provides, and why provision has to include the state of your mind, spirit, and emotional health not just money. We go deeper into emotional literacy: why anger becomes the “allowed” emotion, why many men lack language for what they feel, and what it takes to ask for help without feeling like you’re failing. We end with a grounded takeaway, one reflective question for your journal, and a practical invitation to create safer spaces for boys and men to be fully human. If any part of this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find these healing conversations. What would change in your home if men had real permission to feel? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E16
    May 26 · 23 min

    Give Me My Flowers

    Send us Fan Mail “Give me my flowers while I’m still here” sounds like a clean rule for life, but once you factor in loneliness, shifting relationships, and the masks we wear to survive, it gets complicated fast. We start with a simple mental health frame I keep coming back to: alignment. When your thoughts, emotions, and actions aren’t at war, you feel more grounded. And because language shapes our inner world, reframing common phrases can be a surprisingly powerful mindfulness practice. We talk about why social media can feel so loud, why so many of us crave a seat at the table, and how the most connected generation can still feel painfully alone. I pause for a breath with you and ask the question that can change a lot: whose opinion still steadies you or shakes you, and why? From there, we go into the armor we reach for when we’re afraid, pulling from Brené Brown’s insight that armor, not fear, is what blocks love, connection, and our values. Then we bring it back to “flowers” and relationships. Some people drift with no fight, no drama, just distance, and when loss arrives we remember the beauty more than the gap. We also look at friendship through a lens that challenges the usual definition, including Simon Sinek’s idea that real friends aren’t only there for hard times, they’re the people who can celebrate your good news without making you feel like you’re bragging. We end with reflection questions you can sit with all week and a reminder that sometimes the most mindful move is to give yourself flowers while you learn how to ask for what you need. If it resonates, subscribe, share it with someone you’re walking beside, and leave a review so more people can find these mental health and mindfulness conversations. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E15
    May 19 · 30 min

    Taking Responsibility Without Losing Connection

    Send us Fan Mail “No one is coming to save you” is supposed to be motivating, but what if it’s also making us lonelier? We start with a simple mindful check-in, soften the body, breathe, and ask the real question beneath the slogan: how are you actually doing right now, and what happens inside you when you hear that line online? I explore the tension between personal responsibility and human connection. Yes, we own our choices, our healing, and our next step. But we’re also living in a time where constant connectivity can hide deep isolation, and where the myth of being “self-made” quietly erases the friends, partners, mentors, and communities that keep us steady. I share a personal story from an earlier podcast attempt that stalled, how fear showed up when it was time to begin again, and how support sometimes “saves” us without rescuing us by doing the work. From there, we get practical and honest about trust and vulnerability. Who is safe? Who do you share your scars with? And how do you ask for help when you’ve learned to do everything alone? We also reflect on friendship as a life-changing force, the kind that reminds you of what’s good in you, and we end with questions you can sit with after the audio ends. If this conversation lands for you, subscribe, share it with someone you trust, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one area of your life where you’re resisting help? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E14
    May 12 · 20 min

    Repetition Can Be Real Growth

    Send us Fan Mail “Nothing happens in your comfort zone” gets quoted like a law, but I’m not convinced it tells the whole truth. Sometimes the most meaningful growth happens in the quiet, repetitive middle when you keep showing up, keep practicing, and finally start seeing yourself differently. That’s the thread I pull on here, starting with a simple mantra I live by: it’s about showing up, not perfection. I talk through the tension honestly, including what it felt like to stay in one organisation for years and slowly notice that comfort can turn into quiet dissatisfaction. Not dramatic, not rebellious, just that clear internal question: is this still it? From there we explore a more mindful way to think about change, career transitions, and personal growth without turning “leaving” into a badge of honour or “staying” into a shame story. You’ll also hear a quick breathing reset to help you settle, plus two reframes that can change how you treat yourself: “practice makes progress” and the idea of tessitura, a singer’s most comfortable range, not as limitation but as mastery. We end with five reflection questions you can journal with right away, especially if you’re working on self-awareness, mental wellbeing, and learning how to move at your own pace. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who’s wrestling with a transition, and leave a review so more mindful partners can find the show. What’s one place in your life you might be rushing to leave? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E13
    May 5 · 27 min

    Why Slowing Down Builds Real Strength

    Send us Fan Mail Mindfulness gets mislabeled as soft, fragile, or unrealistic and that misunderstanding keeps a lot of us stuck in speed mode. I’m pushing back on that. Slowing down, choosing stillness, and listening to yourself when everything around you rewards motion can be the truest kind of resilience. We start with a personal turning point: a season of silence that changes how I show up, from constant output to real alignment. From there, we go straight into the tension many of us feel, that quiet resistance to mindful living, and why presence can look like weakness from the outside. I also share a language reframe that has helped my mental health for years: replacing the word “problems” with “questions” so the mind stays open to solutions instead of collapsing into helplessness. Then we touch the nerve that sits underneath so many reactions: vulnerability. Using Brene Brown’s research on uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure, I connect courage to mindfulness in a practical way. You’ll hear two everyday stories, one about responding to a friend who calls me out and another about catching urgency in my body while baking bread, to show how mindful awareness becomes boundaries, agency, and self-respect. If you want journal prompts for stillness, disagreement, and defining resilience for yourself, you’ll leave with clear questions to write through. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs a gentler kind of strength, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E12
    April 28 · 20 min

    The Question That Saved A Life

    Send us Fan Mail One late night, I asked a throwaway radio question because I needed something to fill a segment. Months later, a woman called during a Christmas broadcast and told me that question made her pause long enough to choose life. I’ve carried that moment for years, and it changed how I understand the power of words, not as motivation, but as responsibility. We talk about what it means to speak like someone might be listening on their hardest day, because they might be. I share why I never asked her to explain her pain, and how “holding space” can be more healing than investigating. We also get personal about sensitivity, the pull toward cynicism, and what it’s like trying to stay reflective in a hard world while living with bipolar affective disorder. You’ll hear a short guided breathing practice and the mindfulness framework I lean on in my own healing journey: stop, breathe, notice, reflect, respond, and resolve. Then I leave you with the same question that once saved a life and three gentle reflections you can journal with, especially if you’re rebuilding your relationship with yourself, your story, and your mental health. If this helped, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a pause, and leave a review so more listeners can find the series. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E11
    April 21 · 16 min

    Permission To Dance Badly And Call It Healing

    Send us Fan Mail Healing can sound big and dramatic, but for me it often starts with something small: a pause, a breath, and the courage to stop rushing past the parts of my story that still sting. After last week’s heavy conversation, I wanted to offer a gentler follow-up that still stays honest about death, grief, and the weight we carry, while pointing toward relief. A bookstore moment brought it all into focus for me: the phrase “Healing Is The New High” from Vex King. I didn’t even know what was inside the book yet, but the title felt like a promise I needed to keep close. Life today can feel like a cassette tape on fast forward, too much noise and too many thoughts at once. Mental health conversations are finally everywhere, and that’s good, but I also ask a harder question: are we creating real understanding, or just joining another trend? I keep it simple. Mental well-being is how we navigate everyday stress, emotions, relationships, and even economic pressure. Being mentally whole doesn’t mean life is always pleasant; it means we learn to face both joy and difficulty without losing ourselves in either. From there, I get practical about inner healing as an investment in yourself and the kind of world you want to build. I share two tools that help me: play and journaling. Drawing from Brené Brown, I define play as joy without obligation or outcome and I talk about singing loudly, dancing off beat, and creating small moments of freedom. Then I move into journaling as a self care practice for emotional wellbeing, a place to tell the truth, pray, and track your growth. I also leave you with prompts you can take into your week, because sometimes the question is where healing begins. If this supports you, subscribe, share it with a friend, leave a review, and join the WhatsApp group linked in the show notes. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E10
    April 14 · 30 min

    Facing The Mirror

    Send us Fan Mail Sexual abuse stories trend every week, and the internet reacts like it has only two buttons: defend and attack. But when the noise gets louder, the people behind the story can disappear. We slow the pace down and ask what those viral debates are really doing to our bodies, our minds, and our ability to heal. I share why these headlines can feel so personal, how unhealed wounds show up as anger or certainty, and why a mindful breath is sometimes the first act of courage. We explore an old allegory about deflection and blame as a mirror for modern conversations about exploitation and molestation. If we say we want accountability, we have to be willing to look at the parts of the story we avoid, especially the family silence that keeps harm alive for generations. I also share a pivotal moment from my own journey, including a psychiatrist’s hard question about the cycle of abuse and what it means to refuse that cycle. Then we hold space for an anonymous caller’s story, a reminder that survival often looks like leaving, choosing safety, and carrying secrets for decades. Healing does not mean forgetting. It can mean the trauma no longer narrates your whole life. We talk about naming the wound, reclaiming authorship, and why the way forward is quieter and more personal than social media arguments: truth spoken in safe homes, faith spaces, and healing spaces where survivors are protected and supported. If you know someone who’s hurting, share this with them, subscribe for more redemptive stories, and leave a review so more people can find a starting point for healing. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E9
    April 7 · 21 min

    You Can Share A Past Yet Live Two Truths

    Send us Fan Mail Are you reacting to what’s happening or to the story your nervous system learned to tell about what’s happening? That question sits at the center of this reflective Mindfully With Some Shadow Space session, where I slow down with you to look at perspective as the quiet force shaping grief, conflict, certainty, and even the way we interpret ordinary objects. I start with what I heard from listeners after a series on societal narcissism: stories of loss, dismissal, and the strange ways people police grief. From there, we widen the lens to the psychological weight of modern life. We’re overstimulated, carrying a firehose of information in our pockets, performing our opinions in public, and forming instant judgments before the facts arrive. When everything feels urgent, we don’t just think faster, we harden faster. Then we ground the idea of perspective in two stories. One comes from Bones, where two siblings share the same childhood yet walk away with different truths. The other is personal: a clock I saw as flames chasing time, while my friend saw open palms trying to save it. That single image opens into deeper work around origin stories, emotional safety, survival mode, and why some of us notice danger first. We end with a practical mindfulness invitation: breathe, slow perception, and try a beginner’s mind, because certainty can be the biggest obstacle to understanding. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review. What do you see first when you look at your own life right now: flames or open palms? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E9
    March 31 · 57 min

    Food As Culture, Memory, And Medicine For The Body And Mind

    Send us Fan Mail Your plate is a mirror. Not just of taste, but of attention, memory, and the way your body asks for care long before you feel unwell. We sit down with a chef, speaker, and wellness advocate whose mantra—make your food your medicine—turns everyday choices into a healing practice that’s rooted in culture and guided by presence. We start where most of us rush past: the market. Why busy shoppers often pay more for worse produce, how pre-sliced greens hide older stock, and why price “deals” can signal hidden processing that taxes your gut. From simple hygiene rituals to DIY prep and smarter sourcing, we lay out small, reliable steps that improve digestion, sleep, and mental clarity without sacrificing flavor. If you’ve ever felt trapped between “healthy” and “tasty,” you’ll hear how to redesign familiar meals—keeping stews, porridges, and local staples—while swapping oils, methods, and seasoning so the plan sticks. The conversation dives into the gut–brain connection with practical takeaways: what late-night eating does to your sleep cycle, how overheated oils blunt alertness, and why moderation should follow your personal history, not trends. We also unpack food memories that shape lifelong aversions and show how knowledge, gradual exposure, and reframing can rebuild trust with foods that serve you. From pepper myths and family patterns to micro-gardens in sacks and weekday water therapy, this is a toolkit for real life in a fast city. Walk away with a kinder way to feed yourself: be present when you buy, intentional when you cook, and curious when your body speaks. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review with the one small change you’ll start today—what’s the habit you’re committing to? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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  • S7 · E8
    March 24 · 33 min

    Put Down The Scorecards

    Send us Fan Mail Healing can turn into a stage play before we even notice. We share, we overexplain, we chase validation—then wonder why peace still feels far away. This episode leans hard into a countercultural truth: your healing doesn’t need an audience. We unpack how to protect a quiet process in a loud world, where trends dictate timing and vulnerability becomes content. Instead of performing your pain, we explore how to curate safety, move at the pace of honesty, and let growth be measured by alignment rather than applause. We dig into the lifelong dance between belonging and fitting in, especially as parents raising teens who want both authenticity and acceptance. That leads us into reparenting and “ancestral audits”—taking stock of origin stories on both sides of the family and finding grace for imperfect caregivers while choosing new patterns. Along the way, we demystify mental health by grounding it in daily alignment: thoughts, emotions, and behavior moving in the same direction. If they don’t, we pause and ask better questions instead of pushing harder on a public narrative. We also examine friendship through a sharper lens: who stands with you during storms, and who celebrates you in sunlight without calling it bragging? That difference matters. Faith and personal agency thread through the conversation as well. Spiritual leaders and practices can be anchors, but they should empower choice, not replace responsibility. Then we name a subtle trap: the comfort of pain. Familiar hurt can feel safe, almost like a warm blanket. We talk about how to honor the lesson without living under it, using small, steady steps that keep you protected and moving. To close, we offer six journal prompts designed to shift healing from performance to practice—questions about safety, pressure, belonging, inherited patterns, and turning pain into a doorway. Take one a day, be kind to what rises, and let awareness do quiet work. If you want company without noise, join our WhatsApp reflection space for listening and shared humanity. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs gentleness, and leave a review so more people can find a slower, truer path to wholeness. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/ https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

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