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Relationshift

Welcome to Your Relationshift, hosted by Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik. Together, they bring their wealth of experience and passion for relationships, self-development, and Chassidic teachings to provide listeners with practical wisdom and inspiration about a healthy Jewish marriage. Hindi, a marriage and relationship coach from LA, and Chayale, a celebrated high school teacher and speaker from Crown Heights, delve into the principles of Relationshift, sharing stories and insights that have transformed the lives of many women.

In each episode, you'll hear heartfelt discussions and personal anecdotes that illuminate the core concepts of Relationshift, offering a blend of deep Chassidic teachings and practical advice. Whether you're looking to strengthen your marriage, enhance personal growth, or simply enjoy thought-provoking conversations, Your Relationshift is your go-to source for profound, relatable, and uplifting content. Join Hindi and Chayale as they guide you on a journey toward greater clarity, connection, and empowerment in your relationships and beyond.

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  • 24 episodes
  • fortnightly
  • Avg 33 min
  • English

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  • #31
    March 3 · 7 min

    Purim, People-Pleasing, and Personal Power

    In this special Purim episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore a powerful mindset shift around giving, obligation, and personal choice. Sparked by a relatable carpool story and the familiar phrase “no good deed goes unpunished,” Hindi and Chayale unpack the deeper Torah perspective behind helping others. Through the lens of the Megillah, they examine Mordechai’s message to Esther—that while she had the opportunity to save the Jewish people, redemption would come regardless. Esther wasn’t pressured by a “God complex” of indispensability; she was invited into a sacred opportunity. Drawing from this transformative insight, Hindi and Chayale reframe the often overwhelming demands of Purim—mishloach manos, community expectations, and the constant giving many women shoulder. They remind listeners that helping is not about martyrdom or people-pleasing, but about choosing to partner with Hashem from a place of humility and empowerment. When we shift from “I have to” to “I get to,” even effortful mitzvos feel lighter and more meaningful. This episode offers a refreshing, Chassidic approach to Purim—and to relationships—encouraging women to embrace opportunities with clarity, balance, and joy.

  • February 27 · 58 min

    Interview with Shaina Glick

    In this deeply moving episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson sits down with Shaina Glick, a newly certified Relationshift coach, to explore the raw and redemptive journey that led Shaina to this transformative work. From her early skepticism to her powerful personal breakthroughs, Shaina shares how her experience with infertility, particularly the emotional toll it took on her marriage, ultimately became the catalyst for profound growth. Through honest reflection, she opens up about navigating the loneliness, misaligned coping styles, and feelings of helplessness that surfaced during fertility treatments, and how the tools of Relationshift helped her shift from resentment and judgment to empowerment and genuine connection. Listeners will be especially inspired by Shaina’s vulnerability and clarity as she recounts the contrast between her earlier struggles and the more recent challenge of trying for another child, this time equipped with a different mindset. With deep empathy and spiritual perspective, she shares how creating emotional space for her husband, letting go of control, and prioritizing Shalom Bayis became the true keili (vessel) for blessing. Whether or not you’ve faced infertility, this episode resonates with anyone who has ever felt powerless in a relationship and seeks a way to reclaim peace, presence, and partnership.

  • February 10 · 7 min

    Hard Pass: "Men Are Like Puppies... They Need Training"

    In this refreshingly honest Hard Pass episode, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik take aim at a cringeworthy but all-too-common piece of advice: “Men are like puppies—they need training.” With humor and heart, they unpack the hidden implications behind this mindset, challenging the notion that a woman’s role is to manage, correct, or “train” her husband into becoming who she wants him to be. While acknowledging the desire many women have to feel seen for the ways they influence their homes, they caution against taking full credit—or control—for their husband’s growth. Instead, they advocate for mutual respect and authentic partnership, not a dynamic that turns the husband into a project and the wife into his handler. Hindi and Chayale go deeper, exploring how subtle forms of control—even when framed positively—can leave women feeling burdened, lonely, and resentful. From the “he's my fourth child” mentality to the idea that a wife must always lead, the hosts show how these beliefs erode intimacy and partnership. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to drop the leash, let go of the pressure to parent their spouses, and start recognizing their husbands as capable adults. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the exhausting role of the “default leader,” this empowering conversation offers clarity, validation, and a much-needed shift in perspective.

  • February 10 · 6 min

    Hard Pass: "Date Night is a Must"

    In this Hard Pass mini-episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik tackle the often-repeated relationship advice: “Date Night is a Must.” While acknowledging the potential beauty behind the idea—dedicated time together, lightness, and space outside of the daily grind—they unpack the heavy expectations and pressure that can make date nights more stressful than connecting. From logistical and financial challenges to emotional landmines around who plans the evening and how it unfolds, Hindi and Chayale highlight how rigidly holding to this standard can actually create more tension, not less. Instead, they encourage a more nuanced and empowering view of connection. Rather than clinging to a formulaic fix, they advocate for authenticity, creativity, and mutual intention in nurturing a relationship. A healthy marriage isn’t defined by scheduled outings, but by the consistent effort to make space for each other in a way that feels natural and loving. With warmth and honesty, the hosts invite listeners to rethink what connection looks like—and to take a hard pass on advice that oversimplifies the complex beauty of real relationships.

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