Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

Sexual Betrayal - What If Being Honest Will Blow Up My Marriage? - Ep. 215

Todays episode deals with one of the toughest questions I have faced from guys - "What if being honest with my wife will blow up my marriage?"  Becuase I needed coaching in this - I brought in an expert Dr. Barbara Steffens who is an expert in helping...

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The #1 Benefit Of My Porn Recovery - Ep. 214

How is it we accomplish anything in our life? - how is it we see God working through us? - the answer is prayer.  And the one benefit above all for me in leaving porn has been the ability to pray with confidence!  Today we explore that concept through...

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Your Porn Recovery Needs An Alternator - Ep. 213

Recently Vern learned a valuable lesson from a car "event" on his trip back from a family vacation.  Of course never one to waste a good story, Vern applies what he learned to our recovery and why your porn recovery needs an Alternator? Are you...

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My New Favorite Porn Recovery Quote - (Ep. 212)

I heard a podcast recently that included a quote that I thought "wow - does that ever hold true for us in recovery"  Today on finding traction I share that quote - and yes I bury the lead! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery...

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The Odyssey of Porn Recovery - Lessons from the Movie (Ep. 211)

What does Christopher Nolan's retelling of the Greek Tale the Odyssey teach us about the porn recovery journey?  In this episode Vern reflects on his recovery thoughts from the movie. If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I...

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How Porn Addiction Keeps you Stuck in Peter Pan Land (Ep. 210)

Do you want to grow up before you grow old.  In this episode my friend and therapist Caleb discuss his journey out of porn and his insights on growing up through the story of Peter Pan. If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources,...

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Stop Watching Porn By Rewiring Your Heart: The Psalm 51 Strategy (Ep. 209)

Most everyone who has struggled and fallen when it comes to porn will be familiar and drawn to Psalm 51 - David's Psalm of Confession.  In that Psalm David cries out for a new willing heart.  In this episode Vern recalls how important that prayer has...

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The Path To Porn Freedom Starts With THIS Specific Phone Call - Ep. 208

When I talk to guys about their journey out of porn they often remember how significant it was the first time they reached out to someone for help.  Today we talk about that experience and I explain how a phone (zoom) call would look and feel like as...

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Stuck in Porn Recovery? Understanding Plateaus and Breakthroughs - Ep. 207

For most guys, the porn recovery journey does not represent a straight line but is more like a series of plateaus and tipping points. In this episode Vern explores why we hit plateaus (resistant points) and how new tipping points can further the...

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Why Your Charlie's Angel is better than any Porn Star - Ep. 206

In this episode Vern explores how porn affects our ability to grow older with the wife of our youth.  In case you didn't realize it, you get older every year!  Is porn robbing your ability to grow older and still be contented with your wife who is...

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Is Your Porn Recovery Stalling Out? - Ep. 205

It is not uncommon to get off to such a great start in our recovery journey but then find ourselves stalling out or "losing traction".  In this episode Vern talks about some ways to get your recovery back on track if that is what you are experiencing....

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How Quitting Porn Leads to Lasting Joy - Ep. 204

Today Vern shares an inspiring couple of bible verses that have recently encouraged him on his recovery journey and makes up his own new verse! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's...

Porn Triggers: How Boredom Can Lead to Relapse - Ep. 203

What do you do when you get bored?  What do you do when you want to just "kill some time".  In this episode Vern talks about how being unskillful in this area often leads us to negative results and some ways to "redeem this time" (or at least make it...

See why Porn Addiction is becoming a mainstream Coversation- Ep. 202

When porn is mentioned in media it is often joked about or minimized.  Now and again a serious article appears that actually describes the tsunami type effects it is having on people.  Today I want to read an article which focuses on these effects -...

What do I Deserve (this Good Friday) - Ep. 201

If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.  Just use the following link to get started.  if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser...

Looking Back at 200 Episodes of Helping Men Quit Porn - Ep. 200

Hard to believe its been 200 Episodes of Finding Traction!  In this episode various men share about podcasts and lessons (from the Finding Traction course) that have been helpful in their recovery - here's to the next 200 episodes! If you want to get...

Stop Feeding Your Mental Porn Library: A Key to Porn Recovery - Ep. 199

Are you able to see images in your mind?  Do you struggle with fantasy as a result of carrying your own porn library betweeen your ears?  In this episode Vern talks about differences between people around these questions and how it effects our...

I Can't Stop Watching Porn - Does that make me a Pervert? - Ep. 198

Do you ever think you may be a pervert or used that term to describe someone else?  In this episode Vern explores that term particularly in reference to the describe how big of a role sex plays in your thinking and behavior.  A diagram of this talk...

Are you a Broken Boy? - with Dr. Patrick Morley - Ep. 197

Many men get into recovery and eventually start asking the question "How did I get here?"  One of the things that begins to crop up are questions around their formative years.  One of the books that has been so helpful for Vern and the men in his...

Porn Addiction Recovery: Rewiring Your Sexual Arousal - Ep. 196

In the last episode we talked about the statement that "Arousal is not something that happens to us but something we engage with".  In this episode Vern talks about why that sometimes doesn't feel true and how we need to move from passive mode to...