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Heal Yourself Podcast

Kira Whitham, Denise Loutfi

A podcast diving into all aspects of healing; from nurturing your relationship with yourself, to functional medicine insights, to transforming your money story, we're here to empower you with the knowledge and tools to create lasting change.


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  • #108
    Thursday · 29 min

    Episode 108: Six Ego Traps That Run Your Life

    Send us Fan Mail Your ego is not just arrogance or being self-absorbed. The way we see it, ego is the identity you’ve constructed out of what you have, what you do, how you look, what you’ve survived, and what other people say about you. And while it can protect you and push you to grow, it can also keep you stuck in control, comparison, and constant self-evaluation. So Denise and I slow it down and get practical about what ego is actually doing in your day-to-day life, and how it shows up in your body, your stress levels, and your choices. We use Wayne Dyer’s framework of six ego beliefs and talk through each one with real-life examples: “I am what I have,” “I am what I do,” and “I am what other people think of me.” We also dig into the deeper separation stories like “I am separate from everyone else,” the endless “I’ll be okay when…” mindset, and the spiritual piece of feeling disconnected from Source, God, or something bigger. If you’ve been chasing the next goal, the next purchase, the next version of yourself, this conversation offers a calmer, clearer way to pursue what you want without letting it define you. Then we bring it home with two simple tools: the “peel back the mask” question (strip away roles, accomplishments, relationships, and history to see what remains) and the orange-squeeze analogy (when life squeezes you, what comes out shows what you’re carrying). If this lands with you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #107
    October 1 · 25 min

    Episode 107: Stop Chasing Root Causes

    Send us Fan Mail The most tempting form of avoidance is the kind that looks like self-improvement. When you’re stressed, symptomatic, or stuck in old patterns, it feels responsible to search for the next root cause: another lab, another supplement, another therapy modality, another round of shadow work, another nervous system practice. But what if all that “digging” is keeping you in limbo because it gives you answers without asking you to change your life? We get real about the difference between helpful curiosity and endless investigation. We talk about why people crave a single clean explanation, how that need for certainty can push you to over-analyze your past, and why healing doesn’t require you to remember every origin story to move forward. From functional nutrition basics to mindset and self-love, we keep coming back to one practical filter: will this new information change what you do tomorrow, or are you postponing the uncomfortable next step? You’ll hear our take on spiritual rabbit holes, inner child work, and nervous system regulation, plus why rigid routines can backfire for anyone who already leans perfectionistic. We share simple, grounded alternatives you can use in real time: moment-by-moment support, fewer “projects,” and more follow-through on boundaries, sleep, circadian rhythm, food choices, and the small actions that actually move the needle. If you’re tired of feeling like healing is a full-time job, press play. Then subscribe, share this with a friend who’s stuck in the research loop, and leave a review so more people can find a calmer way forward. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #106
    September 24 · 30 min

    Episode 106: Stop Collecting Supplements Like Pokémon

    Send us Fan Mail Your body isn’t “breaking” in midlife. It’s asking for a new strategy. In today's episode, Kira is joined by Kelly Lupshaw for a grounded conversation on how women can stop chasing symptoms and start rebuilding the systems that drive real energy, calm, and longevity. We dig into what “systems over symptoms” actually looks like in everyday life: why swapping a pharmaceutical for a natural supplement can still keep you stuck, and why ownership is the missing piece for so many health journeys. Kelly shares how her background in physical therapy and brain based rehab shaped her approach to mindset and behavior change, including how your nighttime self-talk and first moments in the morning can reinforce old patterns or create a new identity. We also connect health and wealth in a way that feels practical, not woo. When your nervous system is fried and your metabolism is struggling, it’s harder to think clearly, show up consistently, or build the life you want. That’s why we keep coming back to foundations for midlife women navigating perimenopause and menopause: comprehensive blood work, inflammation support, metabolic health, strength training, and sleep that actually restores you. The big takeaway is permission with a plan: rest and play are not laziness, they’re part of a real recovery program. About Kellie: Kellie Lupsha is the founder of Wellness Activated™, host of the Thriving in Midlife podcast, and creator of the Activation First™ methodology and Systems Over Symptoms™ philosophy. After more than 30 years in healthcare as a Physical Therapist, Kellie realized that most women aren’t struggling because they lack information, they’re exhausted because their system isn’t activated. Today, she helps women reclaim energy, strength, and clarity by activating their biology, rebuilding metabolic resilience, regulating the nervous system, and stepping into leadership over their health, what she calls becoming the CEO of your health. She is also the co-founder of the Wellness Activated Collective™ and creator of The Activated Woman, supporting both women and practitioners in creating vibrant health and meaningful impact. Kellie’s mission is simple: help women stop chasing symptoms, activate their whole system, to live extraordinary. Find Kellie: https://www.instagram.com/kellielupsha/ https://www.tiktok.com/@womenslongevityexpert Free Quiz: https://quiz.kellielupshawellness.com/take-the-quiz Preview Kellie's membership: https://womenslongevityandwellness.com/hubexperience Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #105
    September 17 · 19 min

    Episode 105: Get Out Of The Box

    Send us Fan Mail Your attention is being trained every day, and it’s rarely training you toward peace. We’re talking about “living in the matrix” not as a movie concept, but as the real-life box of 3D distractions that hijack your nervous system: social media spirals, email stress, traffic rage, political outrage, and the endless feeling that something is always wrong. When we live there, we don’t just feel anxious, we lose touch with the bigger story of why we’re here and what our bodies are trying to heal. We unpack what we mean by 3D versus a more grounded, expansive way of living and why “zooming out” is one of the most underrated healing tools. Perspective changes physiology. When you remember how vast life is, the day-to-day triggers don’t get to run your mood, your choices, or your identity the same way. We also get honest about being human: it’s normal to want to escape, to scroll, to seek validation, and to slip back into old patterns. The shift is learning how to participate without getting consumed. If this hits home, share it with someone who’s stuck in the box, subscribe for more nervous system and self-healing conversations, and leave a review telling us what helps you get back to you. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #104
    September 10 · 24 min

    Episode 104: How To Stop Feeling Like You Are Not Doing Enough

    Send us Fan Mail The fastest way to turn healing into misery is to treat your life like a checklist you’re failing. We’re talking about the specific kind of guilt that shows up when you believe you’re not doing enough: not enough movement, not enough meditation, not enough supplements, not enough productivity, not enough “emotional maturity.” That belief doesn’t motivate most of us. It keeps the nervous system stuck in stress, makes self-care feel like punishment, and creates a constant background hum of shame. We also name the pressure cooker so many of us live in right now: social media wellness culture. One scroll and suddenly you “should” be doing everything at once, and if you aren’t, you must be behind. We challenge that idea head-on. Behind compared to who? Whose timeline are you grading yourself on? When you stop borrowing other people’s standards, your habits get simpler, your mind gets quieter, and healing becomes something you can actually sustain. From there we get very practical. We talk about all-or-nothing thinking and why small actions matter, how stress and self-criticism can affect digestion and your relationship with food, and why rest is not something you earn by finishing your list. We share a simple self-coaching tool you can use in the car or in a five-minute pause: ask what you need today, not what you “should” do. We close with a grounding breath and a mantra worth repeating when the pressure spikes: “I am not behind.” If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a break from the perfectionism spiral, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one “should” you’re ready to let go of? Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #103
    September 3 · 24 min

    Episode 103: Healing Gets Easier When You Do Less

    Send us Fan Mail If your “healing journey” has turned into tracking, fixing, optimizing, and endlessly researching, we want to offer a different lens: your body might be asking for trust, not micromanagement. In this episode we get real about the fine line between listening to your body and trying to control it. When every symptom becomes a crisis and every emotion becomes a project, healing stops feeling like support and starts feeling like pressure. We dig into the question people rarely ask out loud: what does healing even mean, and when do you arrive? From functional nutrition and nervous system regulation to the emotional and spiritual side of growth, we talk about why there may never be a perfect “done” moment, and why that’s not a failure. We connect this to wellness culture, supplement stacking, biohacking trends, and the fear that shows up around perimenopause and aging. Sometimes the most powerful move is a pause, a breath, and an honest check-in: what do I need today? You’ll hear practical ideas like taking a “supplement holiday,” making small one percent shifts in your routine, and releasing the belief that you’re broken. We close with two simple mantras and a calming breath you can use when you feel yourself gripping too tightly. If this brings you relief, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs permission to slow down, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #102
    August 27 · 38 min

    Episode 102: What If Relaxation Feels Unsafe

    Send us Fan Mail Ever tried to calm down and somehow ended up more anxious? That moment is the doorway into nervous system work, not proof you’re doing it wrong. Kira speaks with somatic integration coach and certified breathwork facilitator Jonathan Schechter about why breathwork can feel incredible for some people and edgy for others, especially when your system has learned that staying on guard is what keeps you safe. We walk through a clear framework for different types of breathwork: practices that build awareness, techniques that regulate the nervous system (downshifting for sleep and stress or energizing without spiraling), and deeper methods that can create expanded states of consciousness. Jonathan shares why consistency beats intensity, how a five minute daily practice can create lasting trait change, and why “what works” can change across different seasons of life. If you’ve been told to just meditate or just breathe and it never clicked, you’ll hear why bioindividuality matters and how to experiment without forcing results. We also dig into somatic experiencing, Peter Levine’s trauma-informed approach to helping the body complete stuck survival responses. Jonathan explains dysregulation in plain language, offers clues to watch for like shallow breathing and hypervigilance, and guides a simple orienting practice you can do in 30 to 60 seconds to help your system sense safety in the present moment. About Jonathan: Jonathan Schecter is a Somatic Integration coach and certified breathwork facilitator with extensive experience working in expanded states of consciousness as well as trauma and nervous system regulation. He holds a certificate in Somatic Experiencing as well as several breathwork certifications including Neurodynamic, Holotropic and Oxygen Advantage. Working with his protocol that combines clinical skill and transpersonal awareness, he has facilitated hundreds of breathwork sessions and supported clients in integrating their experiences into meaningful change. Find Jonathan: https://www.instagram.com/bluemagicalchemy https://www.youtube.com/@bluemagicalchemy www.skool.com/pathwaystointegration Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #101
    August 20 · 17 min

    Episode 101: Why You Keep Choosing What You Hate

    Send us Fan Mail You can want peace with your whole heart and still keep choosing chaos. You can crave more time, more space, and better health, then automatically say yes to the very things that burn you out. We get honest about that disconnect and name it for what it is: fighting for what we don’t want, usually because some deeper part of us believes the pattern is protecting us. We unpack why the subconscious mind clings to the familiar, even when the familiar is stressful, emotionally draining, or clearly not aligned with your goals. We talk about the “payoff” that keeps the loop alive, like control, feeling needed, proving your worth, or chasing the comfort of being busy. From there, we shift out of self-blame and into curiosity with a question that changes everything: what is this protecting me from? You’ll leave with practical tools you can use today, especially if you’re in a tough season: one percent shifts instead of all-or-nothing change, tiny mindfulness moments that pull you out of autopilot, a quick gratitude practice, and a simple 60-second way to let emotions move through without feeding the story. If this hits home, subscribe, share this with a friend who’s stuck in the same loop, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one pattern you’re ready to loosen your grip on? Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #100
    August 13 · 27 min

    Episode 100: Emotions Are Messengers

    Send us Fan Mail Your emotions might be sabotaging your health, and not because you “feel too much,” but because you either ignore them or replay them until your body thinks the threat is happening again. We get real about the two common traps we see everywhere: emotional bypassing (stay busy, stay positive, don’t cry) and emotional drowning (rumination, rehearsing, collecting evidence, spiraling). Neither one helps your nervous system feel safe, and when your system doesn’t feel safe, your body pays the price. We break down a simple but powerful idea: emotions are messengers, not managers. They can point to a boundary, a need, or an old wound, but they’re terrible decision-makers. So we talk about how to feel what you feel without letting anger, fear, guilt, or anxiety drive the car. You’ll hear practical emotional regulation tools we actually use, including naming the feeling, getting into the body instead of the story, taking a walk, grounding, and creating a 1% shift toward a better state. We also go somewhere most conversations miss: positive emotions can flip into stress if you can’t stay with joy long enough to feel safe. If excitement turns into “don’t jinx it,” that’s a nervous system pattern you can change. We close with a “feel it to heal it” mantra and a calming breath practice you can use anytime. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a friend who spirals, and leave a review telling us what tool you’re trying first. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #99
    August 6 · 26 min

    Episode 99: Stop Being You

    Send us Fan Mail You can journal the dream, visualize the goal, and say the affirmations, then still wake up living the same day. It's not about that. We walk through how identity shift actually works, using real examples from clinical training, career change, and health struggles. If you’re tired, discouraged, or stuck in an “all or nothing” cycle, we share a more realistic path: the 1% move. A two-minute walk. A better breakfast choice. A new way to respond to an email. Small actions done with the identity of a healthier, calmer, more grounded you start to rewire your nervous system and your default patterns. We also talk about why visualization and emotion matter (this is where mindset meets neuroscience), and why action without inner rehearsal can feel like pushing a boulder uphill. Then we take it deeper with frequency and “tuning your channel,” how to stop looping in negative thoughts without denying your real feelings, and why detachment from the outcome keeps you out of the energy of lack. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s ready for a real shift, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #98
    July 30 · 29 min

    Episode 98: You Can’t Green-Smoothie Your Way Out Of Stress

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Kira sits down with Rachel Feldman to explore why so many high-achieving women feel productive yet deeply unfulfilled—and what it actually takes to heal burnout at the nervous system level. Rachel shares her personal journey from early digestive issues to asthma and eventual burnout, driven by a lifelong need to prove her worth. Hitting a wall forced her to rethink everything she believed about rest, success, and sustainability. Together, they break down the real signs of burnout, numbness, low joy, persistent anxiety, and exhaustion that no amount of sleep seems to fix—and how perfectionism and people-pleasing keep the body stuck in emergency mode. The conversation moves beyond food plans and supplements into regulation-based tools that create lasting change, including EMDR, brainspotting, RTM, acupuncture, breathwork, and intentional micro-pauses throughout the day. Rachel reframes sleep as a non-negotiable boundary rather than something to “earn,” and explains why small, consistent practices build resilience more effectively than pushing through with willpower. They also name the core beliefs that fuel burnout—performing for love and equating worth with output, and offer ways to replace them with self-trust, limits, and nervous system safety. This episode highlights how healing stress patterns doesn’t just change our own lives. It transforms how we parent, lead, and break cycles of anxiety passed down through generations. Rachel also shares how her business evolved toward connection-centered support, helping others grow without burning out. About Rachel: Rachel Feldman is a wellness momma, a former health coach for 5 years, and a business success launch coach with 15 years in the online space. After earning just $13K in her first year, she realized she needed a sustainable strategy and built her business on solid funnels and systems. Within two and a half years, she grew to $72K, and by year three, she broke six figures. Today, she helps coaches build profitable, sustainable online and offline businesses that actually last. Find Rachel: Instagram Youtube Website Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #97
    July 23 · 27 min

    Episode 97, Throwback: Telepathy and Healing

    Send us Fan Mail In this throwback episode, we talk about the podcast The Telepathy Tapes. This was a top episode with listeners and of course, we are big fans of TTT. We talk about the podcast’s interviews with parents and experts, the moments that hit us emotionally, and why an open mind can be a powerful part of any healing journey. We also zoom out to the real-life takeaways: the mind is not the same as the brain, and our day-to-day “3D world” may not be the full story. We connect intuition, energy, and frequency to something practical, how you live, how you regulate your nervous system, and how you stop letting ego-driven noise run your life. If you’ve been stuck in survival mode, replaying the past or worrying about the future, this conversation offers a different lens: you’re a soul borrowing a body, and healing starts when you make space for stillness, reflection, and truth. We get real about boundaries, compassion, and the inner child work that helps old programming loosen its grip. You’ll hear why we believe no practitioner “heals” you from the outside, how to choose action when change is possible, and how to let go when it isn’t without becoming a doormat. If any of this sparks curiosity, listen through with an open mind, then share it with someone who needs a new perspective. Subscribe, leave us an Apple review, and tell us what topic you want us to tackle next. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #96
    July 16 · 24 min

    Episode 96: There Is No Pill For Comparisonitis

    Send us Fan Mail Comparison can look harmless until it starts rewriting your self worth. We’re Denise, a speech language pathologist and self love coach, and Kira, a traditional naturopath and functional nutritionist, and we’re naming the pattern so many of us live in: comparisonitis. It shows up as a quick glance at someone else’s body, business, relationship, money, or healing story, then turns into a spiral of “I’m behind” and “I’m not enough.” We unpack the real danger: you never have the full picture, but your brain will happily fill in the blanks with harsh assumptions. Social media comparison makes it worse by feeding you highlight reels and peak moments while hiding the sacrifices, support, and stress behind the scenes. We talk about the moment comparison crosses the line into judgment, how it can flip into resentment and cruel commentary, and why that energy always comes back to drain you. Then we pivot into what actually helps: using comparison as data instead of a weapon. If you feel envy, we show you how to ask what it’s pointing to, identify what you want for yourself, and make a 1% shift today. Real healing is active, and clarity comes from action, not from scrolling, affirmations, or waiting for the perfect mindset. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #95
    July 9 · 22 min

    Episode 95: Make Lemonade Not Margaritas

    Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever hit a hard season and immediately felt your brain build a case for why you can’t move forward, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. We’re Kira and Denise, and we get real about what actually happens when life gets heavy: we blame circumstances, we hunt for proof that the world is against us, and we stand in our own way even harder. Then we shift the question from “who’s at fault?” to “what can I do from here?” because that’s where your power lives. We also talk about a piece people skip all the time: nervous system regulation. Looking inward is valuable, but if you’re overwhelmed, you can’t process clearly. Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is step away to get grounded, not to avoid the truth, but to come back regulated enough to see it. We use a simple analogy from working with kids: no learning happens in a tantrum. The same is true for us when we’re flooded with stress. From there, we dig into “getting comfortable with uncomfortable,” whether that’s putting yourself out there in business, breaking the habit of busyness, or learning to sit still without feeling unsafe. We also name comparisonitis, validate that your hard is still hard even if someone else has it worse, and talk about letting people cope in their own way without judgment. If this resonated, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s in a tough season, and leave a review so more people can find the support they need. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #94
    July 2 · 26 min

    Episode 94: When You Find A Stack Of Cash In The Bathroom

    Send us Fan Mail You’re on a road trip, you duck into a grocery store restroom, and there it is: a large stack of cash sitting out in the open. No owner. No explanation. Just a split second where your brain spins up a thousand stories and your body chooses before your logic catches up. We walk you through the exact moment it happened to us and why it turned into one of the most revealing conversations we’ve had about integrity, values, and healing in real life. We don’t treat this like a morality play or a “what you should do” lecture. We get honest about how easy it is to form opinions from a distance, how quickly fear and scarcity show up, and why people reach for spiritual bypassing like “the universe sent you money” to justify a decision. We also explore the practical side: consequences, cameras, and what changes when the amount is clearly significant. Then we zoom out to the bigger takeaway: sometimes the real gift isn’t the money, it’s the moment that shows you who you are when no one is watching. From there, we connect the dots to abundance mindset, money stories, and nervous system regulation. When you feel safe in your body, you can respond instead of react and make choices aligned with love over fear. We close with a simple values-based mantra, a calming 4-7-8 breathing practice, and a prompt for you to join the conversation and share what you think happened and what you would do. If this sparked something in you, subscribe, share this with a friend who loves a good ethical dilemma, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Then message us on Instagram and tell us your call: keep it, report it, or walk away? Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • June 25 · 37 min

    Episode 93: Your Amazon Cart Is Not A Therapist

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, business and marketing coach Lu Trujillo joins the conversation to unpack why so many high-achieving women feel unsafe holding money, praise, and momentum, even when success is clearly working. That internal pressure to spend, fix, or prove doesn’t come from a lack of strategy, but from a nervous system that associates success with risk. Lu introduces a powerful framework of two inner narratives: the inherited voice shaped by upbringing and old wounds, and the intentional voice we author, the one that offers safety, steadiness, and self-trust. When that second voice is missing, success triggers over-delivering, people-pleasing, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and avoidance of necessary boundaries. This conversation reframes the solution, sharing that it’s not more hustle or self-optimization, but creating safety in the body so growth doesn’t feel threatening. When safety is present, wins can land, money can stay, and leadership becomes grounded instead of reactive. If you’re a founder, practitioner, or ambitious professional who’s earning more yet feeling less regulated, this episode offers language, insight, and practical steps to rewrite your inner narrative, protect your energy, and lead from calm confidence rather than survival. About Lu: Lu Trujillo is a business and marketing coach who focuses on scaling female entrepreneurs who are on a mission to raise the standard of care while also getting paid their worth and tapping into their zone of genius. She has been in the marketing and sales space for over 10+ years and has worked with countless high achieving and career driven women who were ready to scale their impact, and has seen first hand how trauma shows up for these women as they advance in their career, in their relationship, in major life transitions even though the signs are not always obvious yet very much present. Find Lu: Instagram Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #92
    June 18 · 23 min

    Episode 92: You Are Not That Important And That’s Freedom

    Send us Fan Mail The “what if they don’t like me?” spiral can hit even when you’ve done years of inner work and that’s exactly why we wanted to talk about it. We’re Kira and Denise, and we’re unpacking how people pleasing, wanting to be liked, and self-judgment stack on top of each other until you’re no longer acting like yourself. If you’ve ever replayed a conversation, drafted the “perfect” follow-up text, or tried to manage someone else’s feelings so you don’t get judged, you’ll recognize this pattern fast. We connect the dots back to childhood conditioning and conditional love, where approval can feel like survival. Then we bring it into real life: work meetings, authority figures, social media comment sections, and the quiet ways we perform to stay “safe.” The point isn’t to make triggers disappear forever. Healing is the journey of noticing the old identity show up, building awareness, and choosing a new response that protects your energy, your boundaries, and your authenticity. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #91
    June 11 · 27 min

    Episode 91: Life Is Meant To Be Enjoyed

    Send us Fan Mail One tiny shift can make your whole life feel lighter, and it starts with a question we keep coming back to: why are we taking everything so seriously? Denise and Kira pull this thread from real everyday moments, from the weird tension people carry in public to the way we over-plan “fun” until it stops being fun. The point isn’t to ignore reality or pretend hard things don’t hurt. The point is to stop adding extra weight to experiences that don’t deserve it. We talk about how seriousness becomes a default coping style, and what it costs your body and mind over time. Chronic stress impacts the nervous system, cortisol, blood sugar, sleep, and mood, which is why this conversation matters for functional medicine, holistic wellness, and emotional healing. We also connect joy to creativity and intuition: when your life is rigid and perfection-driven, your creativity shrinks, your intuition gets quieter, and even simple days start to feel exhausting. If you’re ready to lighten the load and make your healing journey more livable, press play, subscribe, and share this with a friend who needs it. After you listen, will you leave a review and tell us what you’re going to enjoy more on purpose? Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #90
    June 4 · 28 min

    Episode 90: When Your Face Is On Fire, That's A Clue

    Send us Fan Mail Your body is not being dramatic. It is being honest. When Viktoria Levenberg’s high-achiever pace collided with family stress and old trauma, her body didn’t just feel “tired” it erupted into a severe skin rash that doctors could not clearly diagnose. That breakdown became the start of a burnout recovery path that blended holistic health, nervous system awareness, and a new definition of success that doesn’t require self-sacrifice. Kira and Viktoria dig into what “high achiever” really means (hint: it has nothing to do with six-figure income) and why perfectionism and approval-seeking can keep us stuck in a grind we never chose. We also clarify feminine and masculine energy in a practical way: masculine as structure and execution, feminine as rest and intuition, and why a healthy life needs both. If you’ve been trying to power through symptoms, forcing motivation, and wondering why your body won’t cooperate, this conversation connects the dots between stress, psychosomatic signals, and the way unprocessed experiences can live in the body. The most useful shift is tangible: cycle-based productivity. Instead of living in a linear input-output mindset, we talk about planning with natural cycles, seasons, and energy phases. For women, that can include menstrual cycle planning so you stop shaming yourself for low-energy days. For everyone, it’s a way to work smarter while protecting health, mood, and long-term energy. About Viktoria: Viktoria Levenberg, creator of Efficiency Made Easy and host of the Resonance Podcast, has spent 10+ years in high-pressure industries like FMCG and Hospitality – only to realise that the linear productivity system is broken. For years, she was the classic high-achiever: top grades, fast-track corporate career, always chasing the next win. By learning to work with her body instead of against it, she created a sustainable planning framework that allowed her to launch a business, complete postgraduate study, pass her board-certification NB-HWC exam, and transition to part-time work… all with more energy and balance than ever before. Join Viktoria’s FREE LIVE Masterclass: Peak Productivity Secrets Discover the planning secrets to get your precious time & energy back, so you can get back to doing what you LOVE! https://www.viktorialevenberg.com/masterclass Find Viktoria: Instagram: @viktorialevenberg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/viktorialevenberg1 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@viktorialevenberg TikTok: @viktorialevenberg Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/resonance-with-viktoria-levenberg/id1833836666 Website: https://www.viktorialevenberg.com/ Free Gift: 8 Days of Mindfulness: https://www.viktorialevenberg.com/liveinpresence Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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  • #89
    May 28 · 51 min

    Episode 89: Tapping Into Your Intuition's Healing Power

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode Jenny McFadden offers a powerful reframe on healing: what if your symptoms aren’t problems to eliminate, but messages guiding you back to balance? Jenny shares her 30+ year journey from a skeptical art teacher to an intuition mentor and quantum healing facilitator, a path sparked by unresolved symptoms that conventional medicine couldn’t explain. Through alternative healing and deep intuitive work, she transformed her health and her understanding of how the body communicates. Jenny explains how intuition and body wisdom speak in simple, direct ways, though we often miss the message by overthinking. She introduces playful yet profound tools, like her Intuition Message Bank, that help bypass the analytical mind and access clear inner guidance. Many of her clients experience noticeable shifts after just one session by learning how to listen differently. About Jenny: Jenny supports heart-led individuals in building deep trust in their intuition and in using it to interpret the messages behind their symptoms, guiding them toward practical steps to restore wellbeing, vitality, and joy. Through curiosity, play, and intuitive exploration, she shows how easy it can be to access clear inner guidance, make empowered decisions, and live in alignment with purpose. Working at the quantum level, Jenny has witnessed rapid and profound shifts, helping people release old patterns and reconnect with their true nature as limitless, powerful beings beyond the physical body. An intuition mentor, quantum healing facilitator, artist, and three-time best-selling author—most recently of The Game of Intuition and How to Play It—Jenny brings over 30 years of experience in whole-person health, blending quantum intuition healing, psychology, energy medicine, and Qigong into a uniquely transformative healing approach. Find Jenny: Instagram Facebook 🎁 Gift: Jenny shares her free video series, Activate Your Inner Healer, to deepen your intuitive connection. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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