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Stop Telling Your Toddler to Share --Teach This Instead. Ep 163

Tuesday · 32 min · Season 4 · Episode 163 · 23.7 MB
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Your toddler snatches a toy. The daycare flags it. 

Another mom clocks it at a playdate. And somewhere in the back of your mind, a question starts to form: is something wrong with him?

Nothing is. He's just being asked to do something he isn't built for - yet.

In this episode, I break down the real difference between turn-taking and sharing — two skills that get talked about like they're the same thing, but develop on completely different timelines.

You'll learn:

  • Why turn-taking can start as early as 12 months — long before real sharing is even possible
  • The honest age-by-age timeline for when turn-taking, and eventually sharing, actually shows up (it's later than most people think)
  • Why genuine sharing doesn't reliably emerge until somewhere after your child's third birthday
  • How to use the Three P's from episode 161 to build this skill at home
  • Why what gets called "bad behavior" is often just a brain still under construction

This one also gets personal. Almost forty years into this work, I share what the last three decades have actually taught me about the systems built to manage a room of toddlers — not to understand your individual child.

New here? I'm Erin Hyer, a speech-language pathologist, with almost forty years working with toddlers and the families raising them. 

This episode builds on episode 161 (The Three P's) and episode 162 (Joint Attention) — you don't need to have heard those first, but they'll fill in the fuller picture.

Grab the FREE one-page Turn-Taking & Sharing Timeline

Next week - episode 164 - we’ll sort through why some toddlers can settle in and focus - while others can't get there at all — and it has a lot less to do with willpower or personality than you'd think.

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Educational and coaching information only. This episode is not a substitute for an individual speech-language, developmental, behavioral, or medical evaluation.