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180. Chronic Kinkster Community In Action

A caller has just gone through a breakup and is facing down a new chronic illness diagnosis all at once, and wants to know how to incorporate kink into life when everything feels like too much. Lina tag teams this question using the wisdom of the #chronic-kinksters channel on the Ask A Sub Discord server, focusing on how to curate an expansive mindset while still making sure you're getting your needs met, tending to yourself, and being your own Daddy in hard times. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

179. Grey's Journey Pt. 3: Break That Binary Open

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're closing out Grey's journey with some very exciting summer news, a scene that brought the educator within to the surface, and a manifesto for the future of Grey's drag. Follow him at @greytheteaman. Lina & Mr. Dune's Pillion convo is available on Patreon and Substack. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

178. Grey's Journey Pt. 2: The Duality of Being Known

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching up with Grey as he heads out in the midst of a snowstorm, ready to be PERCEIVED. Where? Where else but a Heated Rivalry rave. The horny queers are out, and your boy is among them. Tune in to see what happens, and follow him at @greytheteaman. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

177. Grey's Journey Pt. 1: How Does an Adult Man F*ck?

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week we meet Grey, a trans man at the beginning of his medical transition who's seeking to answer the eternal questions in life — how do we take up space while still finding ourselves? How binary should gender even be? And, most importantly, how does an adult man fuck? Follow him at @greytheteaman. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

176. Kinky Rejection… Worse Than Death? (Sources Say Yes)

A caller wants to know why kinky rejection hurts more than any other rejection and wonders if maybe, possibly, there's a way to avoid it?? Asking for a friend?? Lina gets into some solid reasons why the ouch is so ouch, how to make it ouch in a good way, and how to apply some time-honored strategies to healing the ouch. Say 'ouch' again…. Ouch. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

175. M's Journey Pt. 3: It's That Slow Burn Bullshit

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we hear the final installment of M's journey, and learn about what roles softball, juggalos, and witchcraft have to play in a life well lived in a room of one's own. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

174. M's Journey Pt. 2: Sit With the Itch

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching up with M a few months on from her first interview, to check in on her new life and cheer her on in her self care. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

173. M's Journey Pt. 1: The Worst Breakup Ever

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we meet M as she navigates the wreckage of what is truly one of the worst breakups Lina has ever heard about. But in spite of the male audacity in this episode, we promise you'll be inspired by M's humor, witchy wisdom, and iconic penchant for cussing her way through self care. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

172. A Beautiful Evil Pouring Out Of Me with Miss Gold

This month on the Deep Dive series, we're graced with the presence of one of London's preeminent kink queens Miss Gold — Dominatrix, photographer and creator of the iconic One Night parties.. She shares with us how her SW career has influenced her photographic gaze, her specialty in *the kink* most people list as their hardest of hard limits, and her thoughts on mothering be it of humans or hand-reared kittens. In signature Ask A Sub style, this interview goes anywhere and everywhere and we know you'll have fun keeping up. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

171. You Can't Step In The Same River Of Pee Twice

A caller is doing trauma therapy and wants a good lens to explain the value of kink in their healing journey. In response, Lina checks in on how we're interpreting the word 'healing' when it comes to kink (ableism — be gone!), gives some reflections on what kinds of messages our bodies give us in scenes, and somehow in the midst of that coined the phrase that is our episode title this week, once again making the English language just a little bit worse 🫶 You're welcome. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

170. Daddy Is A State Of Mind

In honor of U.K. father's day we're getting into 'Daddy' as an honorific, whether it always implies age play (Sometimes? Yes? No?) and how nobody has to do anything they don't want to do but maybe getting curious is what saves us all from the shame monsters. Get the Summer Deep Dive schedule here Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

169. Don't Throw The Therapist Out With The Bathwater

A listener wants to know what to do about their well-meaning but vanilla therapist, and in response Lina earns her gold star Therapist's Favorite badge by exploring the ins and outs of the therapeutic relationship, how to resource your therapist and yourself, and takes a weirdly polyamory-informed stance on getting your needs met. Links: A Walker In LA | Murder Mystery Yacht Orgy | Summer Deep Dive Schedule Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

168. I'm Coming Out Of My Cage - Wait Put Me Back In The Cage

167. Lubing Up The Flirting Dipstick

This week we're doing a refresher on flirting so Lina can assist you all into getting into more trouble to keep the questions coming for the pod — vertical integration!! That's how that works, right?? Either way, we're talking about flirting by zodiac sign (helpful even if you're a grumpy Capricorn that doesn't believe in astrology), flirting to bring forward your most authentic self, and flirting as a measure of compatibility. Now go look at people and talk to them!! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

166. High Volume Orgasms: Blessing Or Curse?

A caller wants to know whether their miraculous gift of nonstop orgasms is hindering them from long term partnership — really goes to show one person's dream scenario (Lina's) is another person's anxiety (this caller's)! Lina talks about the joys of dating high-volume cummers, lists practical tips for Domming and topping these lucky ducks, and shares how the patriarchy infects all of us when we imagine the limits of what a submissive can be. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

165. Quick Hits: "Straight-Passing" Queer Couple Spring Is Here

These week callers want to know how to welcome the springtime, how to enjoy/not enjoy the Met Gala, hack quiet sex, and, of course, see Lina lose it over exclusionary privileged queers being weird about who's allowed to use the label. Pull up a chair to the burn sesh (with love). Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

164. Submission But Not Like THAT

A listener is recovering from a religious culture that expected submission from women by default — how, then, can she trust her desire to be submissive in a consensual D/s dynamic? This week we're talking self trust, healing through kink, and Lina's deep desire to physically harm this caller's ex (for legal reasons this is a joke - ha ha) Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

163. Hedonism is a Moral Imperative with S.T. Gibson

On this month's Deep Dive, we're joined by S.T. Gibson, bestselling author of A Dowry of Blood, Savage Blooms, and more, who also hosts the Metaphysical Girl podcast/substack. Her approach to fantasy is intellectual, informed by her background in theology and deep thought about queerness and our insatiable hungers. Join us for our thoughts on fairies, vampires, and what to say to local river. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Sign up for Lyft here! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

162. Vanilla Dating Is Not A Pre-Requisite For Kink Dating

Ahhh vanilla dating…. Well, it mainly sucks. Jk! Maybe not! Either way, it's not something you have to do before you get to be kinky. It's good to know what you want and go after it, and treat each experience as information to be collected along the way. Except for that time Lina went on a vanilla date with a guy who Venmo requested her $2 for a hot dog while she was in the uber home from his apartment. That was not an especially valuable learning experience. Join us for the Deep Dive with author S.T. Gibson on 4/18! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

161. How To Be A 24/7 Sub When You're Like… Really Pissed At Your Dom

What happens in a long-term 24/7 dynamic when you, as a sub, get so fuckin pissed that you just need a MINUTE to collect yourself before resuming your tasks?!?! Lina gets into the communication tools that can hold us and our dynamic in moments of conflict so when you come back from your grumpy space walk the space ship is still in pretty good shape. Join us for the Deep Dive with author S.T. Gibson on 4/18! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad