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Sex in Space

Sex in Space is a podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.If sex is a subject that interests you, if you feel… (like most of us do) your education might have more than a few gaps in it, if you’re not sure you’re fully equipped to talk to the next generation, or you just feel like exploring some new points of view, awesome, you’ve reached somewhere that might interest you. Join us as we meet some earthly guests who may well introduce you to some alien concepts. If you want to hear about how porn shapes our desires, when sex needs therapy, or what it’s like to be a sex worker, you’re in the right place.Sometimes challenging, sometimes confronting, always enlightening. Buckle up.Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found.Reach out to us at: hello@sexinspace.comFollow us on instagram at: @sexinspacedotcomStalk us on Facebook at: @sexinspacedotcomFor more info, check out our website at: www.sexinspace.com

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#121
Monday · 58 min
A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Overcoming Early Ejaculation
In this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to chat with Michelle Fischler all about early ejaculation. Michelle recently published the book ‘Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer’, a practical, shame-aware guide that understands early ejaculation as a nervous system pattern, not a personal failure. Together, Toshi and Michelle discussed: The difference between early ejaculation and premature ejaculation The biological drive behind early ejaculation Why addressing shame before technique is so important How masturbation practices impact early ejaculation Tips for managing early ejaculation How to talk about early ejaculation with a partner And more. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:22 – Who is Michelle and what does she do? 01:26 – Why you should listen to this podcast 02:26 – What’s the reason Michelle wanted to write a book about early ejaculation? 07:18 – The way you feel about early ejaculation matters: here’s why 09:17 – Early ejaculation vs premature ejaculation: what’s the difference? 10:32 – The biological drive behind early ejaculation 12:03 – Why unlearning shame around early ejaculation has to happen before bringing in techniques 15:30 – Shame vs guilt: how are they different? 18:25 – Tips for turning down the volume on shame 21:45 – Advice if you’re avoiding sex because of early ejaculation 27:55 – How masturbation impacts early ejaculation 31:20 – How breathing exercises can help early ejaculation (and how to do them) 37:09 – What can cause early ejaculation? 39:05 – How to talk about early ejaculation with a partner 42:00 – Why you should be cuddling with your partner for six minutes after sex 44:42 – What does Michelle think of numbing creams? 47:09 – What you and a partner should know about early ejaculation 50:40 – Why the goal is not perfect control (and what the goal actually should be) 51:44 – Why has it taken so long for a book like this to be written? 55:48 – What people think of the book (and why you should grab a copy!) Check out Michelle here: https://www.michellefischler.ca/ Grab a copy of her book here: https://getsome.ca/coming-soon-book Read more about Michelle’s podcast here: https://getsome.ca/ Michelle Fischler, MSW, RSW, RP, is a Toronto-based Registered Psychotherapist, Registered Social Worker, ASTO-certified sex therapist and supervisor, author, speaker, and founder of GETSOME INC. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#120
July 29 · 38 min
How to Talk About What You Want in Bed: Top Tips for Better Sex
Lillian Frances is a pop star, rock climber, and author of the cheeky guide "Finger Banging for Climber Boys". In this episode, Toshi spoke with Lillian all about how to talk about what you want in bed, advice for pre-hookup check-ins and sexy ways to set boundaries, as well as why you should know more about female anatomy if you want to have better sex. Find more of Lillian (and her book) here. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:47 – What is finger banging for climber boys? 01:51 – Why this book is a trojan horse (in the best way) 03:22 – How asking questions makes you so much better in bed 07:23 – Why it’s important to talk about sex in your everyday life 12:12 – Asking for consent is sexy: here’s why 19:41 – Advice for a pre-hookup check-in 21:25 – The difference between opt in vs opt out consent (and why one leads to better sex) 27:18 – Try this if you want a fun, sexy way to set boundaries 30:33 – What you should know about the female anatomy to have better sex 33:39 – Why you should read Lillian’s book ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available here to download or buy. Follow us here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For more info, find us on our website! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#119
June 24 · 42 min
Exploring Asexuality in Relationships: Untangling Romance and Sex
On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Sarah and Cam all about asexuality. Sarah (whose artist name is Vōx), is a musician and writer on Substack, and Cam is a creative producer, a curator and creator of time and space. We came across Sarah and Cam after reading an article in the Guardian written about their relationship and how they’ve embraced Sarah’s asexuality. Toshi had the opportunity to talk with them both about: What asexuality and compulsory heterosexuality is How Sarah came to understand she’s asexual What it was like for both Sarah and Cam to embrace Sarah’s asexuality Common misconceptions about what it means to be asexual How neurodivergence is connected to this conversation Thoughts on decoupling romance from sex And more. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ You can check out Sarah’s Substack here: https://itsmevox.substack.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#118
May 27 · 49 min
Divorce Isn’t a Failure: An Amicable Guide to Splitting Up
On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Kate Daly, one of England’s leading experts on divorce, separation relationships and family law reform. Kate is the co-founder of amicable, the leading online divorce services company, and the co-founder and host of ‘The Divorce Podcast’. Together they had a conversation about why we need to change the narrative around divorce, advice for anyone navigating a separation or divorce, why communication is key – and how to be better at it – and a practical guide to divorce without the drama. Find amicable here. Check out Kate’s book here. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:00 – Kate Daly’s experience with divorce 05:06 – We need to change the narrative: divorce is not a failure 08:38 – Why it’s important to acknowledge the emotional journey behind divorce 13:24 – Advice for navigating a separation or divorce 19:11 – What can divorce teach us about ourselves, and relationships? 22:37 – Two different questions: is it over, and should I leave? 25:39 – Why maintaining your identity is key to relationship success 28:30 – Why communication is key when it comes to navigating a divorce amicably (and how to be better at it) 34:33 – A practical guide to divorce without the drama 42:40 – One thing you should know about starting over ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#117
May 6 · 48 min
A Holistic Take on the Health of Your Penis, with Dr. Amy Pearlman
On this episode of the podcast, Tim chatted with board certified urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman about all things men’s health, including the health of your penis. Dr. Pearlman specialises in male sexual and hormonal health, and is fellowship trained in male genitourinary reconstruction, male infertility, and prosthetics. Although she is trained as a surgeon, Dr. Pearlman’s primary mission is to educate people on the basics of their bodies, encourage healthy behaviours to optimise health and help people live their most authentic lives. Together, Tim and Dr. Pearlman spoke about: Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor How testosterone impacts men’s health Her health tip for young men How much growth you can get from penile filler, and why men get it Advice for men looking to get penile filler And more. You can find more of Dr. Amy here: https://pearlmanmds.com/amy-pearlman-md/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro. 00:55 – What does Dr Amy Pearlman do? 04:35 – Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor. 09:00 – How testosterone impacts men’s health. 16:09 – Why do men get penile enhancement? 24:18 – How much growth can you get from penile filler? 27:16 – What does a ‘normal’ penis look like – does it even exist? 31:36 – Why Dr Pearlman doesn’t start the conversation talking about penis size. 33:34 – Does filler show up more when the penis is flaccid or erect? 39:39 – Advice for men looking to get penile filler. 42:40 – What makes Dr Pearlman’s practice different. 46:59 – Where to find more about Dr Pearlman. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#116
April 15 · 43 min
How to Heal Sexual Shame: A Sex Educator’s Guide to Speaking Your Desires
In this episode, Toshi sat down with Jocelyn Silva to talk all things sexual shame. Jocelyn grew up in a conservative, Spanish-speaking Catholic home in Los Angeles, California. She attended Catholic school, went to weekly confession, and dreamed of becoming a nun at 16 - her entire world revolved around faith. But that faith also taught her to see her body and desires as sinful, leaving her ashamed and feeling disconnected from herself. When she was 18 and had sex for the first time, this sent her on a different journey. By 21, Jocelyn was a sex educator. She earned a degree in Gender and Women’s Studies, ran a sexual wellness boutique for 4 years, and later completed her Master’s in Social Work. Over 15 years in this field and now 6 years coaching women, men, and couples, she’s learned that our sexuality is not something to be ashamed of – it’s where our power lives. Together, Toshi and Jocelyn discussed: Jocelyn’s journey from wanting to be a nun, to becoming a sex expert How she unlearned sexual shame (and how you can too) Tips for feeling more confident speaking your desires in the bedroom Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip (and it’s not communication) How Jocelyn reconnected with her faith The conversation you need to be having early on in your relationship Find more of Jocelyn here: https://www.jocelynsilva.com/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:46 – How Jocelyn's life plan went from nun, to sex expert 02:42 – Jocelyn's journey unlearning sexual shame 04:34 – The early messages around sex that follow us into adulthood 06:27 – Tips for unlearning sexual shame 11:56 – How to feel more confident expressing your sexual desires as a woman 18:37 – Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip 22:04 – What Jocelyn learned from being a cheater 24:33 – How to sit in discomfort 32:08 – How Jocelyn relearned faith 34:55 – Why you need clarity before a sexual experience 38:22 – The conversation you should have early on in your relationship 41:45 – Where to find more of Jocelyn Silva ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#115
March 11 · 47 min
Find Out How Sex Toys Can Help You Talk About Sex: Rewriting Your Body Script to Be Shame-Free
In this episode, Toshi sat down with Sanja Zündorf, the founder of entzück dich selbst. For a long time, Sanja thought she was the only woman who masturbated – it wasn’t something she spoke about with her friends, even though they were very open in talking about sex. She began researching this topic in 2019 and realised how many women know very little about their bodies, as well as how many women are ashamed of masturbating, and the way they masturbate. Sanja found in her survey that rubbing against pillows was a very popular method of masturbation but also associated with a lot of shame. Her mission is all about destigmatising masturbation and one of the ways she does this is by designing and selling a collection of sex toys specifically designed for pillow humping. In this episode, Toshi and Sanja spoke about: Practical tips for how you can start to feel less shame about masturbation Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act How the language we speak can shape our feelings towards our bodies and pleasure And why your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!). Find Sanja and her work here: https://entzueckdichselbst.com/de Check out Sanja on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/entzueckdichselbst/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro. 00:58 – Who is Sanja and what does she do? 01:51 – What makes Sanja’s sex toy different to others on the market? 04:09 – Unpacking shame: Sanja’s early relationship with masturbation. 06:54 – How Sanja helps others feel okay about self-pleasure. 08:49 – How to feel less shame about masturbation. 11:35 – Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act. 14:42 – What do people think of pillow humping saddles? 21:06 – Why this sex toy is a self-love statement. 22:24 – How our language can contribute to our shame around masturbation. 30:09 – The importance of teaching kids the anatomically correct terms for their body parts 31:20 – Where you can see the saddles in person. 35:59 – Is using a phallic toy feminist? 39:12 – Your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!). 45:15 – Where you can find more about Sanja and her work (and how you can participate). ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#114
February 8 · 57 min
Rethinking Virginity, Sexiness and All the Ways We Make Love
On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Hollie McNish, an award-winning poet, writer and performer. Together they had a conversation Hollie’s latest book, ‘Virgin’. It's a six-letter word that holds such incredible power - the power to pressure, to judge, to harm, to praise, to profit, to punish. But virginity is also just a concept, a label that has been pressed upon people for centuries in numerous cultures worldwide. In ‘Virgin’, Hollie McNish unpicks the role this word has played in her own life, as well as others. 00:00 – Intro 01:04 – Who’s Hollie McNish? – Why you need to know! 01:41 – What inspired Hollie to write ‘Virgin’? 05:29 – What’s virginity got to do with purple carrots? 08:22 – The problem with ‘body count’. 12:54 – What does it mean to be sexy? 28:16 – How media shapes the way we think, feel and see the world. 34:11 – We can stop apologising! 41:07 – Social media’s not all bad – here's why. 45:43 – The ways we make love in real life. 49:25 – Time to get comfortable talking about sex, and why. 56:21 – Where to find Hollie and her work. Check out Hollie here: https://www.holliepoetry.com/ https://www.instagram.com/holliepoetry/?hl=en Find 'Virgin' here: https://www.bookbaruk.com/product-page/virgin-by-hollie-mcnish ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#113
January 23 · 42 min
Music as Resistance and Healing: Willis Chimano on How Art Has the Power to Create Change
Willis Austin Chimano, known simply as Chimano, is formally a key member of Africa’s biggest band Sauti Sol. Hailing from Nairobi Kenya, Chimano, through the frequency of grace, love and discernment now embarks on a solo career designed to set the world on fire through his music, product lines and advocacy. Chimano is celebrated for his deep baritone voice, dynamic stage presence, and distinct fashion sense. His first solo EP "Heavy is the Crown" highlights Chimano's vocal prowess and his ability to blend different musical styles, including pop, soul, and electronic influences. The EP has been well-received by fans and critics alike, noting Chimano's bold step in expressing his individuality and exploring new artistic territories. Chimano is known for his bold fashion choices, often seen in flamboyant and stylish outfits that challenge traditional norms. He has been an advocate for self-expression and individuality, inspiring many fans to embrace their unique identities. In a landmark moment for his personal life and the LGBTQ+ community in Kenya, Chimano publicly came out as gay in 2021. His openness about his sexuality has been a significant step toward breaking down barriers and challenging societal norms in a region where LGBTQ+ rights are often underrepresented. Chimano's influence extends beyond music. His advocacy for self-expression and his courage in sharing his personal journey have made him a role model for many. Through his solo work, he continues to inspire and entertain, leaving a lasting impact on the African music scene and beyond. Find more of Chimano here: https://www.willischimano.com/ Check him out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willis.chimano/?hl=en We asked Chimano which song he’d like us to play alongside this podcast episode. Here is ‘Beautiful Day,’ his song of choice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DICz0wi8RU Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:36 – Who is Chimano? 01:54 – Being a part of Sauti Sol 04:15 – Chimano’s experience of coming out publicly 12:40 – Rethinking his identity as an artist 21:13 – The importance of a positive mindset and how to achieve it 26:43 – Reflecting on your Chimano’s childhood relationship with music 34:30 – Chimano's message to young queer people in Africa 37:29 – What’s next for Chimano 42:23 – Outro ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#112
Dec 5, 2025 · 41 min
Why Showing Adolescence in Schools Is a Miss – and What Works Instead
In this episode, Toshi sat down with Issy from Our Streets Now to talk about why showing Adolescence in schools isn’t a good idea – as well as some alternatives. Our Streets Now is a UK based organisation that is looking to end public sexual harassment. It was founded in 2019 by two teenage sisters, sharing how they experienced the world as young women. They spoke about feeling afraid walking home at night. About being harassed in their school uniform. About how their lives were restricted by the fear of public sexual harassment. And about how this was an everyday reality for millions of women, girls and people of marginalised genders up and down the country. They began a petition to make public sexual harassment (PSH) a criminal offence. Within 100 days, that petition had over 100,000 signatures. It now sits at almost half a million. It caught the attention of local media, then national media, then policymakers at the heart of government. And, in 2023, the five year campaign to make PSH a crime was a success. Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 00:55 – What is Our Streets Now and what do they do? 03:20 – All about the workshops run by Our Streets Now about sexual harassment 07:06 – How different genders respond differently to these workshops 10:23 – How to get students involved in difficult conversations about sexual harassment 13:43 – What do young people want to know? 18:40 – How we are all part of the problem 25:24: The ‘little and often’ approach – and why it’s so useful 26:54 – Should Adolescence be shown in schools as a learning resource? 31:14 – The alternative to showing Adolescence in schools 34:25 – How can parents and carers support these conversations? 37:41 – Issy's message to young people 39:13 – Where to find out more about Our Streets Now 40:50 – Conclusion Find out more about Our Streets Now: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/ Our Streets Now support: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/support Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#111
Oct 12, 2025 · 38 min
The UK’s Oldest Dominatrix: Mistress Sofia on confidence, consent, and why seeing a dominatrix can be good for your health
In this episode, Toshi spoke with Mistress Sofia, the UK’s oldest dominatrix. Together they had a conversation about what it means to be a dominatrix, how Mistress Sofia got into this work, common misconceptions and what she’s learned in her time being a dominatrix. Check out more of Mistress Sofia here: https://www.mistress-sofia.co.uk/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:47 – Who is Mistress Sofia? 01:20 – What does it mean to be a dominatrix? 02:12 – How did Mistress Sofia get started in this work? 04:05 – Why does Mistress Sofia not use the world ‘client’? 05:03 – How do people serve Mistress Sofia? 06:58 – Is Mistress Sofia a sex worker? 08:48 – “I always ask what their kinks are” 10:06 – Caning is not as simple as it looks 12:16 – For new dominatrixes: learn from Mistress Sofia 13:20 – What does it mean to be dominant? 14:58 – Mistress Sofia on confidence 16:24 – “You cannot do this for the money” 17:23 – What does Mistress Sofia love about her job? 19:13 – What is a lifestyle slave? 20:19 – When did Mistress Sofia realise she was dominant? 21:59 – Mistress Sofia’s message to women 23:14 – How does being 75 impact her work? 24:54 – Is seeing a dominatrix while you’re in a relationship considered cheating? 27:00 – Why seeing a dominatrix can be a kind of therapy 29:30 – Navigating shame 33:07 – Final thoughts 34:58 – Mistress Sofia’s thoughts on findoms 36:16 – Why Mistress Sofia doesn’t work with women 36:44 – Goals for the future 37:59 – Where to find more of Mistress Sofia ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#110
Sep 14, 2025 · 59 min
Inside the Manosphere: The Cultural Gap the Manosphere Fills
For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to have a conversation with Will Adolphy, a former manosphere insider turned therapist. Will is a psychotherapist, educator, and speaker specialising in men’s mental health, masculinity, and emotional wellbeing. He leads M-Path, delivering talks and workshops to schools across the UK on masculinity, empathy, and the online world influencing boys. Will also hosts regular online parent + staff sessions for anyone interested in understanding the manosphere and how to approach conversations with boys more deeply. Find him on Instagram @psychwill. Check out Will’s website here: https://www.willadolphy.com/. Trigger warning: mention of rape, suicide. In this episode, we discuss: Will’s story: how he was drawn into the manosphere and why online masculinity influencers attract young men. The scale of the issue: why this content is so widespread and influential. Inside the manosphere: Will’s experience with anti-feminist, anti-woke spaces. Engaging young men: how we can create safer, more open conversations about masculinity. A deeper problem: the manosphere as a symptom of society’s lack of support for men. Recovery steps: from self-empathy to accountability partners and honest dialogue. Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 01:02 – Who is Will Adolphy? 03:06 – What drew Will to online masculinity influencers and why are they so appealing to young men and boys? 10:07 – How big is this issue? 12:05 – Will's experience of the manosphere 14:51 – How can we engage young men in this conversation? 17:31 – The manosphere isn’t the problem: it’s a symptom of the problem 19:00 – The difficulty of opening up as a man 21:22 – How was Will impacted by this masculinity content? 26:29 – The importance of having empathy for yourself 28:27 – What created the big shift for Will 33:53 – Will's step by step process for recovery 38:08 – How to find an accountability partner 39:45 – The importance of having open conversations 48:44 – What Will would want his younger self to know 53:34 – How do we become men? 58:36 – Conclusion ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#109
Aug 22, 2025 · 55 min
Boys Won’t Be Boys: They’ll Be Who We Help Them Become
In this conversation, Daniel Guinness, co-founder and managing director of Beyond Equality, discusses the importance of engaging young boys and men in conversations about gender equality and mental health. He talks about his personal journey into this work, the organisation’s initiatives, and the impact of their programs on the boys and men who participate. Daniel emphasises the need for safe spaces for discussion, the importance of reframing how we see rejection, and advice for men who are trying to make new friends after a move. TW: mention of self-harm. Check out Beyond Equality here: https://www.beyondequality.org/ Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond_equality Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 00:56 – Who is Dan Guinness and how did he get started in this space? 08:28 – What does Beyond Equality do and who do they work with? 12:56 – How do boys and men of different ages respond to these conversations? 15:22 – Working with a men's pie-making group 16:47 – Why you can’t do Beyond Equality’s work via powerpoint or podcast 19:06 – How do boys and men feel about Beyond Equality’s workshops? 24:33 – How societal structures prevent us from connecting with others 25:41 – Talking with boys and men who are resistant to these topics 31:26 – Why it’s a good thing to change your mind 32:37 – What has Dan learned from this work? 39:17 – Advice for young men trying to create friends after a move 46:38 – Reframing rejection for men 50:57 – Dan's message to young men – you're not the only one 52:55 – How you can support Beyond Equality ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#108
Aug 1, 2025 · 50 min
The Man Who Came Out to a Nation: The Legacy of Roger Butler
In today’s episode, we were lucky enough to talk with Christopher Stephens and Louise Radnofsky, authors of ‘The Light of Day: The first man to come out at the dawn of gay liberation.’ This book is the story of the first man to come out voluntarily, using his own name, to the entire British public. Toshi had a conversation with Christopher and Louise about Roger’s story and why he decided to come out publicly to all of Britain, as well as Christopher’s relationship to Roger. They also discussed why so many stories from gay men during this period have been lost, the similarities between the way that society treated gay and blind people at this time, the importance of intergenerational friendships amongst queer people, and Christopher and Louise’s take on what makes a life important. Find a copy of the book here: geni.us/TheLightOfDay Follow Christopher here: https://www.instagram.com/cwbstephens/ Check out Louise here: https://www.instagram.com/louiseradnofsky/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 00:45 – Intro to Christopher and Louise 02:36 – What is the book ‘The Light of Day’ about? 05:35 – Deciding on how these stories would be woven together 08:16 – How have people responded to the book so far? 10:40 – Do you know Raymond Gregson or Robert G. Moorcroft? 12:58 – Why have so many stories from gay men during this time been lost? 15:25 – What was it like for Christopher to read letters from Roger after his death? 18:44 – The similarities between society’s treatment of gay and blind people 21:51 – Intergenerational friendships amongst queer people 27:29 – The special nature of this audiobook 30:52 – Why did Roger Butler decide to come out publicly to all of Britain? 36:13 – Why you should read ‘The Light of Day’ 39:49 – Reflecting on changes in law and society when it comes to homosexuality 43:17 – Where can you find a copy of ‘The Light of Day’? 45:26 – What makes a life important? 48:54 – Conclusion ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#107
Jul 19, 2025 · 48 min
The Astronaut Lovers: Director Marco Berger on his Approach to Filmmaking
Today we’re really excited to bring you a conversation with Marco Berger, an Argentinian film-maker, for a conversation about one of his latest works, which is the queer romcom ‘The Astronaut Lovers’. Together, Tim and Marco discuss why Marco never reads reviews, what it means to follow your dreams, and why he believes cinema is an illusion. They also talk about his next project, his creative process and advice for upcoming filmmakers. Whether you’re a filmmaker yourself, a dreamer, or just curious about queer cinema that challenges norms, this episode is for you. Find more of Marco Berger here: https://www.instagram.com/marcobergercine/?hl=en Explore his films on Mubi: https://mubi.com/en/cast/marco-berger Read about Marco and ‘The Astronaut Lovers’ in The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/mar/26/director-marco-berger-interview-queer-romcom-the-astronaut-lovers Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer and intro 01:41 – What inspired ‘The Astronaut Lovers’? 07:44 – Why Marco doesn't read reviews about his films 14:02 – Why you should always follow your dreams 16:52 – Why the cinema is a lie 21:56 – Can you separate the artist from the art? 23:37 – Marco's next project 27:07 – All about Marco’s creative process 32:24 – Where can you watch ‘The Astronaut Lovers’? 39:51 – Advice for upcoming filmmakers 45:26 – Final thoughts and where you can find Marco ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#106
Jun 26, 2025 · 48 min
Are Marriages Meant to Last? An Expert Weighs In
In this episode, Jane and Dr Bonnie Comfort explore what makes love last - from managing desire, resentment, and mismatched expectations to unpacking how porn, childhood, and power dynamics shape our relationships. They discuss why falling in love is easy but staying in love takes daily effort, how to navigate conflict with humor, and what a real apology looks like. Plus, we look at the surprising lessons from ‘Babygirl,’ why people watch porn for more than just pleasure, and whether marriages are truly meant to last. Dr. Bonnie Comfort has been a practicing psychologist for 30 years. She has an MSW from the University of Manitoba and a PhD in psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology Los Angeles. Her novel, “Denial,” a psychological thriller from Simon & Schuster, was published in eight countries and translated into five languages. As an expert on marital therapy, she has been a guest multiple times on podcasts about marriage and has taken extensive workshops with marital and sex experts like Terrence Real, David Schnarch, John Gottman, and Marty Klein. She currently lives in Portland, Oregon, with her long-time partner, Douglas Covey, MD. Find out more about Dr. Bonnie at http://bonniecomfort.com. Check out her book, ‘Staying Married is the Hardest Part’: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/staying-married-is-the-hardest-part-bonnie-comfort/1146385315 Timestamps 00:00 – Trailer 00:38 – Why falling in love is easy, but staying in love is a daily practice 05:41 – Can you change your partner? 08:07 - Managing different desires 11:51 - How our expectations of sex and bodies are shaped by porn 16:35 - Why do people watch porn? 18:53 - What ‘Babygirl’ can teach us about sex and relationships 21:24 - How to work through resentment in a relationship 24:15 - How do childhood experiences impact our relationships? 28:46 – Understanding power imbalances in a relationship 32:25 - How do you know if a relationship needs work, or is fundamentally broken? 35:14 - This is the formula for a great apology 37:19 - Recovering from affairs in a relationship 39:46 - Are marriages meant to last? 43:18 – Here's something a therapist wants you to know 44:25 - What Dr Bonnie wishes was included in sex ed 46:42 – Dr Bonnie’s sexiest song 47:20 – Conclusion ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#105
Jun 12, 2025 · 35 min
Understanding Image-Based Sexual Abuse, Deepfakes & the Law
In this episode, we had a conversation with Professor Clare McGlynn, a law professor and expert on violence against women and girls, about image-based sexual abuse. In this episode, we discuss: What image-based sexual abuse is and why you should use this term rather than ‘revenge porn’ Who is impacted by image-based sexual abuse The role of Google and tech platforms in the rise of deepfake sexual abuse Where to seek help if you’re a victim, and what you can do if you’re worried someone might share your nudes Why deepfake detection tools work better on images of men And what you can do as a listener to support this work Clare McGlynn is a Professor of Law at Durham University in the UK, with expertise in the legal regulation of sexual violence, pornography and online abuse, particularly cyberflashing and image-based sexual abuse (taking, creating and sharing intimate images without consent). She works closely with policy-makers, victim-survivors and the voluntary sector to shape law and policy reforms, as well as with social media and other companies to improve their policies. In 2020, Clare was appointed an Honorary KC (King’s Counsel) in recognition of her work championing women’s equality in the legal profession and shaping new criminal laws on extreme pornography and image-based sexual abuse. Find more of Professor Clare McGlynn here: https://www.claremcglynn.com/ Find her on social: https://bsky.app/profile/claremcglynn.bsky.social https://www.instagram.com/claremcglynn_/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-mcglynn-32b898238/ Check out the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign here: https://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk/new-campaign-experts-call-for-image-based-abuse-law/ Sign the petition to stop image-based abuse: https://chng.it/dgY7sbkqTP Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 00:27 – How Clare McGlynn got into this work 01:50 – Revenge porn vs image-based sexual abuse 03:10 – Who is most at risk? 04:11 – The invisible threat of image-based sexual abuse 06:01 – What laws are in place to protect against this? 08:33 – How tech platforms have contributed to the rise of deepfake sexual abuse 12:10 – The conversations we need to be having with young people 13:55 – About the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign 16:33 – What to do if you’re a victim of image-based sexual abuse 18:40 – Why have we been so slow to address this issue? 21:12 – What Clare wants you to understand about image-based sexual abuse 23:27 – Why we should stop calling it ‘deepfake porn’ - and what to say instead 27:00 – Why deepfake detection tech works better on images of men 30:18 – What you can do as a listener to help support this work 31:31 – Positive accomplishments in this work 33:09 – Do this if you’re worried someone might share your nudes 34:59 – Conclusion Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#104
Jun 5, 2025 · 51 min
How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis: A Guide from a Women's Health Expert
Kate Muir is a women’s health expert and campaigner, documentary maker, and author of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’, as well as groundbreaking books on the menopause and the pill. We had a conversation about: Why HRT has such a bad reputation - and why it's actually a wonder drug for women Tips for advocating for your health needs with a doctor Vaginal estrogen, and why it's like Chanel for your vulva Advice for regaining sexual confidence Women and wine (and Kate's personal story) How age bias impacts women And more. The smart guide that every midlife woman needs to read … ‘A midlife crisis is a magnificent moment, and nobody should miss out on it. We need to reframe this time of questioning for a new generation of women who want to revive and thrive for longer. We must reclaim the midlife crisis from madmen with red sports cars - and make the space our own.’ Kate’s investigations into women’s health ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause’ and ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Pill’ are out in paperback. She pitched and produced two award-winning menopause documentaries, ‘Davina McCall: Sex, Myths and the Menopause’ and ‘Sex, Mind and the Menopause’ for Channel 4 current affairs, which ignited a massive menopause conversation in the UK. Her most recent documentary was ‘Pill Revolution’ investigating contraceptive chaos. Kate was chief film critic of The Times for seven years, and is the author of three novels. She is an expert public speaker on women’s health, the menopause and contraception, and an activist for The Menopause Charity. Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/ Grab a copy of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’ which is out TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.co.uk/books/How-to-Have-a-Magnificent-Midlife-Crisis/Kate-Muir/9781398525504 Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 00:43 – Who is Kate Muir? 01:32 – Kate’s latest book: ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’ 05:27 – Why does HRT have such a bad reputation? 08:35 – What you really need to know about HRT and its long-term health impacts 13:30 – Tips for advocating for your needs with a doctor 16:34 – Vaginal estrogen: Chanel for your vulva 21:33 – How to regain sexual confidence 23:04 – Why testosterone is so important for women 26:30 – Digital detox 29:50 – Women and wine 34:47 – How is divorce connected to perimenopause and menopause? 38:09 – How age bias impacts women 43:07 – Kate’s psychedelic adventure 49:56 – Final message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#103
May 29, 2025 · 47 min
Sex Ed for Guys: How a TikTok Project Is Rethinking Sex Ed
In this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with some of the team behind the TikTok account, Sex Ed for Guys. Sex Ed for Guys is a sex ed project by Colby College students researching privilege at elite all-boys schools. Toshi spoke with two Colby students – Christopher and Conor – and Professor Adam Howard, who are all involved in the project. Together, they had a conversation about: How the project started and who it reaches What their creative process is like, and the research that informs each video What kind of response people have to their content The real-world conversations sparked by the project How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere Adam Howard, Ed.D, is the Charles A. Dana Professor of Education and Chair of the Education Department at Colby College. For over two decades, Howard has researched elite schools around the world, peeling back the layers of how privilege works through their daily practices, relations, structures, and policies. Employing a collaborative approach in most of his major studies, he teams up with privileged young people to make insider’s knowledge of how privilege works within elite schools more evident. Find Sex Ed for Guys on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedforguys Check out more about the research here: https://privilegedbrotherhoods.org/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 00:59 – Introducing the team behind Sex Ed for Guys 02:41 – What is Sex Ed for Guys? 05:45 – Who is watching Sex Ed for Guys? 07:50 – What kind of response is the team getting to this work? 09:40 – What is the process to creating these videos? 13:13 – The video about female pleasure that got the channel shadowbanned 17:13 – Some favourite videos from the channel 21:52 – How these videos create real life conversations 26:20 – How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere 29:22 – Why Sex Ed for Guys is so accessible for young people 34:06 – Biggest learnings from this project ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
#102
May 22, 2025 · 32 min
On the House: The World’s First Free Period Products Paid for By Ads
Remy Tucker is the founder of On the House, an organisation that is working to ensure that every woman has access to period products. They achieve this by providing free, sustainable sanitary pads, funded through their unique advertising model. Remy leads On the House with a deep commitment to women's health and marketing innovation. As a former midwife, she has firsthand experience with the challenges women face in accessing essential menstrual products. This understanding sparked her desire to find a sustainable solution that would make these products available at no cost. On the House combines Remy's healthcare background with her marketing expertise to create a unique business model. By integrating advertising directly onto the product packaging, On the House provides free menstrual products while generating revenue. This innovative approach does more than solve a problem—it transforms the way solutions are delivered. Driven by a genuine passion to make a difference, Remy is dedicated to empowering women through accessible healthcare solutions. On the House is not just a business; it’s a reflection of her commitment to positive change, providing essential products one box at a time. Check out On the House here: https://onthehousegroup.com/ Together, we spoke about: What On the House is and how free pads are funded through ads Why Remy started On the House Why taking free period products helps everyone How the system actually works – and where you’ll be able to find these period products How you can support Remy’s mission and help end period poverty Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 00:25 – What is On the House? 01:08 – What motivated Remy to create On the House? 05:29 – Remy’s advice for anyone wanting to start a business 07:17 – How On the House donates to charity – while giving away free period products 09:29 – What kind of products are On the House offering? 10:45 – How does the system actually work? 12:51 – Why you should take free period products, even if you can afford them 14:15 – What kinds of brands are supporting On the House? 16:58 – Remy’s biggest challenges so far 19:52 – When and where is On the House launching? 21:24 – What are some of Remy’s biggest wins so far? 23:27 – What you can do to support On the House 25:06 – Who does period poverty impact? 28:28 – Remy’s final message to listeners 29:23 – What other businesses have used this model before? 31:56 - Conclusion ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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