We Ain't Dead Yet

Widow's Fire

Today we meet with Diane Heiler, author of "A Widow's Fire," discussing her experiences with grief, remarriage, and the phenomenon of "widow's fire" - the intense physical and emotional craving for intimacy and touch after losing a spouse. Diane shares how her husband Al's dying words about her needing to find another man proved prophetic as she experienced strong desires for physical touch and connection after his death at age 80. She describes her new relationship with Bob, who accepted her continued love for Al, and discussed how she handled judgment from others about moving on too quickly. The conversation takes an unexpected emotional turn when Diane reveals she experienced three visits from what she believes were Al's deceased wife's spirit and his own spirit, which moved one of us to tears (I bet you can't guess which one). And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners. SHOW NOTES A Widow's Fire: An Intimate Memoir of Heartbreak, Survival and Moving On Diane's FaceBook Page Diane's Website When My Husband Of 25 Years Died, I Thought My Life Was Winding Down. I Couldn't Have Been More Wrong (Huffington Post, July 6, 2026) Once a Divorcee, Once a Widow - Now a Partner Re-Engaged in Life (Women Over 70 podcast) We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "Subscribe" or "Follow" in whichever app you use to listen. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

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Looking Back, Moving Forward: Celebrating WADY's First Year

Join us in celebrating our podcast's one-year anniversary, as we reflect on our personal and professional growth. We highlight the many challenges we’ve faced, from learning new technology to navigating our collaborative dynamics. We examine how the creative process has broadened our perspectives and connections. We share our favorite episodes, some funny moments, and our most cherished memories. And, best of all, you’ll get to hear Lori sing, again :) We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "Subscribe" or "Follow" in whichever app you use to listen. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

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You Can't Be What You Don't See!

Today, we talk about a superpower that society often tries to strip away from those of us in our 60s and beyond – the power of being seen. Our guest, Stephanie O'Dell spent years styling over 6,000 women for brands like Athleta. In her 50s, she decided to completely reinvent her career and herself. With no prior experience running a talent agency, she launched Celebrate The Gray—a modeling and consulting agency that now represents over 400 silver-haired women who are redefining beauty. Join us for real talk about trying new and hard things in your older years, anti-ageism, how to make yourself visible again, how AI is impacting the movement to age naturally, and real ways that you and I can play an important part in the campaign for ads depicting real, aging women. We end with a fun rapid-fire round of questions about Stephanie's favorite silver celebrities, best color for women over 60, and more. SHOW NOTES Celebrate the Gray Instagram Upcoming: Stephanie will be an Expert Panelist for a Sacntuary-Sponsored Screening of "Your Roots Are Showing" (This amazing documentary was produced by Ilise Harris, who will be a guest on our podcast in a few weeks, and the panelists include a former guest of ours, the inimitable Jacqui Getz). We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "Subscribe" or "Follow" in whichever app you use to listen. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

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We May Be Retired, But Our Genitals Are Not

Today we venture back into the bedroom. Society loves to tell us that once we hit a certain age, our desires are supposed to just fade into the background. Well, today's guest says hell no to that! Dubbed the 'wrinkly sex kitten' by the media, Joan Price is a powerful advocate for ageless sexuality. Join us in this unfiltered conversation about finding your own “inner sex kitten,” confronting the “ick factor” of seeing older adults as sexual beings, learning to love our naked bodies at any age, redefining what “good sex” looks like, and understanding the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. We’ll also get the inside scoop on Joan’s famous “Cow Bell” erotic ritual and her "sex baskets." Finally, you’ll learn practical tips for solo and self-pleasure, the best lubes and sex toys for our age group, and juicy recommendations for connecting with your own sensuality. Meow! And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners. SHOW NOTES Joan's Website. You can buy autographed copies of all of Joan's books here, including the 15th Anniversary Edition of Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex All of Joan's Books Joan's Senior Sex Blog Wicked Sensual Care Simply Timeless Lube We-Vibe Melt 2 (Best Senior Vibrator) Joan's Upcoming Documentary or https://joanprice.com/films/ask-joan Joan's Sex Toys Reviews (keep scrolling - there are many of them!) Joan's Free Newsletter For senior sex news and views, subscribe to Joan’s newsletter. Pleasurewave Arousal Lotion (reviewed and recommended by Constance, not Joan or Lori) We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "Subscribe" or "Follow" in whichever app you use to listen. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

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The Blessings and Bullshit of Getting Old

Do you want to live life more boldly? Tune in as we get real with the "Queen of Elderstack," the powerhouse journalist, creator of the acclaimed [B]OLD AGE Substack -- Debbie Weil. Debbie has been leading discussions about Aging and Reinvention for years. In this rambling and REAL conversation about the ups, downs and uncertainties that define getting older, Weil sheds light on the problem with toxic positivity when it comes to talking about aging, moving from "doing" to "being," and her desire to continue to live boldly into her 90s. We delve into the complexities of the mother-daughter relationship, ones that still reverberate for Weil even after losing her mother a few years ago, and the challenges of acceptance and slowing down in the decades ahead. SHOW NOTES Debbie's Website [B}OLD AGE Substack (Former) [B]old Age Podcast Debbie's Husband Sam Harrington's Book: At Peace: Choosing a Good Death After a Long Life Substack Post about Debbie's Mother We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "Subscribe" or "Follow" in whichever app you use to listen. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

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Getting Underneath the Clothes We Wear

Ladies let's open our closets! In this fun and funny episode we talk with Jacqui Getz, a New York based stylist who helps women in midlife translate who they are becoming into what they wear. Who do we get dressed for in the morning? Why do we buy the clothes we buy? And how can we add creativity and zing to our lives just by getting more intentional about what we choose to wear? We get into it all, and we go deep as Jacqui shares her personal journey of grieving the loss of her husband just weeks ago, and how she is finding strength in getting dressed, and defining who she wants to be in this new chapter of her life. Join us for an oh-so-relatable conversation about what we wear and what it says about how we feel about ourselves, who we are, and who we might want to become at this time in life. SHOW NOTES Substack- https://substack.com/@jacquigetz Instagram: instagram.com/@thedetailsofstyle.com Website- detailsofstyle.com https://www.ageist.com/profile/jacqui-getz-64-pro-age-style/ We also do a quick check-in with Suzanne Newman, Image Consultant, Chicago. Suzanne shares a few quick tips for reinventing your wardrobe and updating your look. https://findfashionhappiness.com/about-suzanne-newman-image-consultant/ Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

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The Silver Bullet for Your Health: The Science of Friendship

Join us as we chat with Jaimie Krem, friendship scientist and founding director of the UCLA Center for Friendship Research. We discuss how friendship is a “silver bullet” in terms of the many health benefits it brings, including improvements in cardiovascular health, sleep, immune function, and reduced risk of mental illness and dementia. Jaimie describes how venting to your friends can be a manipulative, but effective social strategy. We contemplate the differences between men’s and women’s friendships, ponder what to call the process of “friend flirting or dating,” and examine the importance of intergenerational friendships. Finally, for those more wonkily inclined, Jaimie discusses her fascinating research on the neuroscience of friendship. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard. SHOW NOTES Jaimie's TedX Talk on Friendship UCLA Social Minds Lab UCLA Center for Friendship Research NYT Article About The Benefits of Age-Gap Friendships The Friendship Advice Experts Swear By, NYT Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Navigating the Hard Stuff Together

Join Constance and Lori for a personal catch-up episode, after a short podcasting break. They discuss recent health challenges, grandchildren, and grief. As always, expect some laughter and some tears as they explore themes of aging, the complex nature of caregiving, and maintaining connections with deceased loved ones. Please join us for this intimate discussion. And, please reach out to us with your own stories about these topics. We'd love to hear the good, the bad and they ugly. Let us know if you'd like us to shout out your story during the next episode. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Friendship Isn't Optional, It's Essential

Tips for making new friends aren't just for kids! In this fun and friendly episode, Constance and Lori explore the topic of friendship with expert Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore. We talk about the importance of friendship, and the value of developing new friendships as we age. We explore the reasons that it might be easier for us as 60-somethings to make friends, than it was when we were younger. Eileen gives concrete tips for how and where to make friends at this stage in life, and explains the role that caretaking and conflict play in establishing and maintaining long-term connections. We delve into that age-old question: are old friends better than new friends? Bonus: 4 of Constance's college friends make cameo appearances to weigh in on this question. Trigger Warning: Get your earplugs out, as Constance and Lori can't resist breaking into friendship-related songs 🤣 And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard. SHOW NOTES: The Friendship Advice Experts Swear By, NYT Eileen Kennedy Moore's Website Eileen's Friendship Podcast Eileen's TedX Talk: Is it Bullying or Ordinary Meanness? (has over 1M views!) Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

All the Single Ladies: Hacks for Dating After 60

All the Single Ladies! All the Single Ladies! If you ever thought it was too late to jump back into the dating pool, or that there are no good prospects still swimming out there, this episode is for you! Join our conversation with Dating Coach Laurie Gerber who has more than 20 years of experience helping single men and women over 50 date with intention and find what they seek. Laurie unpacks her secret strategies for smart and successful dating, including knowing when and how to put your self out there, and her 3H Method for deciding if you've found the one! We talk on-line dating dos and don'ts and letting go of our old dating stories that keep us stuck. Laurie is full of tips and advice, so grab a pen and get ready to take some love notes! And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard. Show Notes: More information about Laurie and to contact her directly Are you ready to date? Quiz The 3H Method Laurie's podcast Love at Any Age Body image and dating Links for Laurie "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments" Free webinar Facebook Insta LinkedIn We are tossing out a WADY Challenge after this thought-provoking episode. Come up with your own "3H" chart for yourself, or you and your partner. Hope that opens the door to some new possibilities for you. Please share anything about your challenge experience with us on the Fan Mail Link below, and let us know if we can shout out you and your comments on an upcoming episode. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard. We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Send us Fan Mail Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen and Subscribe Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Sleep Divorce? Rethinking the Shame of Sleeping Separately

More couples later in life are sleeping in separate rooms and in some cases separate homes. Called "Sleep Divorce" by the media, what does this trend say about evolving ways we are thinking about sleep, intimacy, self-empowerment and the judgment of others as we age? For many women over 60, sleep can feel precious and precarious. Figuring out just the right pre-requisites for a good night's sleep is becoming more of a priority. What meaning do partners, and peers make of the desire some women feel to sleep apart, and how are women navigating the challenges and shame that may arise as a result? Join Constance and Lori for this episode when they unpack the choice couples are making to sleeps separately. And -- a new feature -- we take a call from a WADY listener about her Sleep Divorce. Show Notes: What is a Sleep Divorce? How To Get a Sleep Divorce and Stay Happily Married Can a Sleep Divorce Save Your Relationship? We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Send us Fan Mail Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen and Subscribe Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

The Original Oldster: A Conversation with Sari Botton

Please join us for a lively chat with Sari Botton, founder of Oldster Magazine, about her recent rise to fame and her lifelong obsession with aging. After being rejected by endless employers in her 50s, and then working her butt off, she has finally earned a much-deserved seat at the publishing table, and her star continues to rise. We cover topics ranging from turning 60, becoming our more authentic selves, Sari’s dream that became the catalyst for Oldster, the fascinating phenomenon of subjective age, some of Sari’s favorite interviews and essays from Oldster, to a refreshing counter-narrative to assumptions about attractiveness in middle age. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard. SHOW NOTES Sari Botton's memoir in essays, And You May Find Yourself...Confessions of a Late-Blooming Gen-X Weirdo, was chosen by Poets & Writers magazine for the 2022 edition of its annual "5 Over 50" feature. She edited the bestselling anthologies Goodbye to All That: Writers on Loving and Leaving NewYork and Never Can Say Goodbye: Writers on Their Unshakable Love for New York. She publishes Oldster Magazine, Memoir Land, and Adventures in Journalism. The Puzzling Gap Between How Old You Are and How Old You Think You Are We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "Subscribe" or " Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Anti-Aging is Anti-Living: Flourish Instead

In this episode, Constance goes into full on fan-girl mode with our guest Barbara Waxman, a gerontologist and coach who helps people lead an undiminished life as they age. We talk about flourishing and recognizing the importance of not just our life span and health span, but something Barbara calls the Third span, comprised of our mindset, relationships and purpose at this stage of life. We unpack the growing issue of well-being burnout, and Barbara offers lots of research findings and tips for aging well into our what she calls our Trophy years. SHOW NOTES Barbara's Website Barbara's Podcast on Flourishing and Finding Purpose in Midlife The Middlescence Manifesto: Igniting the Passion of Midlife, Barbara Waxman The role of mindset, purpose and relationships in longevity, TEDx Boston (After listening, try Barbara's 30-Day Flourish Challenge!) The Seven Lifestyle Levers Assessment (Free) How Older Adults Are Improving Their "Sex Span" Welcome to Holland Story We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to: Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website Listen and Subscribe Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Hair We Are: I'd Rather Dye Than Go Grey

One thing that doesn't change as we age, is our obsession with our hair. For women over 60, many conversations often get around to asking one burning question..."Should I let my hair go grey?" In this episode, we will go there with our guest Ellen Taxman, a woman who prides herself in being "low fuss" in her appearance, and who even works in the field of aging. We hear from Ellen about her surprise that the Dye-Grey dilemma is causing so much confusion. So dive into our cheerfully rambling conversation about how our mothers' decisions about hair dyeing influenced us, dealing with others' opinions and how they view us and our evolving hair color, and the messages society is giving to women about aging. Join us for this episode, regardless of whether you have, or haven't, or are thinking you will or won't ever go grey. We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to: Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053 Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send a text Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Get Ready For Retirement and Life After

In this episode we dive into the myths, barriers and boundary issues that get in the way of moving into, and fully enjoying retirement. For many working women, their careers are a source of pride and self-definition. Take a listen to this episode with Retirement Coach Elaine Belansky as we explore the question of "Who Am I?" once your career is in the rear view mirror, and Elaine provides tips and some free tools for making room for your next chapter to begin. SHOW NOTES: Elaine’s Website: https://elainebelansky.com Blog: https://elainebelansky.com/blog Retirement Vision Starter Kit: https://elainebelansky.com/free-retirement-starter-kit Who Am I Now? Guide: https://elainebelansky.com/who-am-i-now Boundary Builder: https://elainebelansky.com/boundary-builder Ikigai: I describe this in one of my blog posts: https://elainebelansky.com/blog/retirement-clarity Newsletter: https://elainebelansky.com/newsletter https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/53913/33-activities-you-should-try-in-your-first-year-of-retirement-to-discover-what-truly-fulfills-you/ We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to: Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053 Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Rightsizing Your Fear of Death

In our conversation with Amy Schiller, a social worker and professor who specializes in the field of death and dying, we start to unpack the myth of the “Good Death.” Amy talks about letting go of control in the dying process, and how becoming aware of our fears and beliefs about dying can impact our lives, and allow us to live more fully. Amy offers her students the opportunity to write Legacy Letters, and suggests everyone consider their own Advance Directives for when the end of life comes. Constance shares the many ways she is trying to practice and “rightsize” her own deep fears about death and dying, and Lori opens up to the possibility of an Afterlife. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners. SHOW NOTES: The CHALLENGE for this episode is to complete one of the exercises discussed - a Legacy Letter, some Death Cleaning, a Death Meditation and let us know how it went :) Find out more about Amy Schiller Amy's Blog Dying Well by Ira Byock Rightsize your Fears by Mark Nepo The Fifth Season, Mark Nepo Death Meditation with Ajahn Nisabho Going with Grace, Alua Arthur Legacy Letter Advice for Future Corpses Sallie Tisdale Death Cleaning The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family From a Lifetime of Clutter Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Valentine’s Day, Rewritten: Pleasure, Passion & Play After 60

Just in time for VALENTINE'S DAY, Constance and Lori speak to Kandee Love, a licensed therapist specializing in couple’s and sex therapy. We explore topics ranging from sexual expression across the life stages to sex toys and tips for older adults. Kandee emphasizes the importance of prioritizing pleasure, passion, and play in a world filled with stress. Kandee has labeled February as “Spunky Old Broads Month,” and encourages women to re-write their old narratives and embrace boldness in the bed room. We discuss the idea of redefining sexuality beyond traditional penetrative sex, and the great importance of communication in a relationship, and we end with Kandee providing tips for enhancing sexual expression and intimacy in long-term relationships. This is an episode you don’t want to miss! And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where we unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners. SHOW NOTES If you are interested in learning more about Kandee’s work, check out her website: https://www.kiscounseling.net. Kandee’s Yes, No, Maybe List to try 😊 (WADY CHALLENGE – try using this and let us know!) Spunky, Old Broad Month LUBES TO LOVE: Water-based products (safe with all toys and condoms): Good Clean Love Almost Naked, Sliquid, Aloe Cadabra, Astroglide, Uberlube SILICON BASED (don’t use with silicone toys): Astroglide X, Wet Platinum, 10 Millennium, Uberlube NATURAL (not condom safe): Organic coconut oil TOYS TO TRY: EASY TO GRIP: Palm power, Iroha Series (Yuki, Koharu), VM Wand vibrator CLITORAL STIMULATORS: SILA Cruise, SONA Cruise, Namii Clitoral Suction Stimulator, Wominizer Premium Duo, Evii External Vibrator with Dual Motors Pulse Wand G SPOT VIBRATORS: Kurve, GII G spot Vibrator, Je Joye Juno Flex DATING WEBSITES FOR SENIORS: Seniorsizzle.com, DateMyAge, BeNaughty, OurTime, Tinder for seniors, Seniormatch, Kinky-seniors.com, Seniorfuckbuddies We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to: Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053 Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Don't Burn Your Journals Yet: Finding Yourself on the Written Page

Constance and Lori speak to Ellen Blum Barish, a writing coach and memoir author. Even if writing is not your thing, listen in to our lively conversation about leaning in to this form of creativity as a tool for growth and reflection as we age. For starters, we discuss the hidden value of writing for people who don’t like to write. Ellen suggests looking through the old stuff we tuck in drawers and stash away in closets and think about the stories they have to tell. Also, think about using photos we have stored in our phones as prompts for our writing We jump back to our adolescence when many of us poured ourselves into our diaries and journals, and used writing as an early form of self expression. And at this time of life, we explored the possibility of using writing as part of a Life Review. This can be an important process that makes connections over the course of our life to look at and rewrite the narratives of our lives. Finally, we offer a fun little writing challenge to our listeners that may land you on the WADY website. So listen in and get your creative juices flowing. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard. SHOW NOTES If you are interested in learning more about Ellen's work, check out her website: https://www.ellenblumbarish.com/ If you are interested in learning more about Ellen's memoir "Seven Springs" check out this link: https://www.ellenblumbarish.com/my-work If you are interested in learning more about the book that Constance mentioned in the podcast that offers writing prompts, check out this link: https://www.suleikajaouad.com/the-book-of-alchemy We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to: Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053 Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

When Roles Reverse: Caring for Parents in Our 60s

Constance and Lori speak to Ramsay Ringo, a career coach and expert on caring for elderly parents. We discuss the unique challenges of supporting aging parents when you are in your 60s yourself. Ramsay emphasizes the importance of a simplified approach to avoid overwhelming caregivers, and provides many practical tips. We explore the tension between ensuring the safety of elderly parents and respecting their desire for independence and autonomy. We also cover the complexities of coordinating care across different family members and locations, and ways to talk to our adult children about caring for elderly parents. Finally, Ramsay coaches us on practical ways to prepare for our own aging. Please join us for this very constructive discussion. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard. SHOW NOTES If you are interested in learning more about Ramsay’s work, check out her website: https://www.ramsayringo.com/ Ramsay collaborates with clients who are looking to make an impact and: o Take meaningful steps toward a new or first job o Change their professional focus or industry o Pursue a professional position after time focusing on family o Tackle a big mid-life shift using decades of experience to do something with extra meaning o Or to pursue the ultimate career shift, retirement and living into the third and fourth quarters of a values driven life. We were also lucky enough to persuade Ramsay to share one of her original poems with us: Scared Scared, Sad, Impatient Scared, Mad, A Patient Scared, Bad, and Chasing The Whole, Kind Mom Now a Hole, Kind Child Taught us how to Parent Now we aught to Parent Scared, Sad Scared We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to: Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053 Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Post-Pie Reflections on Aging Out of Fucks

Constance and Lori catch up after the Thanksgiving holiday break. We cover everything from no longer giving a fuck, to spiritual connections with our deceased parents, to Mel Robbins’ "Let Them" Theory, to aging pubic hair 🤣 And we preview a few of our upcoming shows. Please join us for this quick, warm check-in. SHOW NOTES Aging Out of Fucks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend Anymore, Ellen Scherr What We Gain When We Stop Caring, Anna Holmes Melani Sanders’s “We Do Not Care” Club (Instagram and Facebook) We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to: Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053 Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) We would love to hear from you! Please text us your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement below :) Heads-up: we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt