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Chainbreaker

Mistress Alisa

The podcast dedicated to helping men to work through their sex, porn, and masturbation addictions.

20 episodes
Avg 1 hr 17 min
English

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S1 · E42
August 31 · 55 min
S01E42: The Fallacy of Sexual Addictions & Intimacy Disorders
In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, Mistress Alisa challenges the popular teaching that men struggling with sexual addiction should view their difficulties with intimacy primarily through the lens of an “intimacy disorder.” She challenges the listener to understand what happens when the very real relational consequences of a man’s choices are reframed as another disorder that he suffers from - rather than as damage he must fully confront and take responsibility for repairing. Mistress Alisa teaches that meaningful connection with a woman requires accountability, honesty, and the courage to tell the truth about the choices that led to addiction and relational breakdown. Men who want genuine intimacy must examine how their own behaviors have affected their relationships - and they must begin developing the character and relational skills necessary to create something different. Something better! Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E41
August 5 · 1 hr 13 min
E41: Your Manhood Is Not Between Your Legs
What does it really mean to be a man? In this episode, Mistress Alisa challenges one of the most destructive lies men have ever been taught: that their manhood is measured by their sexual performance. Too many men have tied their identity to their sexuality, leaving them trapped in cycles of shame, insecurity, and addiction. Real manhood has nothing to do with (how hard they can get their dicks, or how big their dicks are, or about how many holes they can still their dicks into.) It is found in character, responsibility, courage, integrity, and the way a man carries himself through life. If you're ready to separate your identity from your sexuality and reclaim a healthier understanding of what it truly means to be a man, this episode is for you. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E40
July 27 · 1 hr 23 min
E40: Men, Stop Blaming Porn For Your Sexual Addiction
For years, men have been told that pornography is the problem - that if they could just stop watching it, their sexual addictions would disappear. In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, Mistress Alisa challenges that belief head-on, arguing that pornography is not the root cause of sexual addiction but rather a symptom of something much deeper. She explains why brokenness, shame, emotional immaturity, unresolved pain, and a lack of genuine self-awareness are the true forces driving addictive sexual behavior; and it is that lack of self-awareness that often keeps men from confronting the issues that actually need to be healed within themselves. Instead of focusing on behavior management, Mistress Alisa introduces a radically different perspective on recovery - one that prioritizes healing the whole person rather than simply eliminating specific sexual behaviors. She explores the difference between manifestations of addiction and the underlying wounds that fuel the actual addiction. She explains why many recovery programs miss the mark, and offers a path toward lasting freedom from sexual addiction. If you are struggling with deviant desires and destructive behaviors, and you desperately want to be free, this episode is for you. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E39
July 15 · 39 min
E39: The Importance Of Uprooting Sexual Addiction
Many men approach recovery with one goal in mind: stop acting out. While reducing or eliminating compulsive sexual behaviors is certainly important, it is only the beginning of the healing process. Lasting recovery requires much more than suppressing urges or resisting temptation; it requires uprooting the addiction at its source. In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, Mistress Alisa explores the critical difference between managing the symptoms of sexual addiction and addressing the underlying wounds that gave rise to it in the first place. She examines how unresolved shame, emotional pain, loneliness, trauma, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and distorted beliefs about sex, intimacy, and self-worth can continue to fuel addiction long after the outward behaviors have stopped. Listeners will learn why willpower alone rarely produces lasting freedom, why relapse often occurs when the deeper issues remain untouched, and how genuine recovery is built through healing, accountability, and personal transformation. Rather than merely pruning the branches of addiction, this episode challenges men to dig beneath the surface and remove the roots altogether. Because when the roots remain, the addiction can always grow back. But when the roots are finally exposed and extracted, real freedom becomes possible! Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E38
July 6 · 1 hr
E38: Emotional Maturity and the Sex Addict (ft. Chuck)
In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, Mistress Alisa sits down with Chuck to explore why lasting sexual addiction recovery requires far more than simply abstaining from compulsive sexual behaviors. Together, they discuss how emotional immaturity often fuels addiction, making it difficult for men to tolerate discomfort, communicate honestly, regulate their emotions, and build healthy, intimate relationships. Listeners will gain practical insights into why developing emotional maturity is one of the most important - and often overlooked - steps on the journey from sexual addiction to genuine freedom. Whether you are in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a thoughtful discussion on what it truly means to grow beyond addiction and become a healthier, more emotionally grounded man. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E37
April 22 · 36 min
E37: Weening Yourself Off Of Sexual Addiction
Sexual addiction recovery is not a one-time event that occurs and you're done with it. It is a process that unfolds over time - through discipline, awareness, and consistent behavioral change. In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we confront the false expectation of instant transformation and replace it with a grounded, reality-based approach to recovery. This episode explains what it is like to “ween” oneself off of compulsive sexual behaviors. There are no extremes or empty promises. Instead, there is intentional reduction, honest self-assessment, and the development of control where there was once selfishness and impulsivity. The emphasis is on building stability, and not on chasing the illusion of perfection. Listeners will be challenged to accept the work required. Recovery demands effort, structure, and the willingness to face discomfort without escaping into old habits. There are no shortcuts. However, there is a path. And for those willing to walk it, there is real progress on the other side. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E36
February 11 · 1 hr 22 min
E36: Mythbuster! Sexual Addictions Are Not About Orgasms Or Power (w/ "Chuck")
On this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, Mistress Alisa sits down with special guest "Chuck" to dismantle one of the most persistent myths surrounding sexual addictions. Many people assume that sexual addictions are about orgasms and/or about the pursuit of power. Those assumptions sound logical on the surface, but they are not accurate and they keep people stuck. When recovery efforts are built on the idea that the core issue is pleasure or dominance, men often find themselves cycling through various programs and wondering why none of them truly help them to actually recover from their addictions. Today's conversation goes deep. "Chuck" shares from lived experience, and together we examine what sexual addiction is actually rooted in and why so many recovery systems fail to produce lasting freedom for men. If you have tried multiple approaches and still feel trapped, this episode will challenge your framework and offer clarity. In short, sexual addiction recovery is not what most people think it is. Until that is understood, real recovery remains out of reach for the average man. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E35
Dec 8, 2025 · 1 hr 19 min
E35: I'm Trying To Get Help (Why Won't You Let Me Manipulate You?)
In this Chainbreaker episode, we confront a pattern that is far more common than most men want to admit they engage in on their sexual addiction recovery journey. It is the act of approaching mentors, coaches, partners, and support spaces under the guise of wanting help, while secretly protecting the very behaviors that keep them stuck. Many men enter healing spaces without the mindset required for real transformation. They arrive with chaos, denial, defensiveness, and ego; and when boundaries are set and when someone in the space dares to challenge the man's dysfunctional patterns, these men interpret accountability as an attack. Instead of receiving guidance, they create disorder, lash out at the person trying to help them, and sabotage the very healing process that they claim to desire. This episode draws a hard line. It teaches men that genuine recovery requires humility, emotional responsibility, and a willingness to be led. Manipulation, tantrums (also known as man-trums), and resistance are not signs of someone seeking healing. They are, instead, signs of a man who is trying to retain control while pretending to grow. Here, listeners will learn why these patterns destroy opportunities for change, why helpers must refuse to absorb men’s emotional messes, and what true readiness for transformation actually looks like. For those who sincerely want to break their chains, this message is a mirror and a wake-up call: you cannot heal while fighting the hand that is trying to help pull you out of the mess that you are in. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E34
Nov 25, 2025 · 1 hr 41 min
E34: You Can't Heal What You Refuse To Acknowledge
In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we take a hard, honest look at why so many men stay stuck in their sexual addiction cycles even while appearing to “do the work.” Too many men show up, participate in groups, talk a good game, read the books, or exchange casual check-ins with accountability partners, yet never touch the wounded, neglected, or underdeveloped parts of themselves that actually require healing. This episode calls out the illusion of progress—the busy work that consumes time but produces no transformation. Men learn that their recovery stalls because they avoid the truth about themselves: the loneliness, the immaturity, the emotional fragmentation, and the places where they have simply not grown up. We dig into the fact that hiding, running, gaslighting, and operating from a “we will see what happens” mentality are not strategies; they are symptoms of resistance. Real healing begins only when a man names what is broken and actively confronts it. This episode challenges listeners to abandon passivity and step into intentional self-examination. It is a direct invitation to stop wasting time, to stop performing recovery, and to start doing the internal work that restores integrity, identity, and direction. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E33
Nov 10, 2025 · 1 hr 29 min
E33: Doing the Work in Sexual Addiction Recovery
In this episode of Chainbreaker, we go beyond surface-level recovery to uncover the deeper truth: real healing doesn’t come from denying your sexual urges or running from temptation — it comes from transforming desire itself. Many men try to “white-knuckle” their way through addiction, believing that self-control alone will save them. However, denial only feeds the shadows. True recovery begins when you stop hiding from your desire and start understanding it. In this episode, I will help the listener to understand how to face sexual addiction, not fear it — how to walk out the same way you walked in, but this time with awareness, humility, and a new direction. You’ll learn what it means to shift from behavior management to soul transformation — where your desires are no longer your master, but your teachers. This is the stage of recovery where you stop fighting the addiction and start evolving beyond it. This episode is for the man who has already done the groundwork — the one ready to move past avoidance and into genuine transformation. If you’ve built your foundation and you’re ready to become a different kind of man, this message will meet you exactly where you are. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E32
Oct 22, 2025 · 1 hr 5 min
E32: The Sexual Addiction Pipeline (From Adolescence to Adulthood)
In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we confront one of the most dangerous and overlooked realities of modern society — the system that has been intentionally designed to shape men into sexual addicts and women into sexual objects - from early exposure to sexualized media to the normalization of pornography and hookup culture. We live in a world where cultural conditioning, technology, and global industries work together to ensnare young men in lifelong cycles of lust, shame, and dependency. This isn’t a drill or a conspiracy theory. It’s a calculated structure that weakens men, destroys relationships, and erodes the moral and emotional foundation of entire societies. However, there is hope. This episode calls men to open their eyes and see what’s really happening — to recognize the manipulation, accept responsibility for their part in it, and begin reclaiming their futures. It’s time to stop living as victims of a broken system and start rebuilding from the inside out. Whether it means reaching out for help, finding accountability, or making the choice to live with discipline and clarity, this conversation challenges every man to step into his rightful power — not the kind sold through lust and ego, but the kind rooted in truth, strength, and integrity. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E31
Oct 16, 2025 · 1 hr 8 min
E31: The Importance Of Going Step-By-Step In Sexual Addiction Recovery
In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we break down why taking recovery one step at a time isn’t just helpful—it’s essential. Too many men try to skip ahead in their sexual recovery work, only to find themselves stumbling and falling back into old patterns. True sexual addiction recovery is a process. It’s a journey that demands patience, presence, and discipline. You will never stop being an addict—but you can stop being controlled by your addiction. You can learn to walk free of the persistent nagging of your addiction; of being stalked and tortured by it. When you learn to honor each stage of your recovery and do the work that is required, you begin to regain power over your life and experience real freedom from the constant pull of your desires. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E30
Oct 2, 2025 · 1 hr 9 min
E30: When & How To Do Sexual Addiction Recovery Work Independently
In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we dive into how men can tackle sexual addiction recovery on their own, even if they can't access one-on-one coaching. Learn how, when, and why to confront the deeper, scarier parts of yourself, embrace discomfort, and stop running from the hard work of self-reflection. While independent recovery comes with challenges—overwhelm, discomfort, and moments of doubt—this episode provides actionable strategies to navigate them effectively and make meaningful progress on your own. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E29
Sep 22, 2025 · 1 hr 17 min
E29: Dealing With the Guilt of "Failure" In Sexual Addiction Recovery
In this episode of Chainbreaker, Mistress Alisa tackles one of the hardest realities men face in sexual addiction recovery: the crushing guilt that comes with “failing” and slipping back into old patterns of sex, porn, or masturbation. Far too many men believe recovery should be a straight line forward—and when they relapse, they label themselves weak, broken, or hopeless; and they tend to give up. This episode helps to dismantle the myth that leads men to believe that sexual addiction recovery happens right upfront and with no setbacks. It is important that men understand why setbacks are actually a natural part of the journey, especially in the early stages of sexual addiction recovery. You’ll learn how to reset your expectations, stop treating every slip as a catastrophe, and start viewing the recovery process as a long-term path that requires patience, honesty, and recalibration. Mistress Alisa also shares practical ways to make better use of her free resources, taking you step by step into strategies that bring her 1-on-1 coaching approach into your own personal work. If guilt has been holding you hostage and making you believe you can’t break free, this episode will help you breathe again—and remind you that progress is measured by resilience, not perfection. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E28
Jun 9, 2025 · 1 hr 50 min
E28: Why Are Men So Dependent On Sexual Pleasure? (Pt. 1)
In this unapologetically honest episode, we pull back the curtain on a silent epidemic—men’s emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. This isn’t about shame or blame. It’s about revealing how boys are conditioned to bury emotion, celebrate numbness, and turn to sex as their only outlet for comfort, validation, and self-worth. From childhood wounds to cultural programming, we unpack how your entire emotional system got hijacked—and why every feeling now gets rerouted into arousal. You’ll confront hard truths: how porn rewired your brain, why you can’t connect without performance, and what it really costs you to keep chasing orgasm instead of learning presence. But there’s hope—and power—on the other side. Real transformation begins with emotional ownership. You’ll hear a bold call to stop running from yourself and start building the inner strength to feel deeply, lead wisely, and live free. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E27
May 20, 2025 · 2 hr 9 min
E27: Sexual Addicts Crave Love (The Cautionary Tale of a Man Named Sid)
In this raw and unflinching episode, we dig beneath the surface of sexual addiction to uncover the deeper ache driving the cycle: the longing to be loved - and the tragic ways addicts sabotage that love before they ever get the chance to receive it. Meet Sid, a cautionary tale of what happens when you fake recovery, rush intimacy, and weaponize women’s hearts in your pursuit of healing. His story is a wake-up call to every man who thinks quitting porn is the same thing as becoming whole. We'll break down: Why love becomes the new drug for many recovering addicts. How false selves, performance, and emotional immaturity ruin real relationships. Why you’re not ready for love if you haven’t learned how to love yourself. This isn’t just a message. It’s a mirror. For the man reaching for something deeper but unsure how to hold it. For the one trying to be different but falling into the same traps. For the one who’s hurt women while claiming to heal. “Don’t be like Sid - Do.Your.Work.” Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E26
May 17, 2025 · 1 hr 33 min
E26: You Can't Heal With The Same Mind That Broke You
In this transformative episode, we dive into one of the most important truths in sex addiction recovery: Mindset. Far too often, men attempt to break free from porn, sex, and masturbation addictions while clinging to the same beliefs, habits, and thought patterns that kept them trapped. However, true healing requires more than just behavior change. It requires a renewed mind. We'll explore how dysfunctional thinking - shame, entitlement, secrecy, control, and self-sabotage - feeds addiction, and why real recovery begins with confronting those broken mental frameworks. This episode challenges listeners to do more than just manage urges. It's a call to take radical ownership of your internal world and adopt a new mindset rooted in truth, humility, accountability, and hope. If you're ready to move beyond surface-level change and pursue real freedom, this episode will give you the clarity and direction you need to start thinking - and healing - differently. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E25
Apr 23, 2025 · 1 hr 10 min
E25: Transitioning From Sexual Addict To Lover
In this raw and transformative episode, we dive deep into the journey from compulsion to connection. "Transitioning From Sexual Addict to Lover" explores what it means to move beyond the empty highs of addiction and step into the vulnerability, courage, and intimacy required to love—and be loved. This episode offers practical insights, mindset shifts, and hope for those ready to stop performing and start feeling. If you’re recovering from sexual addiction recovery, this episode invites you to become a lover - not just in body, but in heart, mind, and soul. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E24
Apr 19, 2025 · 1 hr 14 min
E24: Do Sexual Addicts Have To Give Up Their Kinks & Fetishes?
In this empowering episode, we tackle a question many men silently fear: Will recovery mean the end of my sexuality? The answer is a resounding no. You'll learn why healing from sex addiction doesn’t mean giving up desire, pleasure, or your unique sexual interests. Instead, it’s about addressing the root character flaws—like dishonesty, selfishness, and emotional immaturity—that fuel addiction and keep you stuck in cycles of shame. We explore how true recovery leads to deeper intimacy, stronger self-awareness, and a richer sex life—one built on trust, connection, and authentic expression. Your kinks and fetishes don’t have to vanish; they can become healthy, vibrant parts of your sexuality once you’re free from the grip of compulsive behavior. This episode is a powerful reminder: a better life—and better sex—awaits on the other side of addiction. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com
S1 · E23
Mar 19, 2025 · 1 hr 26 min
E23: Why Sexual Addicts Fail At Relationships
In this episode of Chainbreaker, we dive deep into the harsh reality of why sexual addicts struggle to build and maintain healthy relationships. Many believe that love and commitment can override addiction, but the truth is far more complex. We’ll explore the destructive patterns that sexual addiction breeds—dishonesty, emotional detachment, unrealistic expectations, and a constant need for novelty. These behaviors create cycles of betrayal, mistrust, and dissatisfaction, making it nearly impossible to foster genuine intimacy. In this episode, I take a deep dive into the psychological and emotional toll sexual addiction takes on both the addict and their partners. More importantly, we’ll discuss the critical steps needed to break free, rebuild trust, and establish meaningful connections that aren’t driven by compulsion. If you’ve ever wondered why relationships seem to fall apart despite good intentions, this episode will shed light on the missing piece. Tune in and learn how to move from destructive cycles to true emotional freedom. Break the chains of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction today! www.AlisaCoaches.com

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