Gay Men Going Deeper

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood

Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life.

Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture.

Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.

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Updated July 23
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Jun 27, 2024 · 1 hr 1 min
Developing a Healthy Relationship with Anger
In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Nyle Biondi, about anger and how important it is to connect with and release anger from our mind and body. Anger can serve a great purpose if we consciously work with it. It can help us step into our power, and be a messenger of unmet needs or crossed boundaries. Many of us have social conditioning that tells us anger is inappropriate, or perhaps you were even shamed for being angry. Connecting with your anger in a healthy way might just be what
Jun 20, 2024 · 57 min
Fear of Intimacy
Today, we are unpacking a seldom-discussed, but deeply relevant issue within the gay community: Fear of Intimacy. Many men grapple with the challenge of opening up emotionally and forging meaningful connections. Often, we find ourselves settling for superficial encounters while yearning for something more meaningful. Today we’re discussing how the same emotional walls that protect us from getting hurt can also leave us feeling isolated and lonely. In this episode, we are going deeper in
Jun 13, 2024 · 58 min
Anal Health Q&A with Dr. Evan Goldstein
In this informative episode, anal health expert, Dr. Evan Goldstein, addresses common questions and concerns about anal sex. If you've ever wondered about issues like hemorrhoids, fissures, or general rectal health, this is the perfect opportunity to get expert advice. Taking care of your anal health is fundamental to feeling sexy in your body and showing up confidently in your relationships. Unfortunately, there are plenty of misconceptions and taboos surrounding butt health that hinder ope
Jun 6, 2024 · 1 hr 7 min
Fear of Rejection
One of the greatest fears that holds us back in love and in life is the fear of rejection. In this episode, we are acknowledging the daunting prospect of putting ourselves out there, whether it be romantically, sexually, or professionally. We dissect the psychology of rejection as it pertains to our past traumas, beliefs, and inner narratives. Some of the topics we cover in this episode are: The need for belonging and connection Being pursued versus pursuing The narratives we
May 30, 2024 · 1 hr 12 min
Healing with Plant Medicine (Psychedelics)
In this episode, Matt speaks with Reunion Founder, Brad Wells, and Psychotherapist/ Ayahuasquero, Alex Theberge, about healing with plant medicine (psychedelics). We unpack the benefits of psychedelics and how plants can be used to heal many common issues where traditional psychotherapy might not be as effective. Psychedelics are becoming more mainstream and their powerful healing benefits are becoming more known. Come on this journey with us and see if psychedelics may benefit your healing
May 23, 2024 · 55 min
Authenticity and Social Media
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we delve into the complexities of authenticity in the digital age. From Instagram to OnlyFans, we are living in an increasingly performative world where authenticity seems harder to discern. Today we are going deeper behind the blurred lines between being fake and putting your best self forward. We’ll be discussing the nuances of genuine self-expression versus performative behavior with personal examples and anecdotes to illustrate. Some of the to
May 16, 2024 · 57 min
Gay and Asian: Panel Discussion
Join us for a compelling panel discussion as we spotlight the experiences of Asian gay men with our diverse panel of guests. Against the backdrop of intersectionality, our panelists share their personal journeys, confronting stereotypes, and navigating the complexities of race, sexuality, and culture. The sacrifices we make to feel included Discrimination in dating Common stereotypes and microaggressions Fetishization Challenges of visibility Media representation: then and
May 9, 2024 · 1 hr 2 min
Self-Disclosure
In this episode, we are discussing the intriguing topic of self-disclosure and its role in fostering genuine connections. Self-disclosure, the art of revealing personal information about yourself to others, shapes our relationships on various levels. Join us as we explore the psychology behind self-disclosure, its benefits, risks, and the delicate balance required for meaningful communication. Some of the topics we’re covering in today’s episode: Knowing what to share and what not t
May 2, 2024 · 1 hr 2 min
Finding and Releasing Your Voice (Self-Expression)
In this episode, Matt speaks with vocal coach, producer, and artist Javier Wallis about finding and releasing the voice to foster a deeper capacity for self-expression. They unpack ways to unlock the voice through facing the fears and blockages many of us have about expressing ourselves. Come spend an hour with Matt and Javier and learn some of the powerful benefits of vocal expression and how it can lead to profound transformation, healing and empowerment. The concepts and questions we
Apr 25, 2024 · 44 min
Dealing with Guilt and Regret
In this emotionally stirring episode, we dive into the heavy and complex topic of dealing with guilt and regret. Sometimes we must face the uncomfortable consequences of our actions and learn how to not remain paralyzed in the shadows of guilt and regret. Join us as we explore the universal experience of making mistakes, forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and the power of moving forward with resilience Some of the topics we’re covering today are: What’s the difference between guilt and
Apr 18, 2024 · 50 min
Financial Empowerment
Financial empowerment is your ability to take control of your finances, make informed decisions, and effectively manage your resources to achieve your goals and improve your overall well-being. Unfortunately, many people are holding onto limiting beliefs and habits around money that create stress, and leave you feeling disempowered. In today’s episode, Michael speaks to Personal Finance Coach, CPA, and TedX Speaker, Michael Kim, to guide you toward financial empowerment. Some of the topic
Apr 11, 2024 · 57 min
The Power of Self-Compassion
In this episode, we explore the profound power of self-compassion on our emotional well-being. As we share our own experiences and favorite lessons on this topic, you will discover what self-compassion truly means and practical ways to integrate it into your daily life. Some of the topics we cover in this episode: What does self-compassion entail exactly? The different types of self-compassion Why it can be hard to practice at times The significance of embodiment The role of
Apr 4, 2024 · 1 hr 5 min
Healing Through The Subconscious Mind
In this episode, Matt speaks with Intuitive Energy Healer, Scott Clover about the subconscious mind and healing. Scott shares his wisdom on how to evoke the childhood imagination for healing past victimhood so we can move forward into self-esteem. Scott explains how to speak to the body for healing and also shares tips and a few experiential exercises to use to prepare the subconscious mind for transformation. Come learn how to practice self-acceptance and forgiveness for yourself through self-c
Mar 28, 2024 · 48 min
Caring For Your Body
In this episode, we are exploring the multifaceted aspects of caring for your body from the inside out. In gay culture, it’s easy to overemphasize aesthetics when it comes to any discussion of our bodies. But our bodies are more than just their external appearances. Today we are flipping the script and offering a refreshing perspective on self-care practices. Some of the topics we’ll be covering today are: Unconventional ways to care for your body Self-care habits that we swear by
Mar 21, 2024 · 1 hr 5 min
The Anxious Gay Mind
In this episode, Michael and Pepper of The Gay Good are exploring the unique stressors that contribute to anxiety in the lives of gay men. They’re sharing personal experiences, coaching tools, coping mechanisms, and insights on how we can support each other through the challenges of anxiety. Some of the topics we cover in today’s episode: The difference between anxiety and anxiety disorder The role of minority stress Feeling pressure to meet unrealistic expectations Socia
Mar 14, 2024 · 1 hr 8 min
Body Shaming
Join us as we have a candid and crucial conversation about body shaming within the gay community. We’re sharing personal experiences while shedding light on the layers of societal expectations and standards that often impact self-perception. We’ll look at the historical context of body image for gay men and its evolution over the years. From the quest for the "ideal" physique to the influence of media and apps, we’re sharing personal stories and providing insightful perspectives on the numero
Mar 7, 2024 · 1 hr 9 min
Mentoring the Next Generation of Gay Men
In this episode, Matt speaks with leadership and culture consultant, speaker, coach, and best-selling author Joe Makston about mentoring the next generation of gay men. They both share their experiences with leadership/mentorship in their process of coming out. They also unpack how to best become mentors for the next generation so we can end the intense suffering our community endures. It’s through our own healing that we can lead others in their healing; this conversation shines light on ho
Feb 29, 2024 · 55 min
Unleash Your Inner Sexy
Get ready to turn up the heat on this sexy episode of Gay Men Going Deeper as we explore the nuances of what makes you feel sexy from the inside out, and how that authentic allure is perceived by others. From owning your personal style to embracing your quirks, we're revealing the secrets to unlocking your inner sexiness. Some of the topics we’ll be covering: How to increase your capacity to feel sexy? What makes you feel sexy? How does external validation fit into the mix? How d
Feb 22, 2024 · 35 min
When It’s Time To Say Goodbye
How do you know when it’s time to say goodbye? Whether it’s a relationship or job or a living situation, the best goodbyes are the ones that come from a place of love, not destruction. In today’s episode, Michael and Star are opening up about their painful decision to close the chapter on their romantic relationship. Some of the topics they’ll cover in this episode are: How and why they came to this decision The importance of knowing when you’ve reached the natural ending Ways to
Feb 15, 2024 · 57 min
Attraction to Straight Guys
As gay guys, our relationship with straight men can be quite complicated. In this episode, we’re exploring the complex connection between gay-straight male bonds, from platonic friendship to secret attractions. We'll also discuss common misconceptions and challenges that can arise when navigating these dynamics. Some of the topics we’ll be covering are: Our relationships with straight men How early experiences influenced these relationships What makes straight men attractive Shar