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Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

A.J. Mahari

A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.

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Saturday · 1 hr 28 min
BPD Ex’s What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not.
BPD Exws What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not? BPD Exes what is the pathway to healing? It is not merely researching and "understanding" Borderline Personality Disorder. That canactually become a block to your healing and recovery process....
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S10 · E195
August 16 · 1 hr 14 min
In BPD Relationships Do Codependents Over Function
Do Codependents over-function in BPD relationships or emotionally, in life, generally? The odd person/professional out there claims, yes, that's what's going on. No, it's not what is going on for anyone with Codependency. People with Codependency are...
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May 10 · 1 hr 7 min
BPD Joint Therapy Fantasy BPD Right Fighting Pathological Lying vs Your Eggshell Walking
BPD Joint Therapy Fantasy BPD Right-Fighting & Pathological Lying vs Your Eggshell-Walking BPD joint therapy doesn’t work and is a fantasy bonded nightmare of Borderline victim/martyr cs your Codependent walking on eggshells and trauma bond...
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S10 · E190
April 8 · 32 min
BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do_
BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do? BPD Negative Behavior - You can’t confront it. You may have unsuccessfully tried endless times. It increases your suffering each time, but to not say anything will increase your suffering...
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S10 · E192
April 5 · 59 min
High Functioning Borderlines in Careers vs Relationships
High Functioning BPD in Careers vs Relationships How can a person diagnosed with BPD and with many active Borderline traits, behaviour etc in a relationship possibly function in careers, and often be or be becoming Social Workers and Psychologists?...
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February 28 · 59 min
Co-Parenting or Paralell Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster
Co-Pareting or Parallel Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster Co-Parenting or Parallel parenting with a BPD - Borderline Personality Disordered Ex is for so many people, a nightmare. Not all BPD parents are the same, but, many, many of them...
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S10 · E190
February 3 · 47 min
BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future
BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future Many people who have been in short term or long term relationships with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder experience a BPD sudden discard of monkey branching that just crushes you and...
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S10 · E189
January 18 · 27 min
The Glass Borderline "H*mpty D*mpty" No Real Self
The Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty' No Real Self BPD Breakups and Codependent BPD Exes endless "what if's' in the confusion, losing of yourself, the rumination, the cognitive dissonance and the constant "how could he/she do this?" "What did I do...
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S10 · E188
Dec 21, 2025 · 25 min
Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes
Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exe s is a trauma-informed podcast focused on understanding reactive abuse, emotional dysregulation, and the complex relationship dynamics that can occur with partners or ex-partners affected by borderline...
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S10 · E187
Dec 6, 2025 · 48 min
Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love So many partners and ex-partners of people with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder mistake the early intensity for love—because it feels overwhelming, consuming, and deeply validating. In this episode, I...
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S10 · E186
Dec 5, 2025 · 23 min
BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage
BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage In this episode, we explore the misunderstood and often painful dynamic of Borderline hypersexuality—not as “promiscuity,” not as a moral failure, but as an attempt to self-soothe...
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S10 · E185
Oct 28, 2025 · 18 min
Why BPD Relationships Fail - Repetition Compulsions Projection and Projective Identification
Why BPD Relationships Fail - Repetition Compulsions Projection and Projective Identification In this episode, A.J. Mahari explains how unconscious repetition compulsions, projection, and BPD projective identification keep people with Borderline...
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S10 · E184
Oct 12, 2025 · 19 min
Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents
Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents When you try to talk to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and the conversation suddenly turns emotional, chaotic, or painful — you’re not communicating....
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S10 · E183
Oct 11, 2025 · 29 min
Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception
Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception Borderline Love is a looping trap of deception rooted in fantasy, betrayal, false hope, and trauma bonded dynamics of pseudo attachment and the Borderline idealization trap of deception (conscious or...
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S10 · E182
Sep 20, 2025 · 12 min
The Invisible Borderline Man Why Women Don't See Him Coming
The Invisible Borderline Man - Why Women Don't See Him Coming The invisible Borderline man. Why is he so invisible? Are men diagnosed properly enough with BPD - the answer is no. This doesn't help in many cases. Why do so many women fail to recognize...
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S9 · E181
Sep 15, 2025 · 16 min
Borderline Man Unmasked
Borderline man unmasked The Borderline Man Unmasked. Yes, men have BPD too! It is important that women learn more about the many ways the 'Borderline Man' does differ from women with BPD. There are many overlaps but men with BPD do often endanger...
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S9 · E180
Sep 15, 2025 · 12 min
The Broken BPD Man Fantasy
The Broken BPD Man Fantasy The Broken BPD Man Fantasy is very real for women. Yes, men have Borderline Personality Disorder too! Countless numbers of women suffer with men with BPD in those trauma bonded relationships. Gay men are also suffering in...
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S9 · E179
Sep 13, 2025 · 16 min
BPD Love Legacy of Doubt 5 Reasons Why Closure is An Illusion
BPD Love Legacy of Doubt 5 Reasons Closure is An Illusion] BPD Love leaves a legacy of doubt. There are 5 main reasons why closure is an illusion during or after a BPD Breakup, ghos6 and/or discard. People who have been in a relationship or dating...
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S9 · E178
Sep 8, 2025 · 36 min
Quiet BPD 10 Reasons Why It Dsstroys Relationships
Quiet BPD 10 Reasons It Destroys Relationships Quiet BPD 10 reasons it destroys relationships. Often people in a relationship with someone with Quiet BPD, also known as the Discouraged BPD Subtype, it can take quite a while to understand that your...
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S9 · E177
Sep 6, 2025 · 33 min
10 Ways BPD Relationship Recycling Increases Your Suffering
10 Ways BPD Relationship Recycling Increases Your Suffering 10 ways that BPD relationship recycling actually strengthens your suffering and the trauma/fantast bond hurting you more and activating your nervous system over and over again in ways that...
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