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Emma Paige

Emma's always been told she's, "too much" and now, she's done apologizing for it. From NY to LA and back again, she's lived a thousand lives and if there's anything she's learned, it's to be unapologetically yourself. Every Tuesday, Emma is getting raw and real about everything from f*ckups and breakups, thriving (and surviving) in your 20s and 30s, how to be the best version of yourself and so much more. So grab a drink, because we're going down the rabbit hole...

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#86
Tuesday · 48 min
ASK EMMA: I need someone who's already cooked
Ask Emma is BACK, which means a simple listener question is about to become a full-blown existential crisis. This week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on dating fatigue, high standards vs. unrealistic expectations, and the question she hates admitting she’s asked herself: does she know too much about relationships to actually enjoy one? She’s talking being single for years without settling, catching feelings for a guy friend, slowing down sex without killing the chemistry, whether she’d date a man less successful than her, when to stop inviting the friend who never shows up, and why healthy love can feel suspiciously boring after you’ve been conditioned to chaos. Basically, if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking for too much, taking too long, moving too fast, choosing the wrong people, or becoming a little too self-aware for your own good — this one’s for you. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer available Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guaranteed Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE! For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#85
September 1 · 34 min
Stop asking “why me?”
Sometimes I feel like looking around your life and saying “wow, I’m so lucky” feels like it skips over the entire plot. The heartbreak. The rejection. The failures. The people who screwed you over. The days you were convinced your life was falling apart… that were actually quietly redirecting it. So in this episode, we’re rethinking gratitude entirely. I’m tracing the dominoes of my own life — from breakups and betrayal to trauma, career setbacks and some truly questionable men—to show you how some of the best things in my life exist because of some of the worst things that ever happened to me. And why asking “why me?” might be keeping you stuck in a story you haven’t gotten far enough away from to understand yet. Because your favorite part of your life might be downstream from the worst day of it. Don’t count your blessings. Trace them. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer available Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarante Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE! For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#84
August 25 · 34 min
It’s not who you know, it’s who remembers you
Just curious — when did we get so comfortable with having the same friends, same dinners, same group chat dissecting the same man for the 47th time? And then wonder why we keep getting the same answers? Consider this your wake up call... at some point, you’re feeding the same information into the same machine and expecting a different output. And it's gotta stop. This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole about why expanding your circle might be one of the most underrated ways to expand your life. Not social climbing, not collecting contacts and not ditching your longtime friends. We're talking about meeting new people, mixing friend groups, actually following up on the “we should get dinner” text, and realizing that new people bring new perspectives, opportunities, conversations — and sometimes entirely new versions of you. Emma shares her six-month scroll strategy she's been unknowingly used for years, why she shamelessly keeps extending the invite, and how bringing complete strangers together has changed the way we think about networking, friendship and opportunity. Because it’s not just about who you know. It’s about who remembers you. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer available Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarante Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE! For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#83
August 18 · 37 min
I'd rather be single than settle
Why are so many women staying single longer? Maybe because for the first time, we actually can. This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole on why women are getting married later, how financial independence completely changed the dating market, the male loneliness epidemic, and why our parents’ generation cannot seem to comprehend that being single in your 30s is not a medical emergency. Because when you’ve already built a life you love, a man isn’t competing with other men — he’s competing with your peace. We’re getting into the question every single woman has secretly asked herself: Are my standards too high, or have I just stopped accepting the bare minimum? Plus, Emma read your stories about marriage, kids, timelines and the pressure to “settle down” — and you guys made her bawl like a baby. Maybe women aren’t behind on marriage. Maybe marriage just isn’t allowed to be ahead of our happiness anymore. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer available Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarante Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE! For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#79
August 11 · 37 min
Why do we want the people who don't want us?
Have you ever been completely obsessed with someone who was giving you the absolute bare minimum… then you end, a couple weeks go by and you think to yourself, “WTF was I thinking?” Same. And we need to talk about it. This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole of rejection, validation, dating anxiety and the sneaky way your ego can turn romantic relationships into a competition where every text is a point, every delayed response is a loss and suddenly you’re fighting tooth and nail for someone you’re not even sure you like. Emma is breaking down why rejection can make us want someone more, how to tell the difference between genuinely missing someone and just needing them to regret losing you, and the question that might save you from wasting six months trying to prove your worth to a person who was never aligned with the plot in the first place. Consider this your intervention: you need to stop asking, “How do I get them to choose me?” and start asking whether, it’s really them you want at all? EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer available Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarantee. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#82
August 4 · 30 min
Trauma Responses PT. 1: Triggered and Traumatized
What if the things you've always called your personality... aren't actually your personality? What if being "independent," "bad at asking for help," a perfectionist, a people pleaser, or someone who always overexplains isn't just who you are—but who you had to become? In this episode, we're unpacking trauma responses: where they come from, why your brain keeps repeating the same patterns in relationships, friendships, and dating, and how to stop letting old wounds make decisions for your present life. We'll talk about hyper-independence, self-sabotage, perfectionism, validation seeking, emotional regulation, nervous system triggers, and the one question that can instantly tell you whether you're reacting to what's happening... or what happened years ago. Because healing isn't never getting triggered again. It's realizing who's actually sitting in the driver's seat before you let them take the wheel. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#81
July 28 · 35 min
SOS: I ran into my ex
If you've ever mentally rehearsed what you'd do if you ran into your ex... buckle up. Because one day, it's gonna happen. This week, Emma's telling you the story of the most chaotic first date of her life — a night that somehow involved her ex, some martinis and a YB. You truly cannot make this shit up. But here's the part that will surprise you.. This episode isn't about him. It's about what your reaction to seeing your ex actually says about where you are in your healing. We're going down the rabbit hole about the scaries we get over seeing our exes, why we secretly hope we'll run into them, the burning desire for them to see our glow-up, why seeing them with someone new feels like someone knocked the wind out of you, and the biggest lie we tell ourselves after a breakup: that seeing them one more time will finally give us closure. If you're scared of bumping into your ex, still checking their Instagram, secretly hoping they regret losing you, or wondering if you're actually over them this will be your rude awakening. Because the goal isn't to make your ex miss you, it's to get to a place where you genuinely couldn't care less if they do. And trust us... that's a whole different kind of power. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#80
July 21 · 51 min
Don't wait for permission: How to bet on yourself FT. Charlie Walk
Everyone wants permission before they change their life. Permission to quit the job, leave the relationship, start the business, move across the country, hit publish, bet on themselves. Here's the problem: no one's coming to give it to you. This week, Emma sits down with legendary music executive Charlie Walk — the man who helped build the careers of some of the world’s greatest artists like John Mayer, Ariana Grande and so many more, by spotting greatness before the rest of the world caught on. The two go down the rabbit hole about the one thing every successful person has in common: they trusted themselves before anyone else did. This isn't a conversation about the music industry, it's a conversation about your life. Emma and Charlie unpack the difference between intuition and ego, why your gut knows long before your brain catches up, how to stop looking for certainty before making a move, and why getting fired, failing publicly, losing people, and starting over might be the best things that ever happen to you. They also get into what it actually means to "have potential," why some people stay consumers while others become creators, how to recognize your own gifts before the world validates them, and the surprising reason you're probably surrounded by the wrong people if you feel like you're shrinking. If you've been waiting until you feel ready, confident, qualified, or guaranteed to succeed... this episode is your reality check. Because the people living the life you want didn't have more certainty than you. They just had the guts to move before the proof showed up. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch FOLLOW CHARLIE For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#78
July 14 · 38 min
Stop confusing chemistry with compatibility
If you've ever mistaken butterflies for a green flag, this might save you years of your dating life. We're constantly told “when you know, you know”, there should be fireworks and that if the chemistry is undeniable, this has got to be your person. But what if the very thing making your heart race is also the thing keeping you stuck? This week, Emma goes full Bill Nye and breaks down the science behind attraction, dating chemistry, and long-term compatibility. From the chemical cocktail our brains like to concoct to why hot-and-cold behavior is literally addictive, she explains what's actually happening inside your brain when someone gives you butterflies — and why that feeling isn't always being honest with you. Through personal dating stories, modern relationship psychology, attachment styles, and the uncomfortable truths we were never taught, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about why so many of us chase people who wreak havoc on our nervous systems, and walk away from the people who are actually good for us. If you've ever found yourself obsessing over someone you barely know or wondering why healthy feels "boring," this episode will completely change the way you date. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Go to AquaTru.com for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#77
July 7 · 49 min
Networking 101: the bigger your balls, the more connections you’ll have
Turns out the people leaving Cannes Lions with the biggest opportunities weren't the smartest, richest, or most successful people in the room. They were the ones everyone remembered. After two weeks of networking her way through Saint-Tropez, Cannes Lions, and a Hamptons weekend that included lost luggage, international ghosting and a few ex sightings, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on the career lessons that changed the way she thinks about success from keeping sesame seeds out of her teeth to how to master the art of following up. This isn't another episode telling you to "put yourself out there", it's the psychology behind first impressions, why some people become impossible to forget, the networking mistakes quietly costing you opportunities, and the tiny social hacks that make people want to open doors for you. Whether you're trying to land your dream job, grow your business, build a personal brand, or simply stop feeling awkward walking into a room where you don't know anyone, this episode is your cheat code. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#76
June 30 · 38 min
The advice your friends won't give you
Sometimes the advice you need isn't the advice you asked for. Different from her typical ASK EMMA's, this week, Emma opens the inbox and goes down the rabbit hole of your biggest dating, relationship and heartbreak stories — from Instagram red flags, zaddies turned age-gap romances to breakups that still don't make sense, partners who rewrite your reality, and the painful difference between choosing what you want versus choosing what you deserve. If you've ever wondered whether you're overthinking, settling, being strung along, or simply ignoring your own intuition, this episode is the reality check your group chat couldn't give you. Emma slaps you out of your delusion and reminds you that although it may suck, choosing yourself is never considered a loss. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#76
June 24 · 32 min
The duality of women
How many times have you said "I'm fine" when you were anything but? In this weeks episode, Emma goes down the rabbit hole into the unspoken reality of being a woman: somehow holding it all together while quietly falling apart. The heartbreak, the grief, the loneliness, the pressure, the expectations — and the way so many of us have learned to smile through all of it despite wanting to rip a few heads off. From hyper-independence and people pleasing to the invisible weight women carry every single day, Emma explores why being "strong" isn't always a flex, why so many women struggle to ask for help, and how we've confused resilience with silence. This is a conversation about the version of you that keeps showing up, keeps performing, keeps carrying everything alone — and what might happen if you stopped pretending you were fine all the time. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OneSkin.co/toomuch for 15% with code toomuch Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. Get 15% off all orders with code TOOMUCH at Schedule35.co For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#75
June 16 · 37 min
The real reason I got sober-curious
She loves a filthy martini. She loves a good story. She loves a night that accidentally turns into sunrise. So why is Emma really suddenly questioning alcohol? In this week's episode, Emma gets brutally honest about her relationship with drinking — from high school woods parties and New York City nightlife to finding every reason under the sun to celebrate over a cocktail, she has finally come to the realization that not every habit that feels good is helping you become who you want to be. This isn't an episode about rock bottom. It's about the moment you realize your dreams are starting to cost more than just a hangover. Emma goes down the rabbit hole about the uncomfortable question that changed everything: Are you choosing temporary dopamine over your permanent potential? If you've been feeling tired, uninspired, stuck, or like you're somehow getting in your own way, this conversation might hit closer to home than you expect. Because sometimes the problem isn't that something is ruining your life. It's that it's quietly keeping you from building the one you actually want. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OneSkin.co/toomuch for 15% with code toomuch Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. Get 15% off all orders with code TOOMUCH at Schedule35.co For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#74
June 9 · 37 min
Can you f*ck your friend's ex?
Everybody always talks about the ex, but Emma thinks we’re asking the wrong question. Because when a friend gets involved with someone you’ve dated, it’s rarely about the guy. It’s about loyalty. It’s about trust. And it’s about the uncomfortable moment when someone’s actions force you to reevaluate what your friendship actually meant to them. With all the Summer House Reunion drama going on, this week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole into the messy gray area that is girl code: Are all exes off-limits? Is there a statute of limitations on heartbreak? What makes one situation forgivable and another friendship-ending? And why does finding out your friend is with your ex sometimes hurt more than the breakup itself? With her signature big sister advice and tough love, Emma unpacks the unspoken rules of friendship, betrayal, boundaries, and the difference between what you’re allowed to do and what you should do. Because sometimes the real heartbreak isn’t losing the relationship. It’s losing the friend. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OneSkin.co/toomuch for 15% with code toomuch Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. Get 15% off all orders with code TOOMUCH at Schedule35.co For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#74
June 2 · 39 min
ASK EMMA: Give yourself the ick
This week's ASK EMMA is probably one of her most brutal yet. What started with a question about feeling lonely when all your friends are in relationships, somehow spirals into a full-blow decent down the rabbit hole about self-worth, friendship breakups, situationships, closure, second chances, birthday existential crises, and why some of the loneliest people aren't actually single at all. Emma answers audience questions giving big sister advice on why we think we're behind in life, why "right person, wrong time" is usually just a cuter way of saying "wrong person," and the uncomfortable truth about staying connected to people we've already outgrown. She shares her thoughts on emotional availability, hyper-independence, dating after heartbreak, and the difference between being chosen and simply kept on the f*cking back burner. Equal parts reality check and pep talk, this episode is a reminder that your life is not on hold just because something — or someone — you wanted hasn't happened yet. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OneSkin.co/toomuch for 15% with code toomuch Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. Get 15% off all orders with code TOOMUCH at Schedule35.co For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#73
May 26 · 27 min
We're giving Michelin stars for serving toast
This week on Too Much, Emma asks the question we’re all thinking but somehow still tolerating: when did basic human decency become “relationship goals”? Since when are we handing out gold medals because someone texted back, planned a date, or remembered we exist for longer than 12 hours? From receiving the bare minimum and emotional unavailability to “cool girl” conditioning and the psychological addiction of intermittent reinforcement, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on why people today are getting confusion and chemistry so twisted. And after finding herself recently (almost) accepting the bottom of the barrel she preaches against, she gets brutally honest about what it actually looks like to walk away from someone you care about when they can’t meet your needs. This episode is unhinged, slightly pissed off, deeply self-aware, and probably the wake-up call half of us need. Because relationships are supposed to feel nourishing — not like a full-time forensic investigation. The bar isn’t low anymore. It’s in f*cking hell. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OneSkin.co/toomuch for 15% with code toomuch Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#72
May 19 · 44 min
Marathon date delusion
This week on Too Much, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about one of the most dangerous things in modern dating: the marathon date. The 12-hour first date that turns into brunch, drinks, deep trauma dumping, making out at sunset, a sleepover, breakfast the next morning — and suddenly your brain is convinced you’ve found your husband after knowing a man for 14 business hours. Emma tells the story of what might still be the best first date of her life, then breaks down the psychology behind compressed intimacy, why chemistry clouds discernment, and how we end up falling in love with potential instead of patterns. It’s a brutally honest conversation about dopamine, attachment, fantasy, emotional pacing, and why someone can slow dance with you under the stars and still not be emotionally available. Romantic. Delusional. Slightly concerning. Extremely relatable. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OneSkin.co/toomuch for 15% with code toomuch Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#70
May 12 · 36 min
The art of saying no
Emma’s week started with champagne, weddings, rooftop spritzes, late nights, hot guys and a calendar packed with glamorous NYC events… and somehow ended with her having a full menty b on the studio floor questioning whether she’s been abandoning herself the entire time. In one of her most honest episodes yet, she pulls back the curtain on the very unsexy side of chasing a big life: the exhaustion, the partying disguised as “networking,” the pressure to be everywhere, and the uncomfortable realization that sometimes the person getting in your way of growth… is you. From dating, drinking and dopamine highs to boundaries, discipline and the terrifying art of saying no, Emma goes down the rabbit hole into the difference between building a life and just being busy in one. She unpacks the hidden ways self-abandonment shows up in friendships, careers, relationships and even “fun,” while introducing the mindset shift that finally slapped her out of her own delulu: not every opportunity actually moves the needle. This episode is equal parts spiral, wake-up call and tough love — for anyone who keeps saying they want more while still making decisions that keep them exactly where they are. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OneSkin.co/toomuch for 15% with code toomuch Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#69
May 5 · 33 min
Dating apps are a multiplayer game
Emma wasn't quite sure what she was going to talk about today — until she woke up to a text from someone ending something she didn’t even realize was… a thing. Instead of spiraling or getting upset, she got curious. And that curiosity turned into today’s rabbit hole deep dive on dating apps. Not just what they are, but what they’ve actually done to the way we date, think, and connect. This episode pulls back the curtain on swipe culture, the illusion of options, and why your three week-long conversation with “Brian Raya” that feels consistent can still mean absolutely nothing. Emma breaks down the psychology behind it all — why dating apps can feel addictive yet empty, the inevitable feeling of being disposable, and why men and women can walk away from the same experience with completely different interpretations. And no, Emma’s not telling you to delete the apps for the fifth time this year — but she is giving you the ice cold reality check you probably didn’t know you needed. Because in the age of modern dating, maybe the question isn’t why does it feel so hard… it’s why do we keep expecting a fairytale from a system that was never designed to keep us chasing one? EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Visit OliveandJune.com/TOOMUCH for 20% off your first System Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#68
April 28 · 41 min
The first rule of fight club
This week, we’re not talking about dating. Or ghosting. Or situationships. We’re talking about something that’s quietly running the show in every relationship in your life — and something that most people get completely wrong. Conflict resolution. Emma opens up about a pattern she’s carried for years… one that didn’t just create tension, but cost her real relationships. And the worst part? She didn’t even realize it was happening. Then she goes down the rabbit hole about the reframe that changed the way she approached every single relationship and friendship in her life. This episode isn’t about how to win in a fight — it’s about what’s actually going on underneath every conflict, understanding the way you react, the way things fall apart and how to get better at communicating. Conflict and getting into fights is unavoidable — but how you move through them is something you're about to get a lot better at. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Get prepped for patio season for way less. Head to wayfair.com to shop all things home. Every style. Every home. Get 15% off OneSkin with the code toomuch at https://www.oneskin.co/toomuch #oneskinpod Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Just search Whatnot in the app store and start scoring amazing deals. Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/toomuch to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!! Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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