Gay Men Going Deeper

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood

Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life.

Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture.

Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.

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Jul 28, 2022 · 1 hr 3 min
Sexual Empowerment
Sex is a natural part of the human experience yet many people sense a lot of shame and insecurity around the topic. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we want to help you become more sexually empowered. We will be discussing things like… What does sexual empowerment mean to you?What makes you feel sexually empowered?What makes you feel sexually disempowered?What is one tip you can share with the audience to feel more sexually empowered? By the end of this episode, you’ll be able
Jul 21, 2022 · 53 min
Shiny Object Syndrome
Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS) is the tendency chase after things that are new and exciting, keeping you in a state of perpetually looking for “the next best thing”. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael invites psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to discuss how Shiny Object Syndrome affects gay men in life and in relationships. They’ll cover topics such as: SOS in dating apps The link between perfectionism and SOS The role of social media The fear of genuine intimacy
Jul 14, 2022 · 51 min
Bottom Shaming
One of the most common forms of sexual shaming we see in the gay community is towards bottoming. The closed-minded narratives that are perpetuated around receptive anal sex reflect a patriarchal belief system that inhibits our growth as a community. In this episode, we're tackling the topic of bottom shaming and exploring questions like... Where do you think bottom shaming stems from?Why do you think bottom shaming keeps being perpetuated in the community?How do you think we as a community
Jul 7, 2022 · 1 hr 44 min
Introduction to Breathwork
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel speaks with certified SOMA Breath breathwork instructor Jason Samadhi. Jason takes us on a journey into the power of breathwork and how consciously connecting with your breath can be one of the most potent tools for healing. By sharing the science of breathwork, Jason teaches us about the health benefits of working with your breath and how it can be used to improve performance both in and out of the bedroom. Jason then takes us on an hour long breathwork
Jun 30, 2022 · 1 hr 3 min
Ego
One of the greatest obstacles along the spiritual path is an overactive ego - that fear-based part of you that needs to control outcomes and win at all costs. But having an ego is necessary to the human experience, so how can we reconcile both the ego self and spiritual self? In this episode, we’re explaining how understanding your ego can actually benefit your spiritual practice. We’re answering questions such as: How do you distinguish between your ego self and spiritual self?How do
Jun 23, 2022 · 45 min
Navigating Non-Binary
Change can be scary. And in today’s world of ever-evolving language around gender and identity, it can make it hard for someone to ask questions without feeling judged or misunderstood. In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon opens up the conversation around navigating non-binary with genderqueer author Jason June and what his journey was like and how it now informs his work as a writer. Together they explore questions like… What is Non-Binary and what does it mean to be non-binary?What’
Jun 16, 2022 · 1 hr 2 min
Spirituality
Spirituality is an umbrella term that means many different things to many people. In this episode, we’re revealing our own experience with spirituality and spiritual practices by exploring these questions: What does spirituality mean to you?What in your life brought you to spirituality?What does your spiritual practice involve?Where can someone start if they want to develop a spiritual practice? Whether you’re spiritual or religious or neither, this episode will give you much to think abo
Jun 9, 2022 · 1 hr 8 min
Guilt, Shame, and Religion
Guilt and shame are two of the most challenging emotions we encounter. For those who grew up with a religious or spiritual belief system, guilt and shame can have a uniquely traumatic impact on your sense of self and in your relationships. In this episode, host Michael DiIorio speaks with inter-faith community leader, Jeremy Russo, who has used his experience with spiritual abuse to become a leader in the queer community helping others overcoming their own spiritual and religious trauma.
Jun 2, 2022 · 55 min
Toxic Positivity
Toxic positivity is the belief that people should maintain a positive mindset, no matter how challenging a situation may be. This belief invalidates your authentic emotions and is a form of avoidance. In this episode, we're sharing our own experiences and understanding of toxic positivity and we'll answer the questions: What are your thoughts on toxic positivity and the effects it has on silencing negative emotions and experiences?What’s been your experience with pushing away negative em
May 26, 2022 · 1 hr 18 min
Embracing Opposites
Have you ever found yourself conflicted about being top, bottom or vers? Or maybe you find yourself torn between whether or not you want monogamy or non-monogamy... Sometimes we can see pros and cons on both sides of our inner conflicts and it paralyzes us from making decisions. Being conflicted about your desires is completely normal. In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Miguel Ezra Ramirez talk about polarity in life and how to navigate contradictions, preferences and the duality o
May 19, 2022 · 1 hr 4 min
Emotional Health
While emotional health falls under the overall umbrella of mental health, it deserves its own conversation because your emotions have a profound impact on how you show up in the world and your overall quality of life. This episode will answer questions such as: What does it mean to be emotionally healthy?How can you tell when your emotional health may be suffering?How do you handle challenging emotions?What are some simple things you can do to support your emotional health? By the end o
May 12, 2022 · 59 min
Depression
Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States that affects an estimated 17.3 million adults and 3.2 million adolescents according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Research shows that gay and bisexual men are at a higher risk for: Major depression, Bipolar disorder, and, Generalized anxiety disorder, and are more likely than heterosexual men to attempt suicide. In today's episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks the heaviness around depression with
May 5, 2022 · 1 hr 13 min
Suicide
Each year, over 800,000 people die from suicide and it is the 2nd leading cause of death among 10-24 year olds. The LGBTQ community has a significantly increased risk and that’s why we’re dedicating an episode to having a candid conversation about suicide. In this episode, we’ll answer questions such as: How have you been impacted by suicide?What are some of the stigmas around suicide?What is your advice to someone who is feeling suicidal?As a community, how can we best support someone
Apr 28, 2022 · 55 min
Mirroring In The Gay Community
Your environment plays an important role in developing a strong identity and sense of self. Everything from the people you spend time with, where you get your news, and the social media accounts you follow will influence your sense of belonging in a community. In this episode, LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapist Justin Oberste joins host, Michael DiIorio to discuss mirroring: how we reflect back our lived experience with the world around us. Today’s episode will answer these questions: Wh
Apr 21, 2022 · 52 min
Building Better Relationships
Relationships can be a minefield to navigate when you don't have the right tools or language to help you. Whether it's romantic or platonic ones, we all could use a little more guidance and support with it comes to creating more secure, healthy relationships. In this episode, we're giving you a sneak peek into our exciting new course, Building Better Relationships, where we guide you on how to build better relationships in your life as well as deepen the one you have with yourself. Today w
Apr 14, 2022 · 46 min
Fitness, Nutrition & Mental Health
In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel speaks with Nutrition Coach Scott Weisgarber about the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health. Together they explore questions like: What is the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health?How come gay men are so concerned about physical health and appearance?How does this obsession with appearance impact mental health?The difference between approaching health from feel good vs look good mentalityHow can we find more
Apr 7, 2022 · 54 min
Intimacy
Intimacy is defined as the feeling of mutual vulnerability and closeness in personal relationships. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our unique experiences with intimacy as gay men. We’ll answer questions such as: What does intimacy mean to you?What was an intimate experience you’ve had that was not sexual? What unique challenges do gay men face when it comes to intimacy?How can you nurture intimacy in any kind of relationship? By the end of this episode
Mar 31, 2022 · 1 hr 14 min
Grappling with Grief: Addison Brasil
Grief can be a hard experience to navigate because nothing can really prepare you for deep and emotional loss. It's something that everyone will have to experience at least a few times in their life and each person's experience with it is going to be different. In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon is joined by special guest Addison Brasil to talk about his journey with grief after the lose his brother to cancer, find his father from suicide and survive a fatal event that killed a dear frien
Mar 24, 2022 · 1 hr 8 min
Secure Relationships
Relationships have a natural rhythm between feeling connected to your partner, and other times feeling disconnected from them. Each end of the spectrum can trigger different fears: the fear of being too close and/or the fear of abandonment. Understanding attachment styles helps you see how these fears show up in your relationships. In this episode, we're exploring our attachment styles and sharing ways we can find a greater sense of security in the naturals ebbs and flows of connection in rel
Mar 17, 2022 · 48 min
Love, Intimacy & Connection: Vol. 2
In this juicy and personal episode, Michael is letting you take a behind-the-scenes peek into his relationship with his partner, Star. While vacationing in Mexico, they are opening up about the lessons learned after one year together. Specifically, they're talking about relationship dynamics including conflict, intimacy, and communication. They'll be answering questions such as: How have they grown over the last year? What have been their biggest challenges? How do they handle c