FEEL BETTER FOR GOOD | Stress Relief for Superwomen

Effie Lavore | The Toxic Stress Coach for Women ™

Overwhelmed by stress that just won’t quit? You’re not alone—and this show is made for you.

FEEL BETTER FOR GOOD is your go-to podcast for learning how to break out of toxic stress cycles to create more confidence, love, leadership and impact in your life, relationships, and communities you care about most. Human behavior expert Effie Lavore gives you a front row seat to the most powerful tools and strategies from a thriving life coaching practice.

→ Start with episode #1: 'Why Feel Better? Why NOT?' then head to #75: ‘How to Stop Worrying & Love the Human Experience"

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20 episodes
Updated May 26
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Episodes20

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May 26 · 1 hr 4 min
102. Fix What's F*cking With You
Today's podcast is a recording of my recent masterclass--the most valuable hour of live training I've ever delivered. Here's what we cover: Why and when "normal" stress turns toxic + how to harness it to your advantage How to tell the difference between useful emotion and non-useful emotion—and what to do about each The only 3 skills you will need for getting unstuck on any problem you’ll ever face My #1 tool for seeing what’s really holding you back, connecting you to your strength, and moving you forward powerfully
May 15 · 44 min
101. Falling Madly in Love with Your Life (and Work) - with Carly Raemer
Effie recently guested on Mythic A.F. Radio with Carly Raemer, and the podcast took some very fun and magical turns. Today's episode is a portion of that conversation. Enjoy! . ✅ To learn more about Carly and her work, visit carlyraemer.com ✅ The doors to my transformational 6-month group coaching program Feel Better For Good are OPEN on May 22 - and we're kicking things off with a very special free masterclass. To receive a personal invite, sign up for my email list at effielavore.com ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
May 8 · 33 min
100. The Importance of Celebrating Wins--and Yourself
Episode 100, baby!! We made it. Do you soak in the moment when you're winning? Are you in the regular habit of celebrating yourself? If not, it could be the missing link between you and what you most want... If you want to learn a simple tool for shifting into the habit of daily celebration (and hear about my ultralush birthday spree!), this episode's for you. . ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com
April 30 · 22 min
99. Courage to Change (+ saving the podcast!)
Do you have the courage to be honest with yourself--and then change--the things that aren't working for you in your days? On my late winter hiatus, I was faced with the decision to A) let go of the podcast, or B) reform the way I did things around here. Guess which one I chose...? This episode gives you all the beef. Listen to this one if you suspect it's time to make a new plan, bury the bodies of overthinking and perfectionism, and show up differently. . . ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
March 5 · 25 min
98. The Price of Freedom
Freedom isn’t free. But neither is staying stuck. In this episode we break down the real price of emotional freedom—and the hidden cost of maintaining the status quo in your life. Everything you want is beyond your comfort zone. Which price are you willing to pay? . . ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
February 20 · 14 min
97. Dating Without Losing Yourself
In this uncut audio from a recent social media video, I break down what it actually means to own your experience in dating. If you’re exhausted, discouraged, or feel like screaming every time someone doesn’t text back, this episode is for you. We talk about: How to stop outsourcing your confidence to the hive mind How to enjoy the process of dating instead of bracing through it And why managing your mind is what ultimately positions you to meet the person you’re meant to be with If you want love without losing your power, this is required listening. . ✅ Ready to turn the tide of your life in 2026? Then my group coaching program is for you. Applications for Feel Better For Good are now OPEN. Email now for more information and to apply: effie@effielavore.com ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
February 13 · 23 min
96. Relationship Revolution: The Beginning of Love
We’ve been taught that love is something to earn, secure, or lose. Your relationship isn’t broken. That premise is. In this special excerpt from my new course Relationship Revolution, I dismantle the conditional, performance-based model most of us are unconsciously running — and why it quietly guarantees insecurity, resentment, and dissatisfaction. If your access to love depends on someone else’s behavior, you’re not in love. You’re in a power struggle. This episode is about ending that struggle at its root. . . ✅ Doors to my Feel Better For Good group coaching program are officially OPEN! To apply book your consultation now at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠ ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration
February 7 · 15 min
95. Why Love Feels Hard—And How Security Changes Everything
Love doesn’t feel hard because you’re broken. It feels hard because of how your nervous system learned to attach. In this episode, we unpack attachment styles from childhood to adulthood, how they quietly shape our relationships, work, and sense of self, and why so many people feel stuck repeating the same patterns. Then we shift into what secure attachment actually looks like in real life — not just in relationships with loved ones, but in how you relate to yourself, your purpose, and the life you’re building. This is about moving from survival mode into a life that feels steady, connected, and safe to live inside. Includes a 3-step practice for intentionally security creation in your life and relationships. . ✅ Register for the free masterclass BREAKING THE LOVE CURSE: How to Have Better Relationships ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
January 30 · 20 min
94. It's All Made Up
This episode is a vital exploration of the mental rulebooks we mistake for reality. Using the metaphor of dating, Effie looks at how unspoken rules, assumptions, and survival-based narratives shape our behavior—and why they often keep us stuck, reactive, and disconnected from our own authority. Today we're challenging the belief that certainty creates safety, and offers a new way of relating to discomfort, power, and choice. Because the most exhausting pressure in your life isn’t coming from reality. It’s coming from what you’re believing. Ep. 65 - Master Your 3 Most Important Relationships ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
January 23 · 29 min
93. Unreasonable Optimism & Strategic Pessimism
What if the thing holding you back isn’t a lack of confidence or discipline—but a brain that’s doing its job a little too well? In this episode, we break down how our natural negativity bias quietly shapes our goals, decisions, and willingness to go after what we want. We’ll talk about when pessimism is actually useful, what to do when it becomes self-defeating, and how to use unreasonable optimism to make bold moves without lying to yourself about reality. This episode is for you if you’ve ever: talked yourself out of a desire that really mattered quit on a goal and told yourself it “wasn’t meant to be” felt burned by the past and afraid to hope again We’ll reframe optimism and pessimism not as personality traits, but as trainable habits—and I’ll show you how to channel both in a way that expands your capacity for courage, resilience, and reward. . . ✅ ⁠ Leave a podcast review for a chance to win a $100 VISA gift card! ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠ Episode #16: How to Believe in Yourself Episode #42: How to Stop Doomscrolling in Your Head
January 15 · 22 min
92. Availability Isn’t Alignment
Today we're talking about at how we as high-performing women are conditioned to accept what’s offered, resist who’s offering, or say yes out of guilt—without ever pausing to check alignment. The result? An avalanche of unnecessary stress caused by incongruence. Here, we explore how to interrupt those reflexive responses by asking a few simple questions before giving an answer on any offer that comes your way. If you’re craving empowerment, a more honest way of living, and stress relief that actually lasts, this episode will give you a simple but powerful practice for choosing from integrity instead of habit. . . ✅ ⁠Message me here on Instagram / here on Facebook⁠ for my list of NEUTRAL RESPONSES to help you practice the pause and power up your decision making ✅ Book your free coaching consult now at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
Dec 31, 2025 · 21 min
91. How to Make Magic When Life Is Hard: 3 Ingredients for Reinvention
Life doesn’t have to be easy for magic to be possible. This podcast breaks down how to create magic when life is lifing—not by bypassing pain or waiting for better circumstances, but by learning how to work with reality instead of against it. If you’ve been in a season of hardship, grief, burnout, or transition, this episode names what’s actually required to turn the mess into momentum. Inside you'll learn: The 3 non-negotiable ingredients for reinvention Why commitment matters more than motivation The kind of emotional risk that actually changes your life How to stop judging your circumstances and start using them What “presence” really means when things aren’t going your way This isn’t about manufacturing a better mood. It’s about learning how to create peace, confidence, and forward motion from the inside out—especially when life feels heavy and hard. 👉 Free Jan 5 Masterclass: How to Not Repeat 2025 → Register now at effielavore.com Ep 75: How to Stop Worrying & Love the Human Experience Ep 88: What Reinvention Really Looks Like
Dec 16, 2025 · 14 min
90. What if You're Wrong About Who You Are?
If you’ve been getting the same outcomes no matter how hard you try, this conversation will challenge you to examine the assumptions you’re living from. We talk about discomfort as a necessary part of personal growth, how identity shapes behavior, and why exploring the edges of who you think you are is essential for meaningful change. This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, outgrowing an old version of themselves, or sensing that reinvention is calling—but isn’t sure where to begin. You’ll explore: Why identity—not effort—is often the real bottleneck The value of being wrong about who you are How discomfort signals growth, not failure What it actually takes to create different results in your life If you’re ready to loosen your grip on an outdated self-concept and step into a more honest, expansive version of yourself, start here. ✅ RSVP for my free masterclass, HOW TO NOT REPEAT 2025 ✅ Ready to turn the tide of your life in 2026? Then my private coaching program is for you. Applications for Your Year of Reinvention are OPEN through December. Email now for more information and to apply: effie@effielavore.com ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
Dec 9, 2025 · 13 min
89. The Life Waiting for You on the Other Side of Reinvention
In this episode I take you through a real day in the life after reinvention—a day shaped by ease, congruence, and aligned action instead of hustle, pressure, and “productivity.” I share what my days used to look like (constant busyness, overcommitting, burnout, perfectionism)… and what they look like now that I no longer measure myself by how much I get done. You’ll hear exactly how identity-level reinvention changes your energy, your actions, your pace, and the way you move through the world. This is the lived difference between hustling for your worth and creating from who you are. If you're craving a life that feels spacious, grounded, and genuinely energizing, this one's for you... → The doors to my exclusive private coaching programYour Year of Reinvention are now open. Ready to embark on the journey into your next chapter? Email REINVENTION to ⁠effie@effielavore.com⁠ now to apply ✅ Rate & review the podcast now for a chance to win a $100 gift card ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult now: ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
Dec 3, 2025 · 15 min
88. What Reinvention Really Looks Like (and How to Know You’re Ready)
If you feel a more satisfying life calling your name, this episode shows you what real reinvention requires — and why the next version of your life won’t be built from who you used to be. I break down the seven stages of reinvention, how ambitious women outgrow their old success formulas, and the signs you’re ready to step into a more aligned, expressed, successful AND grounded version of yourself. If you’ve been craving clarity, purpose, and a life that finally matches your potential, this is your invitation. → Applications for Your Year of Reinvention are now open. If you’re ready to embark on the journey into your next chapter, email REINVENTION to effie@effielavore.com now to apply ✅ Rate & review the podcast now for a chance to win a $100 gift card ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
Nov 30, 2025 · 20 min
87. When Hard Work Stops Working—Here’s What Actually Moves You Forward
Working your ass off but still not getting the results you want? In this episode of my reinvention series, I break down the real reason high-achieving women stay stuck—even when they’re seemingly doing everything right. Spoiler: you’re solving the wrong problem. We cover: How faulty questions keep your brain in cycles of toxic stress What it takes to get an accurate diagnosis of your real issue How to retrain your mind to access higher-level solutions The emotional regulation skill no one taught you (but changes everything) Why guidance accelerates reinvention—and how to know you’re ready for it If you’re craving clarity, real traction, and a better way of being, this episode shows you exactly where to start. → Ready to turn it around in 2026? Then my private coaching program is for you. Applications for Your Year of Reinvention open December 2. Sign up to my email list HERE to be the first to know ✅ Rate & review the podcast now for a chance to win a $100 gift card ✅ Follow on Instagram for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult now: ⁠⁠effielavore.com
Nov 25, 2025 · 17 min
86. Tired of Holding It All Together? Start Here
Feeling burned out, overwhelmed, or disconnected from yourself? This episode dives into the quiet chronic burnout so many high-achieving women carry — the emotional exhaustion, the constant pressure to hold everything together, and the numbness that causes us to go on autopilot. We explore how toxic stress cycles form, why they feel impossible to escape, and how to move from awareness to real agency using the reinvention framework that has helped my clients reclaim confidence, clarity, and self-trust. Here are the 3 primary questions to get you started: How do you honestly feel? How do you want to feel? Who do you want to be, and how do you want to live? If you’re ready to break up with toxic stress once and for all, my private coaching program is for you. Applications for Your Year of Reinvention open December 2. Sign up to my email list HERE to be the first to know! . . ✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway for a $100 gift card ✅ Follow on Instagram for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult now at ⁠⁠effielavore.com
Nov 20, 2025 · 21 min
85. Burnout, Breakdowns & Breakthroughs: Making Crises Work for You
Burnout isn’t failure — it’s feedback. In this episode, we unpack how breakdowns are often the start of breakthroughs, and why the goal isn’t to bounce back but to rebuild better. You’ll learn how to spot the early signs of burnout, interrupt the cycle before everything collapses, and rebuild in a way that’s clearer, stronger, and actually aligned. I share two real client stories — one in a crumbling marriage, one facing career burnout — to show you how crisis can become the catalyst for reinvention when you know how to lead yourself through it. If you’ve been holding it together for everyone else, this one’s your sign to hold space for you. . 👉Feeling that in-between space — not burned out enough to quit, but not lit up enough to stay? Let’s rebuild differently, together. Something big is coming!! Make sure on my email list now for the opportunity to apply to my upcoming reinvention program → https://effie-lavore.systeme.io/email . ✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway! ✅ Book your free coaching consult now ⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠
Nov 14, 2025 · 15 min
84. Feeling Trapped by ‘Shoulds’? How to Start Living from Desire Instead of Obligation
I should be grateful. This should be enough for me. I should be further along by now… should just say yes… should play by the rules. …Sound familiar? Yeah. On this episode of Feel Better For Good we’re roasting the ‘Should Life’ — the invisible rulebook that keeps high-functioning women small and quietly miserable. Listen to learn how to spot it, how to burn it, and how to start making decisions based on desire instead of duty. Ready to start writing your next chapter on purpose? Learn more about Your Year of Reinvention, my 1:1 coaching program for women ready to stop shrinking and start truly shining, by joining my email list now: effielavore.com . ✅ DM me your biggest should story now on Instagram ✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway! ✅ Book your free coaching consult today: effielavore.com⁠
Nov 11, 2025 · 9 min
83. The Audacity to Reinvent: Why You're Not Wrong for Wanting More
You don’t need a rock bottom to reinvent your life... just the guts to admit “fine” isn’t working anymore. In this kickoff to a podcast series on reinvention, we’re talking about the bold, quiet decision to lead yourself differently. If you’ve been feeling the whisper — that sense that something’s off even though everything looks fine — this is your permission slip. Ready to start writing your next chapter on purpose? Learn more about Your Year of Reinvention, my new 1:1 coaching program for women ready to stop shrinking and start shining, by joining my email list now 👉 effielavore.com . . ✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway! ✅ Follow me on Instagram for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult now ⁠⁠effielavore.com