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Kingdom Sexuality is the Christian sex podcast for married couples who want a thriving, God-honoring sex life.


We’re Alana, Kyle, and Tiera — three friends tackling the questions the church forgot to answer. Through interviews, “sex-timonies,” listener Q&As, and real talk from our own marriages, we’re here to help you grow a fulfilling, passionate, and deeply connected sex life.
Kingdom Sexuality. The Christian sex podcast that goes where the church won’t.


Because yes, Christians can talk about sex too!

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  • S12 · E47
    Yesterday · 54 min

    317: Hope For The Husband In A Sexless Marriage with Belah Rose

    Sexless marriage doesn't have to be a life sentence. Belah Rose joins Kyle, Alana and Tiera to share how one husband went from 15 years of nothing to his wife initiating twice in a week, and the simple first move that can start your turnaround. Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course!! Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: Delight Your Marriage website ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 0:00 – Hook & open 0:20 – Welcome and Facebook group 0:50 – Today's verse: Hebrews 12:1–2 1:16 – Meet Belah Rose of Delight Your Marriage 2:29 – Belah's story: from divorce to helping marriages 8:32 – How marriages end up sexless 13:20 – Out of Sync course 15:11 – What counts as a sexless marriage? 15:24 – Coaching husbands vs. wives 20:20 – What emotional safety really means 24:14 – "My husband wants it all the time and I'm not interested" 27:24 – Won't she think I'm only changing for sex? 30:47 – How couples start undoing sexlessness 36:10 – Practical first steps 41:07 – What "wholeheartedly cherished" looks like 43:32 – What if I don't even know my wife? 46:57 – Wrap-up: the power of making the first move 49:08 – Where to find Belah 49:52 – Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E46
    November 2 · 43 min

    316: Is Sexy Just A State Of Mind?

    Looking sexy and feeling sexy are two different things, and the KS Team breaks down why. Learn how the brakes-and-accelerators work, why more lingerie won't help if your foot is still on the brake, and grab a simple exercise to try with your spouse this week! Tune in!! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course!!!! Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: Kait Tomlin's ⁠IG post My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 0:00 – Episode sneak peek and Welcome 0:41 – Today's verse: John 6:40 0:57 – Looking sexy vs. feeling sexy 5:48 – The myth of "I'll feel sexy when…" 9:00 – What actually makes us feel sexy (and what makes a wife feel seen) 12:17 – Finishing Well course 13:12 – The accelerator and brake analogy 15:25 – Spectatoring 16:44 – Hormones, cycles and desire 23:00 – Common brakes and accelerators 25:56 – Faith, purity culture and "Can Christian women be sexy?" 31:10 – Song of Songs and receiving a compliment 32:20 – How to feel sexier this week 38:07 – Things to do together 39:28 – Prayer and takeaways 40:16 – Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E45
    October 26 · 31 min

    315: Red Flags, Green Flags, or Just Normal Marriage?

    Think your spouse’s habits are a green flag, a red flag, or just a “nothing burger”? Tune in to hear the KS team chat through some scenarios that our Instagram followers once wondered, "Is this normal?" Some of them are going to surprise you... Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Joey Odom episode: Less Phone More Intimacy Is Your Phone Ruining Your Marriage? episode Morgan Cutlip: Mental Load Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course!!!! Out Of Sync Audio Course Figuring Out What I Like Guide Resources: ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 – Open and welcome 00:31 – Show intro and today's verse (Ephesians 4:15) 01:02 – Instagram questions and a sponsor break 01:35 – Setting up the green, yellow and red flag game 03:12 – Sleeping in separate rooms because of snoring 04:16 – Tangent on nose strips 04:50 – Different bedtimes (11 PM vs. 3:30 AM) 07:03 – Husband plays video games after work 09:45 – Too much phone time (the daughter yelling "daddy") 10:46 – Husband cooks and preps meals, wife cleans up 11:16 – Never having an orgasm with penetration 12:00 – Couples who don't watch the same shows 14:30 – Promo for the Out of Sync course on mismatched libido 15:50 – Wife rejects intimacy before a work trip, then helps herself when he's gone 16:36 – Two king-size beds pushed together 18:38 – Trusting your husband about porn or cheating 19:20 – Wife wants to be led but won't give up control 20:12 – Wife leaves her shoes everywhere (and the shoes-in-the-house tangent) 22:19 – Couples who don't talk while eating 24:10 – Getting ready for bed at different times 24:50 – Husband loses his erection during long foreplay 25:36 – Wife doesn't know what turns her on 26:10 – Closing round: a green flag in each host's marriage 27:10 – Wrap-up and sign-off 27:41 – Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E44
    October 19 · 30 min

    314: How To Finish At The Same Time

    Ever wondered if finishing at the same time is the secret to great sex?? Or how to even do it? Tiera, Alana, and Kyle keep it real about timing, communication, and trying practical ways to get in sync- without turning the bedroom into a performance! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course!!!! Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Intro, podcast mission, and the new orgasm course 01:25 — Audience poll on whether couples finish together 03:17 — Why do couples want to orgasm at the same time? 04:02 — Assuming everyone finishes together before marriage 05:16 — Learning each spouse’s path to orgasm 06:10 — Talking about arousal, interruptions, and cues 07:05 — Giving the slower-to-orgasm partner a head start 08:06 — Same-time orgasm is optional, not better sex 09:04 — Coordinating timing beyond penetration 10:16 — Preparing for transitions and staying present 11:35 — Communicating before the finish line 13:40 — Planning for when timing doesn’t match 14:06 — Treating it as teamwork and experimentation 15:40 — No single position makes it happen automatically 16:01 — Tips for slowing down and reducing sensation 17:44 — Using a stop signal to delay climax 19:26 — Reducing stimulation by stopping movement 20:10 — Communicating clearly and keeping what works 21:02 — Adjusting pace and reading each other’s cues 22:19 — Listener tips and real-world examples 25:25 — Learning each other’s rhythms with practice 26:30 — Why some couples take turns instead 27:15 — Final takeaway: mutual enjoyment over finishing together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E43
    October 12 · 53 min

    313: Real Marriage with Carl & Laura Lentz: Celebrity Spotlight, Betrayal, & Staying Married

    This episode mentions self harm and infidelity. Please listen with care. Carl and Laura Lentz kick off our 'Real Marriage' series! It's a raw, honest conversation about infidelity, rebuilding trust, and the hard work of healing! This is a conversation about what it really takes to rebuild a marriage from the inside out. Pre-order their new book now! 10 Conversations That Heal The Hurt Preorder Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: Codependent No More Lights On Podcast 10 Conversations That Heal The Hurt Preorder ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Episode Hook: Facing Betrayal 00:15 — Kingdom Sexuality Podcast Introduction 01:02 — Sponsor Break 01:15 — Meet Carl and Laura Lentz 03:42 — How They Met 05:15 — Early Marriage and Sexual Expectations 08:10 — Betrayal, Infidelity, and the Breaking Point 12:45 — Choosing Healing Over Immediate Decisions 16:34 — Helping Their Children Through the Crisis 17:34 — Public Scrutiny and Starting Over 23:41 — The “Street Pharmacist” Story 25:24 — Rebuilding in Private 29:11 — Therapy, Trauma, and Doing the Work 31:59 — Rebuilding Emotional and Sexual Intimacy 39:38 — Navigating Different Desires 42:51 — Learning How to Love Each Other Better 46:10 — A Myth About Christian Sexuality 48:18 — Rapid-Fire Questions 49:21 — Where to Find Carl and Laura 49:51 — Closing Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E42
    October 9 · 14 min

    312: Is It Okay To Use Toys To Help Me Orgasm?

    If you have ever wondered whether a Christian woman can use a vibrator to help her orgasm, this conversation gives you a biblical framework instead of shame or guesswork! Plus Tiera and Alana even give you a sneak peek into what the toy section looks like in the Finishing Well orgasm course! (Use code FINISHING30 to get 30% off for a limited time!) Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course! code FINISHING30 for 30% off for a limited time! ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Opening: Faith, Sex, and Orgasms 00:31 — Course Reminder, Verse, and Sponsor Break 01:03 — Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys in Marriage? 03:19 — Questions Couples Should Consider 03:51 — Communication, Consent, and Prayer 04:26 — Needing More Stimulation Is Normal 05:28 — Reassurance for Husbands 06:01 — Can Vibrators Create Dependence? 07:08 — There’s No “More Spiritual” Way to Orgasm 07:38 — Inside the Course: Toy Education and Demonstrations 09:12 — How the Course Supports Couples 09:49 — Course Sale and Enrollment Details 10:50 — Participant Testimonial 12:24 — Closing Thoughts and Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E41
    October 8 · 14 min

    311: Can I Have Multiple Orgasms?

    Multiple orgasms aren’t a gold standard - they’re simply one possible part of a sex life and can be a fun thing to work towards! If you can have one orgasm and you’re curious about exploring more, tune into as the KS team chats multiples and about their new Finishing Well orgasm course! Code FINISHING30 to get it 30% off! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course: FINISHING30 for 30% off for a limited time!! ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Opening banter 00:08 — Welcome and episode introduction 00:33 — Series and course introduction 01:04 — Psalm 100:5 02:08 — Sponsor break 02:39 — What multiple orgasms are—and aren’t 03:16 — Defining multiple orgasms 04:20 — How seasons of life affect sexual exploration 05:40 — Why multiple orgasms are possible 06:45 — Creating the right conditions 07:24 — Practical ways to explore 09:03 — Communication with your spouse 09:38 — Course overview 11:18 — Prioritizing marital health 11:49 — Offer and bonus course 12:20 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E40
    October 7 · 12 min

    310: How Can I Help My Wife Orgasm?

    Husbands - this is the part nobody tells you: your wife’s orgasm is not a project. Because guess what? Pressure kills arousal!! Men, tune in to hear how you can support your wife in this process. Use the code FINISHING30 to get our new Finishing Well Orgasm Course for 30% off! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course: code FINISHING30 for 30% off ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Welcome & course introduction 01:12 — Why husbands are part of the journey 01:57 — Creating safety, not pressure 03:41 — What pressure feels like in practice 04:11 — Learning your wife’s needs and anatomy 05:52 — Celebrating progress beyond orgasm 07:13 — Showing up with a positive attitude 08:20 — How husbands can introduce the course 08:59 — Going at a comfortable pace & the guarantee 10:18 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E39
    October 6 · 15 min

    309: Why Can’t I Orgasm?

    "Why can’t I orgasm?" For a lot of women, the answer is not a simple fix, and it is definitely not “something is wrong with you.” This episode kicks off a limited mini-series on the female orgasm and gives you a clearer path forward if you’ve ever wondered what your body needs to get there!! Plus, you'll hear the team talk about their new orgasm course: Finishing Well! Get it for 30% off with the code FINISHING30 for a limited time. Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: ⁠Finishing Well Orgasm Course: use code FINISHING30 to get it 30% off for a limited time! ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Why orgasm may not be happening 00:05 — Welcome and episode series introduction 01:10 — Verse of the day 01:40 — You are not broken 02:15 — Why the course was created 02:45 — Alana’s story 04:21 — Understanding your anatomy 06:38 — The accelerator-and-brakes framework 08:44 — Identifying what may be holding you back 09:52 — What the course includes 10:55 — Why a personalized approach matters 12:02 — Time commitment and next steps 13:19 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E38
    October 5 · 16 min

    308: Why Should Christians Talk About Orgasms?

    Christians have been talking about sex for years, but somehow orgasm still feels like the topic we’re supposed to whisper about. But no longer. Tune in as the KS team announces their biggest project yet: ⁠Finishing Well: The Orgasm Course.⁠ Use the code FINISHING 30 to get it 30% off for a limited time! ⁠Watch the episode on YouTube!!⁠ Our Products: ⁠Finishing Well Orgasm Course: use code FINISHING30 to get it 30% off for a limited time!⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: Opening and episode intro 01:04 — Sponsor message 01:38 — Introducing the Finishing Well course 04:27 — Why Christians should talk about orgasm 10:01 — Where to find the course and trailer 11:03 — Launch-week offer and bonus course 11:34 — Why the course is priced this way 14:27 — Final offer and closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E37
    September 29 · 48 min

    307: What Your Spouse Really Needs Before Sex Happens

    SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. The biggest thing sabotaging your marriage is not a lack of communication, it’s what happens when your spouse’s heart doesn’t feel safe. Josh Straub breaks down why emotional safety matters for deeper intimacy, and shares a simple daily practice couples can try to start moving closer to each other! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: Famous At Home website 15 Minute Exercise Sam Jolmans' book ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website Approximate Time Stamps:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 0:00 — Emotional Safety in Marriage 0:35 — Welcome & Guest Introduction 1:42 — Meet Josh Straub 3:58 — What Is Famous at Home? 5:47 — Defining Emotional Safety 9:38 — Sponsor Message 10:40 — Working Through Fear and Defensiveness 14:47 — Building Emotional Awareness 17:21 — The 15-Minute Connection Exercise 21:15 — When a Spouse Is Guarded 25:31 — Why Communication Isn’t Enough 27:44 — The Intimacy “Four to Six” Trap 30:01 — Emotional Safety and Sexual Intimacy 36:25 — Different Paths to Connection 39:43 — Rethinking Purity Culture 43:26 — Rapid-Fire Marriage Advice 44:29 — Connect with Josh 44:59 — Closing Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E36
    September 22 · 22 min

    306: Can Christians Swing, Say Dirty Words, Or Use Toys In The Bedroom?

    SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. In this Q&A episode, the KS Team chats through why a wife may not orgasm from intercourse, how to think about toys in marriage, how to respond when friends think swinging is acceptable, and so much more! Get our Finishing Well orgasm course now! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Talk Dirty To Me Our Products: Orgasm Course Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: GotQuestions.com ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:30 — Verse of the day & sponsor break 01:33 — Listener Q&A begins 02:05 — Orgasm during intercourse 05:11 — Finishing Well course 06:13 — Advice for difficulty orgasming 07:48 — Future episode: unusual listener questions 08:20 — Using toys during sex 14:08 — Sexual language in marriage 15:08 — Why swinging isn’t okay 18:55 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E35
    September 14 · 23 min

    305: Questions You’re Too Afraid to Ask About Sex

    SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. Tune into this Q&A episode as the KS Team talks candidly about sex when you are exhausted, building "pounding" stamina, navigating postpartum sex drive changes, and how to have deep conversations if your spouse has a hard time with them. Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Pubic hair episode Resources: Out Of Sync Audio Course Orgasm Course Waitlist ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:08 — Welcome & Community Invitation 01:02 — Today’s Verse: Matthew 6:34 01:32 — Q&A: Intimacy for Tired Parents 06:21 — Out of Sync Course Break 07:32 — Q&A: Stamina and Lasting Longer 10:29 — Q&A: Talking About Sex and Deep Emotions 12:48 — Q&A: Postpartum Desire and Connection 16:45 — Q&A: Rewaiting for Marriage 18:20 — Q&A: Navigating Grooming Preferences Tactfully 19:54 — Closing Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E34
    September 8 · 19 min

    304: Q&A! When Sex Isn’t Going the Way You Expected

    SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. Ending off the summer with a few Q&A's the KS team tackles YOUR questions! They chat through painful sex, collaborating when one of you wants change in the bedroom and the other doesn't, and what to do when sex doesn't really feel good. You won't want to miss this series! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Episode 143 - Painful Sex, Vaginismus with Jess Seitz Episode 190 - Intimacy Without Intercourse Episode 162 - Meet Me Under The Mistletoe Episode 112 - Deep Dive Into Anatomy Episode 203 - Better Sex Through Mindfulness Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course Figuring Out What I Like Guide Yes No Maybe Resources: Come As You Are Gift Of Sex ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Welcome & Fruit of the Spirit 01:37 — Patreon & Sponsor Break 02:20 — Painful Sex After Marriage 05:17 — Making Out When One Partner Isn’t Interested 06:52 — When Sex Doesn’t Feel Good 10:17 — Work and Travel Boundaries 12:00 — Collaborating When Partners Want Different Things 15:13 — Will the Spouses Join the Show? 16:16 — When Both Partners Have Responsive Desire 16:48 — Closing Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E33
    September 1 · 41 min

    303: Ladies Q&A! When Motherhood Changes Your Sex Life

    In this special ladies-only Q&A, Tiera and Alana tackle the big, awkward, real-life questions women actually ask about sex, shame, pleasure, and postpartum changes!! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Losing the Lover in the Mother Kim & Darlene Unrau episode 292 Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course His Pleasure Resources: ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Ladies’ Q&A intro 01:43 — Welcome back + patron shoutout 03:45 — Opening scripture 04:16 — Pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood questions begin 06:02 — First-time mom fears and feeling unqualified 09:26 — Breastfeeding, feeling touched out, and body changes 13:12 — Confidence after prolapse and sex after pregnancy 18:09 — Creative ways to be intimate postpartum 21:11 — Reconnecting with your body sexually 28:20 — Libido postpartum and keeping your husband feeling loved 37:50 — Finding time for sex when exhausted 42:27 — Sex scheduling with more kids and teenagers 46:32 — Closing thoughts and prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E32
    August 25 · 28 min

    302: Ladies Q&A! Moving from Purity Culture to Pleasure

    This ladies-only Q&A gets practical fast. You’ll hear encouragement for retraining your brain to see sex as good, not dirty, plus what to do when arousal disappears on the pill, why penetration is not enough for orgasm, and how to stop feeling like your pleasure is a burden to your husband! Ladies, tune in!! Finishing Well Orgasm Course Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Birds & Bees Episode The Higher Desire Wife Menstrual Cycle Episode Thoughts During Sex episode Our Products: Figuring Out What I Like Guide Resources: KS Sex Challenges Married Dance: Use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off Birds and Bees Courses: Use code KINGDOM20 for 20% off the course Awaken Love Cycle Syncing Resource The Eden Feeling Sexy book ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 0:01 — Intro / ladies’ Q&A setup 0:59 — Verse of the day 1:23 — Topic overview: purity culture, pleasure, and random questions 1:56 — How to retrain your brain to enjoy sex instead of seeing it as dirty 4:14 — Resource: Hannah Ward / The Eden 4:59 — Feeling sexy for my husband feels sinful 8:13 — How to talk to your kids about sex 9:30 — Married a year and still don’t know what I like 10:45 — Retraining your brain after purity culture 11:03 — Not seeing my pleasure as a burden to my husband 14:18 — Shame about having desire at all 16:28 — Wanting lovemaking to be more interesting 18:07 — Loss of arousal on the pill 18:46 — How to tell my husband I’ve been faking it 20:07 — Orgasm only on top / grinding 20:30 — Types of touch based on your cycle 22:01 — Why penetration alone doesn’t lead to orgasm 23:17 — Is it lust to want pleasure? 25:06 — How to stay present and not let your mind wander 26:40 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • August 20 · 29 min

    301: Extra Spicy Q&A: Spouse is Kinkier, Body Augmentation, is Reading Smut Okay?

    This spicy Q&A episode gets honest about the stuff couples actually wrestle with: mutual orgasms, body image, exploring positions, and all the awkward sex questions people usually avoid. You asked, and we answered!! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Fellatio episode Anatomy Episode Anal Sex episode part 1 Anal Sex episode part 2 Our Products: Yes No Maybe Freebie Finishing Well Orgasm Course Resources: Passionista Flirtation Experiment Feeling Sexy Good Pictures Bad Pictures Christian Friendly Sex Positions website ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Spicy Q&A: Smut, Porn, and Bedroom Ideas 00:40 — Welcome, Instagram Update & Verse of the Day 01:10 — Advice for Partners with Different Kink Levels 04:20 — When Orgasm Feels Unequal 06:26 — When a Spouse Doesn’t Enjoy Oral Sex 09:07 — Is Reading Smut Okay? 11:44 — Is Anal Sex Okay in Christian Marriage? 12:15 — Exploring New Positions as a Couple 13:20 — Is Masturbation Okay? 14:36 — Does a Man Need to Ejaculate Every Day? 15:08 — Breast Augmentation, Aging & Body Image 19:54 — Overcoming Selfishness in Marriage 25:46 — Closing Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E30
    August 10 · 29 min

    300th Episode! Sharing Your Kingdom Sexuality Testimonies

    In this special 300th episode, we reflect on the years of ministry, sharing heartfelt voice memos sent in from listeners whose lives have been transformed through the power of these faith-based conversations around sex, marriage, and intimacy. To all our faithful listeners- THANK YOU!! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Kyle's Sextimony- Episode 94 "My Husband Was Addicted To Porn" Episode 96 "The Impact of His Porn Addiction on Me" Episode 97 Resources: ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠BetterHelp⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 - Introduction and celebration of 300 episodes 00:26 - Empowering listeners to share this content with friends and family 01:25 - Reflection on God's mercy from Lamentations 3 02:03 - First listener voice memo: overcoming struggles with porn in marriage 03:50 - Testimony of renewed intimacy and gratitude for Kingdom Sexuality's impact 04:16 - Listener appreciation for deepening marriage connections 05:03 - The role of couple’s conversations and recovery stories 06:33 - Special acknowledgment of longtime listeners and their stories 07:44 - Listener from Minnesota shares how infertility and postpartum became part of her journey 08:59 - Impact of the resource during significant life events like pregnancy and infertility 11:15 - Broader perspective on building healthy, joyful sexuality within faith 12:30 - Transformation from shame and broken trust to confidence and pleasure 14:13 - The ripple effect: sharing with church groups and community 15:40 - Listener celebrating overcoming sexual struggles within marriage 17:08 - Personal stories of growth through podcasts and therapy 18:30 - The normalization of sexual joy in Christian marriage 22:23 - A journey from purity culture to enjoying sex as God designed 25:42 - Closing thoughts on sharing testimonies and upcoming community initiatives Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E29
    August 3 · 35 min

    299: Butt Stuff- All About Anal Sex Part 2

    Huge thank you to Dwell Bible App who sponsored today’s episode!⁠ Get it for 25% off now! Today's conversation is the continuation of last week's episode, all about anal sex and the Christian perspective. If you missed part one, go start there first, since that's where we lay the foundation. In this episode we tackle questions that you guys had around the topic of butt stuff! Tune in! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Butt Stuff episode part 1 Resources: Married Dance: Use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off Coconu Lube: Use the code KINGDOM for 15% off Evree Lube: Use the code KINGDOM for 10% off! The anatomy image mentioned ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠BetterHelp⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Welcome & episode framing 01:06 — Health considerations 06:41 — Sanitation & preparation 08:48 — Types of anal play 14:05 — Pain, comfort & going slow 15:47 — Sponsor message 17:24 — Safety & hemorrhoids 19:01 — Orgasm, prostate stimulation & shame 24:33 — Grooming preferences 26:08 — Anal vs. vaginal sex 26:38 — Trying again after a painful experience 27:41 — Pegging 29:52 — Finishing, cleanup & safety 31:33 — Closing thoughts & prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • S12 · E28
    July 27 · 29 min

    298: Patron's Choice! Butt Stuff - All About Anal Sex Part 1

    Tune in as the KS team chats about one of the most requested topics... butt stuff. In part one of this conversation (part 2 is coming next week!) the team discusses anal play and where biblical wisdom fits into the conversation. It’s a practical conversation about how couples can navigate boundaries, consent, and curiosity without losing connection. Watch the episode on YouTube!! Resources: https://www.gotquestions.org/ My Counselor Online: You get $25 off your first month when you sign up with our link Better Help: Get 10% off your first month with our link ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Opening teaser 00:34 — Welcome and episode introduction 01:07 — Why this conversation matters 04:57 — Setting expectations and disclaimer 06:11 — What the Bible says 10:26 — A biblical framework for decision-making 12:34 — Defining anal play and sexual boundaries 17:40 — Why couples may explore this topic 19:54 — How to start the conversation with your spouse 22:09 — Consent, boundaries, and respecting a no 25:39 — Closing thoughts and next episode preview 26:13 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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