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Marriage Lab · Oct 23, 2025 · 35 min

But first...Curiosity

Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation? You start building a case in your head, stacking evidence, rehearsing your defense... all before you’ve actually asked a question. This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity. When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment. Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection. In this episode, we'll unpack: • why your brain fills in gaps (and gets the story wrong most of the time) • how to replace courtroom conversations with curious ones • a pre-confrontation filter that helps you pause before reacting Listen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts. Promo Price until 9/13/26: Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

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Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation?
You start building a case in your head, stacking evidence, rehearsing your defense... all before you’ve actually asked a question.

This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity.

When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment.

Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection.

In this episode, we'll unpack:
 • why your brain fills in gaps (and gets the story wrong most of the time)
 • how to replace courtroom conversations with curious ones
 • a pre-confrontation filter that helps you pause before reacting

Listen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts.

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

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GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 


>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

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