Gay Men Going Deeper

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood

Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life.

Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture.

Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.

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Mar 10, 2022 · 1 hr 5 min
Heartbreak & Breakups
The painful sting of heartbreak is a uniquely awful experience that brings up a lot of our wounds around abandonment and rejection. In today's episode, we're getting raw and real about our heartbreak and breakups. We'll be answering questions such as: What was your hardest breakup and why?What do you need when you go through a breakup and how do you usually manage it?What have been some of the biggest life lessons you’ve learned through heartbreak?Looking back, what are you grateful for ab
Mar 3, 2022 · 1 hr 9 min
The Sensitive Gay Man
Sensitivity is one of the most misunderstood temperament traits due to toxic gender norms and stereotypes about masculinity and femininity. Come learn about the science of sensitivity and ditch the stigma you may have inherited about what it means to be a sensitive gay man. In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel unpacks all you need to know about sensitivity with Clinical Psychologist Dr. Chris Horan. Together they explore questions like: What does it mean to be sensitive? (the scie
Feb 24, 2022 · 56 min
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a necessary part of the healing process. When we are able to truly forgive others, we liberate ourselves from the pain of the experience so we can find peace and move on. But forgiveness isn't always easy In this episode, we're here to help you out by answering questions such as: Do you find it harder to forgive or to apologize?Can you truly ‘forgive and forget’?How can you tell if an apology is sincere?What advice do you have for people who have a hard time with forgiveness
Feb 17, 2022 · 54 min
Therapy
Therapy is crucial for our mental health, yet some people still look at it as unobtainable due to financial struggle. There are also still myths around Therapy that say you’re weak if you need to go, you’re less of a man if you want to talk about your emotions, and that Therapy is only for “other people who are broken.” In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks all you need to know about Therapy with licensed marriage and family Therapist, Jake Myers, who’s also founder and CEO of LGBTQ
Feb 10, 2022 · 1 hr 14 min
Victimhood
Whether we're aware of it or not, we all have an inner victim within us that needs to be acknowledged. Processing this can be uncomfortable and triggering, but it is necessary in order to grow and evolve beyond it. In this episode, we're talking about victimhood both at the macro level as queer people, right down to the micro level as individuals. We are answering questions such as: How have we been victimized as gay men?What impact do you see in our community from this victimization?What
Feb 3, 2022 · 53 min
Betting on Yourself
Your life is a series of choices. Sometimes those choices will ask you to bet on yourself - to pursue what you love, even if there is an emotional risk in doing so. When you bet on yourself, you awaken a world of possibility. When you bet against yourself, you always lose. In this episode of, Michael is joined by Alex Ray as they talk about what it means to bet on yourself and why doing so can help you get unstuck and feeling more enthusiastic about your life. Today's Guest: Alex Ray
Jan 27, 2022 · 58 min
Tips for Motivation
We all have those days when motivation is hard to come by. Whether you’re lacking time, energy, or inspiration, this episode will give you the useful tips you need to get and stay motivated. We answer questions like: What helps you get motivated?What are your biggest motivation distractors and how do you avoid them?What keeps you on track with your goals and deadlines? By the end of the episode, you’ll be ready to slay your goals and start taking action towards them. Watch this ep on Yo
Jan 20, 2022 · 1 hr 1 min
Discovering Authenticity Through Embodiment
In this episode Matt speaks with Gay Olympian, Kung Fu Master, QTBIPOC Counselor and Shaman Devante Love. They talk about how to heal and discover your most authentic self through connecting with the body. Here are the questions explored in this episode: ►What does authenticity mean to you? ►What does embodiment mean to you? ►What is the connection between the body, our thoughts, our emotions? ►Why is it important for gay men in the 21st century especially to engage in embodiment pr
Jan 13, 2022 · 50 min
Personal Transformation
Personal transformation can be fun when it comes to setting goals and imagining the possibilities of the future, but things get tricky when it comes time to execute these plans. In this episode, we are going deeper on the topic of personal transformation. We’ll be exploring questions like: What does ‘personal transformation’ mean and why is it important?What is the most challenging part of changing yourself?What is the best advice for anyone who is serious about personal transformation?
Jan 6, 2022 · 45 min
Dating & Disabilities
Dating is already a minefield to the everyday gay, add living with a disability to the mix and things get even more complicated. In today's episode host Calan Breckon explores the DO's and DON'Ts around dating and disabilities in the gay community. He's joined by special guests David Oliver Wudel and Ryan Michael Williams who both live with different levels of cerebral palsy. In this episode, we're unpacking questions like: What is acceptable vocabulary and what is no longer acceptable?Wha
Dec 30, 2021 · 57 min
Emotional Intelligence
Emotions can cause a lot of unnecessary suffering when we are not equipped with the tools to manage them. In this episode, we are exploring what it means to have emotional intelligence: the idea of knowing our feelings, what they mean, and how they affect others. Listen in as we share: How we describe our relationship with our emotionsHow we avoid our emotionsWhat situations bring up a lot of emotions for usOur greatest learning about emotions By the end of this episode, you'll realize
Dec 23, 2021 · 55 min
Sex Positivity
Your sexuality is yours, and how you express it is the fun of life. But for so many of us, sex is wrapped up in shame. In this episode, Michael has a candid conversation with special guest, Mike Iamele, about sex positivity and sexual confidence. Together, they explore: What is sex positivity? The link between shame and sexual desire How to be more sexually confident Michael also volunteers to have his sensitivities mapped to illustrate how your sensitivities and desires are linked
Dec 16, 2021 · 1 hr 3 min
Dating Apps
Dating apps are one of the most common ways we connect with other gay men. Yet many people struggle to make the connections they seek, and many more give up altogether... at least for a little while. In this episode, we're sharing many years of combined experience with using dating apps, specifically: What are some best practices and a rule of thumb when using dating apps?How can someone find success using dating apps?What's the biggest mistake people make on dating apps?What’s the # 1 thi
Dec 9, 2021 · 41 min
Sex and Porn Addiction
In this episode Matt interviews Psychotherapist and Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Joe Kort about Sex and Porn Addiction. Dr. Kort shares his 36 years of clinical experience working with sex addiction and compulsive sexual behaviors. In this episode we unpacked the following questions: How do you define addiction?What is the difference between compulsion and addiction?How come you stopped labeling it sex addiction and now refer to compulsivity instead?Why do gay men tend to struggle with sex and po
Dec 2, 2021 · 1 hr 5 min
Fake vs. Real Confidence
About today's show Self-confidence looks like a lot of different things, depending on who you ask. In this episode, we're shedding some light on the difference between fake confidence and real confidence. We'll be looking at: What does it mean to be truly self-confident?How do you tell the difference between fake confidence and real confidence?What are some unique challenges gay men face with respect to building confidence?What are some habits that help develop greater self-confidence?
Nov 25, 2021 · 53 min
Never Been In Love
About today's show Have you ever seen that movie "Never Been Kissed" with Drew Barrymore? Well, today is kind of the adult gay man version of that story...only with love. I'm sure many gay men out there can relate to Tyler Boyle's story of being a 30' something gay man who still has yet to fall in love. After being a late bloomer Tyler found himself navigating a very different dating world compared to his heteronormative past life. Along his journey, he figured out 4 key things to help him
Nov 18, 2021 · 56 min
Personal and Relational Boundaries
About today's show Personal and Relational Boundaries are easy to talk about but can be challenging to implement. In this episode, we're sharing how setting and honouring boundaries is an act of self-care and ultimately helps increase your sense of self-love. These are the questions we'll be discussing: What do boundaries mean to you?What are some things you practice setting boundaries for?How do you know when you need to set a boundary?What are some fears that come up for you when setting
Nov 11, 2021 · 1 hr 2 min
Queer & Christian
About today's show While homosexuality and Christianity are often incompatible, there are many people who must navigate both. In this episode, Michael hosts a panel discussion with 3 queer men who grew up in the Christian faith. They are sharing their experiences in the church including how they came to terms with their sexuality. Even if you don’t consider yourself religious or spiritual, their stories will inspire you and illustrate that despite our differences, we have more in common t
Nov 4, 2021 · 58 min
Getting Your Needs Met
About Today’s Show We all have needs that, when met, allow us to live more authentically and enjoy more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode, we're talking about getting these needs met and will unpack questions such as: What self-care practices do you have in place to ensure you are meeting your personal needs?How do you know when you’re out of alignment with your needs and no longer being authentic?What tips and advice do you have that have helped you along
Oct 28, 2021 · 1 hr 2 min
Self-Love
About Today’s Show Come spend the hour with Matt Landsiedel and Jerome Braggs to learn more about self-love. Jerome Braggs is a highly-gifted Intuitive Empath, Inspirational Speaker, Writer + Poet, and Psychopomp. He shares so eloquently with the listeners how he moved closer to wholeness and love for himself by healing shame. Jerome also shares his powerful story of a near-death experience that completely transformed him. He identifies this as being pivotal to learning what the essence of lo