Gay Men Going Deeper

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood

Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life.

Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture.

Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.

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May 4, 2023 · 58 min
External and Internal Validation (Part 1)
Having a healthy sense of self-worth means balancing both external and internal validation. External validation is when you derive your self-worth from sources outside of yourself while Internal validation is when your self-worth comes from within. Unfortunately, many people rely on the external at the expense of the internal, thereby creating a situation where you are hustling to prove yourself to others and are over-sensitive to their criticism. In this special two-part series, we’
Apr 27, 2023 · 1 hr 28 min
Imposter Syndrome
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Travis Holp talk about imposter syndrome and how they have navigated periods in their lives when they felt like imposters. They also unpack the concepts of self-doubt, inadequacy, perfectionism, and fear of failure, which often underlie imposter syndrome. The questions we explored in this episode are: Can you share a time when you experienced imposter syndrome? In what ways do you experience self doubt? How do you deal with feelings of inadequac
Apr 20, 2023 · 54 min
Purity Culture 2.0
Whether you are aware of it or not, Purity Culture has influenced social norms around sex and relationships for centuries by attempting to repress sexual expression and label it as 'sinful.' Even though society has evolved, so too as Purity Culture. It continues to have a harmful impact on the queer community by influencing policy and feeding into stigmatizing attitudes. In this episode, Michael DiIorio invites Jon Carl Lewis of Sex and the Queer Christian to have a discussion about Purit
Apr 13, 2023 · 45 min
Sex and Intimacy (part 2)
Do you want sex or do you want intimacy? Or both? Sometimes our attempts to connect with guys gets thwarted by the confusion between these desires. This can lead to frustration and over time, loneliness. In part 2 of this 2-part episode, Michael and Matt are going deeper into the topic of intimacy by talking about... How to develop more intimate connections Why gay men avoid intimacy How to overcome the fear of intimacy If you want to increase your capacity for greater inti
Apr 6, 2023 · 54 min
Sex and Intimacy (part 1)
Do you want sex or do you want intimacy? Or both? Sometimes our attempts to connect with guys gets thwarted by the confusion between these desires. This can lead to frustration and over time, loneliness. In part 1 of this 2-part episode, Michael and Matt are going deeper into sex, intimacy, and sexual intimacy including… How are sex and intimacy different? Different ways to practice intimacy What is (and isn't) sex positivity? Join us for this informative episode full of he
Mar 30, 2023 · 1 hr 6 min
The Science of Healing
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel interviews Ed Cohen about the science of healing. Ed shares a holistic perspective on healing and how we can begin to reclaim our authority over our health from systems that can easily fail us if we become too passive. We explore how the mind and body are intrinsically connected when it comes to health and healing, and that it is important to search for deeper meaning when our body is expressing illness in any form. If you are someone who suffers from chronic ill
Mar 23, 2023 · 53 min
Peace Love Rainbows: Calan's Last Episode
On today's extra-special episode, we're saying goodbye (for now) to our incredible friend and co-creator, Calan Breckon. This marks his last episode as a co-host of the podcast and he is sharing the reasons behind his decision while we reflect on the first 127 episodes of the podcast. Join us for this sentimental episode where we mark the end of one chapter of the Gay Men Going Deeper podcast, and the beginning of the next... Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube
Mar 16, 2023 · 1 hr 6 min
Your Relationship with Your Body
How would you describe your relationship with your body? Are you BFFs or are you more like frenemies? We each have a unique relationship with our bodies which directly influences how we treat it. In this episode, we’re going deeper into that relationship by answering questions such as: How would you describe your relationship with your body? How has that relationship changed over the years? How can you improve your relationship to body? Join us for this episode if you want
Mar 9, 2023 · 1 hr 22 min
Body Representation
Mainstream and social media influence the norms of what is an attractive or acceptable body within our community. Buying into this narrow definition is easy, but it can be detrimental to your self-image and self-esteem. Body representation is the practice of celebrating a diverse range of body types and unlearning the conditioning that only some bodies are worth showing. In this juicy episode, we’re answering questions such as: What has been your experience around body represen
Mar 2, 2023 · 56 min
Being Kinder on Grindr
There’s no doubt that Grindr has cemented itself as part of the gay culture. For an entire generation, an app has shaped what it means to be gay - for better or worse. In this episode, Michael invites special guest, Pepper, to make a case for engaging on Grindr with more respect, kindness, and humanity. They are talking candidly about such things as: What to write in your bio Kinder communication Ghosting Respectful rejection Setting expectations Hook ups Dealing
Feb 23, 2023 · 1 hr 8 min
Love Languages
There are countless ways to give and receive love. We each have unique preferences can change over time. Our "love languages" are influenced by factors such as our upbringing, attachment traumas, and relationship history. In this episode, we're going deeper into the Love Languages, specifically answering questions such as: ❤️ What are your love languages? ❤️ What makes you feel loved? What influenced this? ❤️ How do you like to give love? What influenced this? ❤️ What would be
Feb 16, 2023 · 1 hr 9 min
The Practice of Empathy & Being an Empath
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Dr. Michael R. Smith talk about empathy and what it’s like being an empath and sensitive gay man in a world that isn’t designed for us. We share our own personal experiences being empathic/intuitive and how this can be beneficial but also challenging. We also discuss how relationships and sex can be different for empaths and how we have learned to best navigate this dynamic terrain. The concepts we explored in this episode are: What is empathy? Wh
Feb 9, 2023 · 50 min
Unconditional Love
Unconditional love sounds romantic, but is it realistic or even healthy? There are a lot of factors at play when we talk about this type of love, and it’s not as simple as it sounds. In this episode, we're diving deeper into unconditional love asking some important questions such as: ❤️ What does unconditional love mean? ❤️ What gets in the way of unconditional love? ❤️ How do you move towards loving someone unconditionally? Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on Yo
Feb 2, 2023 · 46 min
Dating Intentionally
Dating is still one of the greatest mysteries in the world some might say. And with over 1,500 dating apps out there it’s only getting more confusing on how to “figure it out” and find someone who is compatible. In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks some of the mysteries around dating intentionally with guest Michael Kaye. Michael is the Head of Global Communications at OkCupid, one of the world's largest dating apps, where he leads public relations programming, influencer marketing, an
Jan 26, 2023 · 42 min
Zero F**ks Given
What is holding you back from doing everything you want to do and being whoever you want to be? For a lot of people, worrying about what others will say or how they’ll be perceived gets in the way of living a truly authentic life. In this episode, we’re looking at what it means to give zero f**ks. We’ll be answering questions such as… If you gave zero fucks and could do anything, what would it be and why? What’s the fear holding you back from doing it now? Where’s the line between being true
Jan 19, 2023 · 55 min
Intergenerational Relationships
In a youth-obsessed culture, it’s easy to overlook the benefits of aging and the wisdom that only comes with lived experience. Including people of different generations in your social circle helps enrich our community and improves quality of life for everyone involved. Yet there are many stigmas attached to intergenerational (or “age-gap”) relationships, especially the romantic variety. In this episode, Michael invites psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to talk about platonic and romantic interge
Jan 12, 2023 · 1 hr 31 min
Reinventing Yourself
One of the most exciting things about life is being able to transform your identity whenever you want. For most people, transformation happens naturally and gradually over time. But sometimes you can purposefully and intentionally undergo a process of personal reinvention to become a new version of yourself. In this episode, we’re talking about Reinventing Yourself and answering questions such as… What has contributed to defining your self-image? How have you let go of old versions of yourse
Jan 5, 2023 · 1 hr 27 min
Healing From Sexual Trauma
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Tirrell Cherry talk intimately about healing sexual trauma. They share their own personal experiences with sexual abuse and how they have moved through their own trauma healing journeys. If you have experienced sexual trauma, you are not alone. This episode was created with the intention to normalize having these difficult conversations that can lead to deep connection, authenticity and healing. Connect with Tirrell: Website link: https://tirrellcherry.life I
Dec 29, 2022 · 1 hr 11 min
Making Friends
Research has shown that quality friendships are fundamental to the mental and emotional well-being of 2SLGBTQ+ individuals. A close-knit circle of friends can help us feel less alone, affirm our identity, and alleviate the stressors that come with being part of a stigmatized minority group. But making friends can be challenging for many reasons. In this episode, we're exploring the topic of making friends, and answering these questions: What is the hardest part about making new friendships and
Dec 22, 2022 · 42 min
Conflict Transformation
The holiday season can be a triggering one for a lot of people, especially those of us from the LGBTQ+ community. In today's episode, host Calan Breckon speaks with guest Jeremy Long about how we can navigate conflict during this holiday season. Together they share their personal tips and tricks for those difficult interactions in hopes that it can make your holiday season a little more jolly. Jeremy Long is the founder of the Conscious Queer Community where he leads Queer Men's groups. He’s als