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Walk With Me

Giovanni Dejesus

Walk With Me is a podcast for people who feel stuck, misaligned, or disconnected from their lives despite doing the “work.” It helps them understand the internal pillars, patterns, and beliefs shaping their reality so they can create real, lasting change. Unlike traditional self-improvement or manifestation content, Dr. Giovanni DeJesus DC, MSPP, focuses on systems over quick fixes, blending logical breakdowns with honest conversation to help people stop performing growth and start understanding the version of themselves creating their life.

Walk With Me — because you can’t change your life until you understand the version of you creating it.

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  • S2 · E12
    Monday · 21 min

    Busy, But Not Starting

    Send us Fan Mail How can you stay busy all day and still put off the thing that matters most? Sometimes procrastination doesn't look like doing nothing. It looks like answering emails, researching, organizing, planning, cleaning, helping everybody else, and somehow never beginning the task you originally sat down to do. In this episode of Walk With Me, Dr. Gio explores the gap between intention and action. Instead of assuming procrastination is always laziness, fear, poor discipline, emotional avoidance, or a nervous-system response, we ask a more useful question: Why was everything else easier to start than this? Because the same delay can happen for very different reasons. The task may feel unpleasant. The next action may be unclear. Your attention may have moved somewhere easier. You may genuinely be depleted. Starting may be harder for you than staying with something once you're engaged. Or the task may have become about much more than the task itself. The application becomes the possibility of rejection. The first video becomes proof of whether you're really a creator. The proposal becomes a test of whether you're competent. And as Gio puts it in the episode: Potential is undefeated. As long as the work stays in your head, reality hasn't had a chance to respond. This walk explores procrastination without pretending there is one explanation that applies to everyone. We look at the task itself, the moment you're trying to begin, and the meaning you've attached to the work. Then we bring in the Walk With Me Internal Architecture: Awareness: What actually happened? Mind: What was I telling myself? Capacity: Do I reasonably have room for this right now? Identity: What have I made this task mean about me? Behavior: What did I actually do? Eventually, understanding has to meet behavior. So rather than demanding that you finish the whole project, this episode leaves you with a smaller question: What action would actually connect you with the thing? Open the document. Write the sentence. Send the email. Make the call. The first move doesn't need to solve everything. Its job is to cross the line into action. Research Behind the Walk Research informing this episode includes: Piers Steel (2007), The Nature of Procrastination, a foundational meta-analysis examining predictors including task aversiveness, self-efficacy, impulsivity, distractibility, and self-regulation. DOI: 10.1037/0033-2909.133.1.65 A 2025 systematic review and meta-analysis of 88 studies and more than 63,000 participants examining the association between procrastination and depression, anxiety, and stress. DOI: 10.3389/fpsyt.2025.1624094 Sæle et al. (2026), examining procrastination and self-reported difficulties with task initiation and other metacognitive abilities in a healthy adult sample. DOI: 10.1186/s40359-026-04221-1 Garg, Shelat & Schooler (2025), testing a brief intervention involving task appraisal, subtask generation, and reward selection. DOI: 10.1186/s40359-025-03388-3 Garg & Schooler (2026), examining task structuring, immediate engagement, reinforcement, and persistence during work on real procrastinated tasks. DOI: 10.3390/bs16101832 Sheeran, Listrom & Gollwitzer (2025), a meta-analysis of 642 tests of implementation intentions and if-then planning. DOI: 10.1080/10463283.2024.2334563 The research points toward multiple influences rather than one universal explanation for procrastination, which is why this walk focuses on understanding the particular obstacle before deciding what response fits. So here's the question to walk with: What is making this particular thing harder to begin than everything you're doing instead, and what action would mean you've actually started? Follow the show so we can keep walking together. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E11
    October 26 · 32 min

    When Awareness Isn't Enough | Emotional Triggers, Reactions, and Repair

    Send us Fan Mail Why do you still react when you already know your emotional triggers? Recognizing what's happening is awareness. Being able to influence what happens next is part of emotion regulation. And what you actually say or do is behavior. Those things are connected but they aren't identical. In this episode of Walk With Me, Dr. Gio explores the space between knowing your patterns and actually responding differently when a conversation becomes emotionally charged. We follow one argument before, during, and after the reaction. You know you're becoming defensive. You can hear your voice changing. Part of you recognizes exactly where the conversation is going. Somehow, you still say the thing. So what happened between knowing and doing? We explore why stress can make some forms of flexible thinking harder without pretending that emotion makes us helpless, how our interpretation of someone else's words can become the conversation we're actually responding to, and why your first warning sign may not be anger at all. Sometimes the signal is simpler: Curiosity disappeared. You stopped listening. You started preparing your defense. That may be an earlier place where something different becomes possible. This walk doesn't stop at emotional regulation. Because sometimes we don't catch the reaction. Sometimes somebody gets hurt. That's where we explore repair, accountability, apology, and one of the central ideas of this episode: You can be right about what hurt you and still be responsible for how you responded. Understanding why you reacted matters. It just doesn't automatically erase the impact. In this walk You'll explore the difference between emotional awareness, emotion regulation, and behavior; how stress and context can affect the responses available to us; the role of Awareness, the Nervous System—the “Hallway Monitor”—Capacity, and Behavior within the Walk With Me Internal Architecture; recognizing earlier warning signs; using simple pre-planned responses when appropriate; and what meaningful repair can require after conflict. This episode does not assume every situation is the same. Ordinary relationship conflict, mental health challenges, coercion, intimidation, and abuse require very different considerations. Safety comes before preserving a relationship or producing the “perfect” emotionally regulated response. Research behind the walk This episode draws on research including: Scheffel & Gärtner (2025), The Role of Cognitive Effort in Emotion Regulation, which reviews identification, selection, implementation, and monitoring across the emotion-regulation process. DOI: 10.1007/s42761-025-00324-x Shields, Sazma & Yonelinas (2016), The Effects of Acute Stress on Core Executive Functions: A Meta-Analysis and Comparison with Cortisol, examining how acute stress affects working memory, cognitive flexibility, and different forms of inhibition. PMID: 27371161 Sheeran, Listrom & Gollwitzer (2025), The When and How of Planning, a meta-analysis of 642 tests of implementation intentions—or “if-then” planning—across cognitive, emotional, and behavioral outcomes. DOI: 10.1080/10463283.2024.2334563 Lewicki, Polin & Lount (2016), An Exploration of the Structure of Effective Apologies, examining components of apologies including acknowledgment of responsibility and offers of repair. DOI: 10.1111/ncmr.12073 Research provides useful models and evidence, but no single study can explain every person's reaction, relationship, or path to repair. So here's the question to walk with: Now that I recognize my pattern, what am I willing to do differently, and what responsibility remains when I don't? Subscribe and follow wherever you listen so we can keep walking together. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E10
    October 19 · 10 min

    BONUS: Understanding the Manosphere | Why So Many Men Feel Invisible

    Send us Fan Mail Why has the manosphere become so influential with men searching for masculinity, confidence, purpose, and self-worth? This week has been quite busy with a lot of travel, catching up on housework, and an exciting possibility. I hope you enjoy this bonus episode while I prep for next week's episode. It is from a previous Walk and it shows what happens when Identity becomes dependent on external evidence. In this bonus episode of Walk With Me, we revisit an earlier conversation about the manosphere, not to condemn the men drawn toward it or blindly defend the culture surrounding it, but to understand the need underneath its rise. Because before we debate masculinity, dominance, status, or dating, there is a more fundamental question: What is a man searching for when he no longer feels seen, valued, or certain of his place in the world? A lot of men feel invisible. And when someone finally says, “I see what you're going through. I understand why you're angry. I can show you how to become valuable,” that message can become extraordinarily powerful. The problem begins when self-improvement becomes ranking. When confidence depends on being above someone else. When money, women, appearance, status, achievement, or dominance become the evidence that you are finally enough. In this conversation, Dr. Giovanni DeJesus examines the difference between building yourself and constantly proving yourself, including his own experiences chasing status and external validation. Because external validation can work. For a moment. It can also become like drinking saltwater: the more you consume, the thirstier you become. This episode explores: Why the manosphere resonates with men who feel invisible or directionless The difference between self-improvement and ranking yourself against others How external validation can become tied to masculine identity Why achievement and status cannot permanently stabilize self-worth The difference between dominance and genuine strength How belonging, identity, and survival can shape the version of masculinity we perform What healthier masculinity can look like without rejecting ambition, confidence, or strength The destination isn't weakness. And it isn't dominance. Real strength is stability. The episode closes with the Sail & Anchor exercise, an opportunity to examine which parts of your identity help you move through the world—and which parts you have mistaken for the source of your worth. You can have success without becoming your success. You can pursue strength without needing someone beneath you to prove you're strong. And you can build a life without requiring the world to continuously remind you that you deserve to exist inside it. Walk With Me — because you can't change your life until you understand the version of you creating it. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E9
    October 12 · 18 min

    How Groups Change Who You Are | The Stress Test of Belonging (2/2)

    Send us Fan Mail Who are you becoming because of the people and groups you belong to? In this episode of Walk With Me: The Architectural Stress Test, Identity and Internal Architecture Coach Dr. Giovanni DeJesus takes belonging through the eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method to examine how community, conformity, acceptance, disagreement, social pressure, and group identity can shape who we become. This is the companion episode to Can You Belong Without Losing Yourself? That walk asked whether individuality and collective identity can coexist. This one asks something more personal: What does belonging ask of you? Think about your family. Your workplace. Your friendships. Your religious community. Your political affiliations. Your team. Your relationship. Your online communities. Any place where there is an “us.” Belonging can bring courage, responsibility, solidarity, discipline, meaning, and growth. It can also bring pressure. Silence. Fear of rejection. Conformity. Contempt toward outsiders. And the gradual erosion of values you once believed were non-negotiable. The question isn't simply whether the group is “good” or “bad.” The deeper question is: What happens to your internal architecture when you become part of the group? Through Awareness, Gio asks what changes in your thoughts, language, and behavior when you're around certain people. Through Identity, he asks whether you're contributing yourself to the group or replacing yourself with the version of you that's easiest for the group to accept. Through The Mind, he examines the stories groups create about who “we” are, who “they” are, who can be trusted, and who should be feared. Through The Nervous System, he explores what happens when acceptance feels safe and disagreement threatens belonging. Through Emotions, he looks at the power of pride, loyalty, love, solidarity, shame, fear, anger, and contempt to mobilize collective behavior. Through Capacity, he asks one of the episode's central questions: Can your belonging survive disagreement? Can you say: “I love you, and I don't agree with you.” “I belong here, and I think we're wrong.” And can you offer somebody else the same freedom to disagree with you? Through Behavior, the question becomes brutally simple: What does belonging actually cause you to do? Because Behavior is where philosophy cashes the check. And through Meaning, Gio explores what can happen when individual purpose connects with collective purpose without being consumed by it. Using the image of a starling murmuration as metaphor, the episode explores a possibility: Coordination does not require sameness. Individuals can remain distinct while participating in something none of them could create alone. The episode concludes with The Belonging Audit, six questions you can use with almost any group in your life: Does belonging make my conscience louder or quieter? Does this group need my contribution or my conformity? Can I disagree and still belong? Does dissent automatically become betrayal? Does belonging expand my humanity toward people outside the group—or shrink it? And finally: Who do I become when I'm around these people? Maybe healthy belonging doesn't ask: “How much of yourself are you willing to surrender to us?” Maybe it asks: “What can you bring that only you can bring?” Your experience. Your gifts. Your questions. Your courage. Your conscience. Even your disagreement. The power of “we” is not inherently moral. Its direction depends on what the “we” rewards, what it condemns, what it asks you to become, and whether the “I” is still allowed to have a conscience. Take a walk with me. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E8
    October 5 · 15 min

    Can You Belong Without Losing Yourself? | Identity, Conformity & Community (1/2)

    Send us Fan Mail Can you belong to something bigger than yourself without losing the individual identity, values, and conscience that made you who you are? In this episode of Walk With Me, Identity and Internal Architecture Coach Dr. Giovanni DeJesus revisits an idea from one of his earliest walks: the tension between individual identity and group belonging. Seven months earlier, standing outside in twelve-degree weather, Gio explored what can happen when people surrender their conscience to a collective when conformity, propaganda, obedience, and group identity begin replacing independent judgment. That danger is very real. But it was only one side of the story. Human beings have also used the power of “we” to rescue neighbors, solve impossible problems, preserve cultures, create communities, and accomplish things no individual could accomplish alone. So the question changes: Can you belong without disappearing? To explore it, Gio looks at three very different moments of collective action. During the Danish rescue of 1943, thousands of Jewish people escaped Nazi persecution because ordinary citizens and organized networks chose to protect their neighbors. During Apollo 13, engineers, flight controllers, astronauts, and specialists with radically different expertise had to coordinate around one shared purpose: bringing three people home alive. And during the Baltic Way of 1989, people across Estonia, Latvia, and Lithuania joined together in a massive peaceful demonstration defending cultural identity and self-determination. The lesson isn't that groups are inherently good. It isn't that groups are inherently dangerous. It's that collective power can move in radically different directions. A group can erase identity. And a group can protect it. Gio then brings the question closer to home through his experience in Chayon Ryu martial arts. The dojang had hierarchy. Discipline. Tradition. Shared values. But questioning an interpretation wasn't automatically treated as disrespect. People could study, challenge, disagree, and continue belonging. That experience raises an important distinction: Does the group need your contribution or your conformity? Healthy collective action doesn't necessarily require everybody to think the same. Sometimes it requires different people bringing different abilities, perspectives, questions, and experiences toward a shared purpose. Maybe belonging isn't supposed to make the individual disappear. Maybe healthy belonging gives individuality somewhere to contribute. But that answer creates a harder question. Because belonging changes us. Sometimes it makes us more courageous. More compassionate. More disciplined. More generous. Sometimes it makes us quieter. More afraid to question. More hostile toward outsiders. More willing to defend things we once would have challenged. So knowing that healthy belonging is possible isn't enough. We also have to ask: What is belonging actually doing to me? That question continues in the companion episode, The Stress Test of Belonging, where Gio runs belonging itself through the eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method. Take a walk with me. Because you can't change your life until you understand the version of you creating it. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E7
    September 28 · 11 min

    When Group Identity Replaces Your Conscience | The First Walk

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when belonging to a political, religious, ideological, or social group begins to replace your individual judgment, values, and sense of self? This is a special archival episode of Walk With Me: the first walk I intentionally wrote and recorded as the beginning of what would eventually become this podcast and the larger Internal Architecture framework. It was recorded seven months ago, outside in 12-degree weather with a real feel below zero. There was no polished production, no eight-pillar method yet, and no Season Two stress test. There was simply a question I couldn't stop thinking about: What happens when a person allows a system to define who they are? In this early walk, I explore identity, conformity, political and religious belonging, propaganda, obedience, individual conscience, and the psychological danger of reducing complex human beings to symbols of an opposing group. The journey moves through history and political philosophy, including the violent deaths of Johan and Cornelis de Witt during the Dutch Rampjaar of 1672, Baruch Spinoza's reaction to the killings, Hannah Arendt's controversial idea of the “banality of evil” after observing Adolf Eichmann's trial, Thomas Hobbes's Leviathan and its image of individual citizens forming the body of the sovereign, and Socrates's conflict with political authority and conscience. I also reflect on my own former experience working as a correctional officer and on contemporary events that originally pushed me into the cold to record this walk. This episode is not an argument that belonging to a group is inherently dangerous. Human beings build families, communities, teams, movements, institutions, religions, nations, and identities together. Group belonging can produce cooperation, courage, care, meaning, and extraordinary collective action. The question underneath this walk is more specific: What happens when belonging requires you to stop thinking for yourself? When disagreement becomes betrayal. When another person stops being a complex human being and becomes only “the enemy.” When loyalty to the group begins replacing individual conscience. And when your value comes entirely from your usefulness to something larger than yourself. Listening to this episode again seven months later, I can hear ideas that would eventually become central to Walk With Me: Identity as an internal blueprint. Awareness as the ability to observe the forces shaping you. Behavior as evidence of the system operating underneath you. Meaning as the question of what your life ultimately serves. And perhaps most importantly, the belief that understanding who you are matters because the alternative is allowing someone or something else to answer that question for you. This recording is being reposted in its original form. My language, research process, and framework have developed considerably since this first walk, and some legal and historical details available today require more nuance than I gave them in the original recording. I am leaving it intact because growth is easier to understand when we don't erase where we started. Seven months later, I'm still walking. The method is clearer. The research is stronger. The questions are harder. But underneath all of it remains the same idea: You cannot change your life until you understand the version of you creating it. Take a walk with me. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E6
    September 21 · 8 min

    BONUS: The Heart | Why Knowing What You Want Isn’t Enough

    Send us Fan Mail Why can you know exactly what you want, feel deeply called toward it, and still struggle to move in that direction? Sometimes the problem isn’t a lack of desire, clarity, or connection to what matters. The challenge is whether your internal system has the capacity to live what your heart already knows. This bonus episode of Walk With Me comes from an earlier conversation that became one of the foundational pieces of what would eventually develop into the Walk With Me Method. Before the eight pillars were fully organized into Awareness, Identity, Mind, Nervous System, Emotions, Capacity, Behavior, and Meaning, I was already wrestling with a central question: What happens when the deepest part of you wants one thing, but the systems built to protect you keep pulling you somewhere else? In this walk, I explore the heart not simply as emotion or romance, but as an orientation toward your deepest values, intentions, and sense of who you are beneath conditioning. We talk about why you can say: “I know what I want.” “My heart is telling me…” “I feel called toward this.” …and still find yourself frozen, delaying, rationalizing, or choosing safety instead. The heart may point toward a direction, but that direction still has to move through your identity, mind, body, nervous system, emotions, and capacity. When those systems interpret expression as dangerous, wanting something more intensely doesn’t automatically make movement easier. That distinction eventually became central to the Walk With Me Method: Awareness can reveal. The heart can orient. But your internal architecture helps determine what you can actually hold, express, and live. In this episode, we explore: In this episode, we explore: Why knowing what you want doesn’t always create action The difference between feeling called and having the capacity to respond How protection can override expression Why forcing positivity may not resolve internal resistance The relationship between the heart, nervous system, mind, and identity Why feeling stuck doesn’t necessarily mean you lack clarity How capacity creates room to live more consistently with what matters to you And I’ll leave you with the same question this early Walk With Me conversation was built around: What does your heart already know that your system is still afraid to live? Don’t rush to answer it. Just notice. Because awareness is the beginning of every shift. Walk With Me. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E5
    September 15 · 26 min

    The Certainty Trap | Why You Can't Stop Overthinking the Future

    Send us Fan Mail Why can't you stop overthinking the future even after you've researched the decision, asked people you trust, weighed the risks, and thought through every possible outcome? I am a day late but as I heard in one of my all time favorite quotes "The universe is always on time" In this episode of Walk With Me: The Architectural Stress Test, Dr. Giovanni Dejesus DC, MSPP explores The Certainty Trap: the point where responsible problem-solving can become certainty-seeking, and thinking stops producing useful information but continues because you still don't feel safe enough to move. Gio I am an Identity and Internal Architecture Coach, chiropractor, speaker, U.S. Marine Corps veteran, and creator of the Walk With Me Method, an eight-pillar framework for understanding the internal system shaping how we interpret and respond to life. You researched it. Replayed it. Made the list. Changed the list. Imagined what could go wrong. Imagined what could go right. Then imagined what could go wrong again. And somehow, you still don't feel ready. What if sometimes overthinking isn't simply an attempt to solve the problem? What if it's an attempt to eliminate uncertainty? Psychological research offers a useful concept for understanding part of this experience: intolerance of uncertainty. Research has found a strong relationship between difficulty tolerating uncertainty and worry, while also showing that people can respond to uncertainty in different ways, including repeatedly seeking predictability or becoming mentally and behaviorally stuck when certainty isn't available. But this isn't an episode about telling you to stop thinking. Planning is important. Due diligence takes effort. Some decisions genuinely require more information. The more useful question is: How do you know when thought is still serving the decision and when thought has become a strategy for avoiding the discomfort of making one? Through the eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method, Gio examines why uncertainty can become so difficult to hold. Awareness — The Observer Are you still discovering something new, or have you begun thinking in circles? There is a difference between “I need more information” and “I need the discomfort of not knowing to go away.” Identity — The Blueprint Sometimes the fear isn't only making the wrong decision. It's what being wrong might mean about you. If the relationship fails, can you still trust yourself? If the business doesn't work, were you foolish for trying? If you leave and regret it, does that make you irresponsible? When the outcome becomes evidence about your worth, intelligence, judgment, or identity, uncertainty becomes much harder to tolerate. The Mind — The Interpreter The Mind can generate Scenario A, Scenario B, Scenario C, and then ask what happens if B creates D. There will always be another variable available to think about because reality hasn't happened yet. Your Mind can simulate the future. It cannot certify it. The Nervous System — The Hallway Monitor Uncertainty is not universally experienced the same way. The unknown can feel threatening. It can also feel exciting. This episode explores how context, interpretation, previous experience, and physiological activation can influence what uncertainty comes to mean. Emotions — The Dashboard “I feel anxious” is not automatically the same statement as “this decision is wrong.” Fear, dread, anxiety, and excitement contain information. But information is not the same thing as a verdict. What are you making the feeling mean? Capacity — The Container The goal isn't to eliminate uncertainty. It's to increase your ability to remain responsible and present while some part of the outcome remains unknown. Can you hold an unanswered question without requiring yourself to resolve it tonight? Can you say: “I have enough information to move, and I still don't know exactly what happens next”? Behavior — The Evidence Certainty-seeking can look surprisingly productive: Another Google search. Another podcast. Another book. Another conversation. Another AI prompt. Another spreadsheet. Another pros-and-cons list. Another bank-account refresh. Another review of the text message. Another “What would you do?” The question isn't whether those behaviors are inherently bad. It's: What happens after the useful information runs out? Sometimes certainty-seeking can disguise itself as preparation. Meaning — The Compass The deeper cost isn't only worry. Sometimes it's a life placed on hold. I'll start when… I'll leave when… I'll apply when… I'll publish when… I'll commit when… I'll trust myself when… I know. Except some answers only arrive after you live the decision. Gio closes the episode with The Certainty Examination, a six-step process for one decision you've been circling: Separate what is known, knowable, and unknowable. Determine what additional information would actually change your decision. Set an information stop-rule. Identify what being wrong would mean about your identity. Read the emotional data without automatically treating discomfort as danger. Then choose the next responsible move rather than waiting for the perfect or guaranteed one. confidence is not about: “I know this will work.” I understand confidence as: “I don't know exactly what happens next, and I trust myself, my values, and my capacity to meet myself there.” The Certainty Trap isn't that you want answers. It's believing you need an answer life cannot give you before you give yourself permission to move. Take a walk with me. Follow Walk With Me for Season Two: The Architectural Stress Test, where Awareness, Identity, The Mind, The Nervous System, Emotions, Capacity, Behavior, and Meaning are tested against the real pressures of everyday life. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E4
    September 7 · 32 min

    The Connection Paradox: Why We Feel Lonely in a Hyperconnected World

    Send us Fan Mail Why do so many people feel lonely, unseen, or disconnected in a world where smartphones, social media, and AI have made us more reachable than ever? In this episode of Walk With Me: The Architectural Stress Test, Dr. Giovanni DeJesus explores The Connection Paradox: the difference between having access to another person and experiencing genuine human connection. Gio is an Identity and Internal Architecture Coach, chiropractor, speaker, U.S. Marine Corps veteran, and creator of the Walk With Me Method, an eight-pillar framework for understanding the internal system shaping how we experience and respond to life. We can reach almost anyone within seconds. Our friends are in our pockets. Families can remain connected across continents. Thousands of people can follow our lives. Online communities can provide belonging and support that may not exist locally. And artificial intelligence can increasingly provide conversation, reflection, emotional support, and companionship. Technology clearly connects us. So this isn't an argument that phones are bad, social media is destroying humanity, or AI will replace human relationships. The more interesting question is: Are we connected, or merely reachable? Current research on loneliness, smartphone use, social media, and AI raises increasingly important questions about how digital connection interacts with attention, identity, emotional regulation, belonging, and real-world relationships. Rather than reducing the issue to screen time, Gio runs modern connection through all eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method. Awareness — The Observer How often do you intentionally decide where your attention goes, and how often does a notification, message, video, email, or algorithm decide for you? Identity — The Blueprint What happens when belonging becomes measurable? Likes. Comments. Shares. Views. Followers. Gio shares his own experience entering social media and podcasting with what he believed was a strong sense of identity. Then analytics began rewarding different versions of him. Funny Gio. Serious Gio. Scientific Gio. Political Gio. Inspirational Gio. None of these identities were fake. They were all authentic parts of the same person. The problem began when those pieces were separated and presented individually to answer a different question: Which version of me performs best? The lesson was not to eliminate those different sides. It was integration. The most authentic version was not whichever fragment generated the most engagement. It was the version where all of Gio could show up in service of the message he actually wanted to deliver. That raises one of the central questions of the episode: What happens when belonging gets a scoreboard? The Mind — The Interpreter Social media gives us an endless stream of other people's accomplishments, relationships, vacations, careers, bodies, families, opinions, and successes. Meanwhile, you experience every ordinary, difficult, embarrassing, boring, and uncertain moment of your own life. The comparison is unequal. You are comparing your continuous internal experience with selected pieces of everyone else's external presentation. What story is your Mind constructing from what you repeatedly feed it? The Nervous System — The Hallway Monitor Waiting in line? Phone. Elevator? Phone. Bathroom? Phone. Commercial break? Phone. Walking from the car into a building? Phone. Technology has helped remove many of the tiny moments where nothing used to happen. But those empty spaces once contained boredom, observation, reflection, conversation, daydreaming, and sometimes uncomfortable emotions long enough for us to notice them. What happens when stimulation becomes so familiar that stillness begins feeling strange? Emotions — The Dashboard Scrolling is not automatically emotional avoidance. But sometimes the phone may be doing more than entertaining us. Lonely? Scroll. Anxious? Scroll. Rejected? Scroll. Angry? Post. Insecure? Check. Instead of simply asking how much screen time you have, this episode asks a different question: What emotion appears five seconds before you reach for your phone? Capacity — The Container Before breakfast, you may encounter friends, strangers, politics, war, tragedy, celebrity scandals, someone's wedding, someone's divorce, outrage, health advice, success stories, arguments, advertisements, and hundreds of opinions from people you will never meet. Technology gives us access to more human lives than we have direct relational responsibility for. So Gio poses a thought experiment: How many people's lives can you emotionally carry before connection turns into consumption? Behavior — The Evidence Forget your follower count for a moment. Who do you actually call? Who do you sit with? Who knows when you're struggling? Who do you listen to? Who makes space for you? When the person you love is sitting across from you, where is your phone? You can have thousands of followers, hundreds of unread messages, dozens of group chats, and still struggle to answer: Who would I call at 2:00 in the morning when everything falls apart? Meaning — The Compass Belonging is different from approval. Connection is different from audience. Being seen is different from being watched. Being known is different from being followed. And now artificial intelligence adds a new stress test. AI can listen without becoming tired of the story. It can respond quickly, remember context, help people process difficult thoughts, and sometimes provide a bridge toward deeper understanding. But it also raises an unresolved question: If something can make you feel understood without requiring the vulnerability, frustration, compromise, rejection, repair, and reciprocity of another human relationship, what happens to our capacity for relationship? The answer is not yet settled. And that's exactly why the question matters. This week's practical exercise is The Connection Audit, a five-step process: Catch yourself automatically reaching for your phone and notice what happened immediately beforehand. Identify which versions of yourself receive the most online reinforcement. Read the relationship receipt: who did you actually connect with during the last seven days? Convert one point of digital access into deeper connection through a call, conversation, voice message, coffee, or walk. If you use AI for personal reflection, ask whether it is helping you move more honestly toward your life and relationships or helping you avoid vulnerability you do not currently want to face. You do not need to reject technology. Use it as a bridge. Just don't confuse the bridge for the relationship. Because the question isn't whether you're connected to the internet. The question is: Who actually knows you? And maybe the harder question: Who are you willing to know? This is The Connection Paradox. Take a walk with me. Follow Walk With Me for Season Two: The Architectural Stress Test, where we take Awareness, Identity, The Mind, The Nervous System, Emotions, Capacity, Behavior, and Meaning out of theory and examine what happens when real life puts the architecture under pressure. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E3
    September 2 · 2 min

    Pause, Reflection, Honesty: A brief Message

    Send us Fan Mail A brief check-in from Me. There wasn’t a full episode of Walk With Me this week, and rather than force one out for the sake of staying on schedule, this short message is about practicing the same awareness, honesty, and respect for capacity that the show explores. Season 2 continues, the work continues, and sometimes the stress test is simply life happening in real time. Thank you for continuing to walk with me. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E2
    August 24 · 26 min

    Stress Test 1: Burnout: Why Rest Isn’t Enough When Your Life Is Overdrawn

    Send us Fan Mail Why are you still exhausted after sleeping, taking time off, or trying to rest? Burnout is not always solved by doing less for a weekend because the exhaustion may be connected to the identity, workload, nervous-system patterns, boundaries, behaviors, and responsibilities you return to afterward. In the first episode of Season Two of Walk With Me: The Architectural Stress Test, Dr. Giovanni DeJesus takes burnout through all eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method to explore what actually becomes overdrawn when a high-functioning person can no longer recover. Dr. Gio is an Identity and Internal Architecture Coach, chiropractor, speaker, U.S. Marine Corps veteran, and creator of the Walk With Me Method. In this episode, he distinguishes occupational burnout from the broader patterns of chronic depletion that can also emerge in parenting, caregiving, relationships, school, leadership, and roles built around relentless responsibility. You slept, but you did not recover. You took the weekend off, but your mind stayed at work. You finally sat down, but your body still felt guilty for stopping. You know something needs to change, yet part of you keeps saying, “I just need to get through this week.” What if the problem is not simply that you need more rest? What if your life has been continuously withdrawing more than your internal system and environment can sustainably restore? Using the eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method, Gio stress tests burnout through: Awareness: What signs of exhaustion have you started treating as normal? Identity: Who do you believe you become if you stop being the strong one, provider, fixer, high performer, or person everyone depends on? The Mind: What story makes your exhaustion sound like responsibility, commitment, or proof of your worth? The Nervous System: Has urgency become so familiar that stillness itself feels uncomfortable? Emotions: What are resentment, dread, irritability, grief, numbness, or cynicism trying to report? Capacity: Do you actually need to become capable of carrying more, or does the demand itself need to decrease? Behavior: What are procrastination, withdrawal, overwork, detachment, mistakes, or fantasies of escape revealing about the system underneath them? Meaning: Is your exhaustion coming only from how much you are doing, or from how little of what you are doing still feels connected to who you are and what you value? Gio also introduces the Burnout Overdraft Audit, a six-step practice designed to help you identify where your energy is being spent, uncover the identity contract keeping the load in your hands, read your emotional warning lights, establish one meaningful boundary, distinguish restoration from escape, and decide what is still worth carrying. This episode challenges one of the most common assumptions about burnout: that recovery means becoming the person you were before you burned out. Sometimes that person was part of the architecture that made the life unsustainable. Recovery may instead mean becoming someone who can care deeply without disappearing inside what they care for. Season One gave you the map. Season Two stress tests it against real life. Take a walk with me. Follow Walk With Me for the rest of The Architectural Stress Test, and share this episode with someone who keeps saying they are “just tired” while their life continues running on an overdrawn account. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S2 · E1
    August 17 · 2 min

    The Architectural Stress Test: Season Two Trailer

    Send us Fan Mail Why can you understand your patterns, do the personal-growth work, and still fall back into an older version of yourself when life puts you under pressure? Welcome to Season Two of Walk With Me: The Architectural Stress Test. Dr. Giovanni DeJesus, Identity and Internal Architecture Coach and creator of the Walk With Me Method, takes the eight pillars introduced in Season One: Awareness, Identity, The Mind, The Nervous System, Emotions, Capacity, Behavior, Meaning, and moves them out of theory and into the moments where real life tests them. Because life does not happen one pillar at a time. Burnout can overwhelm your capacity while your identity tells you to keep performing. Success can activate a nervous system that learned achievement comes with a cost. A relationship can pull an old version of you back to the surface. Leadership can expose the difference between confidence and performance. A major life transition can remove the role that once told you who you were. And belonging can quietly turn into self-abandonment when fitting in requires you to disappear. Season One gave you the map. Season Two asks whether that architecture can hold when the pressure rises. Throughout The Architectural Stress Test, Gio explores burnout, success, relationships, leadership, belonging, identity loss, life transitions, emotional regulation, nervous-system responses, self-sabotage, and the moments when the life you built can no longer support the person you are becoming. Each walk traces the visible problem back through the internal system underneath it: Where does Awareness disappear under pressure? When does Identity become a cage? What story does The Mind begin telling? Why does the Nervous System brace against something you consciously want? What are your Emotions trying to signal? Where does Capacity begin to buckle? What does your Behavior reveal about what the system actually believes? And what happens to Meaning when the life outside you no longer matches the person inside? This season is for people who have already read the books, watched the videos, gone to therapy, practiced self-development, worked on their mindset, or tried to become a better version of themselves—and still find themselves asking: “Why am I back here again?” The question may not be whether you know enough. It may be what happens to everything you know when your internal architecture is placed under stress. Season One explored how the system works. Season Two explores what the system does when life works through it. The map has been built. Now we stress test it. Take a walk with me. Follow Walk With Me so you do not miss the beginning of Season Two, and share this trailer with someone who has done the work but still wonders why pressure keeps bringing an older version of themselves back to the surface. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E12
    August 10 · 25 min

    Pillar 8: How to Find Meaning in Life: Why Purpose Alone Isn’t Enough

    Send us Fan Mail How do you find meaning in life when you have goals, responsibilities, achievements, and people who depend on you, but something still feels empty or disconnected inside? In this final pillar episode of Walk With Me, I explore Meaning as the Compass of your internal architecture. As an Identity and Internal Architecture Coach, chiropractor, speaker, U.S. Marine Corps veteran, and creator of the Walk With Me Method, I examine why finding your purpose is not always enough to create a meaningful life. You can know exactly what matters to you and still lack the internal architecture to live it consistently. Contemporary psychology often describes meaning in life through three interconnected dimensions: coherence, the sense that your life makes sense; purpose, the sense that your life has direction; and significance, the sense that your life matters. This episode connects those ideas to the eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method and asks a deeper question: What happens when your values and your actual life are telling two different stories? This episode is for anyone who looks successful on the outside but feels disconnected on the inside. You may value family while giving your best energy to professional validation. You may value peace while repeatedly living in a state of urgency. You may value honesty while avoiding the conversations that would require it. You may be searching for a new purpose when what you are actually experiencing is misalignment. I share my own history of searching for meaning through relationships, communities, titles, ranks, achievements, and identities. Each new role offered direction, but when it ended, the search began again. The realization was not that achievement, relationships, or community were meaningless. It was that lasting meaning could not depend entirely on something outside of him telling him who he was. In the Walk With Me Method, Meaning is not another achievement to unlock. It is the Compass. It helps reveal whether your internal world and external life are moving in the same direction. In this episode, you’ll explore: How to find meaning and purpose when you feel lost The difference between purpose, coherence, and significance Why a successful life can still feel empty How values and behavior become disconnected Why searching for the “right calling” may not solve meaninglessness How Identity, the Mind, Nervous System, Emotions, Capacity, and Behavior influence the life you actually live Why meaning requires increasing congruence rather than perfection How to stop outsourcing your sense of purpose to roles, achievements, relationships, or approval The six-step Congruence Audit for evaluating the life you are currently building This episode also completes the eight pillars of the Walk With Me Method: Awareness — The Observer Identity — The Blueprint The Mind — The Interpreter The Nervous System — The Hallway Monitor Emotions — The Dashboard Capacity — The Container Behavior — The Evidence Meaning — The Compass For this walk, I introduce The Congruence Audit. Identify your three most important values, examine the behavioral “receipt” of the last seven days, evaluate coherence, purpose, and significance, find where your life disagrees with what you say matters, trace that disagreement upstream to the strongest pillar involved, and make one small repair. The goal is not to create a perfect life. It is to create a life that requires less self-abandonment to maintain. Meaning is not necessarily waiting somewhere in the distance for you to discover the perfect career, calling, relationship, or version of yourself. It can be built in the repeated moments when your choices become a more honest reflection of what matters to you. You now have the map. Use it to locate yourself. Follow Walk With Me, share this episode with someone who has been searching for their purpose, and save The Congruence Audit for the next time your life looks right on paper but does not feel right inside. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E11
    August 3 · 23 min

    Pillar 7: Your Behavior Is Not Your Identity: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns

    Send us Fan Mail Why do you keep procrastinating, people-pleasing, shutting down, overworking, or repeating habits you already know are hurting you? In this episode of Walk With Me, I explore Behavior as the Evidence of your internal architecture: the visible result of what your Identity, Mind, Nervous System, Emotions, and Capacity have been practicing beneath the surface. As a chiropractor, Identity and Internal Architecture Coach, and creator of the Walk With Me Method, I explain why sustainable behavior change requires more than discipline, motivation, willpower, or another habit tracker. This episode is for anyone who has called themselves lazy, inconsistent, avoidant, self-destructive, or a procrastinator because they could not force themselves to act differently. Your repeated behavior may create real consequences, and you are still responsible for those consequences. But your behavior is not your identity. It is evidence that can be investigated, interpreted, and traced back to the system producing it. I share how heavy self-criticism once helped me remain disciplined through the military, martial arts, school, professional responsibilities, and high-pressure environments. What began as fuel eventually became poison. The mentality that kept me sharp became a fragile foundation, and I realized I had learned to repeatedly beat myself down and call it discipline. This walk reframes behavior as the fruit rather than the root. If a tree repeatedly produces bitter fruit, forcing the fruit to become sweeter does not address the conditions underneath it. You examine the roots, soil, water, and environment. In the same way, procrastination, avoidance, defensiveness, overexplaining, people-pleasing, and shutting down may reveal what your internal system is protecting, fearing, rehearsing, or trying to avoid. Understanding the function of a behavior does not excuse harmful actions. Accountability still requires acknowledging impact, making repairs, and practicing a different response. But shame alone cannot explain why the behavior exists or teach your system what to do instead. In this episode, you’ll explore: Why behavior is evidence rather than identity Why shame is a poor long-term strategy for behavior change How self-criticism can begin as protection and eventually become destructive Why willpower alone often fails to create lasting habits How procrastination, people-pleasing, and avoidance can serve protective functions The relationship between behavior, nervous-system safety, identity, and capacity What behavioral congruence means How to trace a repeated habit back to the pillar producing it Why accountability and self-understanding must work together The five-step Behavior Evidence Audit I introduce behavioral congruence: the idea that your system may resist actions that feel incompatible with the person it still believes you are. If your Identity says you are not someone who speaks up, setting a boundary may feel wrong. If your Nervous System believes conflict leads to rejection, honesty may feel unsafe. If your Capacity is already overwhelmed, another responsibility may trigger avoidance rather than action. The goal is not to excuse the pattern. The goal is to understand what makes the pattern logical to your current system so you can create a different response. For this walk’s exercise, complete The Behavior Evidence Audit: Name the repeated behavior without judgment. Identify what the behavior is trying to protect or accomplish. Trace the behavior upstream to the strongest pillar involved. Choose a small 10-second pivot toward a different response. Record the new evidence your behavior creates. Do not try to transform your entire life in one moment. Create one new receipt. Stay in the conversation for 10 seconds longer. State one honest boundary. Begin the task before you feel completely ready. Ask for time before answering. Make a mistake and repair it. Every intentional action becomes evidence that your system can learn a different way of responding. Your behavior is not your enemy. It is the visible result of the invisible life you have been living inside. Once you learn how to read it, you can stop treating yourself like a character flaw and begin changing what is happening upstream. Follow Walk With Me for new episodes every Monday morning at 3:00 AM Eastern Time. Leave a review, share where you are listening from, and send this episode to someone who is tired of judging their habits and ready to understand the system producing them. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E10
    July 27 · 14 min

    Pillar 6: Capacity: Why the Life You Want Can Feel Like Too Much

    Send us Fan Mail Why do people sabotage healthy relationships, meaningful opportunities, success, love, or personal growth after finally receiving what they wanted? In this episode of Walk With Me, Dr. Gio explores Capacity as the Container of your internal architecture: the ability to remain present with pressure, uncertainty, responsibility, intimacy, visibility, success, and even joy without collapsing, controlling everything, or returning to familiar patterns. As a chiropractor, Identity and Internal Architecture Coach, and creator of the Walk With Me Method, Gio explains why self-sabotage is not always a motivation or discipline problem. Sometimes the life arriving in front of you requires more capacity than your current system knows how to sustain. This episode is for anyone who has received a good opportunity and procrastinated, entered a healthy relationship and created conflict, experienced success and immediately felt anxious, or finally reached a peaceful season and found themselves waiting for something to go wrong. You may genuinely want the relationship, business, visibility, responsibility, or growth. But wanting a life and being able to hold that life are not the same thing. Gio uses the metaphor of Capacity as a container. When the life you want requires a bucket but your current system has the available room of a cup, the result is overflow. Most people respond by trying to control the opportunity, relationship, timing, outcome, pressure, or people around them. Sustainable growth, however, is not only about controlling what enters the container. It is about developing a stronger, more adaptive container. This walk explores why people can collapse under positive experiences as well as adversity. Healthy love may feel unfamiliar. Visibility may feel threatening. Responsibility may feel overwhelming. Joy may activate the expectation that something bad is about to happen. Rest may feel unsafe when your identity has been built around usefulness and performance. The episode also reframes manifestation. Calling something into your life is only part of the process. You must also develop the emotional and internal capacity to receive, embody, and sustain what arrives. In this episode, you’ll explore: What emotional and psychological capacity means Why good opportunities can trigger self-sabotage Why success, love, peace, and visibility may feel unsafe The difference between wanting a life and being able to sustain it How nervous-system protection can restore familiar patterns Why capacity is not the same as tolerating abuse or carrying everything How rest, recovery, support, and manageable exposure expand capacity Why your available capacity changes from day to day How capacity gives Identity new evidence The five-step Capacity Expansion Check Capacity does not grow by overwhelming yourself, pretending to be fearless, or shaming yourself into becoming tougher. It grows through manageable exposure paired with regulation, reflection, and recovery. For this walk’s practice, Gio introduces The Capacity Expansion Check: Name the load that currently feels like too much. Notice how your system tries to protect you. Choose a small and manageable stretch. Take one intentional action rather than reacting automatically. Recover and record the evidence of what you handled. The goal is not to force yourself to hold everything. The goal is to become capable of carrying what is aligned with you without repeatedly abandoning yourself in the process. Ask yourself: What part of the life I say I want would overwhelm the version of me that exists today? Would it be the responsibility, intimacy, money, visibility, uncertainty, stillness, pressure, or joy? Then ask: Who am I becoming so I can hold this life without abandoning myself? Your desires matter. Your goals matter. Your vision matters. But the life you are building also needs somewhere stable to land. Follow Walk With Me for new episodes every Monday morning at 3:00 AM Eastern Time. Leave a review, share where you are listening from, and send this episode to someone who is ready to stop forcing a bigger life into an overwhelmed system and start building the capacity to sustain it. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E9
    July 20 · 20 min

    Pillar 5: Your Emotions Are Not the Problem: How to Read What You Feel

    Send us Fan Mail How do you understand your emotions without suppressing them, judging them, or letting them control your behavior? In this episode of Walk With Me, Dr. Gio explores emotions as the Dashboard of your internal architecture: live signals that reveal what your Identity, Mind, and Nervous System are experiencing beneath the surface. As a chiropractor, mindset and manifestation coach, public speaker, and creator of the Walk With Me Method, Gio explains why emotional regulation is not about feeling less. It is about learning how to read what you feel, remain present with it, and respond without abandoning yourself or blowing up the room. This episode is for anyone who has been told to control their anger, calm their anxiety, hide their sadness, stop being sensitive, or keep their emotions quiet enough that nobody notices the mess. What if your emotions are not defects in your system? What if they are information? Through a deeply personal reflection on rage, violence, people-pleasing, violated boundaries, shame, and emotional suppression, Gio shares how he learned to reinterpret the anger that once ruled him. For years, he hid frustration behind a smile, said “it’s all good” when something was not good, and avoided speaking honestly until the pressure became explosive. The rage was destructive, but it was not meaningless. It was an alarm signaling that his boundaries had been crossed repeatedly and that he did not yet know how to speak before the pressure became a blast. This walk examines what happens when emotions are judged instead of understood. Fear gets labeled cowardice. Sadness gets labeled weakness. Anger gets labeled toxic. When enough judgment accumulates, burying the feeling can seem like the safest option, but an emotion you refuse to hear does not simply disappear. It can influence your body, your relationships, your tone, your defensiveness, your distance, and the choices you keep making. Gio describes emotion as high-voltage information: real energy and physical sensation moving through the body while the Mind attempts to interpret what it means. A tightening chest, heated face, clenched jaw, dropping stomach, or closing throat may be the signal. The story wrapped around that signal may be danger, rejection, embarrassment, failure, or shame. The physical sensation is real. The interpretation may be shaped by an old experience, identity, or survival pattern. That is how growth can be mislabeled as danger and how the discomfort of expansion can be mistaken for a system breach. In this episode, you’ll explore: Why emotions are information rather than moral failures How emotional suppression can leak into behavior and relationships Why anger may signal a violated boundary or unmet need How people-pleasing can create resentment and emotional pressure The difference between an emotional signal and the story attached to it How Identity, the Mind, and the Nervous System influence what you feel Why emotional power is not measured by how little you feel How to move from controlling emotions to expressing them responsibly A four-step practice for interpreting emotional signals Identity influences which emotions feel permitted. The Mind interprets what the emotion means. The Nervous System determines whether the intensity feels safe. Your emotions reveal the relationship between all three. They show you what your system can currently hold, what it avoids, what it fears, where it feels overrun, and what it still does not trust. The goal is not to shut off the electricity. The goal is to strengthen the wiring so you can hold more truth without abandoning yourself or harming the people around you. For this walk’s exercise, the next time an emotion rises, do not begin by asking, “How do I get rid of this?” Ask: “What is this trying to show me?” Then move through four steps: Locate the signal. Where do you feel the emotion physically—in your chest, throat, stomach, jaw, face, or shoulders? Name the energy. Identify the feeling without immediately explaining or judging it: anger, sadness, fear, grief, shame, joy, relief, or surprise. Separate the signal from the script. What is the physical sensation, and what story is your Mind wrapping around it? Ask the better questions. What do you need to say, do, or decide that you are hesitating to? Is this emotion signaling real danger, or is it simply more energy than your system is accustomed to holding? Do not rush to answer perfectly. Stay with the feeling long enough to hear the information without automatically obeying the reaction. Your emotions are not flaws in the system. They are markers on your map. When you learn how to read them, they stop feeling like chaos and begin offering direction. Follow Walk With Me for new episodes every Monday morning at 3:00 AM Eastern Time. Leave a review, share where you are listening from, and send this episode to someone who is learning to stop judging what they feel and start understanding what their emotions are trying to communicate. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E7
    July 6 · 26 min

    The Fear Of Being Free

    Send us Fan Mail Why does freedom feel unsafe, overwhelming, or empty after you finally leave the job, relationship, role, or identity that once trapped you? In this episode of Walk With Me, I explore the psychological weight of freedom through the lens of Erich Fromm’s Escape from Freedom and the Walk With Me Method. As a chiropractor, Identity and Internal architecture coach, public speaker, and creator of the Walk With Me internal architecture framework, I break down why people often say they want freedom, but unconsciously run from the responsibility, uncertainty, grief, and identity collapse that real freedom brings. This episode is for anyone who has ever left a toxic job, relationship, belief system, family role, or old version of themselves, only to feel strangely lost afterward. You may have escaped the structure that confined you, but that structure may also have given you certainty. Without a strong internal architecture, freedom can feel less like liberation and more like standing in an open field with no map, no walls, no instructions, and no one left to blame. I explore the difference between negative freedom and positive freedom. Negative freedom is freedom from control, rules, oppression, or old identities. Positive freedom is freedom to create, love, choose, build, and live from the inside out. The problem is that many people fight to be free from something without knowing who they are free for. This walk also breaks down three ways people escape freedom: submission, destructiveness, and conformity. Submission is giving your identity to a person, group, ideology, relationship, role, or leader who promises certainty. Destructiveness is trying to destroy what makes you feel powerless, including opportunities, relationships, dreams, or parts of yourself. Conformity is becoming whatever the room, culture, platform, or system rewards until borrowed thoughts start to feel like your own. Through the 8 pillars of the Walk With Me Method: Awareness, The Mind, Identity, The Nervous System, Emotions, Capacity, Behavior, and Meaning, I explain why freedom is not only a political or external condition. Freedom is an internal capacity. You can have options and still not be free. You can have money and still be chained to success. You can leave the old environment and still carry the same internal architecture. In this episode, you’ll explore: Why freedom can feel unsafe after leaving an old structure The difference between negative freedom and positive freedom How Erich Fromm’s Escape from Freedom applies to modern anxiety, identity, and self-improvement The three ways people escape freedom: submission, destructiveness, and conformity Why people recreate the same prison after leaving the old one Why freedom requires awareness, nervous system regulation, emotional capacity, behavior, and meaning How the 8 pillars help you build the internal architecture to hold freedom Why real freedom is not just “doing whatever you want” How to stop outsourcing your identity and become internally directed This episode challenges the fantasy that freedom means no limits, no responsibility, and no structure. Real freedom is the ability to choose consciously, stand in your own body, think your own thoughts, feel your emotions, belong without disappearing, love without submitting, disagree without destroying, succeed without becoming a product, and be alone without abandoning yourself. The question for this walk is simple: Where do you escape freedom? Do you submit to a role, relationship, ideology, group, or authority so you do not have to stand alone? Do you destroy opportunities, relationships, or dreams before they can expose you? Do you conform so well that the life you built to be accepted starts looking like the life you actually wanted? If that question hits something, do not shame yourself. Study it. The part of you that escapes freedom is not evil. It is afraid. It is trying to find safety, belonging, and a structure strong enough to hold uncertainty. But what if the structure you are looking for is not another person, ideology, achievement, role, or group to disappear into? What if the structure is you? Follow Walk With Me for new episodes every Monday morning at 3:00 AM Eastern Time. Leave a review, share where you are listening from, and send this episode to someone who is ready to stop performing freedom and start building the internal architecture to actually live it. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E6
    June 29 · 14 min

    Pillar 4: Nervous System: What If Self-Sabotage Is Actually Protection?

    Send us Fan Mail What if self-sabotage is not weakness, laziness, or inconsistency, but your nervous system trying to protect you? In this episode of Walk With Me, I explore the nervous system as the part of your internal architecture that asks one question before you move toward love, success, visibility, rest, responsibility, or expansion: “Is it safe for me to be here?” As a chiropractor, Identity and internal architecture coach, public speaker, and creator of the Walk With Me Method, I break down why the body can pull the emergency brake even when the mind knows exactly what it wants. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt ready to start the podcast, launch the brand, open their heart, grow the business, or step into their next level, only to procrastinate, pick a fight, disappear, overthink, get “sick,” or suddenly worry about everything that could go wrong. What most people call self-sabotage may actually be a nervous system caught between who you were and where you are trying to go. Through the metaphor of the Hallway Monitor, I explain how your body scans for safety and may block you from rooms it still believes are dangerous: success, intimacy, peace, rest, being seen, or being fully yourself. I also share a personal story about expanding his coaching business and realizing that success itself had started to feel unsafe because achievement had often come at a high cost. This walk reframes anxiety, procrastination, inconsistency, and self-sabotage as possible signs of dysregulation rather than proof that something is wrong with you. Instead of asking, “Why am I like this?” I invite you to ask, “What part of me does not feel safe yet?” In this episode, you’ll explore: Why the nervous system can treat success, love, rest, or visibility as a threat How self-sabotage can actually be protection Why fear and excitement can feel almost identical in the body How the mind labels intensity as danger or expansion Why shame deepens dysregulation instead of healing it How to stop fighting your biology and start updating the manual A practical exercise called The Hallway Pass For this week’s exercise, I walk you through five steps: locate the signal, acknowledge the manual, stay for 10 seconds, change the lens, and issue a temporary pass. The goal is not to force yourself forward or retreat into old patterns. The goal is to teach your nervous system: “We are safe enough to take one more step.” Your nervous system is not your enemy. It is not broken. It is trying to protect you with the information it has. The work is not about breaking the system. It is about updating the manual. Follow Walk With Me for new episodes every Monday morning at 3:00 AM Eastern Time. Leave a review, share where you are listening from, and send this episode to someone who is ready to stop calling themselves lazy and start understanding the system. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E5
    June 22 · 14 min

    Pillar 3: Your Mind Is Not Reality: The Narrator Running Your Life

    Send us Fan Mail Why do your thoughts feel so true, even when they keep pulling you back into old patterns? In this episode of Walk With Me, I explore the mind as the narrator of your life: the part of your internal system that interprets experience, assigns meaning, and turns old stories into patterns that feel like personality. As we walk together, I break down how the conscious mind, subconscious mind, identity, nervous system, and body work together to shape the reality you keep living. This episode is for anyone who has ever thought, “This always happens to me,” “I’m not enough,” “If I open up, I’ll get hurt,” or “I’m just not that kind of person.” Those thoughts may feel personal, objective, and true, but what if they are actually narration? What if your mind is not simply describing reality, but interpreting it through old survival scripts? I share a personal story about rage, “Hulking out,” and the painful realization that what I once called a demon was actually a younger protector running an outdated subconscious survival script. Through the car metaphor, I explain the subconscious as the engine, the conscious mind as the steering wheel, the body as the vehicle, perception as the windshield and mirrors, and the mind as the driver interpreting the road. This walk explores why your automatic reactions are not random, why old thoughts feel loyal to your identity, and why the subconscious does not care about your goals as much as it cares about repetition, familiarity, and survival. I also reframe manifestation as rehearsal: the process of teaching your system that a new reality can become familiar and safe. You’ll learn how to interrupt the narrator through The Pause, question whether a thought is true or simply familiar, and begin reclaiming authorship over the story you are living. In this episode, you’ll explore: Why we are feeling beings who think How the mind turns raw experience into story, label, conclusion, and truth The difference between the conscious mind and subconscious mind Why old survival scripts can feel like personality How identity filters your thoughts Why manifestation is rehearsal, not just wanting something How to question the narrator without fighting your mind A practical exercise for observing repeated thoughts and emotional triggers For this week’s exercise, I invite you to become the mechanic of your own system. Notice the thoughts that repeat when you feel challenged, pressured, rejected, or unseen. Then ask: What emotion came before this thought? Whose voice does this sound like? What is this story trying to protect me from? Is this thought describing reality, or continuing a pattern? You are not here to perform growth. You are here to understand yourself clearly enough to live differently. Follow Walk With Me for new episodes every Monday morning at 3:00 AM Eastern Time. Leave a review, share where you’re listening from, and send this episode to someone who is ready to stop fixing symptoms and start understanding the system. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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  • S1 · E4
    June 19 · 17 min

    How to Choose Yourself Without Feeling Selfish

    Send us Fan Mail How do you find the strength to choose yourself without feeling selfish, guilty, or cruel? In this bonus episode of Walk With Me, Gio Dejesus answers a question many people-pleasers, caregivers, and “strong ones” silently carry: “How do I find the strength to choose myself?” Through a deeply personal reflection on people-pleasing, family, his mother’s self-sacrifice, emotional responsibility, and the cost of always carrying everyone else, Gio reframes choosing yourself as a redirection of strength rather than the discovery of strength you do not have. This episode is for anyone who struggles with self-abandonment, setting boundaries, saying no, disappointing others, or feeling selfish when they finally choose their own peace. Gio explains why “no” can become sacred, why guilt often rises when you stop abandoning yourself, and why choosing yourself does not mean you stop loving other people. You’ll also receive The Strength Redirection Review, a practical exercise to help identify where your strength is being spent, what it is costing you, and how to redirect even ten percent of it back toward your own life. Want to see the face behind the voice and additional content not shared on the podcast? click the links below, ike and subscribe and most importantly engage with me. I read every comment and reply. https://www.youtube.com/@RisetoReclaim-gio https://www.facebook.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/ https://www.instagram.com/giovanni.f.dejesus/

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