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Relationsh!t Podcast

Marko & Steve

The weekly podcast, hosted by Marko and Steve is a vibrant and insightful exploration of dating and relationships through the lens of Black queer experiences. In each episode, they dive deep into the nuances of love, attraction, and intimacy while tackling the challenges and joys unique to the queer community. Marko and Steve bring their personal stories and lived experiences to the conversation, creating a safe, open space where listeners can relate, learn, laugh, and feel seen.

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  • 29 episodes
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  • Avg 1 hr 32 min
  • English

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  • S13 · E14
    June 10 · 1 hr 54 min

    Love Me, Love My Interests

    Got some sh!t to say? Do couples need to share the same interests to have a successful relationship? In this episode of the Relationsh!t Podcast, Marko and Steve, joined by retired podcast host Tony Critelli (@thecritellis), tackle the reality that even the strongest couples won't agree on everything. From hobbies and entertainment to travel preferences and social activities, they discuss how partners can navigate their differences without losing connection. The guys explore the importance of supporting your partner's passions, the difference between participation and appreciation, and why maintaining individual interests can actually make relationships healthier and more fulfilling. They also share their own experiences with liking—and sometimes not liking—the things their partner enjoys, while examining how couples can find balance between togetherness and independence. To wrap things up, Tony joins the guys to tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Steve on the Minoritea Report Podcast: Minoritea Report Podcast | Listen Here Support Ruben Tomas: Follow Him | @ruben_tomas Vote for Him | Johnny Depp presents The People’s Artist Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E13
    June 3 · 1 hr 45 min

    No Fats, No Fems

    Got some sh!t to say? This week on Relationsh!t, Marko and Steve dive into one of the most uncomfortable—and important—conversations happening in LGBTQ+ spaces today: the prejudice, judgment, and exclusion that can exist within our own community. Inspired by the release of No Fats, No Fems by Max Hovey (@max_hovey), the guys sit with Max to unpack the meaning behind one of the most infamous phrases in gay dating culture and explore the larger questions it raises about attraction, body image, masculinity, race, validation, and belonging. Whether you've experienced judgment, felt excluded, questioned your own assumptions, or simply want to better understand the complexities of queer community and dating culture, this episode offers a thoughtful and honest discussion about empathy, acceptance, and the ways we show up for one another. To wrap things up, Max joins the guys to tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Follow Max: Buy the Book | No Fats, No Fems: A Guide to Queer Empathy and Unpacking Prejudice On Instagram | @max_hovey Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E12
    May 27 · 1 hr 27 min

    Cuddle Bug

    Got some sh!t to say? This week, Marko and Steve are getting cuddly as they dive into the surprisingly important role cuddling plays in our dating lives and relationships. From casual hookups to long-term partnerships, physical affection can communicate comfort, safety, attraction, and connection in ways words often can't. The guys discuss why cuddling matters so much to our emotional and physical well-being, what science says happens in our brains when we cuddle, and why some people crave constant physical touch while others need their personal space after five minutes. They also break down popular cuddling positions, what they might reveal about personality and relationship dynamics, and whether being the big spoon or little spoon says anything about who you are. To wrap things up, the guys tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Articles: Psychology Today | 4 Reasons Couples Should Cuddle More Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E11
    May 20 · 1 hr 27 min

    Just Checking In pt. 2

    Got some sh!t to say? This week on Relationsh!t, Marko and Steve are skipping the research, ditching the structured topic, and just sitting down for a real conversation. No deep dives. No hot takes. No agenda. Just two friends checking in with each other about life as it’s happening right now. From dating and relationships to stress, routines, burnout, the state of the world, and the weird emotional weight everyone seems to be carrying lately, Marko and Steve talk candidly about what’s been on their minds — and how important it is to sometimes pause and reconnect without needing a “theme” or a perfectly packaged conversation. To wrap things up, the guys tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Marko on the Minoritea Report Podcast: Listen Here | Episode 380: Butter Pecan Brown Follow Minoritea on IG | @minoriteareport Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E10
    May 13 · 1 hr 38 min

    Lavender Marriages

    Got some sh!t to say? This week, Marko and Steve dive into the fascinating and often misunderstood world of lavender marriages — relationships historically formed to conceal someone’s sexuality in order to protect careers, reputations, family expectations, or personal safety. From Old Hollywood to everyday life decades ago, lavender marriages were often less about romance and more about survival in a society that left little room for LGBTQ+ people to live openly. The guys unpack why these arrangements became so prevalent, the emotional complexity behind them, and whether they were always as transactional as people assume. Were some built on genuine friendship, companionship, or even love in a different form? And now that LGBTQ+ acceptance is far more visible in today’s culture, do lavender marriages still exist — just under different labels or pressures? To wrap things up, the guys tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Articles: Psychology Today | The Return of Lavender Marriages Support Ruben Tomas: Follow Him | @ruben_tomas Vote for Him | Johnny Depp presents The People’s Artist Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E9
    May 6 · 1 hr 31 min

    Please and Thank You's

    Got some sh!t to say? Somewhere between the first date and settling into a routine, “please” and “thank you” tend to fall off. This week, Marko and Steve dig into the quiet shift from intentional politeness to comfortable carelessness—and whether that shift is harmless… or actually harmful. They unpack why basic manners aren’t just surface-level niceties, but signals of respect, appreciation, and effort. From early dating, where kindness can sometimes feel performative, to long-term relationships where familiarity can breed complacency, the guys explore how politeness evolves—and what it says about your connection. To wrap things up, the guys tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Articles: National Library of Medicine | Putting the "You" in "Thank You": Examining Other-Praising Behavior as the Active Relational Ingredient in Expressed Gratitude Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E8
    April 29 · 1 hr 52 min

    Switching Up Positions

    Got some sh!t to say? This week, Marko and Steve are getting real about the quiet pressure many people feel in the bedroom—specifically, the idea that “good sex” means constantly switching things up. Blame it on porn, hookup culture, or just plain insecurity, but somewhere along the line, a lot of us started believing we’re supposed to cycle through multiple positions during any session. But is that actually true? The guys unpack where these expectations come from, especially in the dating and hookup phase, where sex can sometimes feel more like an audition than a connection. They also explore how those habits can carry into long-term relationships—where comfort and routine aren’t necessarily a bad thing, but can sometimes be mistaken for boredom. To wrap things up, the guys tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Articles: Bespoke Surgical | THE 10 BEST GAY SEX POSITIONS: A GUIDE Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E7
    April 22 · 1 hr 26 min

    Value-based Dating

    Got some sh!t to say? This week, Marko and Steve are diving into the real foundation of modern relationships: values. Because let’s be honest—chemistry might get you through the first few dates, but alignment is what determines whether something actually lasts. The guys unpack what value-based dating really means and why it’s becoming non-negotiable for so many people. From political beliefs to social awareness, they explore how shared values shape not just attraction—but long-term compatibility, communication, and emotional safety. Marko and Steve also get into the nuance: Can relationships survive fundamental differences in beliefs, or does that create cracks that eventually turn into dealbreakers? To wrap things up, the guys tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Articles: The Guardian | Swiping Right review – punchy questions about dating across the political divide Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

  • S13 · E6
    April 15 · 1 hr 34 min

    EMDR Therapy

    Got some sh!t to say? This week, Marko and Steve sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield (@drthomaswhitfield) to unpack one of the most talked-about trauma therapies right now: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). Dr. Whitfield breaks down what EMDR actually is, how it works in real time, and why it’s especially impactful for LGBTQ+ patients navigating everything from identity-based trauma to rejection, internalized shame, and the long tail of growing up feeling unsafe to be fully themselves. The conversation demystifies the process—what a session feels like, whether you have to relive painful memories, and why healing doesn’t mean forgetting, but finally being able to move forward without the emotional weight. To wrap things up, Dr. Thomas Whitfield joins the guys to tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience. - Follow Dr. Thomas Whitfield: CBT/EMDR Therapy Associates of Manhattan | Manhattan Therapists for EMDR and CBT Dr. Thomas Whitfield’s Newsletter | Sign Up Here Support the show Sh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT. That’s (903) 763-7448. You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast. Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today! Your donations will give you early access to the podcast, behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise. Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review! Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

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