Gay Men Going Deeper

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood

Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life.

Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture.

Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.

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Sep 21, 2023 · 54 min
Guided Meditation: Balancing the Masculine & Feminine Energy within
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel takes you on a guided meditative journey to discover the relationship between your masculine and feminine energies. The guided meditation is designed to help you restore balance between your masculine and feminine energy. When we use the terms masculine and feminine, we are not referring to the gender or sex of an individual, we are referring to the energetic duality that exists within all human beings. We all have a masculine or yang energy, and we all have
Sep 14, 2023 · 48 min
Expressing Your Femininity
Expressing your feminine energy does not diminish your masculinity or make you less of a man. Each person is a unique expression of masculine and feminine energies, and this expression is a natural and valid part of our identity. In today's episode, we are sharing our own experiences of discovering and expressing our feminine energy. We'll explore various aspects of embracing our inner femininity, from fashion and emotional expression to intuition and relationships. We're answering quest
Sep 7, 2023 · 56 min
Expressing Your Masculinity
Gay culture has historically idolized traditional masculinity in the context of societal norms, which includes traits like physical strength, assertiveness, and stoicism. But we must remember that there isn't a single, fixed definition of masculinity. While some embrace traditional concepts of masculinity, others may lean towards more non-conforming presentations. Lately, there has been a growing acceptance of the fact that gender expression and sexual orientation are distinct aspects of
Aug 31, 2023 · 50 min
Libido
Libido, or sex drive, is our natural instinctual inclination for sexual activity. Libido varies person to person and fluctuates over time. It’s not uncommon for men to put a high value on their sex drive, especially if they associate it with their masculinity and self-esteem. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael welcomes Dr. Hector Rodriguez to answer your questions about libido. Some of the topics they’ll be covering are: How does aging impact your sex drive? How
Aug 24, 2023 · 1 hr 9 min
Energetic Attraction
Attraction is a fickle matter. Call it a vibe or energy or aura, it is indeed a powerful unseen force that influences our relationships. In the metaphysical sense, energetic attraction stems from the belief that everything in the universe is made up of energy, including human beings, and that this energy can interact and create connections between people. In this episode, we're going deeper into the concept of Energetic Attraction, by answering these questions: What traits make someon
Aug 17, 2023 · 1 hr 18 min
Spiritual Awakening
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio unpack the concept of the spiritual awakening. They both share their personal experiences with spiritual awakenings and how they navigated these really challenging periods in their lives. If you are struggling in life right now, you might be going through a spiritual awakening. The best way through one of these experiences is to learn about its meaning, making it easier to navigate. Here are the 4 questions we explored in this episode:
Aug 10, 2023 · 1 hr 13 min
Manifesting Your Ideal Partner
Attracting a romantic relationship is as much about energy as it is about the practical steps. Directing your thoughts and emotions towards finding love adds an energetic boost to any tangible action steps you’re taking. In this episode, we’re sharing our experiences with attracting love including: Manifestation basics Artificial desire vs. authentic desire How to recognize your 'ideal' partner Why you attract who you attract Our fave tips and tricks Watch this episode
Aug 3, 2023 · 1 hr
Body Confidence
Body confidence is the ability to feel good in your body, regardless of its size or shape. But there are many reasons why gay men in particular struggle in this area. Wanting to work on your body is perfectly natural, but having the right mindset is crucial to this process. How can you work on your body goals without it being harmful to your mental health? In today’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio invites Jarrod Bruce Lee to answer that very question, as well as discus
Jul 27, 2023 · 52 min
Aging
Aging is an inevitable part of life, but we each have a unique relationship with it. Some of us embrace it with open arms and don't buy into the idea of a "gay death" at a certain age. Others struggle with aging and cling to our youth and relevance as each year passes. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our own relationship to aging and what it means to “age well.” Some of the questions we’ll be unpacking are: What has been your relationship to aging?
Jul 20, 2023 · 1 hr
The Core Wound of Growing Up Gay
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Theo Bill have a heartfelt conversation about the struggles and joys of being a gay man. They discuss the core wounds of growing up gay, the impact this has on the gay community, and what we can do to start to heal these wounds. We explore these topics in the episode: The wounds gay men may experience in their development Toxic Shame Attachment trauma Gay men and spirituality What advantages do we have as gay men Some things we can d
Jul 13, 2023 · 1 hr 21 min
Age Discrimination Panel
It’s a sad reality that older gay men face stereotypes about their attractiveness, desirability, or relevance as they age. Age discrimination, or ageism, can result in feeling isolated, undervalued, and even invisible. In today’s episode, we are having a panel discussion about age discrimination with 3 of our community members. We’ll cover topics such as: Being judged by younger gay men The discomfort around revealing your age around to others Dating and aging What advic
Jul 6, 2023 · 53 min
Friends with Benefits
Friends with benefits (FWB) is a type of relationship where you can enjoy the sexual benefits of a relationship without the expectation of long-term commitment. Navigating the blurred lines between friendship and sexual intimacy is a complex and potentially risky endeavour. In this episode, Michael DiIorio and Pepper of The Gay Good discuss the nuances of having Friends With Benefits. They’ll discuss topics such as: The pros and cons of FWB Why this is common with gay guys When
Jun 29, 2023 · 1 hr 9 min
Unconscious Bias
Unconscious bias refers to the internal biases or attitudes that influence our interactions and behaviour towards others. We all have these deeply ingrained biases that unfortunately can hinder our efforts to build a more diverse and inclusive community. In today's episode, we are sharing our experience with Unconscious Bias in hopes that it will help contribute to embracing greater acceptance and belonging. Some of the questions we'll be unpacking: What are some unconscious biases y
Jun 22, 2023 · 1 hr 6 min
Creating Authentic Connection
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Jamaal Wesley talk about authentic connection and the importance of having relationships in our lives where we can be completely ourselves. They share their own personal challenges with being authentic and how they have overcome these challenges. Come spend an hour learning how to bring your most authentic self into connection and reap the reward of being seen, understood and getting your needs met. The questions we explored in this episode are: What
Jun 15, 2023 · 45 min
Acceptance and Belonging
One of the goals of the Gay Men’s Brotherhood and this podcast is to help foster a deeper sense of community and connection for queer people all over the world. But how do you learn to belong to a community that does not accept you as you are? This is the crux of today’s episode on Acceptance and Belonging. We’re answering some tough questions such as: What do you think is responsible for the lack of acceptance and belonging within the gay community? What parts of yourself do you
Jun 8, 2023 · 41 min
Being a Dad
Being a dad can be one of the most rewarding experiences of a man’s life. Historically, gay men have not had adequate opportunities to be parents, but the tide is turning. In this episode, Joseph Tito of The Dad Diaries stops by to talk to Michael about his journey from surrogacy to fatherhood, including: The decision to be a parent The challenges and rewards of being a parent Dealing with homophobia Advice for anyone considering parenthood Whether you’re a dad yourself or
Jun 1, 2023 · 52 min
Celebrating Diversity
Pride is celebration of the progress we've made as a community and a reminder that there is still much work to do. Unfortunately, many people don't feel like part of the community- and we want to help change that. In today’s episode, we’re not just celebrating our queerness, but also the diverse range of people, experiences, and interests our community has to offer. In this episode, we’ll be talking about: How we have felt included in the gay community How we have felt excluded H
May 25, 2023 · 1 hr 16 min
Heterophobia
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Andre-Lee Wills talk about their experiences with heterophobia. They share what it was like growing up gay in a heteronormative world and how this created fear and anger towards heterosexual people. They also unpack the relationship between internalized homophobia and heterophobia and how taking responsibility for ourselves in new ways can help us overcome these fears. The questions we explored in this episode are: What was life like for you as a young
May 18, 2023 · 1 hr 7 min
Healing Shame
Shame is that terrible feeling that arises when you get the sense that something is fundamentally wrong about you. It is often accompanied by inadequacy and self-doubt. Shame convinces you that you are not enough. Like it or not, shame plays a key role in the gay man’s life. Born into a straight world, we must contend with the fact that we are different. While we all have a unique way of dealing with shame, healing it is necessary if we want to develop an authentic sense of self and truly c
May 11, 2023 · 1 hr
External and Internal Validation (Part 2)
Having a healthy sense of self-worth means balancing both external and internal validation. In part 2 of the two-part series, we are focusing on internal validation, the skill of fuelling your self-worth from within you, rather than seeking it through external sources. Developing your sense of worthiness from within you is fundamental to living authentically as you become less attached to the opinions of others, and more focused on living in integrity with your personal core values. T