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Aaron & Jenna Zint

Aaron and Jenna have been married for over a decade and love talking to people about their relationships, the messiness, the struggle and the victories in all of it. If you're married or planning on it, you can expect 1) Tools for the growth of your marriage and you personally 2) Hope for a healthy marriage no matter what you've experienced up to this point 3) Laughter and comfort when you say, "That's totally us!" and "We've been there!"

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Wednesday · 43 min
"I told you so..." is sabotaging your marriage
What if “I told you so” is doing more damage in your marriage than you realize? What if it's actually reinforcing patterns you THINK it's dismantling?! In this episode, we explores how our need to be right—or to make sure our spouse “learns the lesson”—can quietly turn into over-functioning, control, and even boasting. We’ll talk about giving your spouse back the dignity of learning, owning your half without managing theirs, and trusting that sometimes reality (and the Holy Spirit) can teach the lesson without your help. Because sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let yourself be right… quietly. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
Monday · 33 min
Generosity: The Marriage Value We’ve Been Rethinking
After studying generosity together, we started taking a closer look at our own relationship with money, possessions, and giving—and noticed a few things we didn’t expect. In this episode, we talk honestly about greed in a hyper-consumeristic world, the ways we’re each still growing, and how even something as good as “being a good steward” can sometimes become a reason to hold too tightly to what we have. This isn’t a polished lesson on generosity—it’s a conversation about what we’re noticing, confronting, and rethinking as we try to make generosity a deeper value in our lives and marriage. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
August 5 · 20 min
The Nerdy Path to Connection
Most married couples want to feel connected—they're just exhausted. So connection often ends up looking like quietly watching TV together, tackling hard conversations about conflict or pain, or squeezing in the occasional date night (... if time, money, and childcare all cooperate.) But what if there's another path? In this episode, we talk about one of our fav connecting rhythms as a couple: learning together. A short book. A Bible study. A topic we're curious about. It's low stakes, doesn't require someone to be "the problem," and gives us something new to explore together. We've found that learning introduces fresh ideas, reveals sides of each other we hadn't seen before, and creates meaningful conversations that aren't built around stress, logistics, or conflict. Especially after years of marriage, it can feel like you've already heard all of your spouse's stories. Learning together creates new ones. If you're looking for a practical, inexpensive, and surprisingly connecting rhythm beyond date nights and difficult conversations, this episode is for you. Click here for the study on Generosity we mentioned. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
May 25 · 48 min
User Error of Hope- if "have hope" feels like a chore
What do you do when you’re losing hope in your marriage/a relationship? Not because you don’t love your spouse. Not because you’re giving up. But because the same painful patterns keep repeating, and you’re exhausted waiting for change. In this episode, we talk about why many of us misunderstand biblical hope, especially in relationships. We often treat hope like optimism, instant relief, or confidence our spouse will finally change. But what if hope was never meant to work that way? We explore why hope is not a feeling you wait for, but a perspective you cultivate, how to stay anchored when change feels slow, and why remembering God’s faithfulness matters in seasons of recurring pain. Because hope doesn’t always change your circumstances immediately, but it does change how you endure while waiting :) Two Youtube Video Jenna refrenced about Hope: #1 Video for "Remembering" #2 Video for "Remembering" Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
May 7 · 47 min
Never Enough: how your inner critic PRETENDS to be your coach
Most people think the “never enough” voice in their head is the thing keeping them motivated. The voice that says: You should be doing more. You’re behind. You’re wasting time. You should be further along by now. But here’s the plot twist: that voice isn’t unique to you. Almost everyone hears it. The difference is not who hears it. The difference is who builds their life around it. The question is whether you’ve mistaken it for wisdom. In this episode, we unpack the sneaky way self-contempt disguises itself as responsibility, ambition, discipline, or drive. We talk about why so many people accidentally partner with an inner critic they think is helping them succeed—while constantly moving the finish line and dismissing their growth. We also explore: • why high-capacity people are especially vulnerable to this mindset • the difference between healthy conviction and chronic internal criticism • how the “never enough” voice fuels burnout, shame, comparison, and hopelessness • why progress becomes invisible when contempt is your measuring stick • how curiosity creates transformation more effectively than self-hatred ever will Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
April 13 · 26 min
When you're emotionally raw, don't crowdsource your worth....
Emotionally raw seasons can heighten everything—especially the desire to feel seen, known, and secure. In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to build a preventative habit of anchoring your identity in God first, rather than turning to others to define your worth in vulnerable moments. Over time, you begin to realize that where you go for reassurance in hard seasons shapes not only your peace, but your relationships. This conversation is about learning to navigate those seasons with more stability, more clarity, and less unnecessary mess along the way. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
April 3 · 22 min
Don't ask triggered people BIG questions
Ever ask gradually big relationship question in the middle of an argument… and then regretted the answer? In this episode, we break down a common (but damaging) pattern: asking life-defining questions when someone is emotionally triggered. What it often looks like 👇 • “Why didn’t you invite me?” → “Do you have more fun with them?” → “So you don’t have fun with me?” → “Do you even enjoy being around me?” →“Do you even like me?” → “Are you happier without me?” → “Is something wrong with us?” → “Do you even want this relationship?” 😬 See how fast it escalates? We unpack: • Why triggered brains give exaggerated, painful answers • The “staircase” of escalation most couples fall into • The difference between curiosity vs. panic-driven questioning • What’s actually happening in your brain (emotional flooding + amygdala hijack) • Why you’re not “getting clarity”… you’re digging for pain And most importantly— the simple habit that protects your relationship: 👉 Don’t ask big questions when someone is triggered. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation more hurt than helped, this episode will give you a better path: pause → regulate → return to clarity. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
March 17 · 36 min
How calls with your spouse go sideways (& how to fix it)
Phone calls with your spouse should be simple… so why do they so often go sideways? In this episode, we unpack the subtle dynamics that quietly derail connection: • unspoken expectations • not checking if the other person even has capacity • unclear intentions (are we connecting or handling logistics?) • hoping for something deeper… without saying it ...and the hurt that builds when your spouse can’t show up the way you needed—especially in the middle of a workday What starts as a quick call can quickly spiral into misunderstanding, frustration, or even conflict that leaks into the rest of your day. The good news? Most of this is preventable. We walk you through a simple 3-step framework to help you: • set clear expectations • honor each other’s capacity • and actually get what you need out of the conversation So your phone calls stop feeling like landmines… and start becoming small, consistent moments of connection (or pure logistics exchange) again. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
February 26 · 36 min
Stop Calling Strategies “Needs”
In this episode, we unpack one of the most practical distinctions we teach: the difference between a need and a strategy. A need is a relational longing: connection, safety, being seen, being prioritized. A strategy is your idea of how that need should get met: date night, quicker texts, no phones at night, doing the dishes before sitting down. The problem is, most of us accidentally disguise strategies as needs… and that’s where control sneaks in. We talk about why that feels so painful (for both people), how “requests” turn into “demands” when there’s punishment attached, and why collaboration creates way more buy-in than prescriptions ever will. We'll talk about how to peel back the strategy to name the real need underneath, so you can fight less about the method and connect more around the longing. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
February 18 · 28 min
Understanding Yourself Without Staying Stuck
Sometimes self-awareness helps us grow… and sometimes it quietly gives us permission to stay exactly where we are. In this episode, we talk about the subtle ways insight can turn into self-justification—whether it’s personality types, triggers, habits, or even love languages—and how awareness is meant to become a starting point for transformation, not a comfortable resting place. We share stories from our own marriage about conflict avoidance, travel differences, stress habits, and learning how to let understanding lead to maturity rather than excuses. If you’ve ever heard the phrase, “That’s just how I am,” this conversation will help reframe awareness as an invitation to grow—one small, intentional step at a time. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
February 11 · 1 hr 16 min
Divine Intervention: Amy's story- Divorced & Remarried
A story only God could write. 💔➡️❤️ Divorce, divine encounters, heart-level repentance, and a miraculous reconciliation. Listen to hear Amy's testimony of when God interrupts a story that felt finished. It will remind you all things are possible with Him. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
February 3 · 35 min
Different Flavors of Comfort in Families ( feat: Rosie Zint)
In this episode, Jenna is joined by her nine-year-old daughter, Rosie, for a sweet and surprisingly insightful conversation about what comfort looks like in their family. Together, they talk about the different “flavors of comfort” each family member needs when big emotions show up—whether that’s physical touch, someone staying close, space to process alone, or quiet presence. Rosie shares how she prefers space before reconnecting, while Jenna reflects on how having someone in the room can actually make it harder for her to notice what she’s feeling. The conversation is tender, honest, and full of Rosie’s natural charm. Toward the end, Jenna also shares a recent meaningful moment they experienced together with the Lord—offering a gentle invitation for parents to cultivate similar moments of connection, emotional safety, and spiritual openness with their own kids. This episode is both practical and heart-level, and a reminder that learning how we give and receive comfort can deepen our relationships in powerful ways. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S4 · E2
January 28 · 40 min
The Dopamine Hunt behind 6,7 : how to harness joy grows where attention goes
Dopamine isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about seeking. Your brain lights up most when the reward isn’t guaranteed— when you’re searching, anticipating, scanning. This is why elementary kids around the country are stoked out of their minds when they encounter or hear 6,7. What can we learn here that could help us adults harness & grow our joy as we train our attention intentionally?? Optimism isn’t just a personality trait. It’s a trained habit of attention. In this episode, we talk about: • the dopamine “hunt” • why unpredictability fuels motivation • how learned optimism actually works • and what faith has to do with training your brain to look for goodness Joy doesn’t come from forcing positivity. It grows where attention is practiced. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S4 · E1
January 12 · 32 min
Stuck in the Same Fight: how naming patterns can break the cycles
Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in marriage—even when the topic keeps changing? In this episode, we talk about the power of naming your patterns: the emotional and relational loops that quietly drive conflict, disconnection, and reactivity. We share real examples from our marriage, parenting, and coaching work to show how awareness creates space between a trigger and your response. When you can name what’s happening inside you—passivity, shutdown, avoidance, mind-reading, or self-rejection—you gain more self-control, clarity, and freedom to choose a different response. This isn’t about suppressing emotions or fixing your spouse; it’s about growing self-awareness so you don’t keep making the same mess. If you want practical tools for breaking unhealthy patterns, regulating emotions, and creating healthier communication in your marriage, this episode will help you slow down, get curious, and choose differently. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S3 · E93
Nov 11, 2025 · 32 min
Rethinking Relative Visits
Family visits are supposed to bring connection… but sometimes they bring exhaustion, awkward expectations, and a drained bank account. In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when the way you’re visiting family isn’t working anymore — and how to get creative about connection without spending a fortune. We’ll share our own story (including a few hard lessons from our in-laws 😅) and offer practical alternatives for families who live far apart: meeting in the middle, combining trips, camping, even serving together. If you’ve ever felt torn between your budget and your relationships, this episode will help you rethink what “showing up” can look like in this season. Click here to donate to our missions trip: Zint family link To grab Jenna's e-workbook>> Peaceful Christmas Planner Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S3 · E92
Oct 23, 2025 · 37 min
But first...Curiosity
Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation? You start building a case in your head, stacking evidence, rehearsing your defense... all before you’ve actually asked a question. This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity. When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment. Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection. In this episode, we'll unpack: • why your brain fills in gaps (and gets the story wrong most of the time) • how to replace courtroom conversations with curious ones • a pre-confrontation filter that helps you pause before reacting Listen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S3 · E91
Oct 3, 2025 · 37 min
Can you put sex on the calendar?
Please don't listen with your kids. Our case for scheduling sex. When life gets full—kids, work, ministry, and the endless to-do list—intimacy is often the first thing to slip through the cracks. We’re told sex should always be spontaneous, but in real marriages that can leave couples disconnected and frustrated. In this episode, we talk honestly about scheduling sex—why it isn’t cold or unromantic, but actually a powerful way to prioritize each other. We’ll unpack the myths around spontaneity, share how intentional rhythms can actually increase desire and connection, and give you practical tools for creating space for intimacy without guilt, pressure, or shame. If you’ve ever felt like the busyness of life is crowding out closeness, this conversation will help you reframe intimacy as something worth planning for—because a thriving marriage doesn’t happen by accident. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S3 · E90
Sep 26, 2025 · 28 min
When teasing turns toxic: scoffs & sarcasm- the slow drip of contempt
We all scoff. We all slip into sarcasm. But what if those “little” habits aren’t as harmless as they seem? Research from the Gottman Institute shows that contempt — often disguised as casual teasing — is the single strongest predictor of death to connection (aka: divorce) Scoffing, sarcasm, and eye-rolling may feel small in the moment, but they send powerful messages of superiority, dismissal, and disrespect. In this episode, we unpack how these micro-habits of contempt impact the brain, erode safety, and poison connection in marriage. You’ll hear real-life examples of how scoffing and sarcasm sneak into everyday conversations, what’s really hiding underneath those jabs (hint: it’s often unspoken pain), and practical ways to replace contempt with curiosity and vulnerability. If you’ve ever said, “Oh, we’re just teasing,” this episode will help you see why even a few “drops of poison” can contaminate the well of your relationship — and how to choose a healthier, more life-giving way forward. We are giving you a 30 day Challenge: Weed out scoffing & sarcasm from your dialogue. See what a difference it makes. (Remember: don't use this challenge to start tallying how often your partner uses them- mind your half of the yard only :) Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S3 · E89
Sep 19, 2025 · 46 min
Steps to Move From Rumination > to > Processing
Last time we talked about ruminating vs. processing. This week, I’m walking you through the how—practical steps to move through pain even if the other person doesn’t respond well. Here’s the framework: Notice your looping → instead, name the feeling Untangle your worth from their behavior Remind yourself: I can be okay even if… Stay rooted in your power—choose your next step Looping keeps you stuck, but processing sets you free. Podcasts Referenced in this episode: Quit Mind Reading (stop assuming, start asking) Offended? Check your boundaries Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn
S3 · E88
Sep 11, 2025 · 30 min
Ruminating vs Processing
Can you tell the difference between when your emotions are hijacking you & when they're helping you? Noticing and expressing our emotions is a good thing. In fact, it’s vital for a healthy marriage. But there’s a thin line between naming our emotions and over-identifying with them. That’s where we slip into rumination—looping on the hurt, replaying the offense, and assigning meaning that keeps us stuck. In this episode, we explore the difference between processing your emotions and looping on them. We’ll look at how the brain responds when you over-identify with a painful feeling, why that keeps you in the spin cycle of stress, and how to shift toward processing in a way that actually heals and moves you forward. You’ll learn: Why emotions are valuable signals, but sketchy narrators when you over-identify with them How looping recycles pain, while processing frees you—even if your spouse doesn’t respond the way you hoped The simple truth of “Looping hurts me. Processing heals me.” This episode is all about reclaiming the gift of emotion—without letting it hijack your peace. Click to join the interest list for Jenna's wives course Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<< This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

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