Your Body Remembers Pleasure: Somatic Sex Education & Sexual Healing

Orgasm Is a Doorway, Not a Destination | Dawn Cartwright

"Without realizing it, we are actually in a state of orgasm. We are actually orgasming far more than we think we are." Explore this episode and deeper teachings on somatic sexual healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/cartwright-neo-tantra-orgasm/ Who this episode is for: Anyone who has quietly sensed that sex holds more presence, connection, and aliveness than the brief release they were taught to aim for. Dawn Cartwright arrived at her first tantra retreat, in the mountains above Santa Barbara, wearing a blue business suit and heels and carrying suitcases. She had no idea what tantra was. She signed up because the ad promised "the art of sexual magic." More than three decades later, she is the founder of the Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute in Los Angeles, creator of the year-long Fragrance of the Lotus Teacher Certification Training, and host of the Be Fully Alive podcast, with more than 325 episodes. She has studied with teachers including Margot Anand and Daniel Odier, and holds a degree in psychology from UC Davis. Dawn and I explore why so much of what we call orgasm is built on resistance - holding back... holding back... until we can't anymore. And what opens when the tension guarding our pleasure softens. She describes orgasm as a doorway into how the body is designed to feel all the time, and walks through the practices she teaches: tracking sensation without labeling it, breathing beneath the belt, and ceremony as a structure for meeting. In this conversation: Why the familiar "exclamation point" orgasm follows a resistance model - and what an ellipsis feels like instead Where Dawn says orgasm is already happening in every body she has worked with What tension in the jaw and belly during sex may be protecting Numbness as a sensation worth tracking, not a verdict on your body Breathing beneath the belt, and the oceanic breath that wakes the pelvic floor Ceremony - which Dawn once thought would ruin sex - as a space for meeting How holding back in pleasure mirrors holding back from love What Dawn, at 65, means when she calls sexuality the fountain of youth Timestamps: 04:36 — A business suit meets a tantra retreat 08:48 — What neo-tantra actually invites 16:02 — Orgasm as a doorway, not a destination 23:50 — The resistance model of orgasm and love 28:34 — Tracking sensation and breathing beneath the belt 34:35 — An invitation for the tantra-curious Resources & Links: Dawn Cartwright: dawncartwright.com - @dawncartwright Be Fully Alive podcast: Dawn Cartwright on Patreon Reclaiming Your Pleasure: rahichun.com/courses/ Awaken Your Body: rahichun.com/courses/ If this resonates — follow, share with a friend or partner who's curious about tantra but unsure of the word, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It helps this work reach those who are ready for it.

Kink, Power & Erotic Freedom | Nicolette Routhier & Kari Kinkead

"The fears that come up around the container are likely the fears that show up around sex in general." Explore this episode and deeper teachings on somatic sexual healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/routhier-kinkead-erotic-reclamation/ Who this episode is for: For anyone carrying a desire they've never had the language - or the permission - to speak aloud, and who secretly wonders whether what they want is too much, too dark, or too strange to ever be met. Nicolette Routhier and Kari Kinkead are embodiment facilitators, relationship coaches, and co-creators of Erotic Reclamation - a platform living at the intersection of kink, power dynamics, and personal transformation. Nicolette came to this work through a religious upbringing that silenced her vivid inner fantasy life, and later through the twin revelations of self-pleasure and online expression that "let the inner freak fly" in safety. Kari arrived from a science-based field where she couldn't feel much more than hot and cold in her own body - and built her practice on the radical belief that expanding the body's vocabulary for sensation is the beginning of erotic freedom. Together they co-facilitate Temple of Yes, their in-person retreat, and a growing suite of coaching programs. In this conversation, we go deep into what it actually means to reclaim your erotic self - not as a one-time event, but as a living, evolving practice. Nicolette and Kari share the somatic frameworks they've developed - the Weather Report, the North Star, and the desire claiming process - that are quietly revolutionizing what kink and power dynamic spaces can hold. In this conversation: Why the fears that surface around a sexual container are the exact same fears living inside your sex life - and why that's useful What it means to slow desire so far down that its true nature is finally revealed beneath the performance, the conditioning, and the noise The Weather Report: the moment-to-moment somatic attunement practice Nicolette and Kari use to teach body literacy before anything erotic begins How conflicting desires between partners - the yes and the no - can become the doorway to the most co-created, alive sex imaginable Kari's controversial belief that everyone is kinky - and the quiet liberation hiding inside that claim What aftercare actually looks like when it's woven through an entire intimate interaction rather than bolted on at the end Why the reclamation of erotic innocence is what participants most frequently walk away naming after their retreats Timestamps: 00:00 — What erotic reclamation actually means 03:37 — Nicolette: religious shame, vivid fantasy, and finding freedom 05:24 — Kari: when a science brain had to learn the body's language 10:07 — Slowing desire all the way down to find its truth 14:43 — The Weather Report and the North Star explained 20:27 — When desires conflict: the path to a shared yes 48:22 — Witnessing participants reclaim erotic innocence Resources & Links Erotic Reclamation: https://www.eroticreclamation.com/ @eroticreclamation The 3 Keys to Genital De-armoring and Erotic Embodiment & Sexual Awakening : https://rahichun.com/courses/ If this resonates — follow, share with a lover, a friend who's been quietly curious about kink, or anyone who knows there's more aliveness available in their body than they've been given permission to feel. A review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify helps this work reach those who are ready for it.

Soft De-Armoring & the Psoas | Susanne Roursgaard & Stine Krage

"When you push just slightly too hard, you went past the fascia. When you don't push enough, you're not in connection with it. When you find that exact still point - the boundary between my finger and the client's body dissolves." Explore this episode and deeper teachings on somatic sexual healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/susanne-roursgaard-stine-krage-soft-de-armoring/ Who this episode is for: Pelvic floor and sexuality practitioners ready to go deeper, and anyone who has sensed their body is holding something that has never had language - or safe enough conditions to surface. Susanne Roursgaard is the originator of soft de-armoring and the Gaia Method — a body-oriented modality weaving together de-armoring, breathwork, sound, movement, energy work, and psychotherapy. A psychotherapist, body-oriented trauma therapist, family therapist, and sexologist specializing in sexual abuse, she brings 23 years as a midwife and over 30 years of experience to her practitioner trainings across Europe and beyond. Stine Krage is a certified midwife, somatic therapist, integral sexologist, and Compassionate Inquiry practitioner. Through her practice Amosoma and as co-creator of the Prostatic Portal, she has become one of the most respected voices in male sexual health, prostate healing, and the intersection of emotional release and erotic aliveness. In this conversation: What de-armoring actually is - how it differs from massage, what it touches in the fascia, and what "matching tone" means for a practitioner Why 70–80% of what lives in the genital tissue traces to early childhood wounds that have nothing to do with adult sexuality How the body tests the practitioner before it trusts - and what it takes to pass that test What prostate work reveals about male surrender, and why men arrive carrying shame about the very area most in need of healing How breath patterns can lock the nervous system in fight-or-flight - and why Stine addresses breath before she addresses anything else The role of sound and sounding in de-armoring: vocal cords, Tibetan bowls, and why frequency medicine bypasses the mind's defenses What genuine space holding requires - including why sexual energy leaking from a practitioner into a session is a real and addressable phenomenon The psoas as a psychoemotional and sexual organ: why you cannot massage it into release, and what indirect approaches actually work Timestamps: 00:00 — Rahi introduces Susanne and Stine: the two most-downloaded guests in five years of the podcast 01:00 — Susanne Roursgaard's bio: the Gaia Method, soft de-armoring, practitioner training across Europe 02:00 — Stine Krage's bio: Amasoma, the Prostatic Portal, male sexual health and prostate healing 04:00 — What de-armoring actually is: fascia, nervous system, and the ultra-light touch 05:00 — "Matching tone": the still point where the boundary between practitioner and client dissolves 06:00 — The energy body, the HeartMath Institute, and the two layers de-armoring works on simultaneously 07:00 — Presence without agenda: why being a blank slate is a cultivated skill 09:00 — Why the body tests the practitioner before it opens — and what that testing looks like 11:00 — How Stine's sessions begin the moment a client walks in the room 13:00 — Why the pelvis holds so much — and the cultural avoidance of genital touch for healing 15:00 — Why Susanne stopped using the phrase "sexual de-armoring" — and what the tissue actually reveals 17:00 — The core wounds that surface in pelvic work: self-worth, shame, and the voices formed in early childhood 19:00 — Prostate work: the parallel between prostate and cervix wiring, and what surprises people most 20:00 — The level of surrender prostate work requires — and why it is so transformative for men 22:00 — Space holding: what it genuinely requires of a practitioner 25:00 — Clear sexual boundaries in retreat and session containers — and why ambiguity here costs clients safety 26:00 — Slowness as a skill: how slowing down creates the conditions for the body to surface what it holds 28:00 — Breath as a diagnostic and therapeutic tool: the three diaphragms and how Stine reads breath from intake onward 30:00 — Breathing space into tension: a simple practice for communicating with the body through breath 32:00 — Over-breathing, CO2 tolerance, and why a trauma breath pattern can make de-armoring unreachable 34:00 — Sounding in de-armoring sessions: vocal cords, the cervix and prostate connection, and amplifying what the body is already doing 36:00 — Tuning forks versus Tibetan versus crystal bowls — and why overtones matter 37:00 — The advanced Gaia Method training: how it came together and what excited both practitioners about bringing it to the field 39:00 — Why clinical knowledge matters alongside intuition — including when erectile dysfunction signals the need for medical referral first 41:00 — Palpation training: why practitioners need their fingers to recognize anatomy, not just their minds 43:00 — Energetic ethics: why sexual healing is a murky field and what this training does about it 44:00 — Learning to consciously open and close sexual energy flow — and the live feedback process in training 47:00 — The three-month online container: seven modules, monthly Q&A, and how the live intensive is structured 48:00 — Specialized trauma knowledge: how early childhood sexual abuse and adult sexual abuse present differently in the body 49:00 — The psoas as the seed of the soul: fight/flight/freeze, TRE, the vagus nerve, and the rebozo tradition 50:00 — Why the psoas cannot be directly manipulated — and what indirect approaches actually work 51:00 — How to find the training, the landing page, and the application process for practitioners outside the Gaia Method 54:00 — Susanne's retreats for non-practitioners, her online female community, and the coming 21-day embodiment challenge 55:00 — Stine's Prostatic Portal practitioner training and add-on certification pathway 57:00 — Closing reflections Resources & Links Susanne Roursgaard & the Gaia Method: https://the-gaia-method.com Stine Krage & the Prostatic Portal: https://theprostaticportal.com/ Stine's practice, Amosoma: http://amosoma.com/ Advanced Gaia Method training: https://gaiatrain-ke7mejo6.manus.space/ The Gaia Method 21-Day Challenge: July 2-July 22: https://www.the-gaia-method.com/product-page/21-day-challenge-a-womens-journey The 3 Keys to Genital De-Armoring — Rahi's practitioner training: https://rahichun.mykajabi.com/the-3-keys-live-training-CA Reclaiming Your Pleasure course: https://rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure/ If this conversation reached something in you — follow, share with a practitioner colleague or someone on their somatic healing path, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. 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Birth, Consent & Sexuality After Baby | Tema Mercado

"Her rational brain said this is what happens at the border sometimes. Her body registered it as a sexual assault." Explore this episode and deeper teachings on somatic sexual healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/tema-mercado-birth-consent-sexuality/ Who this episode is for: Anyone navigating postpartum disconnection, birth trauma, or the quiet question of whether desire and a felt sense of self can return after everything the body has been through. Tema Mercado is a Licensed Midwife in California, Partera Profesional Certificada in Mexico, and founder of La Matriz Birth in San Diego. A first-generation daughter of Purépecha and Yoreme lineage, mother of six, grandmother of two — her own births span the full spectrum from medicalized hospital settings to reverent home births. Before midwifery, she spent years as a sexual assault survivor advocate. When she entered birth work, she expected it to be different. It wasn't. What she found in the delivery room — the same power dynamics, the same coercion, the same PTSD symptoms in mothers who were supposed to be celebrating — changed everything. Out of that recognition, she built a practice grounded in somatic consent, ancestral medicine, and the truth that sexuality doesn't disappear when motherhood begins. In this conversation: Why the delivery room mirrors the power dynamics of a sexual assault investigation How somatic prenatal care metabolizes fear before it becomes armor in labor The woman who arrived saying "I have no trauma" — and what her pelvis revealed Why postpartum loss of desire is almost never about hormones How a father's newborn caregiving rewires his brain — and reopens intimacy Belly binding as ancestral somatic practice How being truly seen during birth transforms how a woman moves through the world Timestamps: 00:08 — Tema's origin story 14:33 — Consent as somatic practice 22:58 — Ancestral medicine and belly binding 32:13 — The woman who "had no trauma" 46:18 — What actually brings desire back postpartum 59:29 — From disempowerment to sovereignty Resources & Links Tema Mercado: https://lamatrizbirth.com — @matrizmidwife Somatic sexual healing and embodied intimacy: https://divineunionforlovers.com/course Awaken Pleasure course: https://rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure/ If this resonates — follow, share with someone postpartum or healing, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It helps this work reach those who are ready for it.

Cervical Awakening & Erotic Sovereignty | Ariel Szabo

Explore this episode and deeper teachings on somatic sexual healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/erotic-sovereignty-cervical-awakening-sex-work-truth/ In this raw, unfiltered conversation, I’m joined by writer and somatic sex educator Ariel Szabo, creator of The Erotic Frontier, for a deeply embodied exploration of sexuality, trauma healing, and erotic awakening. This episode moves beyond surface-level conversations about pleasure—and into the deeper terrain of nervous system healing, cervical awakening, and the reclamation of erotic life force. Ariel shares her journey from sexual numbness and trauma into profound embodied pleasure, including how working with plant medicine opened pathways to authentic sexual expression and inner truth. We explore how shame and fear become wired into the body… and how presence, grief, and devotion begin to unwind that conditioning. We dive deeply into: • The difference between disconnected pleasure and embodied pleasure • How slowing down rewires sensation and opens the cervix to profound warmth and climax • Why sexual visibility can actually increase safety in the body • How erotic energy fuels creativity, voice, and life purpose • The power shift from “power over” to “power with” in intimacy and culture • The crucial distinction between consensual sex work and trafficking • Why decriminalization — not legalization — reduces harm • The emotional cost placed on survivors within our judicial systems This conversation moves from the deeply personal—genital listening, cervical awakening, and embodied pleasure—into the collective dynamics shaping sexuality, power, and culture. If you’ve ever felt numb, disconnected from desire, or shaped by narratives that limit your expression… this episode opens a new possibility. Because erotic sovereignty isn’t about performance. It’s about presence. And your body may be waiting for you to ask: What do I need? What do I want? Go deeper: Explore somatic sexual healing and embodied intimacy : https://divineunionforlovers.com/course Learn How To Awaken Pleasure: https://rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure/ Connect with Ariel Szabo: Website: https://sacredmoonflower.com Substack: The Erotic Frontier If this resonates: Follow the podcast, share with someone you trust, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps this work reach those who are ready for it.

Sexual Sovereignty: Rewilding the Body | Dr. Saida Desilets

What if arousal and pleasure weren’t “inappropriate”… but powerful markers of health? Explore sexual sovereignty and embodied pleasure: https://rahichun.com/podcast/sexual-sovereignty-rewilding-the-body/ In this richly embodied conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Dr. Saida Desilets — pioneering teacher of sacred sexuality and creator of the Embodied Psychosexual Method — to explore sexual sovereignty, erotic innocence, and the body’s capacity to heal through pleasure, breath, and deep attunement. Saida shares the astonishing origins of her life’s work: from a childhood rooted in natural sensual connection, to surviving violence, to being told at age twenty she had only two weeks to live — and the radical path of choosing life, reclaiming vitality, and rebuilding her relationship to desire from the inside out. Together, we explore how shame disrupts the body’s natural aliveness, why relaxed arousal is the foundation of true intimacy, and how rewilding in nature can restore the pre-verbal sensual intelligence that makes us more connected lovers and humans. This episode bridges: embodiment • sexuality • nervous system wisdom • pleasure-based healing • and the wild intelligence of the body Inside this conversation: • Saida’s origin story and how her life force became her teacher • What “sexual sovereignty” actually means — beyond the buzzword • Why arousal and pleasure can be normalized as wellness indicators • The difference between performance sex and relaxed arousal • Erotic innocence: reclaiming turn-on without shame or meaning-making • How wilderness rewilding restores sensual attunement and presence • Why leaning into discomfort in intimacy can transform into deeper pleasure • Breath as the simplest daily practice for reclaiming aliveness • “Yum vs. yuck”: training attention as a pathway to more vitality • What it really means to “marinate in your own essence” Learn more about Saida’s work: embodiedloveuniversity.com More resources about Somatic Sexual Wholeness: rahichun.com If this conversation supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review is a simple way to help this work reach more people.

Rewilding Eros: Healing Shame & Grief | Victor Warring

What if your sexuality was never broken — only buried? Explore rewilding eros and reclaiming aliveness: https://rahichun.com/podcast/rewilding-eros-healing-shame-grief/ In this expansive conversation, somatic sexuality coach Victor Warring explores the process of “rewilding eros” — reconnecting with the innate erotic intelligence we’re all born with before shame, culture, and conditioning taught us to disconnect. Drawing from his work in somatic psychology, grief work during the AIDS epidemic, and sexological bodywork, Victor shares why grief and pleasure are inseparable, how shame limits our erotic capacity, and why reclaiming your aliveness is a radical act of healing — and even activism. We explore: the connection between grief and eros sexual shame and “upper limits” to pleasure erotic sovereignty and owning your desire how culture domesticates our bodies and sexuality creating an erotically alive home and community why healing is subtractive (removing conditioning, not fixing yourself) erotic embodiment as activism practical ways to expand your pleasure ceiling safely This episode is an invitation to remember: your erotic nature isn’t something to learn — it’s something to uncover. Learn more about Victor’s work at RewildEros.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Orgasmic Birth, Miscarriage & Pelvic Healing | Katie Spataro

What if your deepest wounds could become the doorway to your greatest healing? Explore pelvic healing, birth, and embodied pleasure: https://rahichun.com/podcast/orgasmic-birth-miscarriage-pelvic-healing/ In this powerful conversation, Rahi Chun sits with somatic sex educator, pelvic care provider, and birth worker Katie Spataro to explore how the body itself can initiate us into sacred work through grief, birth, trauma, and pleasure. Katie shares her extraordinary personal journey — from miscarriage and spontaneous ritual… to an unexpectedly orgasmic birth… to nearly a decade of supporting survivors of childhood sexual trauma through somatic, pelvic, and erotic healing practices. Together, they explore the profound connection between birth, sexuality, grief, and pleasure — and how tending the pelvis can unlock deep nervous system healing and reclaim embodied power. Inside this episode: • What an orgasmic birth really is (and why birth is inherently erotic) • Miscarriage, grief rituals, and womb healing • How trauma is stored in the pelvic floor and fascia • Somatic pelvic and prostate bodywork as activism and healing • Why pleasure is medicine for the nervous system • Prostate and anal care through a therapeutic, trauma-informed lens • Community healing for survivors of sexual trauma • The role of consent, touch, and attuned presence in deep repair • How grief and pleasure are portals into one another This conversation is tender, grounded, and radically hopeful — an invitation to trust the body’s wisdom and remember that healing doesn’t happen by forcing… but by feeling. Learn more about Katie’s work: SacredWombServices.com Explore Rahi’s somatic sexuality resources: Rahichun.com If this episode touched you, leaving a 5-star review helps this work reach more people reclaiming their bodies.

The Four Phases of Erotic Liberation with Darshana Avila

Why do so many people long for deeper pleasure and intimacy — yet feel blocked, disconnected, or unable to receive? Explore erotic liberation and the power of receiving: https://rahichun.com/podcast/four-phases-erotic-liberation/ In this grounded and illuminating conversation, somatic intimacy guide Darna Avila shares how trauma-informed somatics and consent practices create the foundation for true erotic liberation. Together, we explore how nervous system safety, regulation, and clear boundaries open the door to authentic desire, deeper connection, and more expansive pleasure. Darna introduces her four phases of erotic liberation — regulation, receiving, allowing, and expressing — and explains why many of us, especially women and AFAB bodies, have been conditioned to people-please, overgive, and disconnect from our own needs. We talk about: the link between trauma and sexual shutdown the fawn response and people-pleasing in intimacy why receiving pleasure can feel unsafe the Wheel of Consent and clear communication rebuilding trust in the body reclaiming desire and erotic sovereignty pleasure as a source of power and activism how personal healing supports collective liberation This episode is an invitation to slow down, listen inward, and remember that your pleasure is not selfish — it’s life force. More about Darshana: darshanaavila.com Learn the erotic practices for Reclaiming Pleasure: rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure/ If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Sex Problems Are Relationship Patterns | Ali Mezey

What if your “sex problem” wasn’t sexual at all? Explore relational dynamics and somatic mapping: https://rahichun.com/podcast/sex-problem-is-relational-geometry/ In this episode, I’m joined by Ali Mazza, a sexologist and somatic therapist with 40+ years of experience, to explore a deceptively simple method that reveals what’s been shaping your intimacy from underneath your awareness. We begin with Family Constellations Therapy—a powerful group process that exposes hidden family dynamics—and then dive into Ali’s unique innovation: Personal Geometry. Using post-it notes, objects, and spatial mapping, Ali helps clients externalize their inner relational landscape—so patterns around porn, orgasm, commitment, heart–sex splits, and emotional enmeshment become visible, movable, and transformable in real time. If you’ve ever felt like your “sexual issue” isn’t actually about sex—this conversation will land. In this episode, we explore: What Family Constellations are, and why “representatives” can feel what they don’t intellectually know How Personal Geometry maps unconscious relational dynamics in minutes Why “addiction” often functions as support, protection, or avoidance—and how mapping reveals the function The heart–sexuality split: what it is, why it happens, and how it shifts How inhibition and performance blocks grow from cultural expectations—and what honesty unlocks Why somatic work can sometimes reveal in one session what years of talk therapy can’t access Learn more: Ali’s work and trainings can be found at alimezey.com More resources about Somatic Sexual Wholeness: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

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Anal Pleasure and Prostate Play with Dr. Charlie Glickman

What if anal pleasure could be safe, relaxed, and even healing? Explore embodied anal pleasure and prostate play: https://rahichun.com/podcast/embodied-anal-pleasure-prostate-play/ Dr. Charlie Glickman has been in the sex education field for over 35 years—and he’s one of the most grounded, compassionate educators I know. In this episode, we explore embodied anal play: how to approach anal pleasure in a way that’s safe, consent-based, trauma-informed, and genuinely enjoyable—with the goal Charlie names best: everyone ends with a smile. We talk about why the myth that “anal sex has to hurt” persists, what porn leaves out (warm-up, lubrication, pacing), and how breath and nervous system regulation change everything. Charlie shares simple, practical guidance for relaxation, arousal, and gradual insertion, including why moving slowly can actually get you there faster. We also explore the deeper layers: how the pelvis holds tension, fear, and shame, how embodied anal pleasure can become a portal for healing, and why so many men are “frozen” between the navel and the knees—both culturally and somatically. And of course, we discuss Charlie’s work co-authoring The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, including what keeps people from exploring prostate play (pain, mess, and the loaded masculinity myths), and how education can liberate sensation. In this episode, you’ll hear: The #1 key to anal pleasure: relaxation, not pushing or “stretching” A simple breath practice to downshift the nervous system and support opening How to pace penetration on the exhale (and why it works) Why arousal matters: making anal exploration a “side dish,” not a performance goal Tips for strap-ons and toys (especially when the giver has no nerve feedback) How shame lives somatically—and how healing becomes possible through safe touch Prostate pleasure basics + why anal play doesn’t define sexual orientation charlieglickman.com The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure For more resources about Somatic Sexual Wholeness: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Sexual Energy, Tantra & Taoism | Leah Piper & Dr. Willow Brown

What if sexual energy wasn’t just about sex… but your core life force? Explore tantra, Taoism, and sexual vitality: https://rahichun.com/podcast/sexual-energy-life-force-tantra-taoism/ In this episode, I’m joined by Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown, the powerhouse duo behind Sex Reimagined, blending Tantra, Taoism, somatic healing, and sexual mastery practices to help individuals and couples reclaim pleasure, vitality, and intimacy. Together we explore how ancient wisdom traditions use sexual energy to heal trauma, strengthen relationships, build confidence, and awaken deeper states of aliveness. We talk about: Sacred Spot Massage and sexual trauma healing Why Tantra and Taoism are surprisingly complementary The truth about desire mismatch in couples How women’s arousal actually works (and what most partners never learn) Solo practices vs partner practices Male sexual mastery, ejaculation choice, and lasting longer naturally How sexual energy fuels vitality, creativity, and confidence in every area of life If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your desire, stuck in shame, or simply curious how to experience more pleasure and presence in your body — this conversation opens powerful doors. Learn more from Leah and Willow: sexreimagined.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Extended Lovemaking: Meditative Intimacy | Ariel Szabo

What if lovemaking didn’t have to be rushed, goal-oriented, or focused on orgasm? Explore extended lovemaking and embodied intimacy: https://rahichun.com/podcast/extended-lovemaking-deep-intimacy/ What if sex could feel spacious, meditative, and deeply connecting? In this intimate conversation, somatic sex educators and partners Rahi Chun and Ariel Szabo explore the practice of extended lovemaking — a slow, presence-based approach to intimacy that prioritizes connection, nervous system safety, and full-body pleasure over performance or climax. Together, they share: the difference between goal-oriented sex and meditative lovemaking how slowing down increases sensitivity and pleasure why many couples feel unsatisfied even after orgasm edging and extended arousal states one-way touch and genital mapping practices how the nervous system shapes intimacy the 8 Pillars of Intimacy for deeper connection how lovemaking can become a spiritual and relational practice If you long for more depth, more connection, and more pleasure with your partner — this episode offers a new way forward. Learn more about their couples programs at DivineUnionForLovers.com

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Erotic Empowerment: Alchemizing Shame | Court Vox

What if healing your sexuality wasn’t about “fixing” yourself — but about entering brave, embodied spaces where your life-force energy finally has permission to move? Explore erotic empowerment and somatic intimacy: https://rahichun.com/podcast/erotic-empowerment-somatic-intimacy In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Court Vox — certified sex and intimacy coach, sacred intimate, and founder of The Body Vox — known for his deeply immersive, somatic retreats and one-on-one erotic empowerment experiences around the world. Court challenges the idea of “safe spaces” and instead invites us into brave spaces — containers where nervous systems regulate, shame softens, and people feel free to explore intimacy, desire, and authentic self-expression without performance or pretense. Together, we explore how small acts of intimacy — even something as simple as holding hands — can be profoundly life-changing, and how working with erotic energy often unlocks creativity, purpose, and aliveness far beyond the bedroom. This episode is about reclaiming your body, your voice, and your right to pleasure. In this episode, we explore: Why “brave space” may be more transformative than “safe space” Somatic intimacy practices using breath, touch, sound, and movement How multi-day erotic immersions accelerate healing and embodiment The connection between sexual energy and creativity, confidence, and life purpose Alchemizing shame into pleasure and agency Group erotic practice as a tool for community healing and belonging Men’s retreats, sacred sexuality, and embodied leadership How to explore fantasy and shadow safely through consent and choice Why small moments of connection can be more transformative than dramatic sexual experiences Court’s work reminds us that eroticism isn’t just sex — it’s life force, expression, artistry, and presence. If you’ve ever felt a quiet longing for deeper intimacy, more freedom in your body, or a space where all of you is welcome… this conversation is for you. About Court: thebodyvox.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Genital De-armoring: Restoring Sensation | Caffyn Jesse

What if genital de-armouring wasn’t just a technique… but a pathway back to your full aliveness? Explore genital de-armouring and somatic sexual healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/genital-dearmoring-somatic-sexual-healing I’m joined by my dear friend and colleague Caffyn Jesse, who interviews me about the roots, philosophy, and lived experiences that shaped my approach to genital de-armoring, somatic sexual healing, and trauma-informed intimacy work. Together, we explore how early attachment wounds, developmental trauma, cultural conditioning, and nervous system dysregulation create “armor” in the body — especially in the pelvis and genitals — limiting pleasure, connection, and life-force energy. And more importantly: how that armor can gently, safely, and intentionally soften. This conversation weaves together neuroaffective touch, developmental psychology, sexological bodywork, meditation, plant medicine, and somatic presence — revealing how deep healing happens not through force, but through safety, attunement, and consent. At its heart, genital dearmoring is not just about sexuality. It’s about rebuilding trust with your body. Reclaiming voice and choice. And remembering that pleasure is your birthright. In this episode, we explore: What genital “armor” is and how it forms How childhood attachment and early touch shape adult sexuality Nervous system safety as the foundation for pleasure Neuroaffective touch and repairing infant attachment wounds Why receiving support can transform intimacy, relationships, and even career success The role of consent, boundaries, and voice in sexual healing Somatic mapping of the body’s erogenous zones Cervical and prostate de-armoring Working with pelvic trauma gently and respectfully Meditation, ego dissolution, and life-force awareness in space-holding How healing sexuality unlocks creativity, vitality, and purpose Couples practices for intimacy and shared exploration We also share real client stories — including experiences of chronic genital pain relief, renewed sensation, and profound emotional and spiritual liberation. This is a deep dive into the philosophy behind Somatic Sexual Wholeness® and the heart of the work I teach today. If you’re curious about genital dearmoring, trauma-informed touch, or how to feel more alive and connected in your body — this conversation will meet you there. Guest Host: Caffyn Jesse: https://ecstaticbelonging.com/ Learn about the Art of Genital De-armoring: rahichun.com/the3keys Courses, sessions, and trainings → rahichun.com

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Genital Health & Pleasure Explained | Dr. Jennifer Lang

What if genital health wasn’t separate from pleasure… but directly connected to it? Explore genital health, mapping, and somatic sexual healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/genital-health-pleasure-explained This episode is a special replay of a live masterclass with Dr. Jennifer Lang — board-certified gynecologic oncologist, obstetrician, and integrative gynecologist — where we bridge two worlds that rarely speak to each other: Western medicine and Somatic Sexual Healing. Together, we explore three deceptively simple questions that can radically transform your relationship with your body: What is genital health? What is genital pleasure? What is genital wholeness? From my perspective as a somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker, and Jen’s training in clinical gynecology and integrative medicine, we examine how nervous system safety, early conditioning, trauma, anatomy, and touch all shape the way we experience our genitals — not just medically, but emotionally and energetically. Because true genital health isn’t only the absence of disease. It’s the ability to feel, attune, respond, and experience pleasure. This conversation moves beyond theory into practical, body-based tools you can actually use. In this masterclass, we cover: How the nervous system directly affects sexual responsiveness and genital sensation The connection between shame, trauma, and “genital armoring” Why many people feel numb, disconnected, or in pain The somatic practice of genital mapping What Western medicine gets right — and what it often misses How pleasure supports healing, vitality, and overall wellbeing Trauma-informed approaches to restoring sensation Practical techniques for vulva owners: Clitoral dearmoring G-spot / urethral sponge mapping Cervical sensitivity and trust-building touch Pelvic floor and vaginal tissue attunement Practical techniques for penis owners: Frenulum sensitivity Coronal ridge and glans mapping Shaft and base dearmoring Prostate and perineal awareness We also speak candidly about how culture, religion, early childhood conditioning, and medical systems shape our relationship with our genitals — often disconnecting us from our innate capacity for pleasure. At its core, this episode is about reclaiming agency: Listening to your body. Learning its language. And remembering that pleasure is not indulgent — it’s biological intelligence. This is a rare and refreshing dialogue between medicine and somatics, offering a more complete vision of sexual health than either field alone. With: Dr. Jennifer Lang – Integrative Gynecologist Rahi Chun – Somatic Sex Educator & creator of Somatic Sexual Wholeness® Learn about the Art of Genital De-armoring: rahichun.com/the3keys

Prostate Massage for Beginners | Stine Krage & Asim Sacredfire

What if prostate pleasure wasn’t something to fear… but something your body has always had the capacity to experience? Explore prostate massage and embodied anal pleasure: https://rahichun.com/podcast/prostate-massage-for-beginners Three years ago, my first conversation with Stine and Asim about prostate massage became the most downloaded episode of the entire podcast. Clearly, there’s a deep curiosity — and a quiet hunger — around prostate health, healing, and pleasure. So this is Part Two. In this episode, the founders of The Prostate Portal return to guide us through what many people have been asking for: What actually happens in a first prostate massage? How do you prepare the body? And how do you approach it safely, gently, and without fear? Together, we walk step-by-step through the physical, emotional, and nervous-system preparation for prostate massage — for both the receiver and the giver. Because this isn’t about performance or chasing orgasm. It’s about safety, surrender, and deep listening to the body. Stine and Asim blend somatic psychology, tantra, breathwork, trauma-awareness, and hands-on bodywork to create an approach that is practical, grounded, and profoundly respectful of the vulnerability of this part of the body. And what they consistently see is surprising: When fear and shame dissolve, what remains is often relaxation, healing, emotional release, and full-body pleasure. In this episode, we explore: Why the prostate is often called a “sacred portal” in the body Common fears and taboos around anal touch — and how to normalize them How to down-regulate the nervous system before touch Breathwork practices to relax the pelvic floor and anal sphincter Why slowing down matters more than technique Step-by-step guidance for a first prostate massage How to separate orgasm from ejaculation Prostate pleasure, multi-orgasmic potential, and internal energy flow Trauma-informed approaches to working with stored tension or emotion What to expect physically and emotionally after a session (integration) How partners can hold safe, loving space for each other We also talk about their new online course, The Prostate Portal, designed for prostate owners and their partners to explore this work privately, safely, and at their own pace. At its heart, this conversation isn’t just about the prostate. It’s about reclaiming parts of the body that culture has taught us to fear or ignore — and discovering how much life force, sensitivity, and healing live there. Learn more: theprostaticportal.com More resources: rahichun.com

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Consent, Race & Sacred Sexuality | Amina Peterson

What makes a sexuality space truly safe? Explore consent, race, and embodied sexuality: https://rahichun.com/podcast/consent-race-sacred-sexuality Not just “clothing optional.” Not just “tantric.” Not just “trauma-informed.” But actually safe — in the nervous system. In this deeply honest and necessary conversation, I’m joined by Amina Peterson, somatic healer, sexologist, founder of the Atlanta Institute of Tantra, and a powerful voice for Black women’s pleasure, embodiment, and liberation. Together, we explore a question that many sacred sexuality communities avoid: How can we talk about consent and healing if we don’t acknowledge race, culture, and lived experience in the body? Because safety isn’t theoretical. Safety is embodied. And if someone’s history includes racialized trauma, exclusion, or sexualization of their body, that reality directly impacts their ability to relax, open, feel pleasure, and give authentic consent. This conversation bridges somatics, tantra, trauma healing, and cultural awareness in a way that feels both grounded and revolutionary. In this episode, we explore: What “somatic consent” really means (beyond yes/no) Learning to listen to the body before intimacy Reggie Ray’s somatic descent practice and embodied presence Why many tantra and sacred sexuality spaces don’t feel safe for people of color The nervous system impact of belonging vs. hypervigilance Microaggressions and unseen barriers in healing spaces Why representation matters in erotic and therapeutic work Creating containers that center Black women’s pleasure The need for more trained Black male surrogates and practitioners Slowing down as a radical act of healing How true pleasure only emerges when the body feels safe Amina shares how her own journey — from massage therapy and sexual surrogacy to founding a nationally recognized tantra institute — grew from one simple truth: If the body doesn’t feel safe, it cannot open. And if it cannot open, pleasure is limited. This episode is an invitation to look deeper — at our bodies, our spaces, and the unconscious systems we carry into intimacy. Because sacred sexuality without safety isn’t sacred. More about Amina Peterson & Atlanta Institute of Tantra: atl tantra.com Learn the somatic practices for Reclaiming Pleasure - rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure

Pleasure Beyond Chronic Pain | Emily Royce

What if pleasure was still available to you… even in a body experiencing pain? Explore sexuality, chronic pain, and embodied healing: https://rahichun.com/podcast/pleasure-beyond-pain-chronic-pain-sexuality In this deeply compassionate conversation, I’m joined by Emily Royce — certified somatic sex educator, sexological bodyworker, chronic pain specialist, and former president of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers — to explore sexuality, intimacy, and embodiment for people living with chronic pain, disability, illness, and differently abled bodies. Because so many of us have been taught: “I’m broken.” “My body doesn’t work.” “Sex isn’t for me anymore.” And yet… The body still longs to feel. Still longs to connect. Still remembers pleasure. Emily shares her personal journey growing up with chronic pain and an MS diagnosis — and how grief, dance, meditation, and somatic practice unexpectedly opened the door to greater joy, erotic aliveness, and nervous system healing. Together, we explore how pleasure doesn’t have to look like what movies or magazines tell us. Sometimes pleasure begins with something far simpler: A neutral breath. A soft touch. An elbow. A knee. A moment of safety. Because when the nervous system feels safe, new neural pathways open — and the body discovers new ways to feel good. In this episode, we explore: Sexuality and intimacy with chronic pain or disability How medicalization disconnects us from body wisdom Why “neutral” can be the gateway to pleasure Somatic tools for rebuilding trust with your body Client-led, body-led consent practices Slowing down as a radical healing practice How pleasure supports neuroplasticity and pain relief Expanding beyond genital-focused sexuality Unexpected pleasure pathways (yes… even elbows and knees) Working with grief, trauma, and stored emotion through movement Why every body deserves access to pleasure Emily reminds us: Pleasure isn’t performance. Pleasure is resource. Pleasure is regulation. Pleasure is healing. This episode is an invitation to soften the cultural myths about what sex “should” look like — and instead listen deeply to what your body actually wants. Because every body is a pleasure body. More about Emily Royce: healwithpleasure.com Learn to Touch and Be Touched → rahichun.com/turnedonbytouch

Menopause, Andropause & Libido | Dr. Guy Citrin

What if the shifts in libido, mood, and energy you experience… aren’t problems—but transitions your body is guiding you through? Explore hormones, menopause, and sexual vitality: https://rahichun.com/podcast/menopause-andropause-libido-hormones Every human body goes through puberty. And every human body will also move through menopause or andropause. Yet somehow… we’re taught almost nothing about what happens next. Brain fog. Low libido. Poor sleep. Weight gain. Vaginal dryness. Erectile changes. Mood shifts. Most people assume: “This is just aging.” But what if it’s simply hormones out of balance — and completely treatable? In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Guy Riekeman, naturopathic physician and specialist in hormonal health, gut health, and regenerative medicine, to break down what’s actually happening inside the body during perimenopause, menopause, and andropause — and how to restore energy, vitality, and sexual aliveness naturally. This conversation is both science-based and empowering. Because suffering through hormonal shifts isn’t inevitable. And you don’t have to “just live with it.” In this episode, we explore: What perimenopause and menopause actually are (and why symptoms happen) The truth about progesterone, estrogen, and mood regulation Why PMS, heavy cycles, and painful periods are not “normal” Vaginal dryness, libido loss, and sexual pain — and what to do about it Andropause explained: low testosterone in men (even in their 20s and 30s) Signs of low testosterone: brain fog, low energy, weak erections, low drive Why many doctors miss hormonal imbalances Natural approaches vs. bioidentical hormone replacement Herbs and lifestyle tools for hormone support The risks of jumping straight to testosterone injections Gut health + hormones as the foundation of feeling good Simple anti-aging practices for lifelong vitality Dr. Guy shares something I deeply believe: You don’t have to feel old just because you’re aging. Your body can feel vibrant, sexual, and alive for decades longer than we’ve been taught. Hormones aren’t just about reproduction. They shape: your mood your metabolism your sleep your desire your sense of being at home in your body When they’re balanced, life feels radically different. Guest: Dr. Guy Citrin. citrinwellness.com Naturopathic Doctor | Hormone & Gut Health Specialist More resources about Somatic Sexual Wholeness→ rahichun.com If this conversation supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or review helps this work reach more people navigating these changes.