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Katie Kush: Working At A School, Modern Adult Entertainment & How To Actually Survive The Industry

Send us Fan Mail Most people see the finished product of adult entertainment. They don't see the business decisions, long hours, rejection, boundaries, social media restrictions, relationships, mentorship, and discipline required to build a career that lasts. This week on Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with adult performer and entrepreneur Katie Kush for a conversation about what it really takes to build a career in the modern adult entertainment industry. Before becoming Katie Kush, she worked at a school supporting children with special needs and behavioural challenges. After a relationship ended and she found herself financially responsible for a home on her own, Katie began camming while continuing to work at the school. Eventually, she faced a decision: continue pursuing a career she loved or take a chance on adult entertainment. Her mother gave her one piece of advice that would shape the way she approached her career: treat it like a business. And that's exactly what Katie did. We talk about her transition from amateur content into professional films, why it took her more than a year to fully commit to the industry, what happened when her school discovered her adult work, and how veteran performers helped teach her how to navigate the business. Katie also explains the massive shift she has witnessed from the traditional studio system to today's creator economy, and why she believes performers now have more control over their careers than previous generations. This is a conversation about adult entertainment, the creator economy, consent, social media, work ethic, mentorship, confidence, burnout, and what building a sustainable career actually looks like behind the scenes. Chapters 00:00 Meet Katie Kush 00:00:51 Why Ava Wanted A Gen Z Performer On The Show 00:01:35 Katie Kush's Business Approach To Adult Entertainment 00:02:16 Who Was Katie Kush Before Adult Entertainment? 00:02:57 From Special-Needs Assistant To Camming 00:04:12 Trying To Keep Her Two Lives Separate 00:05:25 Choosing Between A Traditional Career & Adult Entertainment 00:05:59 What Happened When Katie's School Found Out 00:08:00 Katie Kush's First Adult Film Experience 00:09:27 How Veteran Performers Helped Katie Build Her Career 00:10:47 Learning From Adult Entertainment Veterans 00:11:24 Studios vs. Creator Platforms 00:12:06 How Creator Platforms Changed Adult Entertainment 00:13:46 Why Katie Still Works With Studios 00:15:03 Katie Kush Tries Exotic Dancing 00:15:47 Her First Day At A Strip Club Went Very Wrong 00:16:54 The Reality Of Rejection In Feature Dancing 00:18:11 What Katie's Feature Shows Are Really Like 00:19:31 How Competitive Dance Shaped Her Adult Career 00:20:52 How Katie Plans Creator Collaborations 00:22:08 Being A Switch & Understanding Power Dynamics 00:23:34 What Katie's Fans Request Most 00:25:44 Why Katie Loves Performing At Clubs 00:27:05 Social Media's Impact On Her Career 00:27:50 Why Adult Performers Get Flagged Online 00:29:58 The Mental Gymnastics Of Social Media Censorship 00:30:35 Losing Access To Payment Platforms 00:31:16 How Katie Deals With Hate Comments 00:32:37 Why Online Criticism Kept Katie Away From Podcasts 00:33:43 Mental Health In Adult Entertainment 00:35:10 How Katie Protects Her Sanity 00:35:47 Burnout & Learning To Say No 00:36:30 The Unexpected Hobbies That Keep Katie Grounded 00:37:11 Separating Adult Entertainment From Real Life 00:38:32 Does Katie Mentor New Performers? 00:40:02 Katie's Advice For Anyone Entering Adult Entertainment 00:40:41 Creator First vs. Traditional Studio Career 00:41:27 How To Find The Right Adult Industry Agent 00:42:53 Why New Performers May Need Representation 00:44:13 Finding Your Niche In An Oversaturated Industry 00:45:35 What Makes Katie Kush Successful? 00:46:14 Consent & Knowing When To Speak Up 00:46:48 How Katie Learned Her Personal Boundaries 00:47:23 Studio Shoots vs. Creator Content 00:48:10 Katie's Biggest Turn-On & Turn-Off 00:48:59 Katie Talks Sexuality & Relationships 00:50:53 The Best Career Advice Katie Ever Received 00:51:35 Is Adult Entertainment Empowering? 00:52:26 What Fans Would Be Surprised To Learn About Katie 00:53:51 Separating Work From Private Intimacy 00:57:01 Katie Kush's Final Bad Advice 00:57:46 Where To Follow Katie Kush Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Katie Kush X: @Katiekushxx2 IG: @katiekushxx2

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Kayla Kleevage, The Woman Who Defined an Era: Bimbofication + 90s Beauty + Extreme Plastic Surgery.

Send us Fan Mail Before social media made bimbofication, extreme plastic surgery, and exaggerated beauty trends part of internet culture, women like Kayla Kleeavage were already pushing beauty standards to their limits. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with legendary adult performer and feature dancer Kayla Kleeavage to look back at the era of big hair, big glamour, and even bigger implants, and how adult entertainment, plastic surgery, beauty standards, and sexuality have changed since the 1980s and 1990s. Kayla takes us back to the beginning of her career as a house dancer before becoming a touring feature dancer, magazine model, adult performer, and eventually the owner of her own production company. We discuss the legendary "big boob era" of the industry, when performers including Kayla, Lisa Lipps, Pandora Peaks, and other famous bombshells helped create an exaggerated aesthetic that would eventually resemble what internet culture now calls bimbofication. Kayla also opens up about the extraordinary lengths women went to achieve that look. This is a conversation about adult entertainment history, extreme plastic surgery, beauty standards, confidence, aging, reinvention, and the women who helped create an aesthetic decades before social media gave it a name. Chapters 00:00 Meet Adult Entertainment Legend Kayla Kleeavage 00:02:46 How Kayla Kleeavage Became A Household Name 00:03:32 What Was Feature Dancing? 00:04:21 Getting Extreme Breast Implants In The 1990s 00:05:08 From Men's Magazines To Adult Films 00:05:54 The Big Boob Era Of Adult Entertainment 00:06:45 Kayla's First Breast Augmentation 00:07:37 How Kayla Entered Adult Films 00:08:21 Kayla's Early Adult Film Career 00:09:23 Was There Competition Between The Big-Boob Legends? 00:10:14 Why Kayla Started Her Own Production Company 00:10:58 The Race For Bigger Breast Implants 00:11:58 Why Women Were Searching Overseas For Extreme Implants 00:12:48 Kayla's Polypropylene String Breast Implants 00:13:34 Why Kayla Has Had Around 10 Breast Surgeries 00:14:18 The Implant Complication Doctors Couldn't Explain 00:14:56 The Emotional Toll Of Breast Implant Complications 00:15:39 What Kayla's Breast Implants Are Like Today 00:17:13 The Legendary Big Boob Cruises 00:17:57 Did The 1990s Invent Bimbification? 00:18:47 Kayla Kleeavage On Modern Bimbification 00:20:20 Why Kayla Supports Plastic Surgery 00:21:01 How People React To Kayla In Public 00:21:34 How Adult Entertainment Has Changed Since The 1990s 00:23:10 How The Internet Changed Adult Entertainment Forever 00:24:00 From VHS Tapes To The Creator Economy 00:24:53 1990s Glamour vs. Today's Adult Entertainment 00:26:03 Why Adult Entertainment Looks Different Today 00:27:28 What It's Like Aging In Adult Entertainment 00:28:29 Can Women Age Gracefully In An Industry Obsessed With Youth? 00:29:16 Why There's An Audience For Women At Every Age 00:30:01 How Kayla's Fanbase Has Changed 00:31:33 What Younger Fans Ask Kayla For Today 00:32:30 Confidence In Your 20s vs. Confidence As You Age 00:33:12 What Kayla Would Tell Women Who Feel Invisible 00:34:58 Kayla's Unfiltered Advice For Getting Your Confidence Back 00:36:24 How Kayla Built Her Own Confidence 00:37:11 Staying Relevant As You Get Older 00:38:41 What Hollywood Gets Wrong About Adult Entertainment 00:39:32 How Kayla Kleeavage Made It Into Hollywood 00:41:14 Has Adult Entertainment Held Her Back? 00:42:07 The Strangest Beauty Trends Kayla Has Seen 00:43:08 Kayla's Wildest Fan Encounter 00:44:51 The Adult Entertainment Trend Kayla Wants To Disappear 00:46:36 Kayla Kleeavage's Final Bad Advice If there is one thing to take away from this episode, it's this: women do not have an expiration date. Beauty standards change. Bodies change. Industries change. What was considered extreme in one generation can become a mainstream aesthetic in another. Kayla Kleeavage built a career by embracing exactly who she wanted to be, long before social media gave that aesthetic a name, and she's still evolving today.

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Big Girls Wanted: Stefan Wilhelmy Responds To The Pearadise Allegations | The Story You Didn't Hear

Send us Fan Mail Disclosure: Certain elements of this interview have been censored because I felt they were not relevant to the question and disrespectful to the individual being discussed. The documentary Big Girls Wanted: Escaping Pearadise introduced viewers to a Las Vegas house known as Pearadise, a place created around the plus-size and BBW community that became the center of serious allegations involving consent, boundaries, surveillance, fetishization, and the treatment of women who visited the house. Now, Pearadise creator Stefan Wilhelmy responds. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with Stefan Wilhelmy for a direct conversation about the allegations surrounding Pearadise and his portrayal in Big Girls Wanted: Escaping Pearadise. This is not a declaration of innocence or guilt. It is an opportunity to question Stefan directly about what happened inside the house, hear his account, and challenge him on some of the most controversial claims raised by former visitors and in the documentary. Stefan explains how Pearadise began as his private Las Vegas home before becoming a gathering place for members of the BBW and plus-size community. He responds to questions about who was invited into the house, whether visitors understood what they were entering, the absence of written agreements in its early years, household responsibilities, security cameras, livestreams, social media monetization, and whether women were ever expected to provide labor in exchange for staying there. The conversation then turns to the most serious issue: consent. I question Stefan about allegations that some women felt uncomfortable saying no, claims surrounding physical contact and photographs taken at the house, and whether extensive flirting or previous sexual conversations can ever be interpreted as consent. Stefan disputes many of the allegations made against him, provides his account of specific incidents, and explains why he believes events at Pearadise were misrepresented. We also discuss what Stefan says he has changed since those events, including clearer house rules, written agreements, and asking for explicit consent , even for physical contact as simple as a hug. Whether you've watched Big Girls Wanted: Escaping Pearadise, followed the controversy surrounding Pearadise online, or are hearing about the story for the first time, this conversation offers Stefan Wilhelmy the opportunity to answer difficult questions directly. Chapters 00:00 Stefan Wilhelmy Responds To Big Girls Wanted: Escaping Pearadise 00:00:50 Consent, Safety & The Allegations Against Pearadise 00:01:37 What Was The Original Purpose Of Pearadise? 00:03:11 Stefan's History In The BBW Community 00:04:42 How COVID & TikTok Changed Everything 00:06:48 How Pearadise Began On TikTok 00:07:27 Why Stefan Says TikTok Became Part Of The Problem 00:11:04 Was Pearadise Really Just A Party House? 00:12:27 Were Visitors Required To Sign Agreements? 00:14:34 Was Pearadise A Content House? 00:16:15 Were Visitors Expected To Hook Up With Stefan? 00:17:52 Nudity, Parties & Sexual Boundaries At Pearadise 00:18:51 What Were Women Expected To Do Around The House? 00:21:58 Cooking, Cleaning & Household Responsibilities 00:23:13 Why Women Helped With Stefan's Business 00:25:15 Were Women Compensated For Their Work? 00:27:15 Why Was Pearadise Covered In Security Cameras? 00:31:10 The Real Reason Stefan Says He Installed Cameras 00:32:35 Did Visitors Know They Were Being Recorded? 00:34:28 How Stefan Says The Security Footage Was Used 00:36:36 Did Stefan Make Money From Pearadise? 00:39:25 Stefan Responds To The Consent Allegations 00:40:10 Stefan Responds To Savvy's Claims 00:42:11 Can Flirting Ever Mean Consent? 00:43:30 The Controversial Pool Photograph 00:45:25 Stefan Says Security Footage Supports His Account 00:46:50 What Happened After The Allegations Surfaced? 00:47:42 Stefan Discusses Piggy Stardust 00:50:00 What Happened With The Legal Case? 00:51:24 Stefan On Consent & Implied Consent 00:52:51 What Stefan Says He Has Changed Since Then 00:54:25 Why Consent Can Always Be Withdrawn 00:54:59 Is Pearadise Still Operating Today? 00:56:29 Stefan Responds To Feederism Claims 00:57:45 What Is Pearadise Like Today? 00:58:36 What Stefan Says He Gave The Documentary Producers 01:00:47 What Stefan Wants Viewers To Know 01:01:29 Stefan Responds To The "Escaping Pearadise" Title

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Carmela Clutch REVEALS What It Takes To Succeed In Adult Entertainment: Private Channels, Fitness & Boundaries on Set

Send us Fan Mail We discuss Carmela’s fitness and weight loss transformation, emotional eating, body image, creator marketing, personal branding, social media strategy, consent, performer safety, friendships, competition, diversity, dating, and the physical and mental demands of working in adult entertainment. Carmela explains how she entered the industry with only **$27.32**, used her marketing education to build an authentic brand, and transformed her health after experiencing obesity, prediabetes, arthritis, and disordered eating. She also shares the painful experience of being assaulted early in her career, why performers need clear boundaries and support systems, and how community and mentorship can help protect the next generation. Whether you're considering a career in adult entertainment, building an online brand, struggling with body image, or trying to understand the business behind creator platforms, this conversation offers honest insight into the work people rarely see behind the finished product. In this episode, we discuss: 00:00 Why Carmela Clutch’s Body Transformation Was Questioned 00:00:36 The Essay That Defended Her Fitness Journey 00:02:15 How Industry Rejection Motivated Carmela Clutch 00:03:05 Obesity, Prediabetes, Arthritis & Body Image 00:04:48 Carmela’s Highest Weight & Deciding To Change 00:05:30 Emotional Eating, Breakups & Starting Her Fitness Journey 00:07:37 Why Walking, Running & Exercise Helped Her Mental Health 00:08:15 Why Carmela Clutch Entered Adult Entertainment 00:09:02 Starting An Adult Career With Only $27.32 00:11:04 Body Positivity & Breaking Into The Industry 00:11:49 How Carmela Created Her Personal Brand 00:13:57 How A Marketing Degree Helped Her Adult Career 00:15:28 Using Social Media Trends To Build A Brand 00:17:26 Should New Adult Performers Pay For Career Advice? 00:18:42 Why Women In Adult Entertainment Should Collaborate 00:19:32 Carmela Clutch Opens Up About Being Assaulted 00:22:22 Safety Advice For New Adult Performers 00:24:40 Consent, Boundaries & The Right To Stop A Scene 00:25:56 How To Plan A Successful Creator Collaboration 00:27:21 Who Controls The Footage & Release Date? 00:29:58 Building Genuine Friendships In Adult Entertainment 00:31:24 Diversity, Race & Competition In The Adult Industry 00:33:45 Why Collaboration Is Better Than Competition 00:36:18 What A Day In The Life Of An Adult Performer Looks Like 00:38:31 The Business Work Behind Adult Entertainment 00:39:46 Dating While Working In Adult Entertainment 00:42:36 Sexual Health, Testing & Dating Boundaries 00:43:20 Why Carmela Clutch Avoids Dating Apps 00:44:46 Dating Apps, Hookups & Meaningless Connections 00:46:08 Relationships, Swinging & Emotional Connection 00:48:18 Separating The Performer From The Private Person 00:48:52 Finding Genuine Friendships Early In Her Career 00:50:23 How To Recognize Ulterior Motives 00:51:55 When Friends Use Your Fame For Free Access 00:53:51 Why Some Friends Resent Your Success 00:55:58 Healthy Boundaries With Emotional Vampires 00:57:16 How Adult Entertainment Changed Carmela’s Life 00:57:59 From 208 Pounds & $27 To Finding Her Voice If there is one thing to take away from this episode, it’s this: success in adult entertainment is not built on appearance alone. It requires business knowledge, physical and emotional discipline, communication, boundaries, resilience, and the confidence to advocate for yourself. Carmela’s journey is proof that your circumstances do not have to determine your future, but you must believe in yourself, protect your wellbeing, and never give up.

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The Queen of MILFs: Sara Jay Reveals The Secrets Behind A 25-Year Career

Send us Fan Mail For more than 25 years, Sara Jay has remained one of the most recognizable names in the adult entertainment industry. While thousands of performers have come and gone, she built a career that has stood the test of time by embracing authenticity, adapting to change, and turning herself into a global brand. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with adult industry legend Sara Jay to talk about longevity, success, psychology, entrepreneurship, confidence, body image, relationships, and how the internet completely transformed the adult entertainment business. Sara shares how studying psychology shaped the way she approached relationships and her career, why she never tried to fit the industry's traditional beauty standards, and how confidence, enthusiasm, and authenticity helped her build one of the longest-running careers in adult entertainment. We also discuss the evolution of the MILF genre, the rise of independent creators, directing, producing, mentoring new performers, building businesses outside the industry, and why lasting success is about far more than appearance. Whether you're curious about the adult entertainment industry, building a long-term career, entrepreneurship, confidence, or personal growth, this conversation is full of honest insights from someone who has successfully reinvented herself for over two decades. In this episode, we discuss: • How Sara Jay built a 25-year career in adult entertainment • Why authenticity beats beauty in any career • The psychology behind attraction and relationships • How the internet changed the adult industry forever • Why the MILF genre became one of the biggest categories online • Confidence, body image, and embracing curves • Why chemistry matters more than appearance • Directing, producing, and mentoring new performers • Building businesses beyond performing • Entrepreneurship, branding, and career longevity • The biggest mistakes new performers make • Aging confidently and redefining beauty after 40 Chapters 00:00 Meet Adult Industry Legend Sara Jay 00:00:57 From Psychology Student to Adult Superstar 00:02:42 Building A Career Before The Internet Changed Everything 00:05:22 How Curvy Women Changed Beauty Standards 00:09:13 How Psychology Helped Sara Jay Separate Work & Relationships 00:11:51 Why Las Vegas Changed Her Life 00:14:27 Why The MILF Genre Exploded In Popularity 00:17:09 The Fantasy Behind Age Gap Relationships 00:17:59 Why Chemistry Matters More Than Looks 00:21:20 Who Watches Sara Jay Today? 00:22:56 Aging, Confidence & Beauty After 50 00:28:19 How The Adult Industry Changed Since 2000 00:30:39 The Secret To Staying Relevant For 25 Years 00:32:47 Mentoring The Next Generation 00:33:35 The Biggest Business Lesson Sara Jay Ever Learned 00:34:34 From Performer To Producer & Entrepreneur 00:37:05 Why Sara Jay Started A CBD Company 00:38:45 What Happens When Performers Have No Chemistry? 00:41:04 Sara Jay's Life Today 00:43:31 Final Advice & Closing Thoughts Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Sara Jay X: @sarajay & @sarajaycbd CBD Wellness: BareSelfCare.com

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Weight Loss Surgeon: You're NOT Lazy! Why Diets Fail & Ozempic Is Changing Everything

Send us Fan Mail Millions of people are told they're lazy, lack willpower, or simply need to "eat less and move more." But according to bariatric surgeon Dr. Bernie Hanna, the science tells a very different story. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with my longtime friend and one of Las Vegas' leading bariatric surgeons, Dr. Bernie Hanna, to unpack one of the biggest health crises in America: obesity. We discuss the science behind obesity, genetics, food addiction, processed foods, bariatric surgery, Ozempic, GLP-1 medications, Tirzepatide, Retatrutide, mental health, body positivity, and why traditional weight loss advice often fails. Dr. Hanna explains why obesity is far more complex than personal responsibility, how hormones, genetics, environment, and ultra-processed foods influence weight, and why treating obesity with compassion, not shame, is critical to improving long-term health. Whether you're considering Ozempic, bariatric surgery, struggling with food noise, or simply trying to understand why losing weight feels impossible, this conversation offers practical advice backed by over 20 years of medical experience. In this episode, we discuss: • Why obesity is not simply about willpower • The truth about Ozempic, GLP-1 medications and Tirzepatide • How bariatric surgery actually works • Why processed foods keep you hungry • Food addiction and "food noise" • Genetics vs environment in obesity • Weight stigma and mental health • Muscle loss while taking GLP-1 medications • Functional training vs endless cardio • Insurance coverage for weight loss surgery • Whether Ozempic is worth taking for cosmetic weight loss • How to choose between medication and bariatric surgery • Long-term weight loss strategies that actually work ⏱ CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Obesity Is One Of America's Biggest Health Crises 00:01:57 Meet Bariatric Surgeon Dr. Bernie Hanna 00:02:54 Genetics vs Environment: What Really Causes Obesity? 00:06:32 Is Sugar Actually Addictive? 00:10:32 The Biggest Challenge People With Obesity Face 00:12:21 Why "Just Eat Less" Doesn't Work 00:17:31 Ozempic, GLP-1 Medications & The Future Of Weight Loss 00:22:20 When Should Someone Consider Bariatric Surgery? 00:24:05 Gastric Sleeve vs Gastric Bypass Explained 00:25:51 Why Muscle Training Matters During Weight Loss 00:26:43 Cardio vs Weight Training: Which Is Better? 00:29:08 What Is Functional Fitness? 00:31:40 How Doctors Decide Which Weight Loss Surgery You Need 00:33:25 Does Insurance Cover Bariatric Surgery? 00:36:23 Why Mental Health Is Essential For Weight Loss Success 00:39:48 Why Some People Travel Overseas For Bariatric Surgery 00:41:32 Can Bariatric Surgery Stop Food Noise? 00:43:33 Ozempic vs Bariatric Surgery: Which Should You Choose? 00:46:59 Childhood Trauma, Obesity & Emotional Eating 00:51:39 Is Ozempic Worth It For Cosmetic Weight Loss? 00:54:47 Dr. Bernie Hanna's Final Advice For Long-Term Health If this episode helped you better understand obesity, weight loss, Ozempic, or bariatric surgery, don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment below. Conversations like these help reduce stigma and empower people to make informed decisions about their health. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Dr. Bernie Hanna YouTube: ⁨@lasvegasbariatrics⁩ Instagram: @berniehannamd X (Twitter): @lvbariatrics Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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Big Girls Wanted: How Big Big Cherry Survived Pearadise. | Big Girls Wanted: Escaping Pearadise

Send us Fan Mail For years, Pearadise was promoted as a body-positive sanctuary where plus-size women could feel beautiful, desired, accepted, and finally seen. But behind the bikinis, social media videos, and messages of empowerment, many former residents have described something much more complicated. In this episode of Ava Devine’s Bad Advice, I sit down with plus-size performer, director, and creator Big Big Cherry to talk about body positivity, BBW representation, self-worth, adult entertainment, feederism, consent, community, and the darker side of what happens when belonging becomes conditional. Big Big Cherry opens up about her own journey as a plus-size woman in the adult industry, how representation helped her build confidence, and why seeing other women who looked like her changed the way she viewed her own body. We talk about BBW performers, plus-size sex appeal, body confidence, fetishization, and the difference between being desired privately versus being respected publicly. We also discuss her experience with Pearadise, the community that many women were drawn to after years of feeling isolated or unseen. Cherry shares what originally attracted her to the space, the friendships she built there, the red flags she noticed, and how the promise of acceptance can sometimes make people overlook uncomfortable dynamics. This conversation explores the fine line between body positivity and exploitation, especially when it comes to feederism, consent, social media attention, adult content, and vulnerable people searching for community. We also talk about her late friend Kass, the importance of speaking up, and why finding your own trusted circle matters more than belonging to a space that asks you to compromise yourself. This episode is about plus-size women, BBW empowerment, adult entertainment, self-worth, consent, friendship, grief, and the human need to be accepted without being exploited. So get cozy if you’re watching from home and turn up the volume if you’re listening. This is Ava Devine’s Bad Advice. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro: Paradise, Body Positivity & Exploitation 01:54 Meet Big Big Cherry 02:42 Building Confidence as a Plus Size Woman 04:19 From Photographer to Adult Performer 06:39 Weight Loss, Body Changes & Fan Reactions 07:19 Plus Size Women, Sex Appeal & Objectification 10:08 Empowerment in Adult Entertainment 11:39 Recognition, Niches & BBW Representation 13:08 Misconceptions About Plus Size Performers 14:01 What Drew Cherry to Paradise 16:17 Adult Entertainment & the Paradise Community 20:43 First Impressions of Stefan 21:28 Consent, Touching & Fetish Boundaries 22:55 Feeling Empowered by the Women in Paradise 24:20 Red Flags, Control & Speaking Up 25:06 Loyalty Tests Inside the Community 27:06 Setting Boundaries Around Being Filmed 28:36 How Paradise Affected Her Friendship with Cass 32:17 Speaking Up for Women Who Couldn’t 33:02 When the Illusion of Paradise Broke 34:27 Why Women Continued Joining Paradise 35:58 Social Media, Clout & Content House Culture 37:23 What Is Feederism? 38:07 Feederism, Food, Fetish Content & Consent 39:41 The 700-Pound Scale in the Living Room 41:54 Fetish Shame, Disclosure & Safety 42:40 When Feederism Becomes Dangerous 47:06 Remembering Cass 50:02 Staying Connected With the Women 50:48 What Cherry Learned From Paradise 51:36 What Big Big Cherry Is Doing Now 52:21 Where to Find Big Big Cherry 53:11 Final Bad Advice: Self-Worth, Community & Speaking Up If there is one thing to take away from this episode, it’s this: community should never require you to silence yourself, ignore your boundaries, or compromise your self-worth. Real empowerment is not about being used for someone else’s fantasy or platform. It is about knowing who you are, speaking up when something feels wrong, and building a trusted circle where you are loved without conditions. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Big Big Cherry Instagram: @thebigbigcherry Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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The Truth About Dating Trans Women. Do You Like Me or My Fantasy with guests, Emma Rose & Eva Maxim.

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with two of the adult industry's most respected transgender performers to talk about friendship, dating, relationships, fame, identity, burnout, business, and what life is really like beyond the camera. Emma Rose and Eva Maxim open up about how they first met, fell in love, stayed close friends after their relationship ended, and why mutual respect has always come before ego. They share candid stories about navigating relationships as trans women, dealing with dating stereotypes, setting healthy boundaries, balancing public personas with private lives, and protecting their mental health in an industry that often expects performers to be "on" 24/7. The conversation also explores misconceptions surrounding transgender women, the difference between genuine attraction and fetishization, mentorship within the industry, representation in media, cosmetic surgery, gender-affirming care, financial independence, and why authenticity is the key to long-term success. Of course, no episode of Bad Advice would be complete without fan questions, hilarious dating stories, unexpected confessions, and plenty of laughs along the way. Whether you're interested in relationships, LGBTQ+ conversations, personal growth, or simply hearing two incredibly successful women tell their stories with honesty and humor, this is an episode you won't want to miss. ⏱ CHAPTERS 00:00 – Introduction & Meet Emma Rose and Eva Maxim 02:47 – How They Met and Became Friends 04:21 – Dating Each Other in the Public Eye 07:43 – Dating as Trans Women 08:37 – Chasers vs. Genuine Attraction 10:06 – Attraction, Fetishization & Boundaries 11:52 – Dating Inside vs. Outside the Industry 12:43 – Work-Life Balance & Burnout 16:28 – Separating the Performer from the Person 18:15 – Understanding Trans Attraction 19:53 – Relationships, Independence & Personal Standards 21:29 – Mentorship, Career Growth & Business Advice 24:10 – Helping the Next Generation of Performers 26:50 – Representation & Industry Challenges 30:24 – Misconceptions About Trans Women 33:29 – Questions They're Tired of Hearing 36:15 – Media Representation & Visibility 37:49 – The Meaning Behind "The Dolls" 38:38 – Cosmetic Surgery, Body Image & Self-Acceptance 41:38 – Gender-Affirming Surgery & Personal Choices 46:20 – Fan Questions: Dating, Attraction & Relationships 53:03 – Biggest Turn-Offs 54:39 – Guilty Pleasures & Favorite Shows 55:30 – Romance, Love Languages & Friendship 58:13 – Favorite Memories Together 59:57 – Final Advice & Closing Thoughts Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Emma Rose Instagram: @ohitsemmarose Follow Eva Maxim Instagram: @devils_maxim Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com #AvaDevine #BadAdvicePodcast #EmmaRose #EvaMaxim #TransWomen #LGBTQ #Podcast #Relationships #Dating #Friendship #MentalHealth #AdultIndustry #Representation #SelfAcceptance #PersonalGrowth

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Feminist Erotica Matters: Reclaiming Pleasure, Consent & Sexuality

Send us Fan Mail What happens when adult entertainment is created through a feminist, queer, and pleasure-centred lens instead of the male gaze? This week on Ava Devine’s Bad Advice, I sit down with Dahlia Von Knight, owner of Sinners Vault VR and co-founder of Queer Crush, two queer-inclusive adult entertainment platforms focused on ethical, authentic, and pleasure-driven erotic content. We explore how mainstream erotica shapes expectations around sex, intimacy, consent, and connection, often prioritizing performance over genuine human experience. Dahlia breaks down why feminist and queer erotica takes a different approach by centring communication, mutual pleasure, representation, and realism. We discuss the importance of foreplay, consent behind the scenes, why many viewers are seeking alternatives to traditional adult content, and how queer creators are challenging long-held assumptions about what sex is supposed to look like. We also talk about representation, inclusivity, body diversity, and why authentic intimacy can be far more powerful than fantasy alone. This conversation isn't just about adult entertainment. It's about pleasure, connection, consent, and expanding the way we think about sexuality. So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening—this is Ava Devine’s Bad Advice. In This Episode: • Feminist and queer erotica • The male gaze in adult entertainment • Why foreplay and intimacy matter • Consent and performer safety behind the scenes • Sinners Vault VR & Queer Crush • Female and queer pleasure • Representation and inclusivity in adult content • The psychology of intimacy and connection • Body diversity and authentic sexuality • Fan Questions & Bad Advice Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Dahlia Von Knight Instagram: @dvknight Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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The Psychology of Online Bullying with Therapist Ryan Wynder

Send us Fan Mail What kind of society are we creating when cruelty becomes entertainment? This week on Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with therapist Ryan Wynder to unpack a question that emerged after I became the target of public online ridicule, body shaming, and harassment: Why do some people build audiences by mocking, humiliating, and degrading others? Together, we explore the psychology behind bullying, public humiliation, and internet outrage culture. Ryan breaks down concepts like dehumanization, projection, group validation, cognitive distortions, and the emotional rewards people receive from putting others down. We discuss why cruelty is often disguised as humor, how social media amplifies toxic behavior, and why online attacks can have real consequences for the people on the receiving end. We also examine body shaming, promiscuity shaming, ageism, LGBTQ+ discrimination, toxic masculinity, parasocial relationships, and the double standards that continue to shape public conversations about women, sexuality, and adult entertainment. Most importantly, this episode is about remembering that behind every profile, every headline, and every viral clip is a real human being with feelings, experiences, and dignity. So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening. This is Ava Devine's Bad Advice. Topics Covered: • The psychology of online bullying • Public humiliation and body shaming • Why cruelty gets disguised as comedy • Dehumanization and internet culture • Projection, insecurity, and group validation • Toxic masculinity and outrage content • Promiscuity shaming and double standards • LGBTQ+ discrimination and social stigma • Social media, anonymity, and trolling • Coping with online harassment • Trauma, resilience, and self-worth • Why every person deserves dignity Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Ryan Wynder Instagram: @thevegastherapist Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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Body Shaming, Sl*t Shaming and The Cost of Online Bullying.

Send us Fan Mail This week, I go solo to address the recent online attacks directed at me from comedians, podcasts, and strangers who seem to think body shaming, age shaming, and promiscuity shaming qualify as entertainment. But this episode isn't about being offended by jokes. It's about drawing a line between comedy and cruelty and standing up for the people who do not have the platform or thick skin to defend themselves. I discuss the hypocrisy of people who claim certain topics are off limits while freely mocking appearance, age, sexuality, adult entertainers, LGBTQ+ people, and anyone they believe society will defend the least. We talk about the real consequences of online bullying, why cruelty doesn't become harmless just because it's packaged as a joke, and how public humiliation affects not only the target but entire communities. This conversation also explores society's obsession with aging women, cosmetic surgery, body count culture, and the double standards that continue to shape how women are judged for their bodies, sexuality, and profession. Most importantly, this episode is for anyone who has ever been made to feel disposable because of their age, body, identity, profession, sexuality, or past. You are not the joke. So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening. This is Ava Devine's Bad Advice. Topics Covered: • Online bullying and public humiliation • Comedy vs. cruelty • Body shaming and age shaming • Promiscuity shaming and stigma • Adult entertainers and public perception • LGBTQ+ stereotypes and discrimination • The impact of social media harassment • Self-worth, resilience, and standing up for yourself • Why kindness still matters #AvaDevinesBadAdvice #BodyPositivity #AntiBullying #Ageism #WomenEmpowerment #LGBTQ #AdultEntertainment #MentalHealth #SelfWorth #OnlineHarassment

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Society Consumes Adult Entertainers But Refuses To Protect Them | Summer Hart & SWAID Collective

Send us Fan Mail Adult Entertainers are some of the most desired people in society, yet when it comes to their safety, healthcare, legal protection, and dignity, they are often treated as disposable. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with therapist and SWAID Collective co-founder Summer Hart to explore the realities that adult entertainers face beyond stereotypes and stigma. We talk about discrimination in healthcare and society, the psychological impact of shame, and why community-led organizations like SWAID are providing emergency aid, harm reduction resources, and survival support where larger systems continue to fail. Summer shares the story behind SWAID, an adult entertainer-led organization providing emergency financial assistance, reproductive healthcare resources, harm reduction supplies, and crisis support for performers and adult entertainers across the country. We also explore the difference between morality and human rights, why empathy is often made conditional, and what a world that truly protects sex workers could look like. So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening. This is Ava Devine's Bad Advice. Topics Covered: • What SWAID is and why it was created • The safety risks sex workers face • Healthcare discrimination and social stigma • Harm reduction and emergency aid • Why sex worker-led organizations matter • Human rights vs. morality debates • Fan questions • The future of sex worker advocacy and support Follow the guests: Summer Hart Instagram: @ohheysummerhart TikTok: @summerhartxxx SWAID Collective Instagram: @swaidcollective X/Twitter: @swaidvegas YouTube: @SWAIDCollective Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice X/Twitter: @avadevinespod TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice Resources Studio: Level 9 Studios Makeup: Sanaya Beauty / @sanaya_mua (IG) Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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Adult Entertainers, Mature Women & The Myth About Who Society Says Isn’t “Relationship Material”

Send us Fan Mail Today I sit down with Nikole Mitchell and Mellanie Monroe for one of the rawest conversations yet about love, sex work, aging, relationships, self-worth, and the double standards women face every day. Nikole opens up about going viral as the “pastor turned stripper,” leaving behind religion and shame to fully embrace her sexuality, freedom, and identity. Mellanie reflects on nearly two decades in the adult industry, falling in and out of love, taking breaks from the business, and learning the hard way that compromising herself for relationships always led to resentment. Together, they unpack the stigma surrounding adult entertainers and mature women, from being desired privately but judged publicly, to the reality of dating while working in the adult industry. The conversation explores jealousy, honesty, emotional maturity, age-gap relationships, and the difference between real intimacy and transactional sex. They also discuss: • Why many men secretly admire adult entertainers but publicly shame them • The emotional labor and communication required in healthy relationships • Dating younger vs older partners • Why adult entertainers are often safer and more communicative than civilians • How society links sex work with infidelity • The truth about aging, desirability, and confidence • Why sex workers are often portrayed as “damaged” in media • Learning to stop apologizing for who you are • Falling in love with yourself first before seeking validation from others This episode is funny, emotional, vulnerable, empowering, and deeply honest. Whether you agree with every perspective or not, this conversation challenges stereotypes and opens the door to a more human understanding of sexuality, relationships, aging, and identity. ⏱ CHAPTERS: 00:00 – Intro 00:46 – Meeting Nikole Mitchell & Mellanie Monroe 02:49 – Mellanie’s 17-year journey in the adult industry 03:25 – Nikole Mitchell: pastor turned stripper 04:41 – Being desired privately but judged publicly 07:24 – What a truly supportive partner looks like 10:21 – Relationships, compromise & jealousy 12:11 – Falling in love and leaving the industry 16:00 – Navigating boundaries in open relationships 18:45 – Misconceptions about adult entertainers 20:59 – STI stigma & sexual health myths 22:54 – What men are really afraid of 25:01 – Adult entertainment vs infidelity 29:22 – Aging, desirability & female worth 35:09 – Dating older and younger partners 37:16 – Why sex workers are portrayed as damaged 41:57 – Sex work, healing & sexuality 45:28 – Media stereotypes & social stigma 47:31 – Using social media to change the narrative 49:45 – Healthy vs unhealthy age-gap relationships 52:59 – Learning to love yourself 56:25 – Ava Devine’s Bad Advice takeaway Follow the guests: Nikole Mitchell Instagram: @mitchellnikole TikTok: @mitchellnikole Mellanie Monroe Instagram: @mellaniemonroereels X/Twitter: @mellaniemonroe7 Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice X/Twitter: @avadevinespod Resources Studio: Level 9 Studios Makeup: Sanaya Beauty / @sanaya_mua (IG) #AvaDevinesBadAdvice #NikoleMitchell #MellanieMonroe #AdultIndustry #Relationships #Dating #SelfLove #AgeGapRelationships #Sexuality #WomenEmpowerment #Podcast #avadevine

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Body Dysmorphia, Plastic Surgery & The Search for Self-worth with Kimber James

Send us Fan Mail Today, I sit down with Kimber James for a deeply honest conversation about body dysmorphia, plastic surgery, identity, self-image, and the lifelong search to feel comfortable in your own skin. From growing up feeling disconnected from her body and being relentlessly bullied as a child, to navigating transition, fame, beauty standards, and the pressures of the adult industry, Kimber opens up about the emotional complexity behind transformation, self-expression, and the need to feel accepted. Kimber reflects on childhood bullying, gender identity, eating disorders, dysmorphia, and the pressure to conform to impossible standards of beauty. Together, we unpack the emotional reality behind cosmetic surgery, the shame society places on women and trans women for altering their appearance, and the painful truth that changing the outside does not always heal what is happening internally. What looks glamorous or empowering from the outside can often come from a much deeper place of insecurity, survival, loneliness, or the need for control. As the conversation unfolds, Kimber speaks candidly about transitioning in the adult industry, living through botched surgeries and medical complications, appearing on *Botched*, addiction to change, social media pressures, relationships, and the exhausting cycle of constantly trying to “fix” yourself. We also explore self-worth, aging, healing, internal validation, and the difficult process of learning how to sit with yourself in a world that profits from making people feel inadequate. In this episode, you’ll learn: How Body Dysmorphia Begins in Childhood How Bullying and Shame Impact Identity and Self-Worth How Beauty Standards Shape the Way We See Ourselves How Plastic Surgery Can Become an Emotional Coping Mechanism How Transitioning in the Adult Industry Creates Unique Pressures How Social Media Intensifies Comparison and Dissatisfaction How Cosmetic Surgery Can Shift From Enhancement to Obsession How Health Complications Change Your Relationship With Your Body How Trauma, Relationships, and Insecurity Affect Self-Image How Self-Acceptance Is a Lifelong Process, Not a Destination If there’s one thing to take away from this episode, it’s this: changing your appearance may temporarily change how you feel, but it will never fully heal the parts of yourself that feel unloved, unseen, or unworthy. Real healing begins internally. Sending you all so much love, Ava Devine What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:42 The Disconnect Between Body and Identity 01:35 Feeling Different Since Childhood 03:22 Bullying, Shame, and Growing Up Androgynous 05:14 Transitioning and Hyper-Feminine Beauty Standards 06:41 Dolly Parton, Beauty Ideals, and Wanting Transformation 07:40 “I’ve Always Hated How I Look” 08:37 Botched Surgeries and Health Complications 09:25 Misconceptions About Transitioning and Attention 10:57 Beauty Standards, Judgment, and Public Cruelty 11:41 Living in a Constant State of Dysmorphia 12:37 Depression, Surgery, and the Need for Control 13:19 Chasing Trends and Social Media Validation 14:07 Plastic Surgery, Obsession, and Self-Control 15:05 Eating Disorders and Childhood Trauma 16:37 Generational Beauty Standards and Learned Dysmorphia 17:27 Why Society Judges Women No Matter What 18:17 Feeling Like a Target for Looking “Overdone” 19:00 The Difference Between Enhancement and Fixing Yourself 20:39 Behind the Scenes of *Botched* 22:16 Multiple Surgeries, Complications, and Recovery 24:32 Vaginoplasty, Reconstruction, and Medical Advances 25:28 Does Reality TV Help or Exploit People? 26:58 Representing the Trans Community Publicly 27:49 Wanting Surgery to Create Acceptance and Love 29:19 Why Plastic Surgery Became Part of Identity 30:03 Can Cosmetic Surgery Ever Be Healthy? 31:42 Why Nobody Truly Feels Completely Comfortable 32:31 When External Changes Don’t Heal Internal Pain 34:01 Beauty Trends and the Pressure to Keep Up 35:47 Social Media and the Loss of Individuality 36:42 Why Self-Acceptance Is Still Difficult 37:31 Addiction, Obsession, and the Desire for Change 38:24 Learning to Slow Down and Reevaluate Priorities 39:20 How to Know If You Truly Want to Change Yourself 40:13 What It Means to Feel “Enough” 41:59 Relationships, Insecurity, and Emotional Unavailability 43:53 Why Healing Has to Start From Within 44:50 My Final Takeaway Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Kimber James Instagram: @OfficialKimberJames Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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Will Money, Beauty & Attention Make You Happy? Kieta Kieta Has the Answers.

Send us Fan Mail Today, I sit down with Keita Kieta, former 90s supermodel and actress, for a raw conversation about the hidden loneliness behind beauty, fame, addiction, and validation. From modeling for Elite and appearing in magazines like *Vanity Fair* and *Seventeen*, to partying in Hollywood, navigating toxic industry culture, and eventually spiraling into addiction and sex work, Keita opens up about the emotional emptiness that success could never fill. Keita reflects on growing up in an industry where drugs, alcohol, perfectionism, and exploitation were normalized, and how chasing external validation slowly disconnected her from herself. What looked glamorous from the outside often felt isolating internally. Keita details the emotional cost of constantly performing an image, the pressure women face to stay desirable, and how loneliness can exist even in rooms full of celebrities, wealth, and attention. As the conversation unfolds, Keita shares how sobriety, yoga, spirituality, and authentic connection helped rebuild her life from the inside out. Together, we speak candidly about aging, identity, depression, self-worth, body image, the reality of healing, and learning to let go of the belief that money, beauty, or fame can save us. What emerges is a conversation not just about addiction and recovery, but about learning how to come home to yourself. In this episode, you’ll learn: How Fame and Beauty Can Intensify Loneliness How Addiction Becomes a Way to Escape Emotional Pain How External Validation Disconnects Us From Ourselves How the Modeling and Entertainment Industries Normalize Self-Destruction How Sobriety Changes Your Identity and Relationships How Spirituality and Yoga Help Rebuild Self-Worth How to Stop Chasing Perfection and Practice Self-Acceptance How Real Healing Begins Through Honesty, Support, and Connection If there’s one thing to take away from this episode, it’s this: no matter how far you think you’ve fallen, there is always a way back. Healing doesn’t come from becoming more beautiful, successful, or desired; it comes from reconnecting with yourself, finding support, and learning that your worth was never dependent on the image you were trying to maintain. Sending you all so much love, Ava Devine What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:48 Will Money, Beauty, and Attention Make You Happy? 03:21 Chasing Success While Losing Yourself 05:45 The Loneliness Behind Fame and Beauty 08:09 Addiction, Hollywood, and Party Culture 11:55 When Validation Stops Feeling Fulfilling 12:45 Eating Disorders and Toxic Beauty Standards 15:04 Playboy, Modeling, and Industry Pressure 18:52 How Addiction Slowly Took Over 20:12 Escaping Pain Through Drugs and Alcohol 23:14 Why Real Human Connection Matters 24:04 Feeling Lonely in Rooms Full of People 25:51 Searching for Spirituality and Meaning 28:56 Finding Yoga and Beginning Recovery 31:22 Sex Work, Survival, and Reinvention 34:11 Hitting Rock Bottom in Las Vegas 37:07 Early Sobriety and Learning to Live Again 40:49 Aging, Self-Acceptance, and Identity 43:50 Why Competition Keeps Us Empty 44:39 Learning to Forgive Yourself 46:58 Addiction and the Modeling Industry 48:36 What Spirituality Means Today 52:03 Becoming the Person You Never Thought You Could Be 53:36 How to Sit With Yourself Without Escaping 54:19 What Healing Actually Requires 55:06 “I Know the Way Home.” 55:53 My Final Takeaway Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Kieta Kieta Instagram: @Kietak Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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From Gang Life to Reinvention with Joseph Martinez

Send us Fan Mail Today on Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with Joseph Martinez to explore a powerful truth: you are not destined to become the environment you were raised in. In our conversation, Joseph opens up about growing up surrounded by gangs, violence, and survival-driven thinking, and how that world quietly shaped his identity before he realized it. From having a father serving a life sentence to inheriting “street beef” instead of opportunity, his story reveals what it really means to be raised in a system where certain paths feel inevitable. But this episode isn’t just about where he came from; it’s about what it takes to break away. Joseph shares the internal conflict of wanting that lifestyle, the influence of the people he looked up to, and the moments that slowly planted a different vision for his life. From a cousin who challenged his mindset, to becoming a young father, to confronting his own behaviors later in life, this conversation unpacks how change actually happens. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But through awareness, willingness, and the decision to want something more. In this episode, you'll learn: How Your Environment Shapes You And How to Break Free From It Why Leaving a Negative Lifestyle Is Harder Than It Looks How Small Moments Can Change the Direction of Your Life How to Turn Survival Instincts Into Strength in the Real World How to Control Your Emotions Instead of Letting Them Control You How to Redefine Masculinity in a Healthy Way How to Build a New Identity Without Losing Yourself How to Let Go of the Need for Approval From the Wrong People How to Channel “Hustle Mentality” Into Something Positive How to Move From Just Surviving to Actually Thriving If there’s one thing I want you to hold onto, it’s this: where you start does not have to be where you stay. Change doesn’t come from pretending your past didn’t happen, it comes from learning how to use it differently. I hope you love watching this episode as much as I did filming it. Ava Devine What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:48 Growing Up in a Gang Environment 02:23 How Environment Shapes Identity 04:54 Life With a Father in Prison 07:28 Shame, Identity, and Childhood Experiences 10:02 Faith, God, and Finding Meaning 12:13 Wanting the Lifestyle vs Questioning It 14:01 The Moment That Changed Everything 17:47 Why It’s So Hard to Leave That Life 22:06 The Reality of Gang Culture and Family Ties 25:04 Feeling Trapped and Fear of Judgment 28:04 The Turning Point: Wanting Something More 31:52 Redefining Masculinity 34:31 Learning to Trust and Communicate 36:17 Unlearning Old Behaviors 40:05 Letting Go of “Tough Guy” Mentality 41:32 From Hustling to Honest Living 45:42 What Reinvention Really Looks Like 48:31 Fatherhood, Pain, and Growth 53:25 Breaking Generational Patterns 54:25 How to Rebuild Your Identity 56:47 Advice for Anyone Feeling Stuck 58:21 Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs 01:01:43 The Truth About That Lifestyle 01:04:51 Feeling Like It’s Too Late to Change 01:06:40 The Dark Side of the “Glamour.” 01:07:27 Can Anyone Truly Change? Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Joseph Martinez Instagram: @mr.send.da.wire Submit your questions for the show badadvicequestion@gmail.com

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Raw & Devine: Ava Opens Up | Fan Questions, Industry Realities & Why She Started This Podcast

Send us Fan Mail On this special solo episode of Ava Devine’s Bad Advice, Ava sits down on her own to answer her fans’ wildest, most unapologetic questions. No filter, no guest—just Ava being brutally honest. Ava answers her fans’ wildest questions, spills adult-industry secrets you’ll never see on camera, and breaks down what really happens behind the fantasy. Ava gets raw about her personal life, the taboos she’s lived, and why she started this podcast in the first place. Pure, unfiltered Devine chaos and damn bad advice! Follow us on Social Media: IG: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice Follow Ava: IG: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine 💌 Submit questions: badadvicequestion@gmail.com Find Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice 🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Lovely & Loaded: Ava Devine & Lia Lovely Get Real on Big Implants, Bimbo Life & Success

Send us Fan Mail Ava Devine sits down with adult film actress Lia Lovely for an unfiltered, laugh-out-loud conversation about oversized breast implants, embracing the bimbo lifestyle, and the power of building your own platform outside traditional studios. Lia opens up about her life before the industry, the journey that shaped her path, and how plastic surgery became part of her self-expression rather than something to hide. The two also dive into past collaborations, independence in adult entertainment, and what it really means to own your brand. Honest, chaotic, and unapologetically fun—this episode delivers real talk, bad advice, and even a surprise kiss along the way. Follow us on Social Media: IG: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice Follow Ava: IG: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Find Lia Lovely @aiamlialovely 💌 Submit questions: badadvicequestion@gmail.com Find Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice 🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Thickk Talk Uncensored: Ava Devine & Amanda Thickk Get Real on BBW Stardom & Body Positivity

Send us Fan Mail Ava Devine welcomes adult film star and podcast host Amanda Thickk, a vocal champion for BBW representation and body positivity in the industry. From navigating expectations to owning her curves on and off camera, Amanda breaks down the realities of being a bigger woman in adult entertainment. With Ava’s unfiltered curiosity and Amanda’s honest, empowered voice, this conversation dives into confidence, career challenges, and reshaping beauty standards—one real talk moment at a time with plenty of bad advice. Follow us on Social Media: IG: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice Follow Ava: IG: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Find Amanda Thickk @amanda_thickk 💌 Submit questions: badadvicequestion@gmail.com Find Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice 🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Body Talk Unfiltered: Ava Devine Sits Down With Dr. Phillip Dimotsantos of Steadfast Performance Therapy | Strength, Mobility & Better Living

Send us Fan Mail Ava Devine and guest host Kyle Ward sit down with Dr. Phillip Dimotsantos of Steadfast Performance Therapy for a fast, funny breakdown of how the body really works. Ava’s fans sent in some truly wild questions—yes, including self-suckers—and Dr. D explains how certain masturbation habits can create real tension and limit mobility. It’s hilarious and unexpectedly informative, with Ava’s unfiltered curiosity driving every moment. A must-listen for anyone who wants answers, laughs, and straight talk about the body. Follow us on Social Media: IG: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice Follow Ava: IG: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Kyle: IG: @kflexfitness TikTok: @kflexfitness Find Phillip Dimotsantos: @steadfastpt (Steadfast Performance Therapy) 💌 Submit questions: badadvicequestion@gmail.com Find Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice 🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify