
Stop Telling Your Toddler to Share --Teach This Instead. Ep 163
Your toddler snatches a toy. The daycare flags it. Another mom clocks it at a playdate. And somewhere in the back of your mind, a question starts to form: is something wrong with him? Nothing is. He's just being asked to do something he isn't built for - yet. In this episode, I break down the real difference between turn-taking and sharing — two skills that get talked about like they're the same thing, but develop on completely different timelines. You'll learn: Why turn-taking can start as early as 12 months — long before real sharing is even possible The honest age-by-age timeline for when turn-taking, and eventually sharing, actually shows up (it's later than most people think) Why genuine sharing doesn't reliably emerge until somewhere after your child's third birthday How to use the Three P's from episode 161 to build this skill at home Why what gets called "bad behavior" is often just a brain still under construction This one also gets personal. Almost forty years into this work, I share what the last three decades have actually taught me about the systems built to manage a room of toddlers — not to understand your individual child. New here? I'm Erin Hyer, a speech-language pathologist, with almost forty years working with toddlers and the families raising them. This episode builds on episode 161 (The Three P's) and episode 162 (Joint Attention) — you don't need to have heard those first, but they'll fill in the fuller picture. Grab the FREE one-page Turn-Taking & Sharing Timeline Next week - episode 164 - we’ll sort through why some toddlers can settle in and focus - while others can't get there at all — and it has a lot less to do with willpower or personality than you'd think. Helpful links: ▶ Watch Talking Toddlers on YouTube: Click HERE 📘 Download Erin’s free guide: 10 Essential Skills Before Talking 💬 Learn about parent coaching or schedule a Clarity Call: CLICK HERE TO CONNECT 🌿 Visit Hyer Learning: www.HyerLearning.com Educational and coaching information only. This episode is not a substitute for an individual speech-language, developmental, behavioral, or medical evaluation.