Sapphic Sexology

low libido OR overwhelmed nervous system? Lesbian Bed Death Deep Dive

Get ur free present sex roadmap here What if what we commonly call "low libido" or "lesbian bed death" was actually a symptom of a nervous system overwhelmed by shame, conditioning and trauma? Listen to learn:-how the body and nervous system is playing out patterns from the past that block desire in the present (yes, even when you love her so much) -how to feel more desire and pleasure without overwhelming your body or pushing through -The process I teach all my clients that helps you get clear on exactly what you need to feel interested in sex again wanna work together? book your connection call here

the communication style that's ruining lesbian relationships

are you more "emotionally mature" or just using fancy words to hide your vulnerability? in this episode i cover: -why the rise of therapy speak is eroding intimacy -the 'flat stanley' effect and the emotional distance it creates in partnership -why Expansive Communication is the key to productive conversations that get your sex life back on track Feel called out in a good way or intrigued? Let's talk. :) book a connection call with me get the free pod series on how the feral effect creates deeper connection

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coming out of freeze after sexual trauma

Work with meAccess the Feral Effect hereLets normalize the freeze response so we can feel less shame and access more joy after sexual trauma.Listen for -what is happening in the body when Freeze happens, and why its not the same as "doing nothing" -How to gently come out of a freeze response -the next phase of healing after "survivor" that I want everyone to experience

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lesbian or trauma response? how to know

intimacy block quiz⁠ ⁠work with me⁠ trauma impacts you in all kinds of ways, what about your sexuality? listen for: -why this is question is a dead end, and actually helpful questions to help you understand and accept yourself no matter what you find

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Finding Confidence as a Femme Lesbian (Internalized Patriarchy Deep Dive)

Understand how trauma is blocking your intimacy Quiz Work with me If you've ever googled "how to dress like a lesbian" this is for you.Listen for how internalized homophobia and the patriarchy are behind your quest to look gay enough and how to develop real confidence and self acceptance.

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How To Make Coming Out Later Less Chaotic

TAKE THE FREE QUIZ Work with me Oh, the sweet chaos of burning it all down to start over. This ultimate guide to navigating your new queer dating life covers: -The mindset shift that is crucial to finding queer love -Why your dating skills with men don't transfer to women, and how to get lesbians to know you're gay too (without wrapping yourself in the rainbow flag) -the key to great lesbian sex (it's not what you think) I earned my late bloomer scars, and I'm passing the lessons on to you, friend. Here is everything I wish someone would have told me.

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Enjoying Lesbian Intimacy After Religious Trauma

⁠Intimacy Block Quiz⁠ ⁠Work With Me⁠ The aftermath of leaving a high control group as a queer person is something we don't talk about enough. I shed light on: -the control tactics that infiltrated my sex and relationships -why I once said, "I would have sex with a woman but I could never be in a relationship with one" -exploring thought crime -What is self monitoring and why its a harmful habit -and how I finally found self acceptance and joy in my body and in my queer intimacy This is my favorite episode yet! Share your experiences with religious dogma below so we can normalize our experiences.

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being submissive isn't anti-feminist

What does it mean when you want to submit in the bedroom, but not in your daily life? Are you enacting the patriarchy? Can you choose what turns you on? I challenge you to listen with curiosity and leave the judgement at the door. Book Your Connection Call Watch Masterclass

lesbian performance anxiety (how to make orgasm easier)

What happens when you're SO into her and you enjoy the way she touches you, but your orgasm feels elusive? Why can you cum on your own but not with a partner? Listen to find out: >the hidden meaning of struggling to orgasm >the wrong goal most people chase that makes orgasm more difficult and what to focus on instead >how to talk about it without your partner feeling blamed Links mentioned Masterclass: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/freebie Book a Connection Call with Me: https://calendly.com/daniebergstrom/discovery-call More about my work: sapphicsexologist.com

High Libido: Creating a thriving sex life with mismatched libidos PT. 2

How can you feel satisfied when your libido is higher than your partner's? What do you do when the tension of your sex life is affecting the rest of your relationship? How do you stop feeling like your high sex drive is a burden to your partner? Listen to this week's episode to learn: +Stop the cycle- how to stop feeling rejected and actually feel closer to your partner +Understanding desire: Learn how to collaborate with your partner instead of feeling like enemies on separate sides of the room. +Making intimacy appealing: How to initiate sexual connection in a way that feels pressure free and fun for both of you. LINKS MENTIONED: Get your Intimacy Check-Up: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/freebie Tell me how you navigate mismatched libidos: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/contact

10. how to help your partner with sexual trauma

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions What do you do when your partner tells you they have sexual trauma? You love them, but are scared of making it worse by doing something wrong. How do you help them feel safe? In this episode, I share the common, harmful dynamic couples fall into when one of them has experienced sexual trauma, and how to create a thriving relationship using a proven framework that helps your partner feel supported without losing yourself in the relationship. NOTE: if your partner's sexual trauma is interfering with their quality of life, encourage them to get support from a qualified professional, whether that's me or someone else. Book an intimacy check up here: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/book