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Lisa Opel | Deep Thoughts & Dirty Laughs

Deep Thoughts & Dirty Laughs - Stories / interviews / experiences and more (DE/ENG) from an ex- sex shop manager, mum of two, author of erotic stories and bisexual woman. More about Lisa Opel including podcast interviews, TV appearances, TEDx Talk, her book, audiobook, blog, social media and more on www.pleasepinchmehard.com

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  • September 9 · 37 min

    (ENG) LADY VYRA - Inside the mind of a dominatrix

    (ENG): LADY VYRA: Inside the mind of a dominatrix. Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/R-kAHJTt3jA In this episode, Lisa talks to Berlin-based dominatrix Lady Vyra about sensual dominance, BDSM as bodywork, and why kink can be so much more playful, tender and funny than the clichés suggest. There is movement, theatre, leather, breath, shame, power, and yes: an alien-looking vibrator that left one poor man beautifully confused. Lady Vyra shares stories from her sessions, including couple play-coaching, women discovering their dominant side, and an extended chastity adventure through Berlin involving rules, check-ins, a prison room and a very official-sounding arousal ban. Somehow, between all the whips, cages and roleplay, it becomes a conversation about trust, embodiment and giving yourself permission to want what you want. We also talk about why BDSM can feel almost meditative, how safe words and communication make deeper play possible, and why pleasure deserves a place next to massages, facials and all the other things we casually call self-care. Funny, juicy, thoughtful and surprisingly wholesome in the dirtiest possible way. Find Lady Vyra: https://ladyvyra.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ladyvyra_2/ I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • September 2 · 15 min

    (DE) Augenkontakt ist intimer als Nacktheit. Und Oral ist meditativ.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Augenkontakt ist intimer als Nacktheit. Und Oral ist meditativ. BEDUCATED: CODE: pleasepinchmehard // LINK HIER oder hier: https://beduc.at/pd2635-ppmh In dieser Folge geht es um zwei Themen, die erst mal wirken, als hätten sie nicht viel miteinander zu tun: Augenkontakt und Oral. Ich schaue mir beides erst getrennt an und merke dann ziemlich schnell: Am Ende geht es bei beiden um Nähe, Fokus und dieses kleine innere „Uff, das ist jetzt aber echt nah“. Es geht darum, warum Augenkontakt sich manchmal intimer anfühlen kann als nackt sein. Warum angeschaut werden so viel auslösen kann. Und warum Oral für manche Menschen etwas Meditatives haben kann: beim Geben durch Fokus, beim Empfangen durch Vertrauen und Loslassen. Eine Folge über Intimität, Kopfkino, Körpergefühl, kleine peinliche Momente, echte Aufmerksamkeit und die Frage, was passiert, wenn wir beim Sex ein bisschen weniger performen und ein bisschen mehr da sind. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • August 5 · 26 min

    (ENG) Are we headed towards a sexless society?

    (ENG): Are we headed towards a sexless society? BEDUCATED: Link here or https://beduc.at/pd2631-ppmh: | Discount Code: pleasepinchmehard MORE ONLINE: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/are-we-headed-toward-a-sexless-society/ Are we headed toward a sexless society, or is desire simply exhausted? In this episode, I talk about dopamine, doomscrolling, dating apps, consent, body image, self-improvement culture and why intimacy can feel so complicated now. Not to shame anyone for having less sex, but to ask what desire needs in order to feel safe, playful and alive again. Less performance. More play. Less perfection. More presence. Less self-surveillance. More tenderness. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • July 15 · 34 min

    (ENG) REBECCA MINOR - The Silent B: @Bi_ Invisibility

    (ENG): REBECCA MINOR @bi_invisibility: Bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, and finding the words for who you are. Watch this on YouTube: What happens when you know you are queer, but the world keeps reading your life as straight? In this episode, I talk to Rebecca Minor, therapist, gender specialist, author, and co-founder of bi+ (in)visibility. We speak about bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, coming out, bisexual men, community, and the question so many people carry quietly: Am I queer enough? Rebecca reminds us that your actions do not determine your identity. You can be bi, queer, pan, questioning, married, monogamous, a parent, private, visible, or still figuring things out. Your identity is still yours. About Rebecca: Rebecca Minor is a queer therapist, educator, and founder of bi+ (in)visibility, an online community for bi+, pan, and queer people navigating life in straight-assumed relationships. Drawing from both her clinical work and lived experience, Rebecca helps people untangle identity, belonging, visibility, and what it means to be known. Her work has resonated with hundreds of thousands of people who have spent years wondering whether they are "queer enough" and looking for language, community, and connection. She is also the author of Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This. Links: Instagram: @bi_invisibility | @gender.specialist | bi+ (in)visibility: genderspecialist.com/bi-invisibility | Rebecca’s book: Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • July 8 · 43 min

    (DE) mit Lovis Waltner: Sexuelle Bildung beginnt an der Supermarktkasse.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): LOVIS WALTNER - Sexuelle Bildung beginnt an der Supermarktkasse. YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/pAGUwrb1c84 BEDUCATED: Link hier oder: https://beduc.at/pd2627-ppmh | Rabatt-Code: pleasepinchmehard ALLE LINKS ZU LOVIS:Website: https://www.hejlovis.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hej.lovis.sxpaedagogik |E-Mail: loviswaltner@hejlovis.com ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: Was passiert, wenn ein Kind an der Supermarktkasse fragt, wie das Baby in den Bauch gekommen ist? Oder wenn es in der Badewanne den eigenen Körper entdeckt und sagt: “Das fühlt sich schön an”? In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Sexualpädagogin Lovis Waltner über sexuelle Bildung, die nicht aus dem einen großen, peinlichen Aufklärungsgespräch besteht. Sondern aus vielen kleinen Momenten im Alltag. Lovis macht Mut, nicht perfekt sein zu müssen. Wir dürfen sagen: “Das ist eine gute Frage, ich muss kurz überlegen.” Oder: “Das weiß ich gerade nicht, aber ich finde es heraus.” Wichtig ist, dass Kinder merken: Mit diesen Themen darf ich kommen. Denn wenn Kinder keine Antworten von uns bekommen, suchen sie sie woanders. Bei Freund:innen, im Internet, auf Social Media oder irgendwann in Pornos. DEEP & DIRTY findest du überall, wo es Podcasts gibt, und hier auf YouTube. Über Lovis Waltner | Lovis Waltner ist Sexualpädagogin, Sexualberaterin und Jugend- und Heimerzieherin. Ihr Schwerpunkt liegt in der sexuellen Bildung für Kinder, Jugendliche, Eltern und Fachkräfte. Sie arbeitet unter anderem mit Familien, Schulen, Kindergärten und der Kinder- und Jugendhilfe. In ihrer Arbeit geht es um Körperwissen, Gefühle, Grenzen, Sprache, Selbstbestimmung, digitale Medien und die Frage, wie Erwachsene Kinder und Jugendliche sicher, altersgerecht und unaufgeregt begleiten können. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • July 1 · 16 min

    (DE) Heiße Gedanken für heiße Tage.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): HEIßE GEDANKEN FÜR HEIßE TAGE. Es ist heiß. Zu heiß zum Arbeiten, zu heiß zum Schlafen, vielleicht sogar zu heiß für Sex. Aber Fantasie hält sich nicht an Temperaturen. Heiße Gedanken für heiße Tage ist eine Solo-Folge über die Erotik des Unausgesprochenen. Über das Prickeln vor dem ersten Schritt. Über Menschen, die man kaum kennt und trotzdem mitnimmt. Und über Fantasien, die oft ganz leise anfangen. Und ja, ich habe mich mal wieder ans Schreiben auf Deutsch gewagt. Das ist für mich immer noch ungewohnt, also seid lieb zu mir. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • June 24 · 38 min

    (ENG) LEA MISHRA BIWEEKLY SHOP: Bi+ Visibility, Fashion and Coming Out

    (ENG): LEA MISHRA // BIWEEKLY SHOP. A conversation about being Bi+, finding language for yourself, and creating everyday ways to feel seen. Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xhGTrC7TOME In this episode of DEEP & DIRTY, I talk to Lea Mishra, founder of Biweekly, about Bi+ visibility, fashion as a quiet signal, coming out more than once, flirting with women, internalized biphobia, and why so many Bi+ people still feel invisible. Lea shares how the question “Where is everyone?” led her to create Biweekly: a fashion brand using symbols, colors and everyday pieces to make Bi+ identity more visible without having to shout. We talk about being bi in straight-presenting relationships, feeling “too normal” to belong, the pressure and freedom around coming out, and why bisexuality is an attraction, not an action. An episode for everyone who has ever felt not queer enough, too late, too hidden, or unsure whether they count. About Lea Lea Mishra is the founder of Biweekly, a fashion brand creating clothing and accessories for more Bi+ visibility in Europe. Before Biweekly, she co-founded POHA House, a co-living brand focused on community and connection. Lea lives in Zurich, is a mother of two, and is passionate about building brands that create real impact through visibility, belonging and community. Links Website: https://biweekly.shop/deInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/biweekly.shop/TikTok: @biweekly.shop I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • June 10 · 39 min

    (ENG) MARIE :: Moonlight Society - The Escort Agency for Kink & Fetish

    (ENG): MARIE // MOONLIGHT SOIETY. Sex Work Without Shame: Feminism, Kink and Booking Desire. Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/EStZb82xf0k In this episode, I speak with Marie, founder of Moonlight Society Berlin, an escort agency focused on kink-aware, emotionally intelligent companionship. We talk about escort, kink, BDSM and fetish without shame, scandal or judgement. Marie shares why she founded the agency she once needed herself, how feminist sex work can look in practice, and why communication, consent, transparency and emotional intelligence are at the heart of her work. We also explore why booking companionship can be especially powerful for women, queer people and anyone curious about desire, fantasy or kink — but unsure where to begin. A conversation about sex work, brave spaces, conscious encounters and the courage to ask for what you want. ABOUT MARIE // Marie is the founder of Moonlight Society, a Berlin-based boutique escort agency for kink-aware, emotionally intelligent companionship. With a background in journalism, branding, art direction and digital marketing — and her own lived experience in sex work — Marie created Moonlight Society as an ethical, feminist and transparent alternative within the escort industry. LINKS: Moonlight Society: https://moonlight-society.com // Instagram: @moonlightsociety_berlin // Email: marie@moonlight-society.com I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • May 27 · 43 min

    (DE) mit Mone Hazel: People-Pleasing beim Sex.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): MONE HAZEL - People Pleasing beim Sex. YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/C1tTGcYEYMI BEDUCATED: Link hier oder: https://beduc.at/pd2623-ppmh | Rabatt-Code: pleasepinchmehard ALLE LINKS ZU MONE: Website: www.monehazel.de / Instagram: @monehazel / TikTok: @monehazel ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: Was, wenn du gar nicht so unkompliziert bist, sondern einfach gelernt hast, es allen recht zu machen? In dieser Folge von DEEP & DIRTY spreche ich mit Mone Hazel über People Pleasing, Selbstwert und Sex. Wir reden darüber, warum People Pleaser im Bett oft experimentierfreudig wirken, obwohl sie vielleicht vor allem versuchen, zu erraten, was das Gegenüber möchte. Und darüber, was mit Lust passiert, wenn man ständig gefallen, leisten und Konflikte vermeiden will. Es geht um Selbstwert als Grundlage für ehrliche Beziehungen, um Grenzen, Kommunikation, Fantasien und die Frage: Wie finde ich eigentlich heraus, was ich wirklich will? In dieser Folge sprechen wir über: ➡︎ People Pleasing in Beziehungen und beim Sex ➡︎ warum Gefallen nicht dasselbe ist wie Begehren ➡︎ Selbstwert und sexuelle Kommunikation ➡︎ die Angst vor dem Nein ➡︎ Fantasien als Hinweis auf die eigene Lust ➡︎ Männer, Leistungsdruck und emotionale Entwicklung ➡︎ kleine Schritte raus aus dem People-Pleasing-Modus DEEP & DIRTY findest du überall, wo es Podcasts gibt, und hier auf YouTube. Über Mone Hazel Mone Hazel ist Coach, Sexualberaterin und Content-Creatorin. Seit 2019 macht sie Aufklärungs-Content rund um Liebe, Sex und Beziehung und verbindet dabei Fachwissen mit Humor. In ihrer Arbeit stärkt sie vor allem das Selbstwertgefühl von Menschen und begleitet sie dabei, People Pleasing und alte Beziehungsmuster aufzulösen. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • May 13 · 46 min

    (DE) mit Marc Grönnebaum: PRESS PLAY - spielen für Erwachsene.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): MARC GRÖNNEBAUM - PRESS PLAY: spielen für Erwachsene. YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/HE7mnY4RNlg ALLE LINKS ZU MARC: Gratis Gespräch buchen: https://marcgroennebaum.com/discover-what-is-in-for-you/ || Website: marcgroennebaum.com || Instagram: @touch_feel_heal ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: In dieser Folge von DEEP & DIRTY spreche ich mit Marc Grönnebaum, Certified Sexological Bodyworker und Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, über Lust, Leichtigkeit und die Frage, wie wir in Langzeitbeziehungen wieder mehr ins Spielen kommen. Es geht um Berührung ohne Leistungsdruck, um das Ja und Nein im Körper, um verkörperten Konsens und darum, warum Lust nicht immer gesucht, sondern manchmal einfach wieder entdeckt werden darf. Marc erklärt, warum Playfulness nicht erst im Schlafzimmer beginnt, was „Vorspiel“ vielleicht mit unserem Denken über Intimität macht und wie kleine Momente im Alltag wieder Verbindung schaffen können. Eine Folge für alle, die sich lieben, aber manchmal nicht mehr wissen, wie sie sich körperlich begegnen sollen. Und für alle, die Lust nicht als Projekt, sondern wieder als etwas Lebendiges erleben wollen. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • May 6 · 53 min

    (DE) mit Kristina Marlen: Wir reden zu viel über Sex und berühren uns zu wenig.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): KRISTINA MARLEN - Wir reden zu viel über Sex und berühren uns zu wenig. YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/0g5WQeT9Ty8 ALLE LINKS ZU KRISTINA: Website: www.marlen.me // www.marlensworld.com // Instagram: @Kristina.marlen ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: Was, wenn du gar keinen besseren Sex brauchst, sondern erstmal deinen Körper zurück? In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Kristina Marlen über Berührung als sexuelle Bildung, Sexarbeit als Körperwissen und darüber, warum so viele Menschen zwar einen Körper haben, aber kaum noch darin wohnen. Wir reden über Scham, Tabus, Zensur, Bondage, Körperarbeit, Verspieltheit und diese kleinen Wächter im Kopf, die sofort aufspringen, sobald es spannend wird:Darf ich das? Ist das komisch? Bin ich zu viel? Was, wenn ich mich wirklich spüre? Kristina erzählt, warum Berührung manchmal mehr verändert als tausend Gespräche, weshalb Sexarbeit auch Care-Arbeit sein kann und wie ihre Ausbildung Sexcoaching mit dem Wissen und den Fähigkeiten von Sexworker*innen verbindet. Eine Folge über Lust, Nähe, Mut, Körper, Kopf und die ziemlich wichtige Frage, ob wir unsere inneren Wächter nicht einfach mal mit einem Aperol an die Spree setzen sollten. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • April 29 · 46 min

    (DE) mit Sinan Huemer: Deine DIRTY TALK BASICS.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Sinan Huemer und Lisa über DIRTY TALK BASICS. In dieser Folge sprechen wir Dirty Talk ohne Cringe: So findet ihr Worte, die wirklich zu euch passen. Der Link zu den Synonymen ist hier: www.pleasepinchmehard.com/andere-worter-fur-muschi-pimmel-und-co-auf-deutsch YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/H7Bv-b67bwY ALLE LINKS ZU SINAN: Website: https://www.vikingtantra.com // Podcast: https://www.vikingtantra.com/viking-tantra-podcast // Instagram: @vikingtantra ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: Dirty Talk muss nicht laut, hart oder komplett drüber sein. In dieser Folge sprechen Lisa Opel und Sinan Huemer darüber, wie erotische Sprache im Alltag anfangen kann, warum kopierte Porno-Sätze oft schiefgehen und wieso der beste Einstieg meistens viel simpler ist: sagen, was du fühlst, was du siehst oder was du dir gerade wünschst. Dazu gibt es ehrliche Tipps, Baby Steps, jede Menge Kontext und natürlich eine herrlich absurde Sammlung an Synonymen für Muschi, Pimmel und Co. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • April 22 · 40 min

    (ENG) LILIANA LADIOS VELASQUEZ: Horny, Angry & Finally Free: Aging, desire, and the politics of being in a female body.

    (ENG): LILIANA LADIOS VELASQUEZ: Horny, Angry & Finally Free: Aging, desire, and the politics of being in a female body. I’m joined by the incredible Liliana aka La Dios: performance artist, comedian, dominatrix, and abortion support doula and we get into everything from sex work and shame to perimenopause, rage, and the very real meaning of my body, my choice. We talk about what BDSM can actually teach you about boundaries (spoiler: a lot), why so many women feel disconnected from their desire right now, and how aging can bring a level of clarity that makes you… significantly less tolerant of nonsense. We also get personal. From her journey through sex work and comedy to the activism that now keeps her up at night, especially around abortion rights and creating spaces where people can make decisions about their bodies without shame or pressure. It’s raw, it’s funny, it’s honest and at times, it might hit a nerve (in the best way). Also: a three-legged cat named Tina Turner makes an appearance. You’re welcome. Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4X84Zygj-4c About Liliana Liliana Velasquez M., aka La Dios, is a performance artist, comedian, dominatrix, and abortion support doula based in Berlin. Moving between sex work, stage, and activism, she uses her voice (and her presence) to challenge shame, question systems, and stand firmly for body autonomy and consent. Her work is raw, political, and deeply human — always rooted in one thing: freedom of choice. Find Liliana here: www.ladios.me www.timetoshinekink.com IG: @Ladios_v I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • April 15 · 36 min

    (ENG) COURTNEY BOYER: I asked my husband for an open marriage after 17 Years.

    (ENG): COURTNEY BOYER: I asked my husband for an open marriage after 17 years. Courtney Boyer joins me for a deeply honest, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about desire, shame, and what happens when you stop living your life for approval. We talk about growing up in purity culture, marrying young, and building a life that looked “right” from the outside but didn’t fully feel like hers. After 17 years of marriage, she asked for something that would change everything and we get into what actually happens after a moment like that. Not the fantasy, but the conversations, the fear, the tension, and the growth that follows. We also explore navigating non-monogamy in a monogamous partnership, the emotional reality behind opening a relationship, and why so many women feel disconnected from their own needs in the first place. This isn’t a guide or a blueprint. It’s a real conversation about self-abandonment, reclaiming pleasure, and learning to choose yourself even when it’s messy, complicated, and doesn’t fit into neat labels. About Courtney Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She is the author of Not Tonight Honey and Opened, and has been featured in Glamour, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she blends professional expertise with lived experience to help women break free from shame, reclaim their voice, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy. She lives in Germany with her husband and three children. Find Courtney here: Instagram: @courtneyboyercoaching - https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/ | Couple IG: @themonopolycouple - https://www.instagram.com/themonopolycouple/ | Website: https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com Watch the episode on YouTube: Prefer the transcript? Find it here: https://youtu.be/vx53NNR-s-E. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • April 1 · 15 min

    (ENG) Why don’t I initiate sex (and what does it mean)?

    (ENG): Why don’t I initiate sex (and what does it mean)? (A collab with Evie Plumb from Cliterally The Best) AD // BEDUCATED: Sometimes change starts with a really good question. If you want to find out where you are on your sexual journey and what actually feels good for you, click the link and take the Beducated quiz. At the end, you’ll get a personalized roadmap towards more pleasure and a more fulfilling sex life. Available in English and German. LINK: https://beducate.me/pd2615-ppmh You love your partner. You enjoy sex. Yet somehow you’re almost never the one initiating it. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. 📖 Read the full article here: https://cliterallythebest.com/why-dont-i-initiate-sex-and-what-does-it-mean In this episode, we unpack why initiating sex can feel surprisingly difficult; even in happy, loving relationships. From fear of rejection and shame, to responsive desire, stress, and relationship dynamics, this conversation explores what’s really going on beneath the surface. This episode will help you understand: - why initiation isn’t just about desire - how different types of desire affect who makes the first move - the role of stress, mental load, and emotional dynamics - how to shift the pattern without pressure or blame Most importantly, it will remind you of one thing:you are not broken. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • March 25 · 40 min

    (DE) mit Mia Edelrot: Was Escort wirklich bedeutet (und was nicht).

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Mia Edelrot über was Escort wirklich bedeutet (und was nicht).. In dieser Folge sprechen wir über Escort ohne Klischee: Nähe, Freiheit und das Doppelleben. ALLE LINKS ZU MIA:Website: www.sprecherin-mia.de // Escortagentur: www.edelrot-escort.de // Ihr Buch: Escorts bleiben nicht zum Frühstück (überall erhältlich) // Instagram: @sprecherin_mia ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: Mia gibt ehrliche Einblicke in ihre Zeit als High-Class-Escort und erzählt, wie sich diese Welt wirklich anfühlt: zwischen Nähe und klaren Grenzen, zwischen Freiheit und gesellschaftlichen Erwartungen. Wir sprechen darüber, was viele Menschen komplett falsch verstehen, warum Escort nichts mit einem „abgearbeiteten Skript“ zu tun hat und wie viel es eigentlich mit Präsenz, Chemie und echter Verbindung zu tun hat. Es geht um Begegnungen, die unter die Haut gehen, um ein Doppelleben, das sich irgendwann nicht mehr trennen lässt, und um die Frage, wie wir als Gesellschaft auf weibliche Lust, Selbstbestimmung und Geld im Kontext von Intimität schauen. Außerdem erzählt Mia, warum sie heute ihre eigene Escortagentur gegründet hat, was sie anders machen möchte und warum Vielfalt, Sicherheit und Transparenz für sie im Mittelpunkt stehen. Eine Folge über Intimität, Vorurteile und den Mut, den eigenen Weg zu gehen. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • March 19 · 19 min

    (ENG) SHORT STORY: A sex doll + perimenopause.

    (ENG): SHORT STORY: A Sex Doll, Some Lube, and a Lot of Questions. ✨ Want to watch the video? Watch it here: https://joy.club/lisayoutube ✨ Want to read my full experience? Read it here (Sign-Up in JOYclub required): https://www.joyclub.com/en/magazin/male_sex_doll_test.html When JOYclub and Housedoll asked if I’d like to test a male sex doll, I was already in a place of questions. About sex. About visibility. About what midlife is supposed to feel like when you still want things. When you want to explore, want to connect, want to be left alone and deeply seen all at once. I said yes. Not as a stunt. Not for shock value. But because the idea of reclaiming pleasure without performance felt quietly radical. I wrote this story afterwards called Me, Myself and Apollo. It's fiction, but it came straight from the experience. A woman, alone, mid-hot flush, climbing on top of a silicone man with a detachable cock and no opinions. It was awkward. It was revealing. And in its own strange way, it was liberating. The doll didn’t talk. He didn’t rush me. He didn’t need anything from me. That stillness, that absence of needing to manage someone else’s experience, created space for mine. In that space, I noticed how much I’d been carrying. How much of my sexuality had been shaped around other people’s expectations. And how good it felt to stop asking for permission. The Vanishing Woman Isn’t Vanishing At All: Perimenopause, performance fatigue, and how sextech is changing the story There’s a narrative about women in midlife. That we disappear. That our desirability drops off. That we’re either settled down, or out of the game entirely. It’s rubbish, obviously. But it’s also powerful. You start to internalise it. Especially during perimenopause, when your body shifts gears and nothing feels reliable; not your sleep, not your moods, not your vagina. Your sense of self gets foggy. You ache more. You want different things. Sometimes you want nothing at all. And that, too, can feel like failure. But here’s the thing. Midlife isn’t a vanishing act. It’s a refocusing. A soft revolution. Women over 40 are reclaiming their time, their pleasure, and their right to want without it needing to be for someone else. That’s where sextech becomes more than novelty. It becomes a tool for agency. It’s not about replacing partners. It’s about creating space. For exploration. For awkwardness. For self-led pleasure without the pressure to be good at it. Or good for anyone else. And it’s happening. Quietly, steadily. In bedrooms and bathrooms and private tabs. A growing number of women are using sex toys not just to get off, but to get in. Into their bodies, their fantasies, their own unapologetic skin. I didn’t expect a sex doll to make me reflect on power, presence and perimenopause. But that’s what happened. So here’s an invitation.To listen. To watch. To read. To want what you want. Even if it’s just a bit of peace, a vibrator on the right setting, and a mirror that shows you back to yourself. Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples: https://bit.ly/sex-workbook My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/book-audio-give-it-to-me-lisa-opel/ My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback): https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com JOYclub GRATIS Online Kurs "Langzeitbeziehungen":https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/ Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • March 18 · 12 min

    (DE) :: QUICKIE: Hello from the other side.

    (DE): QUICKIE: Hello from the other side... oder eher: aus meinem kleinen Chaos aus Gedanken, Tabs und halbfertigen Ideen. So ein kleines „Ich lebe noch“ mit ein bisschen mehr Fleisch dran. Hier kommt eine Quickie-Folge. Es war hier ruhiger in letzter Zeit, ich weiß. Und nein, nicht weil nichts passiert ist. Eher, weil Dinge gerade nicht laut passieren. Mehr so im Hintergrund. Am Wachsen. Am Sortieren. Ich geb euch ein kleines Update. Woran ich arbeite. Was mich gerade beschäftigt. Was sich verschiebt. Ein paar Stichworte, damit ihr ein Gefühl bekommt: - Sprache & Lust: ein ziemlich großes, kollaboratives Projekt - mein Kurs „Find your sexual voice“ - viel Ausprobieren, viel Verwerfen, viel neu Denken - und irgendwo dazwischen… ein Roman, der mich liebevoll herausfordert Und dann diese Themen, die sich nicht so einfach in To-Dos packen lassen: - langsamer werden, obwohl alles voll ist - Nervensystem runterfahren, obwohl der Kopf gern schneller wäre - Vertrauen statt ständig kontrollieren - mehr Leben, weniger „wann ist endlich alles ruhig“ Vielleicht wird dieser Podcast auch genau dafür mehr Raum bekommen. Für das Unfertige, das Dazwischen, das, was ich auf Instagram noch nicht so richtig greifen kann. Mal schauen, wohin sich das entwickelt. Für jetzt ist es einfach ein kleines Lebenszeichen. Ein ehrliches Update. Ohne großen Plan. Wenn Du mit mir darüber reden magst: www.mrs-opel.com Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... and never sent: horny, grieving and more poems. Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • March 4 · 10 min

    (ENG) FEMALE RAGE and sexual desire.

    You cannot silence a woman’s anger without silencing her desire. (A little rant by Lisa!) There is nothing more threatening to a power structure than a woman who is no longer trying to be liked. Female anger is not new. It is just newly visible. For centuries, male anger has been normalized as leadership, ambition, drive, dominance. It is written into politics, business, religion, warfare, law. It is baked into the architecture of society. Men erupt and the world rearranges itself around them. Women erupt and the world tries to correct them. Why? Because anger is a boundary. And boundaries interrupt entitlement. When a woman is angry, she is no longer managing the room. She is no longer cushioning her no. She is no longer performing softness to make others comfortable. She is no longer absorbing what was never hers to carry. That is destabilizing. Patriarchal systems depend on female accommodation. On unpaid emotional labor. On sexual availability that feels consensual enough not to question. On women metabolizing discomfort quietly so that structures can continue uninterrupted. Anger disrupts that. And here is the part no one wants to say out loud: when women suppress anger, they also suppress desire. You cannot mute your no and expect your yes to be electric. Sexuality requires aliveness. Aliveness includes anger. Both arise from the same nervous system activation. Both are signals of selfhood. Both say, “I exist. I want. I refuse.” When women are punished for anger, they learn to disconnect from that entire current. What remains is compliance. Compliance in relationships. Compliance in sex. Compliance in professional spaces. Compliance is often mistaken for kindness. It is often praised as maturity. It is often eroticized as femininity. It is none of those things. It is survival. But survival is not sovereignty. Angry women are not unstable. They are often the most stable people in the room because they are no longer distorting reality to keep it comfortable. The cultural fear of female rage is not about volume. It is about control. An angry woman is harder to manipulate. Harder to gaslight. Harder to coerce. Harder to shame. She is also harder to seduce into sex she does not want. And that is where this becomes inconvenient. Because a woman who trusts her anger trusts her body. And a woman who trusts her body cannot be easily convinced that discomfort is desire, that obligation is intimacy, that endurance is love. The narrative that women are too angry distracts from a more uncomfortable truth. Many women are not angry enough. Not angry enough about unequal labor. Not angry enough about sexual double standards. Not angry enough about being talked over, paid less, touched without consent, expected to nurture without rest. When anger is metabolized instead of suppressed, it becomes clarity. It becomes precision. It becomes self respect. Rage is not the opposite of femininity. It is the immune system of dignity. And when women stop apologizing for it, the entire emotional economy shifts. If that feels confronting, it should. There’s a little more about being angry in my Substack article (link). Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

  • February 25 · 53 min

    (DE) mit Sarah Blume: Polyamorie ehrlich: Zwischen Herzfülle und Verlustangst.

    DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Paar- und Sexualtherapeutin Sarah Blume von Beziehungsweise Unverblümt spricht über Verlustangst, Tempo, Selbstreflexion – und warum Kommunikation allein nicht reicht.. In dieser Folge sprechen wir über alternative Beziehungsmodelle jenseits von Klischees und Instagram-Romantisierung. ALLE LINKS ZU SANDRA: IG: @beziehungsweise_unverbluemt - https://www.instagram.com/beziehungsweise_unverbluemt/ 🌐 https://paarberatunghamburg.de Podcast Beziehungsweise Unverblümt: https://open.spotify.com/show/0CD1LhHCi2tnB06gI9Jg52?si=sJsP6YIqTK6Y0N1k_zkALg Mit Paar- und Sexualtherapeutin Sandra Kappesser-Siegmund aka Sarah Blume tauche ich ein in die größten Mythen rund um Polyamorie und offene Beziehungen. Wir sprechen über Verlustangst, Eifersucht und Tempo-Unterschiede – darüber, wie schnell man über eigene Grenzen gehen kann und wie wichtig ehrliche Selbstreflexion ist. Es geht um Wachstum, um Kapazitäten für Liebe, um Scham und warum sich viele Paare viel zu spät Unterstützung holen. Und wir teasern ein Thema an, das wir unbedingt vertiefen müssen: patriarchale Strukturen auch in vermeintlich progressiven, queeren oder offenen Beziehungen. Eine ehrliche, warme und stellenweise unbequeme Folge über Liebe, Mut und die Frage: Wann wachse ich und wann verliere ich mich? Diese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/LGvTYn13KiY Prefer the transcript? Find it here. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

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