Black Girls Heal

#341: Common Red Flags in Lesbian Relationships for Love Addicts

In this episode, Shena discusses common red flags to look out for in lesbian relationships for love addicts. Break the cycle of love addiction with The Recovery School: Click here to join Join our free text community: Click here to join Get the free roadmap to break out of love addiction: Click here to download Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#340: Breaking Codependency in Family Relationships

In this episode, Shena focuses on several signs of codependency in family relationships, how it affects you, and different mindsets to consider to heal and change your patterns. Break the cycle of love addiction with The Recovery School: Click here to join Join our free text community: Click here to join Get the free roadmap to break out of love addiction: Click here to download Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#339: 5 Archetypes of Unavailable Men for Love Addicts

In this episode, Shena reviews 5 types of unavailable men frequently encountered by love addicts before they break the cycle. Break the cycle of love addiction with The Recovery School: Click here to join Join our free text community: Click here to join Get the free roadmap to break out of love addiction: Click here to download Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#338 - My burnt out nervous system and how I'm recoverying (Back from sabbatical!)

In this episode, Shena returns from sabbatical and shares all the lessons she has learned from healing her nervous system over the years and where else there is to go! Join the Recovery School: http://www.therecoveryschool.com Join the Text Community: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/text Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#337: Summer Sabbatical Relationships for Self Love

What would change if you truly believed you were worthy of love, peace, and care? In this episode of the Black Girls Heal Podcast, I am inviting you into a deeper conversation about self-love, emotional healing, and reconnecting with the relationship you have with yourself. Through guided reflection, journaling prompts, and future-self visualization, you'll explore the beliefs, experiences, and relationships that have shaped your sense of worth. This episode is designed to help you slow down, nurture yourself, and create space for the version of you that feels more grounded, secure, peaceful, and connected. In this episode, you'll explore: ✨ Taking an honest inventory of your relationship with yourself ✨ Examining the voices that have shaped your self-worth ✨ Releasing beliefs and relationships that no longer align ✨ Learning how to receive love, support, and affirmation ✨ Defining the future version of yourself you want to become ✨ Visualizing life after healing and inner growth ✨ Giving yourself permission to grow, heal, and evolve SUMMER SALE — ALL PROGRAMS 50% OFF Use code: SUMMER50 at checkout NEXT STEPS TO GO DEEPER Heal the Ache Mother Wound Workshop Bundle Love Deprivation Rehab BGH Method The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction Connect with us: Website: Blackgirlsheal.org Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlsheal Facebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#336: Summer Sabbatical Homework for Relationships

In this episode, Shena shares a practical and compassionate roadmap for healing relationship patterns, reconnecting with yourself, and creating healthier experiences in love. Through reflective journaling prompts, grounding exercises, and emotional inventory work, she invites you to use the next 90 days as an opportunity to break unhealthy cycles, strengthen self-trust, and create space for the kind of love and peace you truly desire. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, navigating relationship anxiety, or learning how to choose yourself differently, this episode offers gentle yet honest guidance to support your healing journey and next chapter. Download Summer Sabbatical Homework Summer Sale Courses Mentioned BGH Method How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts (Workshop) Full Course Library Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#335: 3 Ways to Find Positivity in Times of Stress

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#334: Future Fakers, Secret Emotional Abusers, & Cheaters Do Not Deserve You

In this episode, Shena uses Megan Thee Stallion’s recent breakup to unpack critical relationship red flags, including cheating, emotional instability, and “future faking.” She reinforces that a partner’s betrayal is never your fault, and that patterns like mood swings, lack of accountability, and a history of dishonesty are warning signs that shouldn’t be overlooked. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that you are not responsible for fixing or saving anyone, real love is grounded in emotional safety, consistency, and integrity. Resources mentioned in the episode: BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/method The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Connect with us: Website: Blackgirlsheal.org Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlsheal Facebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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#333: When You're Healing Alone

In this episode, Shena explores what it looks like to navigate your healing journey without the support system you wish you had. If you’re in a season where you’ve outgrown certain relationships but haven’t yet found your tribe, this conversation will meet you right where you are. This episode is a reminder that even if you’re healing alone, you’re not stuck but you’re creating space for the relationships and life you truly desire. Resources mentioned in the episode: BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/method The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Connect with us: Website: Blackgirlsheal.org Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlsheal Facebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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#332: Why Your Feelings Need Structure

Your feelings are powerful but they aren’t always telling you the truth. In this episode, I explore why intense emotions can keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns and how giving your feelings structure can help you reclaim your power. Drawing from my work on the No Contact process, I broke down how emotional overwhelm, trauma bonds, and familiar patterns can make it difficult to walk away from relationships that no longer serve you. You’ll learn how to shift from being led by your feelings to creating balance between your emotional and logical mind so you can make decisions rooted in your highest good. Whether you’re navigating no contact, healing inner child wounds, or setting boundaries, this episode will help you reframe your relationship with your emotions and move forward with clarity and intention. Special Offer: Use code FEELINGS to get $97 off the BGH Method. This discount applies to both pay-in-full and payment plans. Resources mentioned in the episode: BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/method The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Connect with us: Website: Blackgirlsheal.org Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlsheal Facebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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#331: 3 Strengths Gained by Taking Your Power Back in No Contact

In this episode, Shena discussed 3 powerful strengths you gain by taking your power back in no contact. Free No Contact Cheat Sheets: Click here to download Resources mentioned in the episode: BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/method The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Connect with us: Website: Blackgirlsheal.org Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlsheal Facebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#330: Writing the No Contact Book (Behind the Scenes & More)

In this episode, Shena takes you behind the scenes on writing her latest book on her signature 90 Day No Contact healing process. Pre-Order the No Contact Book Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#329: When You’re Too Busy to Find Love

In this episode, Shena shares a powerful live discussion on what it really means to pursue love when life feels overwhelmingly busy, especially if your schedule, past heartbreak, or emotional patterns are holding you back from meaningful connection. She breaks down the deeper reasons behind “being too busy” for love and offers three transformative mindset shifts - helping you prioritize your emotional well-being, let people in, and redefine relationships as nourishing rather than draining while sharing practical insights you can apply right away to build self-worth and healthier connections. Join me in the BGH Method Get our free 5 step roadmap to heal from love addiction Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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#328: Why your breakups hit differently (why they hurt so much more)

In this episode, I go over why your breakup pain hits differently than others, describe the process named "withdrawal," and what you can do about it. Join me in the BGH Method Get our free 5 step roadmap to heal from love addiction Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#327: 3 Tips to Cope With a Breakup

Breakups are painful. But when you struggle with love addiction, trauma bonding, or unresolved childhood wounds, breakups can feel devastating, consuming, and nearly impossible to move through. In this episode, I break down how to navigate heartbreak when your nervous system is deeply activated and your attachment patterns are involved. This conversation is about compassion and not criticism. Awareness and not shame. And breaking generational patterns, not repeating them. If you relate to symptoms of love addiction, love avoidance, or love deprivation, download our free roadmap. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#326: Where am I in my love addiction journey? (5 stages of healing)

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#325: Can I be both a love addict and love avoidant?

Let's talk about how you can be both a love addict and love avoidant at the same time. Join me in the BGH Method to break the cycle of love addiction: Click here to join Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

#324: how do I get my time back from this relationship

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#323: You're too pretty for him

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#322: How To Put Yourself First Pt 4

In this episode, Shena concludes her examination of how to put yourself first using the Loved Woman Checklist. Click here to download the checklist Resources Mentioned: How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts by Shena Lashey The BGH Method Private Coaching Options Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy