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I Have ADHD Podcast

Kristen Carder

The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all. 

Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults with ADHD in her coaching program, FOCUSED. 

****OBVIOUSLY, the content in this podcast is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Kristen Carder is not a medical professional.

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  • #449
    Thursday · 14 min

    449 BITESIZE | ADHD? Stop Trying to Do Everything Yourself!

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #406: No Meds, No Shame. Here’s How I’d Support My ADHD Without an Rx Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #448
    Tuesday · 55 min

    448 Why ADHDers Sabotage Their Own Success

    What if you're not actually afraid of failing…you're afraid of succeeding? My book, You're Not in Trouble, is officially out in the UK, and I should be feeling on top of the world, right? Well…not exactly. 😂 Instead, I'm feeling vulnerable, uncomfortable, and honestly? A little desperate to hide from everyone. In this episode, I'm getting REAL about why success can feel so terrifying for adults with ADHD. We're talking about self-sabotage, rejection sensitivity, imposter syndrome, and why our brains sometimes prefer the familiarity of failure over the uncertainty of success. I'm sharing how I've been navigating the discomfort of putting my work into the world, why I nearly sabotaged my own celebration, and how self-compassion is helping me keep going instead of running away. If you've ever gotten close to something you've wanted and suddenly felt the urge to quit, hide, or blow it all up, this episode is for you. You can do hard things AND be kind to yourself along the way. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #447
    October 15 · 14 min

    447 BITESIZE | Improve ADHD For FREE

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #406: No Meds, No Shame. Here’s How I’d Support My ADHD Without an Rx Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #446
    October 13 · 47 min

    446 You Can’t Productivity-Hack Your Way Out of Overwhelm (Do THIS Instead!)

    If you have ADHD, you probably know the feeling: you’re overwhelmed, so you make a giant list, try to get more productive, and tell yourself you’ll feel better once you finally catch up. Except…you never actually catch up. In this episode, I’m breaking down why overwhelm is not a productivity problem. It’s a mismatch between what your ADHD brain can realistically carry and what you believe you should be able to carry. I’m walking you through my entire STOP Method for moving through overwhelm: See what’s happening, Take the pressure off, Open up to what you need, and then Proceed one step at a time. We’re talking about self-compassion, emotional regulation, asking for support, saying no, understanding your actual capacity, and why productivity comes LAST. If you’ve been trying to work your way out of overwhelm, I want you to try something different. Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #445
    October 8 · 15 min

    445 BITESIZE | Is It ADHD—or Is Your Nervous System Stuck in Fight-or-Flight?

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #404: There’s No Rush: Getting Out of Fight-or-Flight with Jenna Free Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #444
    October 6 · 53 min

    444 When They Don’t Believe Your ADHD Diagnosis

    Have you ever told someone you have ADHD…only for them to question whether you really do? In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when our diagnoses, experiences, emotions, and even our own understanding of ourselves are repeatedly invalidated. I recently learned about traumatic invalidation—when your environment repeatedly communicates that your emotions, experiences, or characteristics are unreasonable, unacceptable, or wrong. And WOW did this hit home. For so many of us with ADHD, being questioned about our diagnosis isn’t an isolated experience. It lands on top of years of being told we’re too sensitive, lazy, dramatic, not trying hard enough, or just need to “apply ourselves.” We’re talking about validation, self-trust, why you may constantly feel like you have to defend yourself, and how to decide who is safe enough to receive your vulnerability. Most importantly: your diagnosis and lived experience are not up for a vote. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #443
    October 1 · 13 min

    443 BITESIZE | Why You Always Feel Behind With ADHD

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #404: There’s No Rush: Getting Out of Fight-or-Flight with Jenna Free Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #442
    September 29 · 57 min

    442 Hey ADHDer, You’re Not Bad at Boundaries. You’re Ignoring Your Limits.

    What if the problem isn’t that you need better boundaries…but that you keep pretending you don’t have limits? In this coaching conversation, I’m talking with Claire, a children’s book illustrator who has spent years saying yes to too much, working nights and weekends, relying on hyperfocus to get everything done, and eventually burning herself out. We unpack why ADHD hyperfocus isn’t always the “superpower” people make it out to be—and how constantly overriding your own capacity can cost you your health, relationships, creativity, and trust in yourself. We also talk about the beliefs we inherit from our families about work, success, money, and rest—and what it looks like to consciously break the agreements that no longer serve us. If you’re constantly overcommitting now and assuming Future You will somehow figure it out, this conversation is for you. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #441
    September 24 · 9 min

    441 BITESIZE | Stop Trying to Control Your ADHD Kid—Try This Instead

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #402: When Traditional Parenting Fails: Raising Strong-Willed Kids Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #440
    September 22 · 44 min

    440 5 Reasons to Cancel Me Before My Book Comes Out

    With You’re Not in Trouble getting ready to make its way into the world, I am feeling the vulnerability that comes with putting so much of myself into a book. So instead of waiting for people to “find her out,” I'm putting it all on the table. I share five things you may not know about me—from unconventional choices I've made to support my ADHD, to my Christian faith and complicated feelings about homeschooling, to the questions I have about the connection between ADHD and trauma. And then there’s the one I've never shared publicly before: I wrote a book about healthy relationships…and haven't spoken to my parents in more than three years. This is a vulnerable conversation about ADHD, trauma, faith, family, estrangement, relationships, and what it means to stop hiding the parts of yourself you’re afraid others might judge. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #439
    September 17 · 12 min

    439 BITESIZE | Ari Tuckman on Your "Ball and Chain" To-Do List

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #400: Too Many Ideas, Not Enough Follow-Through? Listen to This Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #438
    September 15 · 1 hr 2 min

    438 ADHD Q&A: Your Questions Answered LIVE

    What happens when you stop trying to force your ADHD brain to function like everyone else’s? In this live Q&A episode, Kristen answers listener questions about some of the messiest parts of life with ADHD: perfectionism, working memory, parenting, emotional regulation, self-forgiveness, relationships, burnout, and the pressure to “do it all.” Kristen explains why perfectionism can actually be a form of self-protection, why you need to stop expecting your brain to remember everything, and how making things easier for yourself isn’t cheating—it’s smart ADHD accommodation. She also dives into the importance of self-compassion when you don’t follow through, why supporting your own ADHD is essential when parenting an ADHD child, and why she firmly rejects the idea that ADHD is a “superpower.” ADHD can be deeply impairing. Naming that reality doesn’t diminish your strengths—it gives you an explanation for your struggles and a roadmap for getting the support you deserve. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #436
    September 8 · 1 hr 2 min

    436 ADHD, AI, Money & the Things We Avoid

    What happens when two ADHDers sit down with almost no agenda and start talking? You get a little bit of everything—and somehow, it all comes back to ADHD. Kristen is joined by longtime FOCUSED member Matt Ciciarelli for a candid conversation about the very real (and sometimes hilarious) ways ADHD shows up in everyday life. They get into using AI as an ADHD support tool, the difference between asking for help and outsourcing your thinking, finding a career that actually works with your ADHD brain, and why hyperfocus seems readily available for the things we WANT to do…but disappears when something feels heavy, boring, or shame-filled. Matt also shares what he’s learned about work, finances, gluten-free living, and finally finding a job that fits his brain. Plus, Kristen and Matt react to the controversial documentary The Great ADHD Myth. It’s honest, funny, a little chaotic—and very ADHD. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • September 4 · 1 hr 13 min

    Why You Can't "Push Through" ADHD Overwhelm (and What to Do Instead)

    If overwhelm makes you want to shut down, hide, procrastinate—or somehow try to do everything at once—this episode is for you. Kristen breaks down why ADHD overwhelm isn’t simply a productivity problem and why “trying harder” or finally getting caught up usually doesn’t create the relief we’re looking for. You’ll learn how ADHD impacts your capacity, executive functioning, emotional regulation, and nervous system—and why all of that can make everyday life feel like 10 things are screaming at you at the same volume. Kristen also introduces the first step of her STOP Method: See What’s Happening. Instead of immediately trying to fix your overwhelm, you’ll learn how to recognize what’s happening without piling on shame, judgment, or blame. See it. Don’t solve it. Want to go deeper? Kristen is teaching the full STOP Method throughout September inside FOCUSED, her monthly ADHD coaching membership. Learn more and join at ihaveadhd.com/focused. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #439
    September 3 · 12 min

    435 BITESIZE | Using AI to Support Your ADHD

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #394: I Tried Using ChatGPT for My ADHD… Here’s What Happened Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #434
    September 1 · 43 min

    434 Why You Keep Breaking Your Own Rules

    What if the reason you keep breaking your own boundaries isn’t a lack of discipline? In this episode, Kristen dives into Part 2 of the conversation on internal boundaries: the rules and limits we set for ourselves to protect the life we actually want. For many adults with ADHD, boundaries can trigger instant resistance. If rules, expectations, or authority were used to control, shame, or coerce you growing up, even your own reasonable limits can provoke an internal response of, “You’re not the boss of me.” Kristen explores how to shift from self-control to self-collaboration. You’ll learn why “should” boundaries rarely work, how perfectionism destroys self-trust, and what to do when you inevitably break a boundary. Instead of spiraling into guilt and shame, Kristen teaches you how to repair with yourself, get curious about what support was missing, and begin again. Because internal boundaries aren’t about restriction. They’re about protection. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #433
    August 27 · 16 min

    433 BITESIZE | ADHD & Dyslexia: The Overlap You Might Be Missing

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #396: Hidden Dyslexia Struggles (and Why ADHD Might Not Be the Whole Story) Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #432
    August 25 · 53 min

    432 Why You Keep Breaking Promises to Yourself

    What if the reason you keep breaking promises to yourself isn’t because you’re lazy or undisciplined—but because some part of you still hears boundaries as control? In this episode, we dive into internal boundaries: the loving limits we set with ourselves to protect our health, energy, relationships, values, and future. For ADHD adults, these boundaries can be especially difficult to honor. Time blindness, impulsivity, discomfort intolerance, perfectionism, and a lifetime of rebelling against rules can make even reasonable limits feel restrictive. But internal boundaries aren’t about deprivation. They’re about self-trust. You’ll learn why unrealistic “fantasy boundaries” backfire, how your childhood experiences with rules may still be influencing you, and how to create limits that actually support the life you want. Kristen also shares practical examples around sleep, food, work, spending, alcohol, relationships, and connecting with your future self. If you’ve ever thought, Why can’t I just do what I told myself I was going to do?—press play. Internal boundaries might be the missing piece. Preorder You're Not in Trouble here! Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  • #431
    August 20 · 16 min

    431 BITESIZE | ADHD & Shame: Release Yourself from Self-Loathing

    Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #396: Hidden Dyslexia Struggles (and Why ADHD Might Not Be the Whole Story) Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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