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Aaron & Jenna Zint

Aaron and Jenna have been married for over a decade and love talking to people about their relationships, the messiness, the struggle and the victories in all of it. If you're married or planning on it, you can expect 1) Tools for the growth of your marriage and you personally 2) Hope for a healthy marriage no matter what you've experienced up to this point 3) Laughter and comfort when you say, "That's totally us!" and "We've been there!"

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  • S3 · E92
    Oct 23, 2025 · 38 min

    But first...Curiosity

    Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation? You start building a case in your head, stacking evidence, rehearsing your defense... all before you’ve actually asked a question. This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity. When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment. Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection. In this episode, we'll unpack: • why your brain fills in gaps (and gets the story wrong most of the time) • how to replace courtroom conversations with curious ones • a pre-confrontation filter that helps you pause before reacting Listen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts. To enter to win: share a podcast episode on your social media stories & tag me @jennazint You can enter as much as once a day. Ends Oct 21 Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  • S3 · E91
    Oct 3, 2025 · 38 min

    Can you put sex on the calendar?

    Please don't listen with your kids. Our case for scheduling sex. When life gets full—kids, work, ministry, and the endless to-do list—intimacy is often the first thing to slip through the cracks. We’re told sex should always be spontaneous, but in real marriages that can leave couples disconnected and frustrated. In this episode, we talk honestly about scheduling sex—why it isn’t cold or unromantic, but actually a powerful way to prioritize each other. We’ll unpack the myths around spontaneity, share how intentional rhythms can actually increase desire and connection, and give you practical tools for creating space for intimacy without guilt, pressure, or shame. If you’ve ever felt like the busyness of life is crowding out closeness, this conversation will help you reframe intimacy as something worth planning for—because a thriving marriage doesn’t happen by accident. To enter to win: share a podcast episode on your social media stories & tag me @jennazint You can enter as much as once a day. Ends Oct 21 Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  • S3 · E90
    Sep 26, 2025 · 27 min

    When teasing turns toxic: scoffs & sarcasm- the slow drip of contempt

    We all scoff. We all slip into sarcasm. But what if those “little” habits aren’t as harmless as they seem? Research from the Gottman Institute shows that contempt — often disguised as casual teasing — is the single strongest predictor of death to connection (aka: divorce) Scoffing, sarcasm, and eye-rolling may feel small in the moment, but they send powerful messages of superiority, dismissal, and disrespect. In this episode, we unpack how these micro-habits of contempt impact the brain, erode safety, and poison connection in marriage. You’ll hear real-life examples of how scoffing and sarcasm sneak into everyday conversations, what’s really hiding underneath those jabs (hint: it’s often unspoken pain), and practical ways to replace contempt with curiosity and vulnerability. If you’ve ever said, “Oh, we’re just teasing,” this episode will help you see why even a few “drops of poison” can contaminate the well of your relationship — and how to choose a healthier, more life-giving way forward. We are giving you a 30 day Challenge: Weed out scoffing & sarcasm from your dialogue. See what a difference it makes. (Remember: don't use this challenge to start tallying how often your partner uses them- mind your half of the yard only :) Promo Price until 9/13/26: Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  • S3 · E89
    Sep 19, 2025 · 44 min

    Steps to Move From Rumination > to > Processing

    Last time we talked about ruminating vs. processing. This week, I’m walking you through the how—practical steps to move through pain even if the other person doesn’t respond well. Here’s the framework: Notice your looping → instead, name the feeling Untangle your worth from their behavior Remind yourself: I can be okay even if… Stay rooted in your power—choose your next step Looping keeps you stuck, but processing sets you free. Podcasts Referenced in this episode: Quit Mind Reading (stop assuming, start asking) Offended? Check your boundaries Promo Price until 9/13/26: Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  • S3 · E88
    Sep 11, 2025 · 30 min

    Ruminating vs Processing

    Can you tell the difference between when your emotions are hijacking you & when they're helping you? Noticing and expressing our emotions is a good thing. In fact, it’s vital for a healthy marriage. But there’s a thin line between naming our emotions and over-identifying with them. That’s where we slip into rumination—looping on the hurt, replaying the offense, and assigning meaning that keeps us stuck. In this episode, we explore the difference between processing your emotions and looping on them. We’ll look at how the brain responds when you over-identify with a painful feeling, why that keeps you in the spin cycle of stress, and how to shift toward processing in a way that actually heals and moves you forward. You’ll learn: Why emotions are valuable signals, but sketchy narrators when you over-identify with them How looping recycles pain, while processing frees you—even if your spouse doesn’t respond the way you hoped The simple truth of “Looping hurts me. Processing heals me.” This episode is all about reclaiming the gift of emotion—without letting it hijack your peace. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

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